dizzycooks, when do you have to decide about the job?
I told him I'd decide this week. I think I'm going to tell him I can do 3-4 days per week and I'll have to split the hours throughout the day. I still want to be able to go do stuff with the kids and I can't do that on the 10-2 schedule he suggested. I'm thinking 7:30-8:30, 1-3:30/4 and check in again in the evening for emails. I think I'll use our gym daycare for the morning piece or a few extra hours in the afternoon if it's busy. The more I thought about it the more mixed my feelings are. Dh told me I don't have to and it's not that big a deal anyway. Honestly I think it's the idea that at least I'm at work (in my career job) even if I'm not earning anything that makes him feel less stressed. This isnt a long term thing or a career so he doesn't care if I do it. Of course it just removes 20 hours of my week that I use to play with the kids, keep the house and run errands. All that would fall back to the weekend and he would have to help. Idk that he gets that.
Post by sjames2015 on Apr 17, 2017 10:32:30 GMT -5
DD2 isn't sleeping well at all. I'm getting a broke 4-5 hours of sleep a night if that much. I've tried so much trying to get us more sleep but nothing is helping. The new med the dermatologist gave is making it all worse, and we can't get into the allergist till May. I don't know how much longer I can take this. My patience is soo thin with everyone. I need more sleep!!
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 17, 2017 10:48:38 GMT -5
DD2 kept me up from 1:30-3:30 a.m. the night before Easter (she was too excited to fall back asleep), and last night DD3 puked at 12:30, had a fever, and couldn't settle back down, so I was up until 2. I feel like the walking dead.
Ugh! I made a fabulous post here this morning - and I think that the interwebs ate it! I hope everyone who is sick is feeling better!
silverspoon - haii!!! dizzycooks - GL with all of the job decision-making! NellieOleson - sending you all of the getting a contract vibes! sjames2015 - hope that you get some sleep soon!
We had six showings and no offer on our house so far. So this morning we gave our realtor the green light to drop our listing price. I want this over and done with already - the constant cleaning and stress it too much for me. Let's get 'er done!
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 17, 2017 11:16:08 GMT -5
sjames2015, sorry, my post kind of sounds like I was trying to compete with you. There are no winners in the no-sleep competition I hadn't read your post before I wrote mine. I hope you guys find a solution for her soon, though, that sounds absolutely miserable.
Apparently the kids were being awful this morning. H is grumpy and short with me, I assume because I didn't get up to help him with them. I guess it never occurred to him to wake me up and ask for help. The weather is still crappy. I was going to go to the library this afternoon, but they aren't open because of the holiday.
14joa31 hope you're able to sell soon! So annoying to keep things spick and span all the time.
Warning: brain dump ahead.
DS had his 15mo well visit today; little boy is growing fast! We're all in a post holiday funk today. Watched Moana (for the 10,000th time) and kids are napping now. I find out next week if I can drop some of my work hours. Keeping everything crossed!
Post by dizzycooks on Apr 17, 2017 14:47:02 GMT -5
I am such a whiner lately guys and I am sorry. I just found out my position at work has been eliminated. So when I do go back to work I have no idea where I'll be or what I'll be doing. I knew it was a possibility, but far from likely. Thanks for the new education budget state and federal governments. Kids don't need to read anyway right? PDQ.
dizzycooks shoot! What a bummer. I don't know how we can not value the education of our children above the other inane things our stupid states spend money on. L cried all day at daycare. I am so sad for her. The only time she didn't was if she was held or outside. 😳 she will get used to this right? Should I pick her up at a half day tomorrow?
crimsonandclover - I hope you get some better sleep tonight! And WTF to your MIL. GRRrrrr.
silverspoon - HI! Been wondering how you are. Don't leave us!
dizzycooks - Sorry about your position. That's hard. I especially hate not knowing what to expect in the future. I hope the part time thing works out for now, though!
EDIT: Wait. Dd1 starts preschool THIS year. Holy smokes...... where did my baby go??!
Post by dizzycooks on Apr 17, 2017 20:45:38 GMT -5
kcrkcs hang in there. She will get use to it, but if she doesn't it's ok to make a change if it's not the right fit. A few days isn't enough time and it is completely different than everything she's use to. *hugs*
You guys are right. It's just hard to hear that your kid cried all day. Hubs dropped her off this AM and I wanted him to ask the director specific questions about how we could ease her in better. He didn't. Went rogue parent on me asked a bunch of unclear somewhat random, close but not quite, questions and got a bunch of non committal answers, probably becasue she couldn't even decipher what he was asking. BUT I am proud of myself for saying nothing about his departure from the agreed plan. And the kid will be ok. I know this so I probably just need to let go. So off to work hard and make this whole daycare thing worthwhile.
Post by NellieOleson on Apr 18, 2017 8:11:48 GMT -5
Today is once again house offer day! Eeeeeek!
Both houses we saw and liked last week are reviewing offers today. One is at noon, the other at 6. The plan is to hopefully get an answer on the first one by mid afternoon, and if we get it great - if we don't then we will put an offer on the next one before the deadline. I can hardly stand the suspense!
I like both houses a lot. They are both bungalows with huge, awesome yards. The first one is in perfect shape, super cute, and in a good school district - but it's pretty small and that worries me somewhat. The second one is about the same size as the first, but with a great basement that could easily be finished out to double the square footage. The schools there are meh, and the neighborhood is in the early stages of gentrification so still a bit rough. It may end up being the better investment in the long term.
In this market beggars can't be choosers, though, so we will be lucky if we get either one!
I hope one of these places ends up being the right home for our family. This house hunting thing has been an emotional roller coaster.
kcrkcs the daycare transition is tough. Give it a few weeks before making any changes. I'm sure your LO will settle in soon. Are you picking her up today? Can you ask questions to the teachers then? My DD's first few weeks of daycare I called randomly throughout the day to check to see how she was doing. If you're doing that maybe you could talk to her teacher then? Hugs, mama. It gets better.
Post by silverspoon on Apr 18, 2017 9:41:24 GMT -5
kcrkcs Hang in there. She'll get used to it and before you know it she'll be having fun with the other kids. J doesn't even look back to wave bye to me, little stinker that he is. He does now say bye to every single person we pass on the way out the door now when we leave in the evening. I see where his loyalties lie...
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 18, 2017 10:01:11 GMT -5
Figured out why DD3 has kept us up from 1-3am the past 2 nights and had temps up to 104.3 (!). She has strep. Poor kid. Of course, she acts like the antibiotics I give her is the worst poison known to man and tries to spit it all back out. I think the first dose I got about 1/2 in her, the second 2/3. I'm hoping things continue to improve. She's miserable and so am I.
I'll have to see if I can upload my fitbit sleep patterns. They are an awesome visual representation of my nights.
At the risk of being repetitive, it's snowing again. I'm so done with this crap. At least I got a snowbrush this weekend so I can clean the van off to take S to school. I have to remember to call my doctor's office this afternoon. I need to make appointments for myself and both kids for check ups. I have a list on my phone of things I need to talk to her about.
I think M is getting frustrated with her inability to communicate clearly. She can make herself understood, but it takes a lot of yelling, whining, and pointing. She knows a few signs, eat, milk, more and please, but she doesn't seem to be interested in learning more. We show them to her, but she just laughs at us and doesn't try to copy them. I don't know how else to help her.
Post by silverspoon on Apr 18, 2017 10:14:56 GMT -5
crimsonandclover Strep?! Yikes. Good luck with the medicine. I was lucky that J seemed all about the Amoxicillin when he had an ear infection. To the point that he would get mad when the syringe was empty.
Lollipop Toddler communication in our house is... not great. It's a lot of pointing and loud grunting that turns to yelling if we don't catch on fast enough for his tiny royal highness. I know he learns signs at school, but he never uses them at home.
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 18, 2017 10:25:47 GMT -5
Lollipop, it snowed here today too! I was shocked because it hasn't snowed since January (it's a fairly mild climate here, especially in terms of winters).
Lollipop, it snowed here today too! I was shocked because it hasn't snowed since January (it's a fairly mild climate here, especially in terms of winters).
It's not unusual for it to snow here at this time of year. It's a little unusual for it to snow THIS much though. We usually just get flurries this late in the year. And one year ago today it was 25 degrees in the afternoon. We have crazy weather
I was going to call the doctor's office while S was at school and M was napping this afternoon, but they just called me lol. I got appointments booked consecutively for the kids, and one for me about a week earlier.
Post by dizzycooks on Apr 18, 2017 12:21:22 GMT -5
I almost posted on fb, but I changed my mind. Lololol for daaaaaaayz at a 12yo, new to babysitting. Charging $15/hr to "babysit" while I am home. I'm dying here. That and her mother wants me to pick her up and drop her off. Hell to the no. Half the point of this is that my kids will be taking a long nap when she's done. She needs to ride a bike or live close enough to walk. I am not babysitting your 12yo and paying her. Am I crazy?? (Totally possible...)
OMG dizzycooks! I'm not opposed to paying a 12 year old to babysit, but $15/hour? No effing way. That's higher than minimum wage here. And definitely if she's old enough to babysit she should be able to find her own way there, or at the very least, her parent should drive her.
OMG dizzycooks! I'm not opposed to paying a 12 year old to babysit, but $15/hour? No effing way. That's higher than minimum wage here. And definitely if she's old enough to babysit she should be able to find her own way there, or at the very least, her parent should drive her.
Omg Lollipop she "rate" is several dollars higher than my hourly rate at this job and my rate gets taxed! 😂 I'm dying here. She's crazy.
$15 is what I was making at jiffy lube! Talk about your whole pay going to child care. Yeesh. I would definitely keep looking. Maybe a less pretentious babysitter will pop up.
Post by scorpioscuba on Apr 18, 2017 13:48:53 GMT -5
Thanks for all the well wishes for DD, ladies! Definitely counting our blessings things weren't worse.
That's so hard kcrkcs! I would hate knowing that as well. I'd definitely stick it out longer though to see how she adjusts. She's also still recovering from being sick so hopefully it was just an off day.
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