How hard is it to shoot someone a text saying "heads up, change of plans"? It throws me off when H is home unexpectedly on Wednesday nights. I take the kids to my mom's for the evening, and have a routine for when we get home. H makes it easier, he takes one and I take the other, but I don't like having plans change with zero notice. Even a couple of hours gives me time to readjust my plans. Seriously, it can't be that difficult.
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 20, 2017 3:29:45 GMT -5
Lollipop , at our house it happens the other way around. DH says he'll be home for dinner at 6 and then at 6:10 he calls and says, "Actually I still have a lot of work to do, would it be ok if I stayed late tonight?" um... sure... For some reason if I know he's not coming home then I'm way less stressed than when I think he's coming home and then he calls and says he's not. I hate last-minute changes of plans.
I have decided to tell any freelance client who comes with jobs in the next few weeks that I'm booked until the end of May. I'm actually booked until mid-May, but I really, really need some down time. I've been turning jobs down left and right and still can hardly keep up with everything. DH keeps saying he thinks I should quit my part-time position at the university, but I love it (and stability) too much to do that. If the conditions ever changed (like they decided not to let me WAH anymore), then it's nice to know that I could quit and be just fine financially, though.
Post by silverspoon on Apr 20, 2017 7:33:26 GMT -5
NellieOleson First I was YAYYYYYY, then I was alike "ON NOOOOO", but we're back to YAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY!
Congrats on the house!
My cousin just gave up house hunting in the area I want to be in. Every house they bid on they got overbid. I am.... incredibly nervous. I don't think I'm cut out for house hunting. So much alcohol will be needed. ALL THE ALCOHOL.
Guys, I bought low fat graham crackers. I didn't know until I was eating them and thought they tasted a little funny. The only reason I eat them is to have a means of shoveling frosting into my mouth. I do not need low fat graham crackers for that! Totally killed my evening snack.
More good news on the house front is that when our mortgage guy sent the paperwork to sign yesterday our interest rate was MUCH lower than we'd been anticipating. He said rates took a dip that day, and we just lucked out. So, fingers crossed nothing crazy comes up during inspection, and we are out of this housing market for a good long while!
Post by NellieOleson on Apr 20, 2017 8:07:15 GMT -5
Dd2 has been on a bonkers sleep schedule the last two days. Both days her nap was messed up - Tuesday she had a decent nap, but it was too early and she wouldn't go down for a second one. Yesterday her nap was in the car on the way home and was much too short. Both days she hit a wall in the late afternoon, absolutely lost her shit, and had to go to sleep ASAP - and both days ended up just going to bed for the night. So Tues her bedtime was 5:30 and yesterday she went to bed at 4:15.
Yesterday I tried waking her up about 20 minutes after she went down, hoping a little cat nap would take the edge off her exhaustion and we could get back on routine, but nope. She totally refused to get up. Alternating sobbing and lying down, ignoring me, and closing her eyes.
So we were up at 4:45 today. Yay.
Today we are staying home and I'm keeping my fingers crossed I can get her back on some semblance of a normal schedule. This isn't going to fly, kid!
That's great news, NellieOleson! May I ask what your interest rate is or is that one of those things that people don't talk about in the US?
4.1% APR - we thought it was going to be 4.5 or higher since interest rates have gone up. Also with my H's work the underwriters tend to put his income in a higher risk pool since its freelance.
Post by silverspoon on Apr 20, 2017 10:15:48 GMT -5
We went for a chest xray this morning. He's been so grumpy this week and coughing through naps and at night. His pediatrician thought his chest sounded bad so we went to the imaging place. That was... not fun. He basically stared at me with a look of betrayal and cried while I and a tech held him down.
No pneumonia, just his regular old congestion that we can't really do anything about. He refuses to swallow the natural honey cough medicine stuff now.
Post by NellieOleson on Apr 20, 2017 10:28:43 GMT -5
silverspoon - glad he doesn't have pneumonia, but that sounds awful - both the coughing and the X-ray experience. Poor little dude.
dizzycooks - I second the medela hand pump. I got one for our trip to MN last November so I would pump a few bottles to leave her while we were at the Vikings game. I loved it and totally wished I would have gotten one sooner. That is all I probably needed with dd2 since I was never working outside the home.
It's H's last day of work for this week. His schedule went all wonky this week. He usually works Wed-Sat. This week he worked Tues, Wed, Thurs. Next week is Sun-Wed, the week after will be Sun-Tues.
In kid related news, I'm starting to wean M off the bottles. Yesterday she had 3 all day, and I plan to do the same today. Eventually I'll cut out the nap time bottle, and then the morning one. Bedtime will be the last to go.
It's H's last day of work for this week. His schedule went all wonky this week. He usually works Wed-Sat. This week he worked Tues, Wed, Thurs. Next week is Sun-Wed, the week after will be Sun-Tues.
In kid related news, I'm starting to wean M off the bottles. Yesterday she had 3 all day, and I plan to do the same today. Eventually I'll cut out the nap time bottle, and then the morning one. Bedtime will be the last to go.
Good luck with the bottles. It was surprisingly not hard to cut out the daytime bottles for J, even the nap one went away easily now that he naps after lunch.
We are still doing morning and bedtime though. I'm not willing to fight that battle yet. A battle I'm sure it will be. It is so nice to only have to wash 2 a day.
silverspoon she hasn't even noticed that she's getting fewer bottles. She is eating solids like it's going out of style though. She just had 2 fruit/veggie pouches, and now she's having dry cereal and meltie things. When we get home from dropping S at school she'll have a bottle and a nap, and probably more snacks after that.
This weather! There is snow in the air. All I want to do is hide on my couch and eat allllllllllllllll the easter chocolate. Call me when the sun comes back and its warmer than 40. I know that some of you have it worse but this is starting to really get to me.
My anxiety is at an 11. Last Friday a 3 year old little girl died in a horribly tragic accident in my sister's neighborhood. It was all over the news (even nationally). The dad is a former NFL player (if you want to google). I can't stop thinking about them and praying for them and crying over their loss and pain. And then my mind spirals and I can't stop thinking about tragic accidents that you just can't control. On Wednesdays H brings DD to my sisters until I get off work and I pick her up. She always texts me pictures while she has DD. I was so busy yesterday I didn't realize until I was on my way to get her that I didn't get any pictures from my sister. So then my imagination ran wild that H forgot to drop her off, my sister forgot it was Wednesday and DD perished in H's truck in the parking lot on campus. Like I seriously over reacted. She was totally fine of course. Then my nanny was late this morning and she is NEVER late. Again with the over reaction that something horrible had happened to her. My brain is out of control and I can't stop it.
Seriously. Being a parent is the scariest, hardest thing I've ever done.
Post by NellieOleson on Apr 20, 2017 13:49:17 GMT -5
scorpioscuba - I saw the headline for the story on Friday night right before bed. I couldn't even read the article, and couldn't sleep for a long time. It's so scary how easy a tragedy like that can happen. To think about a parent going through that is absolutely unthinkable.
I hope your anxiety calms down soon. I have gone through phases like since I've become a mom - where I can't stop imagining horrible things happening to my children. It's an awful place to be. If it doesn't get better on its own soon, don't hesitate to call your doctor! Big hugs, lady.
Post by dizzycooks on Apr 20, 2017 18:14:56 GMT -5
crimsonandclover good luck!! I hope it's a smooth day for you! What is with this kid and pooping in her bath?? So gross! None of my other kids ever did this and I'm so grossed out by it!
M needs a nap. It's an hour and a half until bedtime. If I put her down now, she'll wake up right around then, and won't go back down until 9 or 10. I am in cranky toddler hell. S is trying to help, but he's just making it worse. I really need H to come home so I can hide out in the kitchen while I make supper. Which actually doesn't work so well, because the kitchen connects to the playroom with no door.
I can't read any of the things anymore. I get a visceral reaction to hearing about anything bad happening to children. Was not as bothered before. My sister with her 16 mo old is the same. Also said sister just called me because her peanut has pneumonia. She is stressing. She goes back for a recheck tomorrow. There is a chance they will hospitalize her at that point. Poor little E and I know my sister is way stressed and her hubs is less than super helpful. @ crimsonandclover good luck at work! dizzycooks enjoy your girls trip! After my night away I will say I wish I had a hand pump. Hand expressing was not enough. 😬😳 Lollipop good luck with the weaning.
Post by dizzycooks on Apr 20, 2017 19:57:59 GMT -5
scorpioscuba if you want to send it my way, pm me, I'd happily pay shipping. You all have convinced me. I'm the past this spring trip has been our weaning plan, but dd2 picked right back up despite two days away. This will be three, but I'm honestly not ready and she hasn't lost interest. Thanks for not thinking I'm cray cray. My bff that I'm traveling with sees no point in nursing past 6mo and is pretty vocal about it.
Post by scorpioscuba on Apr 20, 2017 22:59:34 GMT -5
Well, even though I wouldn't wish these thoughts on my worst enemy, I don't feel so crazy knowing others go through this at times. Thanks for commiserating with me and I'm sorry I brought the thread down. kelltothekell, thanks for the reminder not to watch the news. I do good avoiding it for awhile and then fall back into old habits. Today after work, the kids and I danced to 50's music on Pandora and played. No TV at all. It was just what I needed. And I will definitely see my doctor if things don't improve. You ladies are the best!
kcrkcs, prayers and healing thoughts to your niece! Keep us posted on her progress... crimsonandclover, good luck tomorrow! dizzycooks, YGPM
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 20, 2017 23:03:50 GMT -5
dizzycooks, I hate it when people can't mind their own dang nursing business. She wants to stop nursing at 6 months? Fine, then she should do it. You want to keep nursing past 6 months? Fine, you should do it. Why is that not the end of the story for a lot of people? My SIL nursed her first until she was 2. MIL (who is also her MIL - our DHs are brothers) was not approving. ::eyeroll::
It's 5am and I am apparently up for the day. I should get dressed instead of lay here reading the internet. scorpioscuba my anxiety rabbit hole is bad. I try to stay out of it, but I did hear about the story you mentioned. I cannot imagine.... Fun plans for the weekend? I think dh is taking dd1 to visit his parents. If that's the case I will be relaxing with the littles and Saturday is suppose to be amazing so maybe we will take a bike ride. Sleep training is going ok. She's pushed her only wake up to 3am so I'm continuing to ignore her until 630. So hard. However it'll be worth it if she sleeps. 3 nights down. How many more to go? Also, am I crazy for donating bm to a stranger? I have a frozen stash we are clearly not using and she is looking for milk for her twins. Any thoughts?
Lollipop crabby toddlers are so hard. They are unreasonable! I hope you made it to bedtime without too much craziness. Sometimes throwing food at them helps.
It's 5am and I am apparently up for the day. I should get dressed instead of lay here reading the internet. scorpioscuba my anxiety rabbit hole is bad. I try to stay out of it, but I did hear about the story you mentioned. I cannot imagine.... Fun plans for the weekend? I think dh is taking dd1 to visit his parents. If that's the case I will be relaxing with the littles and Saturday is suppose to be amazing so maybe we will take a bike ride. Sleep training is going ok. She's pushed her only wake up to 3am so I'm continuing to ignore her until 630. So hard. However it'll be worth it if she sleeps. 3 nights down. How many more to go? Also, am I crazy for donating bm to a stranger? I have a frozen stash we are clearly not using and she is looking for milk for her twins. Any thoughts?
I vote not crazy. Aren't there Facebook groups dedicated to this? If you're crazy, so are a whole lot of other people.
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