Of course shit has to add up. Our friend is going to put house to feed our cat. He gets there today and our cat has managed to open the freezer. All of my breastmilk is thawed and has to be thrown out. I could seriously murder that cat.
No!!!! Argggg I just want to verify something though because this topic comes up a lot on one of my local breastmilk groups after power outages etc. Was it 100% thawed? As in absolutely no ice crystals left? Because according to kellymom as long as there are still some ice crystals in the bag of milk, it's still fair game to refreeze. Don't throw away anything yet!
I'm honestly not sure. We won't be home until saturday. I think our friend threw everything out. He made it sound like everything was thawed and the freezer actually felt warm. I didn't think to have him double check on ice crystals as I thought it was a loss. It was during the wake that he called so I wasn't in my best thinking brain.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
May Randoms!May 10, 2017 16:43:02 GMT -5via mobile
Post by coffeequeen14 on May 10, 2017 16:43:02 GMT -5
Nanny didn't lock the stroller today. Dd was in it. Nanny walked past it to open the front door and the stroller fell down two steps with her in it. It crashed sideways in the cement.
Thank God she was strapped in. She was screaming for a while but settled down. Do I take her to the ER? She has been acting completely normal since then.
We have a security camera so I was able to see the footage. Albeit awful to watch, I don't think she would have touched anything other than the padded side of the stroller.
And do I fire the nanny? Today? Or just give 2 weeks notice to her and my work since I'm planning to quit anyway? Please decide this huge milestone for me.
Also, note that nanny is habitually careless. This isn't her first mistake. And I can see on the footage that she didn't lock it. The lock didn't malfunction.
coffeequeen14, any chance you'd put in your notice and they'd let you go and pay you for those two weeks?
I'd be pretty livid, especially if this isn't the first time. I'd be nervous about leaving LO with her at this point is there anyone who can help you out for a bit if you do fire her today?
coffeequeen14 if this were the first careless accident I'd say accidents happen. But if she's regularly careless that gives me pause. This might be what you need to give notice with work. As for the nanny what was her reaction when she told you about the accident? And have you spoken about her careless before? If you've never mentioned it before then I feel like it's hard to fire her on the spot. But definitely give her the two weeks notice ASAP. And then figure out if you are comfortable with entrusting the kids in her care.
So scary about DD. I'd at least call pedi to see what advice they have.
May Randoms!May 10, 2017 19:20:49 GMT -5via mobile
Post by coffeequeen14 on May 10, 2017 19:20:49 GMT -5
steph work will need me there a bit longer to bring others up to speed on what I've been doing. That would be super if they'd just let me go, though.
meagpt22 yes we have spoken to her in the past about her carelessness.
I called the nanny head hunter. She has someone that is starting at a job the second week of June. Hopefully she will be willing to come work for us until she starts her new job so I can give a lengthy notice and don't feel rushed.
I'm super sad for S1. He loves Nanny. LOVES.
How do I tell nanny? At the end of the day tomorrow? I want to give S1 time to say goodbye.
Post by redhead610 on May 10, 2017 19:36:30 GMT -5
coffeequeen14, I may call the pwdi, but if she didn't hit anything, she's likely okay. With ds1 the stroller tips over once (I think I put something on the handle thst was too heavy), and he just seemed to go for a ride rather than injure anything.
While it sounds like an accident, if she's often careless with things like it, then that's no good. Was nanny super upset about it? It sounds like something that could happen to anyone, however as a nanny that is her job to be extra vigilant about those kind of things.
coffeequeen14, I may call the pwdi, but if she didn't hit anything, she's likely okay. With ds1 the stroller tips over once (I think I put something on the handle thst was too heavy), and he just seemed to go for a ride rather than injure anything.
While it sounds like an accident, if she's often careless with things like it, then that's no good. Was nanny super upset about it? It sounds like something that could happen to anyone, however as a nanny that is her job to be extra vigilant about those kind of things.
She originally told me the break didn't work. But then changed her story and admitted she didn't put it on, likely when she remembered we have cameras. She was super upset and feels terrible but I just can't risk having someone so careless watching my kids.
She is super nice and fantastic with teaching my kids things. I just can't risk their safety and this was the last straw.
Also, I get that it can happen to anyone. It started rolling backward immediately when she let go. She just wasn't paying attention.
coffeequeen14, I may call the pwdi, but if she didn't hit anything, she's likely okay. With ds1 the stroller tips over once (I think I put something on the handle thst was too heavy), and he just seemed to go for a ride rather than injure anything.
While it sounds like an accident, if she's often careless with things like it, then that's no good. Was nanny super upset about it? It sounds like something that could happen to anyone, however as a nanny that is her job to be extra vigilant about those kind of things.
She originally told me the break didn't work. But then changed her story and admitted she didn't put it on, likely when she remembered we have cameras. She was super upset and feels terrible but I just can't risk having someone so careless watching my kids.
She is super nice and fantastic with teaching my kids things. I just can't risk their safety and this was the last straw.
Also, I get that it can happen to anyone. It started rolling backward immediately when she let go. She just wasn't paying attention.
Oh the lying about it is also definitely a big issue. I totally agree that you can't risk the safety issues. It would be one thing if she took a hand off and then grabbed it right away once it started to roll. Not paying any attention to it is a problem!
Post by redhead610 on May 10, 2017 19:52:09 GMT -5
DH is away again this week. And yet again, a kid is sick. Ds2 has another cold. I'm hoping it doesn't turn into anything more. He's really grown to hate the Nose Frida!
DH is away again this week. And yet again, a kid is sick. Ds2 has another cold. I'm hoping it doesn't turn into anything more. He's really grown to hate the Nose Frida!
Why is it they're always sick when solo parenting???
May Randoms!May 10, 2017 20:01:41 GMT -5via mobile
Post by annbuhdan on May 10, 2017 20:01:41 GMT -5
Yikes coffeequeen14, I'm sorry you have to make this decision so abruptly!
We are selling our house and the buyer's inspector pointed out that we have vermiculite insulation in the attic, and it's being tested for asbestos. Well, I went down an Internet rabbit hole reading about asbestos insulation tonight. It kind of freaked me out and now I feel like I'll probably get mesothelioma next week. 😳
May Randoms!May 10, 2017 20:12:42 GMT -5via mobile
Post by bocaburger on May 10, 2017 20:12:42 GMT -5
coffeequeen14, that is so scary, I'm really glad she's ok. You could call the pediatrician just for peace of mind, but if she's acting fine you probably don't need to.
I agree with PP. I believe in second chances, but not third chances. One mistake can happen to anyone but if it's a habitual issue, that's totally not ok. Your children's safety is the #1 most important thing.
I literally spent my entire therapy session this week talking about my significant anxiety about something happening to my babies while someone else is caring for them. It's terrifying.
DH is away again this week. And yet again, a kid is sick. Ds2 has another cold. I'm hoping it doesn't turn into anything more. He's really grown to hate the Nose Frida!
Why is it they're always sick when solo parenting???
We suffer from that frequently too. Sorry:(
Yes! Even with ds1, who rarely ever got sick, when he did it was always if dh was working super late a lot. Now DH has a job with a lot of travel. I used to get nervous about DH being away because of everything being on me, but now I'm just always terrified of whatever virus my kids will come down with while he's gone!
May Randoms!May 10, 2017 22:10:08 GMT -5via mobile
Post by coffeequeen14 on May 10, 2017 22:10:08 GMT -5
redhead610 h left for the airport on Sunday at 430. We were at a birthday party until he had to leave. The boys requested to skip cake because they felt sick and wanted to go home. Sunday night and Monday they were both sick. Then I got a fever yesterday and today. I think I may have strep throat. Of course h is always gone when I am sick! Why does it happen that way?!?
He watched the video of M and stroller falling down the stairs. Said Nanny has to go. Made me feel better when I was waiverinf. She is great with my kids this sucks.
Yikes coffeequeen14, I'm sorry you have to make this decision so abruptly!
We are selling our house and the buyer's inspector pointed out that we have vermiculite insulation in the attic, and it's being tested for asbestos. Well, I went down an Internet rabbit hole reading about asbestos insulation tonight. It kind of freaked me out and now I feel like I'll probably get mesothelioma next week. 😳
As long as the insulation isn't disturbed (torn, moved) then asbestos is fine. Removing it safely is necessary so someone doesn't come along and tear it out without protection because they didn't know. Protection is so the remover doesn't inhale/come in contact.
Removing it sucks if you have to do it, though. I'd be tempted to move first!
Yikes coffeequeen14, I'm sorry you have to make this decision so abruptly!
We are selling our house and the buyer's inspector pointed out that we have vermiculite insulation in the attic, and it's being tested for asbestos. Well, I went down an Internet rabbit hole reading about asbestos insulation tonight. It kind of freaked me out and now I feel like I'll probably get mesothelioma next week. 😳
As long as the insulation isn't disturbed (torn, moved) then asbestos is fine. Removing it safely is necessary so someone doesn't come along and tear it out without protection because they didn't know. Protection is so the remover doesn't inhale/come in contact.
Removing it sucks if you have to do it, though. I'd be tempted to move first!
The only thing that worries me is we have an attic fan that we use in our house a lot in the summer. I don't know how much dust that might have been disturbing. Anyway, we are waiting to hear from the buyer, so we'll see what happens.
Thanks for asking. I'm letting her go today. I can't stop crying about it.
My head says I need to but my heart is saying not to.
I had to take M to the ER last night because she randomly threw up and was then acting lethargic. I called the doctor and they said I needed to take her to the ER since it was when a day of her falling. She is fine but just this whole situation is ugh. Now I'm a little worried CPS will stop by or something. Luckily we literally have a video of the incident.
I need to let her go, right? She is habitually careless. This is just another example of it. We got lucky but what if the next time we aren't lucky? There will be a next time that she is careless.
coffeequeen14 yes if it's a pattern I think you do need to let her go. I understand your conflict. But this accident could have been very bad. It's not like she forgot sunblock or a hat. She left a stroller at the top of the steps unlocked and then tried lying about it. I'm sorry you had to visit the ED.
coffeequeen14, I am so sorry the situation with your nanny is so hard. If it were me, the lying would be the last strike. Accidents happen, yes. But god forbid something happened away from camera view? How could you trust her to tell the truth? I don't think I could. Perhaps being let go will be her wakeup call to be hyper vigilant with other people's kids. Carelessness is not an attractive quality in a caregiver.
I let her go. I'm so sad about it. She was such an integral part of our family. I am literally sick over having to do this.
Were you able to have a conversation with her about it? I do hope she is able to learn and move on successfully, because it sounds like she is really good with kids otherwise. I hope you can find peace with having to let her go.
I let her go. I'm so sad about it. She was such an integral part of our family. I am literally sick over having to do this.
I'm so sorry coffeequeen14. I get anxious about giving our nanny even minor negative feedback so I can't imagine how hard it must be to fire someone who has become important in your kid's life. FWIW, I think you made the right decision.
May Randoms!May 12, 2017 19:50:08 GMT -5via mobile
Post by coffeequeen14 on May 12, 2017 19:50:08 GMT -5
@veniya I couldn't really have a conversation. I was really upset and had trouble getting everything I did say out.
bocaburger she was sad, surprised but incredibly professional. She comforted my older when she told him and the younger one when he cried. She did their goodbye hug ritual one more time and then left😔
I am not much of a domestic goddess, but I learned all the tricks from a clean-freak (my well-meaning but slightly neurotic mom) and lately, I am discovering a certain zen satisfaction in cleaning things.
I got to the bottom of my pile of dishes yesterday that took me a week to complete. Today, I did a quick scrub on the exersaucer (snacks make it filthy suuuuuper fast....). I find myself itching to organize and sort all the kiddo toys, and take a vacuum to my living room. And laundry. Laundry never ends. But I want to wash and fold it and put it all away.
It reminds me a bit of nesting. Why it is hitting me 8 and a half months postpartum, who knows. Maybe it is a mental strike back at the feeling like I can't quit eating, and I will never lose weight. Maybe my birth control is just making me batty. Haha.
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