HDBD & humpday randoms 5/3

[muscari]

Randoms and bumps go here!

[muscari]

No bump pic yet this week.. but I just realized I have less then 40 days of work left before I start maternity leave!!?!

[therealbug]

23+6, B&G twins

[mrshall1027]

muscari, I'm so jealous!  I'll be working until the beginning of August and I'm so ready to be done NOW!

Ugly work bathroom bumpie - 24w1d STM

[happyfeet9]

24+2, STM, B&G twins
Another lovely work bathroom pic :/

[happyfeet9]

mrshall1027 I like that skirt! Super cute.

[happyfeet9]

Can I vent here too? DH's parents asked us what we would want for a gift so we asked that they purchase the 2nd mini crib since we already have one from DS1.

They have now said that they want to purchase our double stroller. The stroller that we want is about 1k, but we're willing to splurge because we will have 3u3 and are in a financial position where we can. His parents are both retired and that's quite an expense that they shouldn't incur.

I told DH to ask them instead to purchase the 2nd car seat because we can't leave the hospital without it and would be more reasonable given the gift they've already purchased.

Now DH is 2nd guessing even getting a double stroller altogether or just going with the cheapest one that might not work for us, just so he can avoid having that conversation with his parents.

Not gonna happen, dude. The stroller we chose was HIS top choice and I'm not changing my mind. Even if I have to buy it on my own and have the conversation with his parents alone. Sorry not sorry.

[mrshall1027]

happyfeet9, thanks! I bought it because it's bump friendly even though it's not a maternity skirt. I'll probably have to alter it when I loose the baby weight, but should be an easy fix.

What stroller are you looking at? I would go ahead and speak to them, even if it's without your H, and just say that you planned on purchasing it and don't feel comfortable receiving a gift that expensive.

[happyfeet9]

It's the Uppababy Vista double. It was our favorite in terms of configurations, weight, storage, and the glider board. We considered the Baby Jogger double but it was bulkier (tough in narrow NYC spaces) and I wasn't comfortable with the placement of the glider board for DS1 (he'll be 2.5 when the twins arrive and is often a runner).

May 3, 2017 13:39:07 GMT -5 mrshall1027 said:

happyfeet9, thanks! I bought it because it's bump friendly even though it's not a maternity skirt. I'll probably have to alter it when I loose the baby weight, but should be an easy fix.

What stroller are you looking at? I would go ahead and speak to them, even if it's without your H, and just say that you planned on purchasing it and don't feel comfortable receiving a gift that expensive.

[muscari]

Bwah just tried to take a bump pic but I must be too tired cause my phone kept slipping and they all suck. Will try again tomorrow.. I seem to be liking early day bump pics over evening bump pics anyway -- anyone else feeling much bigger (aka whalesize huge) in the evenings???

therealbug, love the color of your top! Also, it looks so comfi - I need to try and find some more shirts with the ruffled sides to accomodate the growing bump, but so far been out of luck (or they were so big they were bags on me).

happyfeet9 vent away! I'm sorry that this situation with your inlaws (and YH) is causing you stress. I'd be frustrated to no end as well. No doubt they mean well but ugh, especially since now YH doesn't seem to want the confrontation and looks for an easy way out even if that means you 're not getting the stroller you like best and want. If this is the stroller you both were set on, I wouldn't budge! I second mrshall1027's suggestion of speaking with them. Do you think they'll understand or will they make a fuss?

[happyfeet9]

muscari I'll just end up talking to them. I think they will make a fuss, but I'm giving them a reasonable alternative. An additional car seat is a non-negotiable purchase and would be very helpful but reasonable budget wise.

[addymac]

happyfeet9 I'd be frustrated too, if my DH didn't want to talk to his parents and was suddenly considering a different stroller bc of it. I get so frustrated with my parents who are retired and on a limited budget and yet keep insisting on buying things and traveling to visit us for events we don't thonk are important enough to warrant a visit when we'd rather they spend their money on less things or other visits. I just know they're going to try to buy us some of the expensive things off our registries and it drives me crazy because while I think part of it is excitement, part of it is because DHs mom and SD are very comfortable financially and I think my parents feel competition over EVERYTHING with them- even just with things like who finds what out first!

[addymac]

And my pic! FTM, 24+4, boy.
Please excuse my face / toothbrushing haha. I feel huge compared to you ladies! But everyone looks so cute and I feel like a whale already.

[happyfeet9]

May 3, 2017 14:44:52 GMT -5 addymac said:

happyfeet9 I'd be frustrated too, if my DH didn't want to talk to his parents and was suddenly considering a different stroller bc of it. I get so frustrated with my parents who are retired and on a limited budget and yet keep insisting on buying things and traveling to visit us for events we don't thonk are important enough to warrant a visit when we'd rather they spend their money on less things or other visits. I just know they're going to try to buy us some of the expensive things off our registries and it drives me crazy because while I think part of it is excitement, part of it is because DHs mom and SD are very comfortable financially and I think my parents feel competition over EVERYTHING with them- even just with things like who finds what out first!

I def feel frustration over the material items versus actual quality time. DH's parents have been much less involved with DS1 over the past year and a half; they often visit maybe once a month (we're in Brooklyn, they're in Manhattan) and when they do visit, it's unexpected and at inconvenient times for DS (close to nap or bedtime). MIL also travels for most of the summer to visit her dad.

All of this doesn't leave much time for bonding and I don't see it being very different for the twins. I would much rather they keep the money for the stroller and use it on coming to visit via train or cabs.

[happyfeet9]

addymac you look great!!!! As does everyone else

I love seeing how everyone carries so differently.

[muscari]

addymac , you look great! I hear you on feeling huge, I feel pretty whale-ish myself! I keep being amazed by how different angles make my bump look so different in size. I tried to take a pic tonight after I showered and put on my jammies, my phone slipped and the pic was taken from the front and I was like hell to the no posting this online. Everybodies bump pics are so cute in comparison. Funnily enough I do think you and I carry similarly (going by the pics) and I think you look great and your bump is beautiful! Ohhh and I think we have the same toothbrush ;-)

I ran into this pic somewhere else on the forum some weeks ago so you may have seen it already..but it just made me laugh so loud.

[muscari]

And on that note, bedtime for me! Have a great rest of your day all!

[elliecat17]

Guess I will finally play, although I REALLY feel like a whale compared to all of you!



24wk FTM
Don't mind the outfit, it was laundry and gardening day.

I GIVE UP ON THE STUPID IMG FOR NOW.

[cali]

Everyone looks so cute! I feel like I just look huge and lumpy. I haven't even taken.any bump pics. I've only gained 10 pounds but it looks like so much more...

[addymac]

You ladies are so silly. We all look great and we can be whales together! I'm at +18 pounds and decided as long as I stay within the 25-35 lb gain range (looking more like 35 at this point 😳) I will just have to stop freaking out at the scale. Of course easier said than done!! But my DH did say he thinks a handful of those lbs are in my boobs 😂😂 so hey at least it's not all bad, right?? Lol

[therealbug]

happyfeet9, I agree with you talking with them about getting the car seat. We have a pretty strong opinion on the stroller we want and put in a lot of research to get to that point.