Thursday TWERK

[rere26]

Updates!

I have trees coming down, gas and phone line being moved, and windows and doors ordered. I suppose we are going ahead with the garage addition.

Dh is meeting with the doc as we speak. Hoping for a simple solution to whatever is making him dizzy, ears ringing and feeling full. He had allergy testing this morning as part of it so praying if we treat the allergies, this will get better.

[liziz]

New windows going in at my house today! Hoping they'll finish it all today, because H is staying home to supervise.

[2chatter]

Spoke to DD's pediatrician. He's not sure what to try either so he's going to discuss with her GI. He said a rheumatologist won't see her without a marker. An immunologist would refer to a rheumatologist. It may be a pain syndrome. So...we wait.

DH's higher dose of basic antidepressant seems to be working. Fingers crossed.

I created and color coded a google calendar.

[akafred]

Hired a girl to paint my upstairs bathroom. Day 4 begins tomorrow. It's a bathroom. Hope it's a damn masterpiece!

Chiro is ordering an MRI. Hope it finds any issues that exist and that it won't be anything too bad.

MIL is coming in 2.5 weeks for DD's birthday party slash recital weekend. I have so much to do!

[traveltheworld]

We moved to a new city today! We are all exhausted and it still doesn't quite feel real yet.

[erinshelley21]

Apr 20, 2017 21:04:08 GMT -5 akafred said:

Hired a girl to paint my upstairs bathroom. Day 4 begins tomorrow. It's a bathroom. Hope it's a damn masterpiece!

Chiro is ordering an MRI. Hope it finds any issues that exist and that it won't be anything too bad.

MIL is coming in 2.5 weeks for DD's birthday party slash recital weekend. I have so much to do!

Is she painting one wall per day? Painting a bathroom should take 4 hours, not 4 days.

[akafred]

Apr 21, 2017 6:36:17 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Apr 20, 2017 21:04:08 GMT -5 akafred said:

Hired a girl to paint my upstairs bathroom. Day 4 begins tomorrow. It's a bathroom. Hope it's a damn masterpiece!

Chiro is ordering an MRI. Hope it finds any issues that exist and that it won't be anything too bad.

MIL is coming in 2.5 weeks for DD's birthday party slash recital weekend. I have so much to do!

Is she painting one wall per day? Painting a bathroom should take 4 hours, not 4 days.

There was some wallpaper that needed to come down. I had gotten most of it myself but couldn't get the high and low stuff with my back. I think that is the major slowdown. I am paying a set agreed upon price so it's the same if it takes her weeks vs hours, but yeah, inconvenient to say the least.

[rere26]

Apr 21, 2017 6:35:21 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

A while back I posted about being miserable at my job and feeling conflicted about wanting to go because of acceptance into a leadership development program.

I got offered a job somewhere else in December but the offer got retracted after I informed them about a conflict of interest related to DH's job. The working conditions would have been crap, no parking space, having to share a work space, so it wouldn't have been a good fit for me anyway.

I interviewed for another internal job, 2 rounds, after that, but I haven't heard the final outcome since then. There was a hiring freeze that was recently lifted but there is still a lot of uncertainty regarding hiring and promotions.

I got offered to interview for another job but I decided I wasn't interested in it any more; the employer with bad working conditions.

I plan to apply to a few more this week, just to keep my options open, but I am in a better mindset about my current employer right now. I just wish I knew what the outcome was of that internal job from a few months back.

They finally emailed us about the leadership program earlier this week. It was supposed to start in February but it got delayed because of issues related to proper solicitation of the training vendors and getting the proper contracts with them. Now they say they want the program to start at the end of July, but there are some major organizational conferences going on around that time so they might end up pushing it back a bit.

I found that my place ebbs and flows. There have been times when my mindset is I'm outta here, and I apply for everything under the sun. I usually find out that most places can't beat the benefits and compensation here and everywhere has their thing. I ride it out, and all is well till the next time something throws upper management into a snit fit.

[erinshelley21]

Apr 21, 2017 6:56:17 GMT -5 akafred said:

Apr 21, 2017 6:36:17 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Is she painting one wall per day? Painting a bathroom should take 4 hours, not 4 days.

There was some wallpaper that needed to come down. I had gotten most of it myself but couldn't get the high and low stuff with my back. I think that is the major slowdown. I am paying a set agreed upon price so it's the same if it takes her weeks vs hours, but yeah, inconvenient to say the least.

That makes more sense lol. My inexperienced self painted a bathroom in one night as my first major home project by myself so I was concerned.

[saraml13]

I think I mentioned my powder room saga a few weeks back. It had hideous wall paper on it. I got ambitious and decided I would remove the wallpaper and repaint it myself - just some elbow grease and $50 of paint, right? Well, I found that the wallpaper was actually on top of a layer of canvas, which DH cut open to reveal crumbling plaster walls underneath. Short of gutting the powder room and putting up fresh drywall, there's no way to get the walls good enough to paint. So I hired a guy to repair the walls enough to rewallpaper and to hang the wallpaper. Like akafred's person, he was a perfectionist and took forever. He was here 2 full days and 3 half days and I definitely think he got the walls nicer than they really needed to be just to have paper on top. But it's finally done and I love the way it looks. Now I just have to get DH to install a new faucet in there this weekend.

[erinshelley21]

I have 2 more weeks of ML after this. I'm strongly considering working 4 days a week. DH thinks I should go down to 3, but I think 4 is good enough for now.

I saw the NP at my OB's office about PPD. She agreed that I have it so I'm glad I finally went. I've needed to take better care of my mental health for a while now, basically the past year, but Tuesday I finally had enough. At the appt I found out I was supposed to continue taking the iron I was taking throughout my pregnancy. I just assumed since no one said anything at the hospital and I hadn't been given the iron pills that I could be done. Nope. Low iron could lead to depression so I'm back on the iron pills and a low dose of Zoloft.

[2chatter]

@ilovelicyv - ugh on the schedule changes - that is awful.

erinshelley21 - I am so glad you saw the NP and are on the road to feeling better! I had PPD with my first and it was miserable. Meds made a world of difference. If that low dose of Zoloft doesn't help reach out to them again - or have DH help with that. Hope things improve!!

[erinshelley21]

Apr 21, 2017 8:45:02 GMT -5 2chatter said:

@ilovelicyv - ugh on the schedule changes - that is awful.

erinshelley21 - I am so glad you saw the NP and are on the road to feeling better! I had PPD with my first and it was miserable. Meds made a world of difference. If that low dose of Zoloft doesn't help reach out to them again - or have DH help with that. Hope things improve!!

Thank you! I have my PP appt in a week and a half and I follow up with the NP in 4 weeks to see if the dosage is working. My OB's office is so great about things. Except making sure you keep taking your iron i guess lol.

[akafred]

I think I have halfway convinced DH to try an SSRI with DD. I have been waivering but as of now we have tried *every* other option including trying med free again and nothing is really helping her enough. If she were happy then I would be ok with it, but she seems so miserable so often. I still have misgivings that it could trigger bipolar as I would not be shocked if she ends up having it down the road (but won't be shocked if she doesn't), and I HATE the idea of her being on mood stabilizers at her age, but I just don't know that it's worth it for her to be miserable for like 5 more years when I might be more ok with mood stabilizers. She's miserable, we're not exactly having the time of our lives dealing with the drama and the tiptoeing and the constant worry. So I think I'm ready to give it a shot. DH is getting there.

[mae0111]

I've nailed down my departure date - end of June. They turned down my offer to stay until August with a payout of my bonus to date. I turned down their request to shift to a contractor arrangement in July so that they could avoid paying me my bonus in August. So we hit a stalemate, and I agreed to stay until end of June.

DH is mildly pissed at me because I'm still not coasting at work. It's not my style. I need to do what is expected by my team (I have run out of sh!ts to give regarding management) in order to leave with my head held high. He thinks I'm a sucker. He's right. But I need to do it for me.

[olenka]

SO and I finally decided not to go ahead with IVF #2. We were both way too conflicted about it, on so many levels. Taking care of a newborn at 43 (if it even worked)... I don't think I could I do it.

Maybe I'm emotionally numbed out, but I feel OK about it right now.

[akafred]

Apr 21, 2017 12:10:39 GMT -5 olenka said:

SO and I finally decided not to go ahead with IVF #2. We were both way too conflicted about it, on so many levels. Taking care of a newborn at 43 (if it even worked)... I don't think I could I do it.

Maybe I'm emotionally numbed out, but I feel OK about it right now.

((Hugs)). It's a tough decision either way. But I understand.

[2chatter]

akafred - I had a really weird ephiphany when we tried an SSRI for DD's migraines. I always thought I'd struggle with the "choice to medicate" for mental health if it ever presented itself for the kids. But this wasn't for mental health. It took away a sort of built in stigma/paranoia from the decision and just left the facts - so I could treat the decision like "do we try a beta blocker" instead of "do we try this emotionally loaded thing". I don't know if that perspective is at all helpful -- but good luck with this, it's so hard.

olenka - I can't imagine a newborn at 39. I think I'd die. Like, literally. Fall down the stairs and break my neck, fall asleep while driving, get so sleep deprived that something at work would send me into cardiac arrest....

[akafred]

Apr 21, 2017 13:13:02 GMT -5 2chatter said:

akafred - I had a really weird ephiphany when we tried an SSRI for DD's migraines. I always thought I'd struggle with the "choice to medicate" for mental health if it ever presented itself for the kids. But this wasn't for mental health. It took away a sort of built in stigma/paranoia from the decision and just left the facts - so I could treat the decision like "do we try a beta blocker" instead of "do we try this emotionally loaded thing". I don't know if that perspective is at all helpful -- but good luck with this, it's so hard.

Yeah, for me it isn't even the mental health aspect of the SSRI. Yeah, there is that but I am ok with it. ADHD is considered a mental health/psych problem. Really it should ALL probably be labeled neurological. But anyway, for me it is the risk and associated possible guilt of the SSRI triggering bipolar. Because that's the big bad scary drugs. So what is worse, living with untreated or undertreated ADHD and anxiety and having a rough childhood with strained relationships, or triggering bipolar? It isn't pretty.

[akafred]

And...the toilet is leaking so it is inop for the weekend (thankfully the one in the master downstairs is fine), the light fixture is gone (because she intends to change it out for an inexpensive but prettier fixture), the switch plates are off, the floor is covered, and she returns Monday. But the walls and trim/doors look INCREDIBLE already.