Nothing that exciting today: If X had been a girl, I would have considered the name Jezebel. My whole family (with the exception of my sisters) would have flipped.
I'm totally side eyeing dhs cousin's wife. Her baby is 9 weeks old and she's leaving him over night for the second time.. I know I was a bit extreme with not leaving them. But 9 weeks?!
I think that's a parental decision, so I wouldn't side eye. Some people go back to work at 4 weeks and leave their baby all day.
I'm totally side eyeing dhs cousin's wife. Her baby is 9 weeks old and she's leaving him over night for the second time.. I know I was a bit extreme with not leaving them. But 9 weeks?!
I think that's a parental decision, so I wouldn't side eye. Some people go back to work at 4 weeks and leave their baby all day.
This. I left C overnight at like 10 or 12 weeks old. L I had already left once or twice by 9 weeks, the first time was when she was 5 weeks old I think. Nothing to side eye in my book, doesn't mean people don't care about their baby.
I think that's a parental decision, so I wouldn't side eye. Some people go back to work at 4 weeks and leave their baby all day.
Based on how she talked before she got pregnant, I was half expecting the baby to be raised by the dog. So I've been pleasantly surprised since baby is here. But this just threw me. But I didn't leave peach until I went into labor with Jack.. And I considered home birth for half a milisecond so I wouldn't have to lol. But DH said they wouldn't do a c-section in our kitchen.
I get your point of view, I didn't leave H overnight until she was like 18m old and haven't left S overnight yet. As long as they are leaving their child with someone trustworthy I don't have a problem with it. I just thought of another example. Lots of people leave their baby overnight at a few days old when they are in the nicu.
I'm going to disclaim this by saying I know you shouldn't compare children.
I feel like I've done a disservice to S. She's behind in speech and walking which I chalked up to her EIs. But I also have realized I haven't been doing things with her that I did with H when she was this age. I just stated playing the "where's your (body part)" game with her, and she still doesn't point to anything yet. I feel like I delayed the progression to eating different foods and drinking out of sippies longer than I did with H. I'm pretty sure it's second child syndrome but it still makes me feel guilty.
I feel you, trtlcrzy. I was just showing a coworker some pics of Colin when he was Chase's current age. And he was doing SO much more! I also let the EI thing take some of the blame, but we did everything so intentionally with Colin. Chase just comes along for the ride. 2nd child syndrome, indeed.
Re leaving kids: I didn't leave ds until almost two. I'll admit that I'll secretly side eye moms who leave their kids that young, I'll also be secretly jealous. I really don't think they're not good parents for one minute. I think it has more to do with the fact that i just can't phantom it or something 🤔.
Why the side eye though? I get when people don't want to leave their kids, but just because you have a baby doesn't mean you're never allowed to have time to yourself, especially if you're in a situation where it's feasible. For instance, I left L around 5 weeks but she was with MH, was bottle fed and we split MOTN wakeups. She was cared for, loved and not left without her usual comforts. I do realize this isn't always the case with breastfeeding or dads who don't do wakeups.
I'm totally side eyeing dhs cousin's wife. Her baby is 9 weeks old and she's leaving him over night for the second time.. I know I was a bit extreme with not leaving them. But 9 weeks?!
My daughters colleague took her 6wo with her on a plain for four hours, because she was desperate for some sun... I was definitely side eying that 🙄.
ETA my 10mo does not have colleagues, in meant my colleagues daughter...
I took a 3 w.o. baby (Bradley) on a plane to get home for the holidays. It was a calculated risk, I guess, but eh. He was fine.
Maybe it's because we're a military family, but traveling and/or moving with very young children and babies is so normal in our world, it doesn't phase me. We often live far from family and it's not always possible for them to come to us. And the military doesn't really care if you just had a baby...if the service member is needed somewhere, you gotta go.
I'm going to disclaim this by saying I know you shouldn't compare children.
I feel like I've done a disservice to S. She's behind in speech and walking which I chalked up to her EIs. But I also have realized I haven't been doing things with her that I did with H when she was this age. I just stated playing the "where's your (body part)" game with her, and she still doesn't point to anything yet. I feel like I delayed the progression to eating different foods and drinking out of sippies longer than I did with H. I'm pretty sure it's second child syndrome but it still makes me feel guilty.
B is so far behind s at the same age. And it's so hard to not compare. I have videos of s walking while holding onto things at 8 months and b isn't crawling or pulling himself to standing yet. And same on food. But that's cuz he has trouble with anything other than very smooth purées.
wineallthetime i honestly don't know why i side eye. I'm just fessing up that I do apparently. I try not to judge other moms/parents, but I think we all secretly do about certain stuff. And I don't think that you shouldn't leave your kid ever, just not so soon. But again it has more to do with how I feel about leaving my kids, than how I feel about other people's parenting skills, if that makes any sense?
Eta plus like I said, I'm also a little jealous of parents who can do this. I'm a big ball of nerves every single time anyone other than my H, my parents or my aunt watches the kids (and even with ten I check in way to often) I have no idea why, I just get very very anxious. It's no fun I'll tell you...
wineallthetime I'm Team No Sex here...I guess I fall into the "has a young baby" category, but not *that* young, and honestly I cannot blame her b/c she's been sleeping 10+ uninterrupted hours/night since she was < 2 months old. We last DTD the week before C was born.
I guess it's just been one thing after another...almost a month of illness, DH traveling for work, house stuff, more illness, and now DH is crazy-busy with work and we're trying to get out of this house. We just collapse into bed at night.
With all that said, he's been ready, willing and able for awhile and I'm sure would be only too happy to postpone sleep for a few minutes. I had a really hard time DTD after B was born and not to be flippant but I almost feel like I have PTSD from it. That first year was tough from a sex-perspective. It *hurt*--and yes, we tried all the things and I ended up with an Rx, but it really did not get better until I stopped nursing. We have our vacation coming up and I am determined we're going to end the dry spell and am hopeful it will be better this time.
TL;DR...i need to quit making excuses and jump back on the horse.
73jewels Yes to the Nine West slides. I also had what my dad referred to as "clodhoppers". He would tease me about these (I had them in black AND brown) but they were SO in. This is the actual style I had (:shudder:) Don't you know they were stylin' on my size 10 feet?
@lizb, oh my. I had tons of stacked penny loafers like that. My favorite pair were these patent leather brown Enzo Angelini ones. They had a silver buckle across the front. I'm going to have to try and find a picture. My god they were hideous.
Ooh, I wore Enzo's, too, and definitely had some with a buckle, as well.
Then a couple years later, the Mary-Janes with the stacked heels came in. They were a slight improvement but whew...I just lurched from one ugly style to the next.
73jewels Yes to the Nine West slides. I also had what my dad referred to as "clodhoppers". He would tease me about these (I had them in black AND brown) but they were SO in. This is the actual style I had (:shudder:) Don't you know they were stylin' on my size 10 feet?
Funny - I had those ugly things in black and brown too. My memory of them was the first blind date I ever had - I was going after work and looked down at my feet to notice I had put on one black one and one brown one that morning. I had to use my lunch hour to run home bc I was mortified.
Turned out the date was terrible. All I remember thinking is 'I shoulda kept on the mismatched shoes!'
73jewels Yes to the Nine West slides. I also had what my dad referred to as "clodhoppers". He would tease me about these (I had them in black AND brown) but they were SO in. This is the actual style I had (:shudder:) Don't you know they were stylin' on my size 10 feet?
Funny - I had those ugly things in black and brown too. My memory of them was the first blind date I ever had - I was going after work and looked down at my feet to notice I had put on one black one and one brown one that morning. I had to use my lunch hour to run home bc I was mortified.
Turned out the date was terrible. All I remember thinking is 'I shoulda kept on the mismatched shoes!'
LOL. They would have also have made a really good weapon if your date had tried to get fresh.
Post by xolastunicornxo on Apr 21, 2017 20:44:51 GMT -5
We DTD once or twice a week, but if I'm honest, I would be perfectly fine not doing it. It was actually nice when we had my sisters family staying with me (because big NO to having sex with other people under our roof) and I could just read at night and then go to sleep. I know it's important in a marriage, but sex is just not my love language at all.
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