GTKY RIP OFF

[addymac]

I call my my parents mami / mama and papi / papa but growing up it was only mami and Papi (Spanish for mommy and daddy). I called my grandparents Abuelita and Abuelito - they were my mom's parents and my dads died before my parents were even married.

I think we will be calling my mom Abuelita and my dad either Abuelito or Papi (my sisters kids call him Papi, my brothers kids call him Abuelita bc my bro wanted to be Papi...). I think Abuelito will be it bc it seems kind of weird to call him what is effectively daddy even though DH doesn't even want to be called Papa, he's straight on the Dad/Daddy bandwagon.

DHs mom is Bubbe to his niece/nephew so we will keep that going. I think her H is Grandpop. DHs dad I think is just Grandpa J. DHs grandparents are Pop L and Grandma R.

[cali]

@xamountofwords, fun idea!

I call my parents mom and dad.

I called my mom's mom Nana and my dad's mom Grandma. I never met my mom's dad since he died when she was a teenager. I call my dad's dad Papa (he's the only grandparent I have still living).

I know that my mom will want to be called Nana because my brother is having a baby next week (her first grandchild) and they've already discussed what she will be called. Sadly, my dad passed away several years ago but I bet he would have wanted to be papa. Instead she'll have my grandpa as her only papa. It makes me so sad that she'll never know her own amazing grandpa.

Both mh's parents are living but I have no idea what they will want to be called. That's actually a great question that I never thought to ask them!

ETA: apparently mh called his grandparents (he only had one set living when he was born) Granny and PawPaw (his grandparents were from Kentucky and later lived in Tennessee). I wonder if that's what his parents will want to be called. Sounds so southern to my northern ears, but it's kinda cute.

[cali]

Apr 26, 2017 20:36:46 GMT -5 @xamountofwords said:

cali it's the same for me I don't think I was clear in my previous post my dad passed away nine years ago and it bums me out because I feel no attachment to my parents parents that I never met because they also died young. I wish my children could've known him

I'm really sorry. It's so hard, right? It's been over 13 years since we lost my dad and I feel like it's still so painful, especially in moments of joy like this.

I feel exactly the same as you do about my mom's dad. I never met him because he died quite a while before I was born and don't even think of him as my grandparent really. I don't want that to be the case with my daughter. I plan to talk about my dad to her all the time, I want her to "know" him as much as possible because he was such a good person and such a strong influence in my life. Have you thought of any other ways to help your child feel more connected to your dad?

[cali]

@xamountofwords, I'm sorry, I don't want to downer your thread. I guess I just hadn't thought too much about it until now. My plan so far is to tell her a lot of stories about him and show her pictures and just try to make him as real as possible for her. My mom never talked much about her dad, which I think made me feel less connected to him, so I want to avoid that.

[cali]

@xamountofwords, just want to add that I'm happy to talk more about this and all the tough stuff that goes with it whenever if you feel like it. Just PM me if you ever feel like discussing (so we don't hijack the fun of this thread).

[jessa1228]

I call my parents mom & dad and my grandparents Grandma & Grandpa (and not to add to the sadness of the thread, but my grandfather just passed away on Tuesday 😥). DS calls my parents Pop Pop and GG.

@kelsz12 H's grandmother is also Mema 😊

[cali]

jessa1228, I'm sorry for your loss. I love PopPop and GG, that's so cute!

[muscari]

jessa1228, I'm so sorry for your loss **hugs**

cali, @xamountofwords, I can only speak for myself obviously but please don't feel like you bring down the thread by talking about your dads and how hard and sad it is that they won't be around to see your LO grow up and be part of their lives. We're here for eachother for both the fun and good pregnancy/baby related stuff but also when it gets a little tough right? I am, anyway! *hugs* to you both as well.

[muscari]

AFM, I call my parents mama/mam/mams or papa/pap/paps (pronounced the Dutch way heh). We haven't talked about it really but I'm sorta 100% sure we'll be called the same way by our kid heh. There's not a lot of different choices to make in Dutch, apart from "father and mother" / vader & moeder and ugh no. I feel blessed that both of them are still with us, and I can understand how difficult it must be for you cali @xamountofwords to miss out on having your dad near still and be part of your LOs lives *hugs*

I used to call my grandparents opa and oma - we did add "kleine" and "grote" to each set of grandparents to make the distinction as a kid, based one the fact my "kleine" oma was a lot less tall then my other *g* My sisters LOs call our parents opa and oma and it feels very logical to me that our kid will do the same. On MHs side there will be two grannies and one granddad. I honestly haven't a clue or thought about what to call MHs mother. As for his fosterparents, I plan on asking them whether it's okay for our daughter to call them opa J. and oma T. (full names obviously) or just opa and oma. I am pretty sure they'll love it - their only daughter doesn't have any kids and they are pretty darn excited for us - but just want to ask whether they have a preference.

I was really close to my one granny and I'm real sad she won't ever get to meet my kid (she passed away in 2006). I plan on telling our daughter a ton about my own granny. Just cause she was a wonderful woman and we had such good times together all those years and I love to share those memories.

[elliecat17]

I call my parents Mom and Dad/Daddy. H calls his parents Ma and Dad. I want to me Mama and H wants to be Papa.

I knew all of my grandparents. My Maternal set were Mamou (french) and Duck (but only to my family. The rest of the grandkids called him Gramps. I apparently called him that at one year old and he loved it so it stuck). My paternal grandparents were Meme and Papa. H only knew his mom's parents and they are Grandma and Grandpa.

My mom wants to be called Nana (naw-naw) and dad is Granddude (when my sister had her first kid 15 years ago dad thought he was too young to be grandpa). H's parents are grandma and grandpa to all the other grandkids so they will be the same for ours.

[cali]

Thanks muscari, that is really sweet of you.

[yoshijo28]

My parents are mom and dad. When my sister and I talk to each other about them we say mommy/daddy. Never realized that lol.

Both sets of grandparents were grandma and grandpa. That's what my parents will be called. H's parents want to be called mommom and poppop (that's what he called his grandparents when he was younger). I really dislike those names but am not sure it's my place to say.

[jessa1228]

Apr 27, 2017 17:50:31 GMT -5 @xamountofwords said:

jessa1228 sorry for the loss of your grandpa, are the services for him soon? I'll be thinking of you.

Thank you. We're not sure what's going on at this point. He's being cremated, and my grandmother wants to wait until after my cousin graduates law school next month to do any sort of service. However, my mom is having major back surgery next month and won't be able to travel anywhere for 2 weeks afterward. So I have no idea right now

[mrshall1027]

I call my parents Mom and Dad. H calls his mom Mom as well.

The kids call my parents Ama and Apa because Abuelita/Abuelito is too hard for them. I also called my grandmothers both Ama, so it was just easier to use the same thing. I didn't know either of my grandfathers. H didn't know any of his grandparents. The kids call MH's mom Mimi which was MH's ex wives idea. I hate that nickname for grandma, but it is what it is. My FIL passed away last year, but the kids called him Popo.