Does anyone have an H that does not wake up when the babies cry? Like. Not even a little. They can be on full on screaming and nada. This is annoying because I'm reaching that point of mildly losing my marbles from no more than 5 hours of sleep overnight and no longer than 2 hour stretches. I'd like to have him get up with them for one night. Hell, even take just the first wake up so I can get 4 solid hours in. But I'm worried he won't hear them! I won't sleep because I'll be too worried they're crying for too long.
My H is hearing impaired. On the weekends sometimes we choose to sleep in shifts so we each get a long stretch. In this case he takes babies into the living room, sometimes hell just stay up playing video games or he'll snooze on the couch but he manages to hold down the fort. The plus is that I can't hear the babies in our bedroom so I sleep without worrying that he's letting them cry too long.
Does anyone have an H that does not wake up when the babies cry? Like. Not even a little. They can be on full on screaming and nada. This is annoying because I'm reaching that point of mildly losing my marbles from no more than 5 hours of sleep overnight and no longer than 2 hour stretches. I'd like to have him get up with them for one night. Hell, even take just the first wake up so I can get 4 solid hours in. But I'm worried he won't hear them! I won't sleep because I'll be too worried they're crying for too long.
*raises hand*
Our first night in the hospital, both babies were SCREAMING, and I wasn't allowed to get out of bed bc CS. DH was out. Didn't hear them. Didn't hear me yelling at him. I had to throw a box of tissues at his head to get him to wake up. It was so infuriating at the time but so hilarious now.
He's gotten a little better, but I still got so mad at him in the early days. He actually said to me, "well I'd wake up if you weren't here. My subconscious knows you're here and that you'll wake up so I don't hear them." WTF dude.
OMG I totally forgot about this- I saved projectiles to throw at MH in the hospital. Lids to the little BM bottles were my fav. The nurses thought it was hilarious
Does anyone have an H that does not wake up when the babies cry? Like. Not even a little. They can be on full on screaming and nada. This is annoying because I'm reaching that point of mildly losing my marbles from no more than 5 hours of sleep overnight and no longer than 2 hour stretches. I'd like to have him get up with them for one night. Hell, even take just the first wake up so I can get 4 solid hours in. But I'm worried he won't hear them! I won't sleep because I'll be too worried they're crying for too long.
*raises hand*
Our first night in the hospital, both babies were SCREAMING, and I wasn't allowed to get out of bed bc CS. DH was out. Didn't hear them. Didn't hear me yelling at him. I had to throw a box of tissues at his head to get him to wake up. It was so infuriating at the time but so hilarious now.
He's gotten a little better, but I still got so mad at him in the early days. He actually said to me, "well I'd wake up if you weren't here. My subconscious knows you're here and that you'll wake up so I don't hear them." WTF dude.
My H didn't sleep in the hospital because he was so nervous, but otherwise, you've described him.
Yesterday, he slept through babies crying AND our 35 pound dog bouncing around the bed while I kept yelling at her for nipping. I was not a happy camper.
Does anyone have an H that does not wake up when the babies cry? Like. Not even a little. They can be on full on screaming and nada. This is annoying because I'm reaching that point of mildly losing my marbles from no more than 5 hours of sleep overnight and no longer than 2 hour stretches. I'd like to have him get up with them for one night. Hell, even take just the first wake up so I can get 4 solid hours in. But I'm worried he won't hear them! I won't sleep because I'll be too worried they're crying for too long.
*raises hand*
Our first night in the hospital, both babies were SCREAMING, and I wasn't allowed to get out of bed bc CS. DH was out. Didn't hear them. Didn't hear me yelling at him. I had to throw a box of tissues at his head to get him to wake up. It was so infuriating at the time but so hilarious now.
He's gotten a little better, but I still got so mad at him in the early days. He actually said to me, "well I'd wake up if you weren't here. My subconscious knows you're here and that you'll wake up so I don't hear them." WTF dude.
Our first night in the hospital, both babies were SCREAMING, and I wasn't allowed to get out of bed bc CS. DH was out. Didn't hear them. Didn't hear me yelling at him. I had to throw a box of tissues at his head to get him to wake up. It was so infuriating at the time but so hilarious now.
He's gotten a little better, but I still got so mad at him in the early days. He actually said to me, "well I'd wake up if you weren't here. My subconscious knows you're here and that you'll wake up so I don't hear them." WTF dude.
OMG I totally forgot about this- I saved projectiles to throw at MH in the hospital. Lids to the little BM bottles were my fav. The nurses thought it was hilarious
I was able to get up right away once I was out of recovery (where there is constant nurse attention anyhow). In fact, they pushed me to get up and move around.
After Miss G aspirated spit up and turned blue my second night in the hospital last time, I refused to sleep unless someone else was awake in the room this time. Same thing happened to Miss M, oddly. I was asleep, but my mom was there and caught it. I'm sure as hell keeping someone awake with any future babies for the first few days. It's still scary what could have happened to my baby girls if someone wasn't awake.
TTMA Your bedtime routines - both when it's just you and when your spouse is there to help out. We've always kept it simple - diaper, PJs, lights out, bottle. We are having a pretty rough time with sleep right now and I'm thinking a more formal bedtime routine would help. Maybe adding a bath or a song/story. We're just so exhausted by the end of the day, I'm worried about adding in something else we have to do.
TTMA Your bedtime routines - both when it's just you and when your spouse is there to help out. We've always kept it simple - diaper, PJs, lights out, bottle. We are having a pretty rough time with sleep right now and I'm thinking a more formal bedtime routine would help. Maybe adding a bath or a song/story. We're just so exhausted by the end of the day, I'm worried about adding in something else we have to do.
Keep it simple, if you can't do it every night, don't do it. 2 thoughts though- you might consider moving the bottle away from bedtime to prevent feeding/sleep association (although mine were fine with bottle then bed, all the "experts" advise against it) and we use white noise and turn it on at the start of our bedtime routine- so we turn on white noise, brush teeth (replaced the bottle at a year), diaper change, jammies, bed. It seems to prep them better?
Does anyone have an H that does not wake up when the babies cry? Like. Not even a little. They can be on full on screaming and nada. This is annoying because I'm reaching that point of mildly losing my marbles from no more than 5 hours of sleep overnight and no longer than 2 hour stretches. I'd like to have him get up with them for one night. Hell, even take just the first wake up so I can get 4 solid hours in. But I'm worried he won't hear them! I won't sleep because I'll be too worried they're crying for too long.
Ugh, yes. The only way we made it work was for DH to just stay awake until the first wakeup, while I slept in DD1's room with the sound machine. Any other wakeup, I got up then woke him up to help.
DVMmomma this is what we've done too, DH stays up for the first wake up. Otherwise he doesn't hear them and I can't sleep worrying about it.
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TTMA Your bedtime routines - both when it's just you and when your spouse is there to help out. We've always kept it simple - diaper, PJs, lights out, bottle. We are having a pretty rough time with sleep right now and I'm thinking a more formal bedtime routine would help. Maybe adding a bath or a song/story. We're just so exhausted by the end of the day, I'm worried about adding in something else we have to do.
Separating the bottle from bedtime, like schmella said, gave us way better sleep. Last milk of the day is during dinner right before bedtime for us.
We brush teeth in the highchairs after dinner then do diaper, pjs, dim the lights, turn on white noise, one very short bedtime story (often skipping pages bc L flips the page before I'm done reading it), lights all the way off, recite the bedtime poem (it's the goodnight book, I've had it memorized since I was a kid), hug, kiss, in the crib.
It sounds long but the whole thing takes maybe 20 min even if I'm solo. The poem/hug/kiss part is a little rough alone since normally we're each snuggling a baby during the poem, but we make do.
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Post by bocaburger on Apr 28, 2017 23:51:14 GMT -5
schmella and kate61487 at what age did you start to separate bottles from bedtime? They are not even 9 months yet and I find if they don't eat a LOT right before bed they will be up hungry again within a few hours.
schmella and kate61487 at what age did you start to separate bottles from bedtime? They are not even 9 months yet and I find if they don't eat a LOT right before bed they will be up hungry again within a few hours.
We did it a little after the 1yr mark (10.5 mo adjusted). My guys were 100% on straw cups except for a bedtime bottle, which was part of our bedtime routine. We had sleep trained to fix our bedtime routine from 30+ minutes of bouncing/rocking to 5 minutes of self soothing, and the going to bed part was working really well, and sometimes they'd even sleep through the night, but anytime they did wake up it was like the only thing we could do to get them back to sleep was give them a bottle, and they were old enough to not need to eat in the middle of the night. I finally found an article that felt like it was 100% talking about my life, and it basically said the bottle was a sleep crutch. Basically if your kid is doing that it means they've associated bottle with sleep and don't know how to go to sleep without it. The thing I read recommended moving the last milk 20 minutes from bedtime, make it distinct from the bedtime routine, and give it a week. We haven't given a motn bottle since and very rarely have to get up with them at all.
Our schedule has us eating dinner at 530 and starting bedtime at 630 for sleep by 7. So they are eating/drinking right up to bedtime and are plenty full. You can still give a final bottle, just maybe do it in a different room and before pj's to separate it from bedtime? (If you think this is an issue for you).
schmella and kate61487 at what age did you start to separate bottles from bedtime? They are not even 9 months yet and I find if they don't eat a LOT right before bed they will be up hungry again within a few hours.
Reflux babies had to be held upright for at least 15 minutes after a bottle, or at least monitored, so we never went straight to bed after a bottle. The last bottle doesn't have to be SO far from bedtime, I'd just move it up in your routine- I think they say 20-30 minutes is enough to keep the association at Bay for most kids. it'll also help when you wean from bottles!
bocaburger, At about 530-6 we give them their bed time cerial. Then we let them play a bit and at 630 we start diaper change and into jammies and sleep sack. Then they get their bottle in our darkened room. (They sleep in their cribs in our room still) then they go to bed. Sometimes we sing sometimes not. When i am alone they take their bottles on my bed propped up by the nursing pillow like we do during the day. Everything stays the same. Ds still often wakes up in the night and sleeps with us. He usually wakes up once for a bottle at some point. DD sleeps through, usually.
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At what age did those of you who breastfed to start begin using bottles? I'm debating taking a shift at work that would be when the girls are 9 weeks old (5 weeks adjusted). This feels a bit early but then again breastfeeding seems well established. We don't have any latch issues and they start up right away. It takes them a solid 30 minutes to finish a meal, but otherwise it's going really well. What say ye all? Will I doom us? It's just one shift...
At what age did those of you who breastfed to start begin using bottles? I'm debating taking a shift at work that would be when the girls are 9 weeks old (5 weeks adjusted). This feels a bit early but then again breastfeeding seems well established. We don't have any latch issues and they start up right away. It takes them a solid 30 minutes to finish a meal, but otherwise it's going really well. What say ye all? Will I doom us? It's just one shift...
8 days old! Because the sleep deprivation was destroying me, and that way H could take MOTN feedings. I had good nursers and we never had issues with latch or nipple confusion. I have no regrets about introducing bottles so early.
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