bwisco123, that fall sounds so scary. Glad she's ok. W fell down the ravine in our backyard while outside with H. I ran out when I heard her screaming and H yelling "Winnie, where are you?!?" Heartattack city. She was fine, just upset that she got dirty.
They're so resilient. I wish our nerves as parents recovered as quickly as toddlers!
I called for EI for W in March. They called me back and said she sounded like she could benefit from being evaluated and that a case manager would call within 45 days. I never heard back until I got a letter that they would be dropping the case due to lack of response. I called immediately and left a message that I never heard from them and left my contact info.
Turns out they've been calling H, who is against getting her evaluated. He is using this as proof that we don't need their services because "they're incompetent."
Hi girls! My oldest son's laser tag birthday party was a hit. He had an absolute blast! Sad I didn't get to participate as I still have stitches in, but it was fun. A few pics:
Turns out they've been calling H, who is against getting her evaluated. He is using this as proof that we don't need their services because "they're incompetent."
I'm annoyed.
Whoa-- wait. So your DH caused this to happen? Why would he be against it?!
Turns out they've been calling H, who is against getting her evaluated. He is using this as proof that we don't need their services because "they're incompetent."
I'm annoyed.
Whoa-- wait. So your DH caused this to happen? Why would he be against it?!
No, he kept telling them to call me but they never did.
He's of the "she's fine. You're worried over nothing" camp, but he's also clueless about what is normal and what isn't. He hasn't been to any appointment since she was a week old, and is completely out of the loop as far as what is developmentally appropriate. I mean he left outside to play alone at 14 months because "we have to trust her at somepoint." So, yeah... I don't really look to him when making decisions.
This is not the work day I expected. My laptop isn't working probably and it's been sitting in IT for 2 hours getting fixed. Guess I can sit here and relax. Ahhhhhh 😊
Whoa-- wait. So your DH caused this to happen? Why would he be against it?!
No, he kept telling them to call me but they never did.
He's of the "she's fine. You're worried over nothing" camp, but he's also clueless about what is normal and what isn't. He hasn't been to any appointment since she was a week old, and is completely out of the loop as far as what is developmentally appropriate. I mean he left outside to play alone at 14 months because "we have to trust her at somepoint." So, yeah... I don't really look to him when making decisions.
linny12 I have a hard time believing that the EI people were just like, "oh, call your wife instead? Nah...... we are just not going to follow up at all." Look into this harder. Would your H lie to you because he doesn't think she needs the services? Is it possible that he told the EI people that you guys were not interested, or gave them the wrong number to reach you?
I also am in horror that a grown adult would think it's okay to leave a 14 month old baby outside to supposedly foster her independence. Literally so many horrible things could have happened. I mean everyone makes mistakes and stuff and misunderstandings certainly do happen.... but JTTW...
Post by hotcoconuts82 on May 1, 2017 11:24:56 GMT -5
ALERT THE PRESSES!!!! DH has a stomach virus. Seriously he's acting like he's the first person to ever throw up or have diarrhea. I know it sucks but dude...
I am praying all the prayers that nobody else gets it though. We have dd's first communion on saturday with a big party at a restaurant. We CANNOT be sick.
I called for EI for W in March. They called me back and said she sounded like she could benefit from being evaluated and that a case manager would call within 45 days. I never heard back until I got a letter that they would be dropping the case due to lack of response. I called immediately and left a message that I never heard from them and left my contact info.
Turns out they've been calling H, who is against getting her evaluated. He is using this as proof that we don't need their services because "they're incompetent."
I'm annoyed.
This is not even remotely ok. I would be way more than annoyed. Why is your DH not supportive of W being evaluated/receiving support services?!
After a rough start with a shoe-related meltdown we had a good morning. Got our groceries and went to the playground with a new mom friend. The kids played together so nicely and we had time to chat so it was really nice. And after 2 days of fighting her nap M fell asleep within 5 minutes today. Whew.
I really struggled with the shoe-meltdown today. Mostly she's pretty chill about her clothes but this was legit. Tears and so many hysterical no's. I don't want to crush her spirit and I've really been doing well with picking my battles and letting all the small stuff go but having her dressed in matching and weather-appropriate clothing is kind of my hill, at least at this age. So that was no fun.
I really struggled with the shoe-meltdown today. Mostly she's pretty chill about her clothes but this was legit. Tears and so many hysterical no's. I don't want to crush her spirit and I've really been doing well with picking my battles and letting all the small stuff go but having her dressed in matching and weather-appropriate clothing is kind of my hill, at least at this age. So that was no fun.
I hear you and empathize.
J is still a big fan of kicking me while I change his diaper/get him dressed. The only time he doesn't is first thing in the morning when he's still half asleep and snuggly.
Last night was particularly bad. I was really frustrated and then one kick caught me in the wrong place and I started to cry. The crying was more out of the frustration than hurt but I couldn't stop myself. It horrified him that I was crying and he was suddenly very apologetic.
I was still mad and made DH do story time (this is rare, I do it probably 98% of the time). J was inconsolable that I wasn't going to read to him and yelled "I sorry mama, I sorry mama" as I was leaving the room. I don't want him to associate dad doing storytime with mama being angry at him but I needed a break just then.
He probably has already forgotten about it while I'm lamenting over damaging my kid but oof, it wasn't fun.
This is whole testing boundaries/ I don't have to listen to you/tantrum thing is awful.
I really struggled with the shoe-meltdown today. Mostly she's pretty chill about her clothes but this was legit. Tears and so many hysterical no's. I don't want to crush her spirit and I've really been doing well with picking my battles and letting all the small stuff go but having her dressed in matching and weather-appropriate clothing is kind of my hill, at least at this age. So that was no fun.
I hear you and empathize.
J is still a big fan of kicking me while I change his diaper/get him dressed. The only time he doesn't is first thing in the morning when he's still half asleep and snuggly.
Last night was particularly bad. I was really frustrated and then one kick caught me in the wrong place and I started to cry. The crying was more out of the frustration than hurt but I couldn't stop myself. It horrified him that I was crying and he was suddenly very apologetic.
I was still mad and made DH do story time (this is rare, I do it probably 98% of the time). J was inconsolable that I wasn't going to read to him and yelled "I sorry mama, I sorry mama" as I was leaving the room. I don't want him to associate dad doing storytime with mama being angry at him but I needed a break just then.
He probably has already forgotten about it while I'm lamenting over damaging my kid but oof, it wasn't fun.
This is whole testing boundaries/ I don't have to listen to you/tantrum thing is awful.
Ugggh, that sounds truly awful, sorry friend. It's so hard to know what the right answer is in the moment. Toddlers
I really struggled with the shoe-meltdown today. Mostly she's pretty chill about her clothes but this was legit. Tears and so many hysterical no's. I don't want to crush her spirit and I've really been doing well with picking my battles and letting all the small stuff go but having her dressed in matching and weather-appropriate clothing is kind of my hill, at least at this age. So that was no fun.
Gah sorry friend. Those are the worst! I'm trying to decide if I need to give up on the clothes battle. Some days are fine, others it's the WORST and i just don't have time to deal with fighting over clothes with a 2 year old! Shoes too. Yesterday she wanted to wear these new little flower sandals. It was 45* outside. SOrry kid you're out of luck.
No shame in ceding the battle, for sure! Or even part of it (you pick clothes, I pick shoes, or whatevs).
Post by marygracerich on May 1, 2017 15:24:29 GMT -5
Hi all! I worked most of the day since MH is off. Then I went to Panera and had a peaceful lunch alone. Then I went to michaels for embroidery thread. There is nothing quite like shopping alone in a craft store. Also please see me thread to help with my minor freaking out. Tell me I am crazy and delusional. Thank you.
linny12 I have a hard time believing that the EI people were just like, "oh, call your wife instead? Nah...... we are just not going to follow up at all." Look into this harder. Would your H lie to you because he doesn't think she needs the services? Is it possible that he told the EI people that you guys were not interested, or gave them the wrong number to reach you?
I also am in horror that a grown adult would think it's okay to leave a 14 month old baby outside to supposedly foster her independence. Literally so many horrible things could have happened. I mean everyone makes mistakes and stuff and misunderstandings certainly do happen.... but JTTW...
I worry about you Linny
I don't think he's lie about telling them to call me, and I mean I called and left messages with my contact info a week before they termed the case, without ever hearing back. She called me when we were first referred so Idk how or why they started calling H.
I do wish he had told me when they called him repeatedly though.
And yeah, I thought he was a responsible human when we got married, and learned after we had a child that I can't trust him with her care for even 5 minutes, but it's too late to do anything about that now. So I'm kinda stuck.
Courtesy of our newest BFP thread,I've been thinking recently about when I got KU with M. I POAS and thought it was negative, then I tested a week later and got my BFP. I don't think it was too early or a false negative though, I'm almost sure in hindsight it was just a squinter. Which I didn't know existed until this board, so. #themoreyouknow
With my positive with G I had tested the week before and it was definitely negative. Exactly a week later I tested again and it was definitely easy to see positive. It may have just been too early for you too.
I'm a freak that tested ridiculously early because 16 months of TTC will make you do weird things. I had a squinter on a wondfo 9 dpo at 8pm after finishing a margarita (ok a second marg... oops).
With this baby I thought I o'd a week later that I did, so it was very clearly positive. And then I lost my keys in a target shopping cart after I returned it to the corral and had to wait while security followed some poor woman through the whole store to get them back.
Post by flyinghorses6 on May 1, 2017 18:41:40 GMT -5
linny12 I would be FURIOUS with H. Why would he be against it if it could benefit his child!?! I'm sorry he isn't making the process any smoother. I hope you can reschedule!
robotpcr I hear you on the clothing/shoe battles. My kid went to the parish office today in leggings, a tulle skirt, neon socks, and Mary Janes. I was cringing but could not deal with her and the baby heading out the door.
bwisco123 I am so glad my child isn't the only one spitting. She only does it if I tell her no to something or don't want her doing something. I don't know where she learned it. I think she does it because she knows my reaction is going to be negative. So I've *tried* to ignore it.
With M my temp dropped and I started spotting so I was sure I was out. I had a drunken meltdown to a friend about how sad I was after my loss. And then the sporting stopped and so I tested at 13dpo and got a squinter, which promoted DH to ask if all pregnancy tests had those faint lines because he'd seen approximately 1 million of them when I was testing every day with my loss. Haha. No.
I've only ever tested once and it was super fast, whammmo you're KU. Like pee barely hit the stick and there were two lines.
I *knew* I was pregnant. I just had a feeling. DH didn't believe me because he's a man and because we had just gotten home from our honeymoon. So no possible way we could be pregnant, right? (Insert eye roll here).
Well, the test convinced him. His first reaction was "holy fuck". Bahahaha.
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