I seem to start this because I always have a vent.
The bus was 15 minutes late this morning, of course I was supposed to be on 30 minutes early. Made it only 3 minutes late.
I had a productive weekend, got some yardwork done and tomatoes planted. I was cranky with DH though. I am picking up some of his yardwork because he is dealing with house stuff. Plus, just the general organization of the house. I am getting tired. He just deals with himself and his schedule, while I have all of the planning and coordination with the kids. When he works, they are long shifts, so basically all he takes care of is himself. We may split work 50/50, but not the organization.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 8, 2017 8:12:24 GMT -5
rere26 - And the organization is 90% of the work. Sorry about the bus, too. What a way to start the week.
AFM, I'm back at work. My last maternity leave ever is officially over. Sigh... At least baby isn't going to DC yet. He's home with MH since MH has another 5 weeks off. Yeah, he got 16 weeks paid paternity leave plus a week of vacation, so he's off a whole month+ longer than me. No, I'm not bitter. Not at alllll.
But it's for the best. Long story short, he had a horrible experience with his vasectomy, so he's still healing. If you want to know what happened, I can share. He'll be fine, but he may not have normal balls for, oh, almost a year. Fun!
Welp, I'm off to check the 1,000+ emails in my inbox, update all my software, and sort through the stack of papers on my desk. See you in a few hours.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Celebration: Yesterday was such a nice day! I played in the yard with the kids for the whole morning, just running around and playing catch. Then we crashed and snuggled in my bed to watch a movie before we went to their race and a cookout at the in laws. And I got my sewing room cleaned up and back in order. Perfect Sunday!
And right on schedule, DH is getting pissy and stressed about work - show week is next week, so we get the pleasure of dealing with his attitude for the next two weeks while he questions whether or not he sucks, how he'll get everything done, and if his existence is worthwhile (jk. kind of). I basically just ignored him for the entire day yesterday, including when he tried to tell me all the reasons he's feeling stressed. I felt bad, but I honestly didn't need to hear his sob story. He gets so mopey and irritable when he's stressed, I am actively working on not letting that drag me down. He brings it on himself and I cannot fix him.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 8, 2017 8:18:39 GMT -5
Oh, and my kid turns 4 this week. So between leaving my baby at home and my "baby" turning 4 AND going back to work I'm pretty much an emotional wreck.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
oldbaylover1024, woah about the paid paternity leave for your H. Lucky guy but I think if I was home with my H that long I would go nuts. And speaking of nuts, ouch, I hope he gets better soon.
Celebration: Both boys finally got into the daycare/school that we've been on the waitlist for 1.5 years. It's the only other daycare near us that takes kids under 2. It's run by the local university and very highly regarded. It has a an excellent full day kindergarten with before/aftercare (our public school only has half day K with no aftercare), so we'll be able to keep both boys at the same place as long as possible.
Vent: Now I'm feeling super guilty about leaving our existing daycare. We've been there for 2.5 years. The teacher are great and I can tell they love the boys and DS1 loves them. But the place is so poorly managed and there's no communication. And the new daycare has a much healthier menu and much more and better outdoor and indoor play space. We won't make the move until the new school year starts in August, but I'm already dreading telling our current daycare we're leaving.
oldbaylover1024 , woah about the paid paternity leave for your H. Lucky guy but I think if I was home with my H that long I would go nuts. And speaking of nuts, ouch, I hope he gets better soon.
Right?! Being home together for 12w was interesting. I mean, it was GREAT to have 100%, full-time help with C. Plus, C spent the first 15 days in the NICU so having MH around to help me get back-and-forth was amazing (I had a schedule C-section, so there's no way I could have done it alone).
But I'm pretty happy to be away from him if I'm being honest LOL We need some space, and 8 hours sounds like the perfect amount
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
saraml13, I had to break up with our daycare last week. I chickened out and did it via email to the director - that way it was in writing and I didn't actually have to talk to anyone. lol I made sure to tell them how much we loved them and appreciate them, but that we had to make the change for our family. They were really understanding about it.
Post by supertrooper1 on May 8, 2017 8:51:16 GMT -5
I organized my coworker's going away party over the weekend. Anyone of our 300 coworkers were invited but only his 6 closest work friends showed up. But it was the perfect group and we had 3 hours of laughs and fun. I think it was a nice sendoff.
Friday, I pissed off a supervisor because at hour 15 of my shift, I told her I could only stay another hour because 16 is our max. I come in 2 hours earlier than any of my other coworkers. It was busy and she was pissed because I was leaving her short a person and she was busy when I told her. She shouldn't have been mad at me but she has a reputation for being a horrible supervisor.
saraml13 , I had to break up with our daycare last week. I chickened out and did it via email to the director - that way it was in writing and I didn't actually have to talk to anyone. lol I made sure to tell them how much we loved them and appreciate them, but that we had to make the change for our family. They were really understanding about it.
Glad the breakup went smoothly for you. I will definitely email the director/owner, since she is rarely there when I drop off and pick up. I don't feel bad about telling her we're leaving at all. But it's the actual teachers and that last week or two before we actually leave when we have to do all the goodbyes and gather up all the supplies that I'm dreading. Maybe every parent feels this way, but I really do get the sense that DS1 is the class pet. (Not because he is well behaved but because he has a lot of personality - and bright red hair.)
We had a GREAT long weekend. Friday H and I ran errands, picked up cake, and stocked our freezer with lots of yummy wholesale meat lol (seriously though, pork butt at $1.09/lb, ny strips at $3.29, and rib eye at $5.99. Some disassembly required!)
Bud's party was Saturday and we had 8 children bouncing, including DS, and a few babies. Perfect size, and we had the venue to ourselves for the first hour which was unexpected but awesome. We moved lunch up to 12:15 when (most of) the kids started to wind down, and were done and out by 1pm, which not coincidentally is when they all nap at DC. Bud whined for about 5 minutes about not playing with all his new toys, then crashed for a 2 hour nap. :-)
We finally met with the financial planner. I had been expecting him to tell us we can't afford to move and be all doom and gloom like our friends who met with one and were told they weren't going to have enough money to retire.
We got the opposite. He basically said we're killing ourselves now and will have more than enough money to retire. We should be able to comfortably buy a new house, and we should set aside $15k/year for a vacation. I still don't believe him.
DH was surprised by the fact that there was a sales pitch for them to act as a fiduciary in managing our funds. I'm not sure why he was so surprised? It actually sounds like an okay deal.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 8, 2017 9:34:46 GMT -5
Good weekend. I posted in the health thread but I did an olympic triathlon relay with two of my cousins. I had the bike. My dad came, my uncle and my two aunts came including one that I really like but never see and two of my 2nd cousins. It was the weirdest reunion ever. Both of my cousins did really well and I did really well and one actually did fantastic and wants to do more. That was sunday.
Saturday was everyone's activities: DS went to T ball after 3 weeks of no T ball and did great. DD went to gymnastics and had fun. My niece had her last theater production and was recognized with the other high school seniors.
Lawdy no wonder I'm tired.
Now the big thing that's not really anything yet: DS is at his first evaluation with the psychologist. DH took him. I wish I was there. I want to know what happening!!!!!
Post by somebabiesmom on May 8, 2017 9:40:11 GMT -5
This weekend blew. MH worked too much, DS was sick too much, I was angsty. So our fun stuff all got canceled leaving me with an ample amount of time to clean the house.
oldbaylover1024 , sorry for your H's bad vasectomy experience. MH recently had a vasectomy, and he was super nervous about complications.
Celebrations: DS had a great baseball game on Saturday. He caught a fly ball (? I don't know official baseball terms) and caught a few grounders that he ran and tagged the base for an out. Sunday he had flag football, and had a break-away touchdown. DD was a really supportive sister and sat with me in the cold to watch both games. (DH is an assistant coach on both teams.)
Vents: I woke up last night for some unknown reason and couldn't get back to sleep for an hour and a half. I'm tired. DD now has a cold, probably from sitting in the cold for hours this weekend.
FFC: For Mother's Day, we're giving MIL some lotions that DH got me a while ago at his company store that I won't use. (I'm kind of picky about my skin care products.)
Random: DS's friend is moving (new build) about 1/2 mile away from us. There is a vacant lot next to where they're building, and now I kind of have an itch to buy it and build a little bit smaller house...
Had a good weekend. We took the kid to meet Daniel Tiger at our local public TV station's open house. It was madness, as you can imagine. But super cute.
This morning SO got out of bed before I did. I heard him say "oh, so you decided to do some painting." D got up early and was artistically inspired apparently.
Nothing like scrubbing blue poster paint off the floor at 6:30am!
We had a pretty good weekend. Though I swear I said more odd things this weekend than I have in a long time. Like "please don't stroke me with your food". (Thanks to Hey Duggie DS is really into stroking everything right now. My leg, my hair, DH's face, his sister.) And "No, DD, poop doesn't come out of your brother's penis, it comes out of his butt."
DS had the most hilarious fit last night. Just turned 3. Total threenager. First, he decided his pajamas weren't pajamas. Even though they say "So Fast I Passed My Bedtime". I told him that. He insisted it didn't say "bedtime" but said "bath time". He needed a tissue. I gave him one. Told him to throw it away, then we went to change his not-pajamas for clothes he recognized as pajamas. He still had the tissue in his hand, so then he cried that he had to throw his tissue away. But only in the bathroom. He comes back, still crying, which means he needs a tissue. But not a tissue from the box in his room. He wanted his tissue back from the trash can. I insisted he get a fresh tissue, which he claimed was "too big". It just went on and on. By the end I was laughing semi-hysterically.
k3am , I'm glad you got good news from the financial planner, on the saving/investing front. As someone who oversees investments for a living (albeit on the institutional side, not personal/retail), I have lots of friends and family members ask me for a second opinion on what a financial planner recommends. And I've found that all of them are going to get totally ripped off by fees, even if their guy is a fiduciary. I don't know what the in-house investment options are that the guy is offering, but I would bet they involve way higher fees than you'd get through, say, Vanguard index funds. Unfortunately we're in a really low return environment, and fees make a huge difference over the long-term.
sdlaura, yep, the fees are higher. He's recommending Swan defined risk funds. They have a unique (to me) investment strategy, but I admit to being risk averse and not an expert. On a short-term basis, it doesn't look great, but on a historical long-term basis, it does pretty well. It does best when the economy tanks. I'm convinced it's going to again somewhat regularly.
DH has already called his bestie (guys can have besties, right? That's what I'll call him) from growing up who's a wealth advisor who's going to take a look.
k3am, I'm glad you're getting another opinion - although I'd say that any wealth advisor probably is already more comfortable with seeing higher fee options Are the longer-term returns they're showing you net of fees?
Vent from Friday I walked down to pick DD up from school and she wasn't there. I got there right as school let out so after wading through a sea of elementary kids I got to the K classrooms and no DD waiting for me with her teacher so I go in and all the classrooms are dark. I get to the office and finally get the secretary attention and go "I can't find DD". She starts to track down her teacher and comes to find out they didn't look at the schedule and put her on the bus. I say no big deal I will call daycare and ask if they will get her off and I will head that way and meet them. Secretary says no she will get the bus to turn around as it had just left the school. Well the bus didn't' turn around but dropped DD off at her stop with some guy who then took her to daycare who wasn't expecting her so I get this phone call from daycare saying why do we have DD. Meanwhile the secretary is calling the bus company and dealing with them so I run 3 blocks home (big mistake) get in my car and go to daycare give many thanks and then take her to chiro. By the time we get to chiro 20 minutes after running my heartrate/blood pressure is still sky high and I came very close to passing out in his office. Chiro is a godsend and helped me out but I ended up with a migraine and achy back all weekend. Now I get to deal with both the school and bus company as dropping my kid off to some other parent isn't okay or safe.
Weekend went okay. I kept the headache all weekend so we had lots of movie cuddle time but still did t-ball game and riding lesson. Got our season tickets for the minor league baseball last night and DD was awesome at the event as it was very busy and we had to wait 45 minutes just to get our order taken so it was a 2 hour dinner with lots of waiting.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 8, 2017 11:40:04 GMT -5
k3am guys can definitely have besties. I call DH's bestie his boyfriend. oldbaylover1024 my leave ended today too. That's my vent so far.
Celebration: my boobs find pumping to be like riding a bike and I've already pumped enough for tomorrow's bottles. I also get my quiet lunch time back.
k3am , I'm glad you're getting another opinion - although I'd say that any wealth advisor probably is already more comfortable with seeing higher fee options Are the longer-term returns they're showing you net of fees?
That's one of the things I would want to clarify. Honestly, if what they're offering can hedge our risk and get us net returns similar to what we get now, I would probably be okay with it.
oldbaylover1024, erinshelley21, good luck on your first week at work after maternity leave. I still have 3 weeks left and I'm not really looking forward to it. At least DH is now SAHD, so I don't have to worry about getting 3 kids up and ready to go anywhere.
So I thought I was ahead of the game in planning DS2's baptism. I found catering and a place, but I don't have a minister. The one we have always used has moved and I don't have his new contact info. So, I found him on facebook and sent him a message. I'm not sure how much he uses facebook or if he will download messenger to see my message. It makes me a little sad since I really liked his baptism service. Would it be totally creepy to send his son a message to get his dad's (the minister) contact info? Otherwise, I have to find another person and DH and I do not belong to any church.
And tonight is DD's first softball game. She has never played softball before and I am one of the assistant coaches. She was supposed to have two games last week but they got rained out. Poor kid was so disappointed! But today looks like a great day for a softball game!
Post by traveltheworld on May 8, 2017 13:18:22 GMT -5
We had a good weekend. I bought a new bike for myself, DH took DS to the symphony, and I took the kids to the mall yesterday and got ice cream. Then the kids slept over at my parents' last night so I went for a yoga class, then went for a nice bike ride by myself. It was lovely.
Vent (?) - we've now had 2 instructors from 2 separate extracurricular activities that DS is in ask us what program we are planning to put DS in for kindergarten, since he appears very bright. We were planning to just have him in regular kindergarten, but both of these instructors suggested we look into a special program through the public school system here. I called this morning, but we've already missed the cut-off for the program, but "maybe they can make special accommodations". I don't even know what that means. So now I feel like I should have been more on top of things. But we just moved here 3 weeks ago! I also don't know anyone here in this city so I'm not even sure if the suggested program is good for him. I've reached out to a partner at the local office of my old firm and have coffee scheduled - her kids are similar age so maybe she can offer some insight.
traveltheworld, I feel for you. I'm not that new to this city, but I'm way behind on researching kindergartens for DD1, who will start in the fall. I assumed either of 2 options would be a good fit for her. Then I panicked that one of the two routes (the one I'm most familiar with) would limit her post-kindergarten options. So I visited Option 2 last week . . . and left in tears. And it's way too late for consideration at the places we could have looked into 6+ months ago. It sucks to know there could be a bad choice for what I thought would be a no-brainer. I'm not sure if this is similar to your experience, but I feel like I've dropped the ball when I didn't even know there was a ball to drop. And there is no one here to guide me through this.
@oldbaylovee1024, erinshelley21 hope your first days back are going well!
Celebration- had a great weekend, house is fairly clean, got to go to a lovely adult dinner with my H
Vent- co-worker please do not expect a pat on the back for rehashing someone else's work. I believe in giving credit where credit is due and this was not your find!
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