1. CMS is at my hospital. I hate these days. 2. It's gorgeous outside today. Wish I was outside. 3. It was tacky day at daycare. Ds was adamant about wearing his uniform, so we put a sweater vest on top that didn't match. He cried. He is also wearing a thin jacket (new) on top of it all.
1. Day 2 of carb cycling. Yesterday wasn't so bad except for a massive headache in the afternoon (which I assume is from sugar withdrawal) and wanting dessert after dinner. Today is my first low carb day which I expect will be harder. 2. Lately, I feel like if I could work it out logistically, I'd move out. I still haven't really forgiven DH and the side effects are still there. He's been useless since he's been foggy and forgetful and having negative thoughts. 3. Work has really blown up. It's good because it makes the day go by quickly but my head is spinning.
1. Coworker surprised me with Mcdonald's breakfast! 2. My boss is gone so I can slack off again most of the week. 3. I'm sleeping like crap and would like to just get some sleep. Not sure what the deal is. And it doesn't help that Eliza wakes up at 6 every morning.
bliz1712 I also have an early riser. Shall be fun once new babe is here.
1. I have 3.5 weeks left until Edd. I had C at 39w2d. Feeling large and swollen and grumpy.
2. C and I had a dance party last night while we were watching Sing! I cried the tears when I put her to bed because I am running out of time with just her and I. I know she had 3 solid years of just us but I still feel like I'm robbing her a bit by turning my attention elsewhere.
3. Thursday is my last day at work. Normally I'd say I'm not doing ANYTHING Productive but I am a SR. so I get to train a new hire all last week and this week. My boss must've suspected I was throwing in the towel and reeled me back in.. 😜
@irmtrn I'm sorry you are having a tough time with DH still. I don't think there is any right answer and judging from what you put here, you don't seem happy. I am all about working through tough times in marriage but I also think everyone needs to be happy. I grew up in a very unhappy household and it really made me cynical. I had to work through it as a late teenager/early adult. If it's not something you are wanting to work through- you need to do what's best for your happiness and DS long-term happiness.
1. T was up every 2 hours last night 2. Clara has great days with no accidents and then she has days like today where she has 3 in two hours 3. I can't believe T is a month old tomorrow and I only have a week and half left home 😭😭
1. Just got back from getting my car worked on. It is still rainy and cold. Would love to just relax under some blankets today.
2. Also feeling stressed since Peyton's dad has texted and called a bunch of times. He said the girlfriend is gone and now he wants to take me to court for visits.
3. Just trying to motivate myself to do some painting. It is hard today and my neck is sore. I do need to finish it though as my dad is coming tomorrow when I work to just finish rolling out the second coat. Ugh! I will but need to finish my coffee.
Thanks Doll15. I'm at a loss as to what to do. If it wasn't for DS, I probably would've already left. It would break both of their hearts to separate them. DH is a good father when he's engaged. He hasn't been engaged lately though. Not only is he exhausted during the week from his work/commute but the medicine is making him really tired and foggy because he has to get used to it again and he's on a higher dose now to get him back to where he was. So most nights, he lays on the couch half asleep while I handle DS. It's not fair to either of us. He's also being forgetful, disorganized and not taking any initiative with household chores or DS, worse than usual. He says he wants to fix things with us, but I don't see much effort. He did give me a night away this past weekend but from what I heard, DS just watched a lot of TV while DH hung on the couch. There is also the logistics. We jointly own our house so there's dealing with that and moving, DC, etc. Of course, DH's response is "don't worry, I'm probably going to lose my job anyway." So that's helpful...
1. Trying to plan out the next couple months. We have both of the boys' birthdays, a couple other family bdays, mother's day, my trip to Italy, and I'd like to squeeze in DS2's baptism. Still need to call the church though.
2. It's so nice out today. I'm hoping to squeeze in a walk on my lunch.
3. Work is busy and I was just asked to give a presentation at a conference in July.
ETA 4. I took off Fri and the boys and I are going to MI with my parents for my cousin's son's 1st bday. I'm mostly going because I haven't seen my grandma in awhile and she hasn't met DS2 yet. She'll be so happy to see all of her great-grandchildren together in one place! It'll be a busy weekend though. Traveling with littles is no bueno. I'm leaving crabby H home.
Post by jennyinheaven on Apr 25, 2017 11:07:50 GMT -5
1.) It's raining here, again. We better have spectacular May flowers because we have certainly gotten our share of April showers. 2.) I can't wait for DH to get home from this work trip, DD won't stop with the mom, mom hey mom! Every five seconds. 3.) Stayed up way to late last night watching bad movies after DD went to bed, then she got up at 5:30. Hope I can nap before work tonight when/if she does.
1. Day 2 of carb cycling. Yesterday wasn't so bad except for a massive headache in the afternoon (which I assume is from sugar withdrawal) and wanting dessert after dinner. Today is my first low carb day which I expect will be harder. 2. Lately, I feel like if I could work it out logistically, I'd move out. I still haven't really forgiven DH and the side effects are still there. He's been useless since he's been foggy and forgetful and having negative thoughts. 3. Work has really blown up. It's good because it makes the day go by quickly but my head is spinning.
Would you just move out, or are you thinking seperation?
bliz1712 I also have an early riser. Shall be fun once new babe is here.
1. I have 3.5 weeks left until Edd. I had C at 39w2d. Feeling large and swollen and grumpy.
2. C and I had a dance party last night while we were watching Sing! I cried the tears when I put her to bed because I am running out of time with just her and I. I know she had 3 solid years of just us but I still feel like I'm robbing her a bit by turning my attention elsewhere.
3. Thursday is my last day at work. Normally I'd say I'm not doing ANYTHING Productive but I am a SR. so I get to train a new hire all last week and this week. My boss must've suspected I was throwing in the towel and reeled me back in.. 😜
I understand your feelings with having 1:1 time with your daughter. It will be even better though! Some days are hard, but so many more are awesome!
1. Day 2 of carb cycling. Yesterday wasn't so bad except for a massive headache in the afternoon (which I assume is from sugar withdrawal) and wanting dessert after dinner. Today is my first low carb day which I expect will be harder. 2. Lately, I feel like if I could work it out logistically, I'd move out. I still haven't really forgiven DH and the side effects are still there. He's been useless since he's been foggy and forgetful and having negative thoughts. 3. Work has really blown up. It's good because it makes the day go by quickly but my head is spinning.
Would you just move out, or are you thinking seperation?
Some sort of separation. Obviously, I'd take DS. The main thing stopping me besides the logistics of selling the house is separating DS and DH. DH would be devastated and maybe it'd push him over the edge. And DS would be heartbroken. I know that "staying for the kids" isn't a good enough reason but I don't want to make a decision like that without totally thinking it through.
Would you just move out, or are you thinking seperation?
Some sort of separation. Obviously, I'd take DS. The main thing stopping me besides the logistics of selling the house is separating DS and DH. DH would be devastated and maybe it'd push him over the edge. And DS would be heartbroken. I know that "staying for the kids" isn't a good enough reason but I don't want to make a decision like that without totally thinking it through.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this, if you need to talk more we are here.
lrmrtn, while you are thinking it over maybe start a separate savings account that is just in your name and start adding to it every paycheck if you can. And if you did separate, it's not like you are cutting YH out of YS life, they would still see each other
1) still don't the mortgage finalized for the place we close on in 1 weeks time. Stressing like mad about that 2) I am busy busy at work, but if i can pull off this project in the time frame it will be huge 3) DS has had so many time outs recently for defiance. I'm at the end of my rope with him, nothing I do makes him listen
lrmrtn , while you are thinking it over maybe start a separate savings account that is just in your name and start adding to it every paycheck if you can. And if you did separate, it's not like you are cutting YH out of YS life, they would still see each other
I've thought about a separate savings account and may open one, even though I'm not really concerned about the money. Dealing with the house would be the difficult part on the financial side. I know DH would still see DS but it'd probably be weekends only because of the distance of our jobs.
I only want to leave as the last possible option and I'm not there yet but feel like I'm getting close. I'd want to try counseling first. And I should probably wait until DH is back to status quo with his meds, even though I don't really owe him that after what he did.
lrmrtn , while you are thinking it over maybe start a separate savings account that is just in your name and start adding to it every paycheck if you can. And if you did separate, it's not like you are cutting YH out of YS life, they would still see each other
I've thought about a separate savings account and may open one, even though I'm not really concerned about the money. Dealing with the house would be the difficult part on the financial side. I know DH would still see DS but it'd probably be weekends only because of the distance of our jobs.
I only want to leave as the last possible option and I'm not there yet but feel like I'm getting close. I'd want to try counseling first. And I should probably wait until DH is back to status quo with his meds, even though I don't really owe him that after what he did.
I hope you can work it out with counselling. I was thinking a separate savings account becuase if you so decide to legally separate you will have a lot of up front costs. If you sold the house, would you not just sell and split the proceeds 50/50?
lrmrtn, maybe go see a therapist for yourself right now? Find someone to help you process what's going on? You've been through so much with your H, take the time you need to make the right decision for you and DS. But take the time to take care of you. I think it's great you went and got a hotel...I think that was a brave and admirable move.
1) I am having such a hard time at work - I am trying to plug through a document to wrap up my time here, but I am STRUGGLING to stay focused. To say the least, my brain is elsewhere.
2) My girl friend and I are heading to NYC in a little over a week. I'm excited to do the city as an adult (last time I was there I was 17).
3) Anyone have good ideas on Mother's Day gifts? I'm sorta hoping to pick one up for my mom in NYC, but I am traveling with a carry-on so I'm limited.
1. My friend came over and ate cake and I sent a piece home with her for her h. May throw the rest of the cake away.
2. Same friend has been over many times in dd's life but babysat her once, so Dd asked if I was gonna stay here when she came. Poor girl does not want to be away from us and is having a hard time with h gone.
3. The baby likes to tug on my hair when he's sleepy. It's slightly annoying, but now he's decided he'd rather tug on my ear which is Reallllly annoying.
4. I'm watching married at first sight while the kids nap
I've thought about a separate savings account and may open one, even though I'm not really concerned about the money. Dealing with the house would be the difficult part on the financial side. I know DH would still see DS but it'd probably be weekends only because of the distance of our jobs.
I only want to leave as the last possible option and I'm not there yet but feel like I'm getting close. I'd want to try counseling first. And I should probably wait until DH is back to status quo with his meds, even though I don't really owe him that after what he did.
I hope you can work it out with counselling. I was thinking a separate savings account becuase if you so decide to legally separate you will have a lot of up front costs. If you sold the house, would you not just sell and split the proceeds 50/50?
Yes, provided that the house actually sells for an amount more than we owe. We owe on our mortgage exactly what the house is estimated to be worth so even if we sold at that amount, we'd still owe a lot in fees. There won't be a profit. We may not get what we owe on the mortgage which means we'd have to find a way to make up the difference or go through a short sale which is a long process and could damage our credit. And, our house may not even sell. Our housing market has rebounded somewhat but still isn't great.
1. I want to go see a taping of Ellen before I die. (Currently watching her show) 2. I think I only have 7 more loads of laundry to go before I'm caught up. Need to get caught up on the whole house before next Saturday. 3. Probably calling in sick next Friday to clean and finish what I need to 4. DH now is probably not taking Monday off to hang with DD and I since we're doing something Sunday. I've fought with him every year to take a day off to do something just us for her birthday and I give up. I don't know why Sunday changes anything about Monday if we're not doing MOA Sunday. I hope she's happy.
emmygirl, I'm sorry it ended up that way. Did he already have it scheduled to be off and changed his mind? I wonder if your MIL didn't guilt trip him and he opted not to take off. Shame on her.
1. My friend came over and ate cake and I sent a piece home with her for her h. May throw the rest of the cake away.
2. Same friend has been over many times in dd's life but babysat her once, so Dd asked if I was gonna stay here when she came. Poor girl does not want to be away from us and is having a hard time with h gone.
3. The baby likes to tug on my hair when he's sleepy. It's slightly annoying, but now he's decided he'd rather tug on my ear which is Reallllly annoying.
4. I'm watching married at first sight while the kids nap
Seriously we have the same baby. Even with my hair pulled back he finds the wisps in the back and pulls. It's actually a little better since cutting my hair since he can't get as good of a grip on it. The worst is when I'm holding him half asleep in the middle of the night, that will really wake a person up.
1. My friend came over and ate cake and I sent a piece home with her for her h. May throw the rest of the cake away.
2. Same friend has been over many times in dd's life but babysat her once, so Dd asked if I was gonna stay here when she came. Poor girl does not want to be away from us and is having a hard time with h gone.
3. The baby likes to tug on my hair when he's sleepy. It's slightly annoying, but now he's decided he'd rather tug on my ear which is Reallllly annoying.
4. I'm watching married at first sight while the kids nap
Seriously we have the same baby. Even with my hair pulled back he finds the wisps in the back and pulls. It's actually a little better since cutting my hair since he can't get as good of a grip on it. The worst is when I'm holding him half asleep in the middle of the night, that will really wake a person up.
I think going for the ear started because my hair was up, but today he's like outta the way hair, i need to death grip mama's ear.
emmygirl, I'm sorry it ended up that way. Did he already have it scheduled to be off and changed his mind? I wonder if your MIL didn't guilt trip him and he opted not to take off. Shame on her.
Yeah he had it set up to take off but somehow now thinks that us getting together for MILs birthday is good enough. If she would have just stuck to her plans everything would have been fine. Now even at this point I feel like there's tension between DH and I because he thinks I'm attacking his mom and probably MIL and me since I put up a fuss. In the end it's DD that suffers and I hope they realize that.
Sorry I'll bury it now so you all can be spared of hearing about it. I do appreciate the ears
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