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I guess this is an UO but I don't mind gender specific clothing. Especially for girls. The frillier the better. DD is currently in a stage where she wants nothing but lacy dresses and I love it.
Ditto. I tend to dress her in pink too. Bring me on all the princess dresses. I love the girly girlness.
mambo and caybeh, I wouldn't know what to do with a tomboy. I don't play sports and I would be at a loss if she wanted to play them. Seeing her in her ballet tutu brings tears to my eyes though. She had her first recital this past Sunday and it was all I could do to not ugly cry the whole time. I blame the pregnancy hormones.
mambo and caybeh, I wouldn't know what to do with a tomboy. I don't play sports and I would be at a loss if she wanted to play them. Seeing her in her ballet tutu brings tears to my eyes though. She had her first recital this past Sunday and it was all I could do to not ugly cry the whole time. I blame the pregnancy hormones.
That's so sweet! I didn't play much sports either so I'm kind of at a loss there too.
mambo, even if we wanted to know, baby didn't cooperate so we have to wait two weeks.. not good for a planner. Plus I'm anti gender stereotyping in general. If DS wants to play with a doll or wear pink, so be it. Okay, rant over.
To be completely honest, this is definitely part of why I wanted to be team green. I hate the idea of people boxing my baby in to certain characteristics before they are even born, based solely on their genitalia.
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mambo and caybeh, I wouldn't know what to do with a tomboy. I don't play sports and I would be at a loss if she wanted to play them. Seeing her in her ballet tutu brings tears to my eyes though. She had her first recital this past Sunday and it was all I could do to not ugly cry the whole time. I blame the pregnancy hormones.
Why would you need to treat a "tomboy" differently?
I'm confused here. And this is why I hate gender stereotyping.
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RajahMD I know you weren't talking to me but I do like the girly girl. I wouldn't treat a tomboy differently. It just might take me a little bit to figure out how to relate to them since I was not a tomboy. I was the stereotypical girly girl who played house and dressed as princesses. So for me, I like seeing DD that way because I can relate to it. As she grows and if her interests change, I won't hold her back. But for now, I'm embracing that she loves babies and princesses.
I can see where you are coming from caybeh because I am the exact opposite. I was never into sports but my interests were very academic and STEM focused. If I have kids who are artsy or creative, I will have no idea what to do! I want to give my girls and boys lego and microscopes, not tutus and painting kits. It's just easier to imagine parenting someone you can relate to.
But RajahMD I am with you on the gender stereotyping too. I recently had a falling out with my FIL because when I mentioned buying DS a baby doll to prepare for #2's arrival, his response was "oh, why don't you just buy him a skirt too". I almost exploded.
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fiercemo I had a couple days recently where they were quieter and I was just not hungry, but now they're back to dancing and I'm starving. It's scary though when I'm kind of used to regular movement, I hope yours picks up for you soon to ease your mind a bit!
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I personally love pretty girl clothes, I'm a girlie girl (but was a tomboy growing up) and I'm not "prissy" but definitely get distracted by frilly/flowered/pastel colors for little girls. I try to make a conscious effort to not gender stereotype too much but I know if we end up with girl(s) they'll have at least a few pretty frilly (probably pink) things in their repertoire. But not alllllll will be that stuff.
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I personally love pretty girl clothes, I'm a girlie girl (but was a tomboy growing up) and I'm not "prissy" but definitely get distracted by frilly/flowered/pastel colors for little girls. I try to make a conscious effort to not gender stereotype too much but I know if we end up with girl(s) they'll have at least a few pretty frilly (probably pink) things in their repertoire. But not alllllll will be that stuff.
When DD was a baby, I actually didn't dress her in too many frilly things. It wasn't practical....she wore a lot of leggings and shirts, pink and girl colors, but not the super frilly things. Only for special occasions would I put her in frilly things. Now that she is 2.5 and has an opinion in what she wears....she wears a lot of dresses/tutus.
RajahMD, I never said anything about treating a tomboy differently. I said, "I wouldn't know what to do with one." That's not the same thing. I was simply saying, a girl who is into girly things is something I can relate to, so it would be easier. I have never done the softball thing. So I wouldn't be prepared for what to expect. I wouldn't treat any of my children differently because of what they are interested in. I just may not be able to relate to it as easy.
I don't see anything wrong with embracing the girly stuff when you're having a girl and the boy stuff when you're having a boy. I don't like having all neutral stuff. So my girls have tons of cute dresses and hair bows. My boys have the boy stuff. Except for anything that has anything related to sports. I avoid that stuff like the plague. If they want to be into later, whatever, but I'm not promoting it. I am not a sports fan.
If anyone is interested, Target has lots of cute dresses on clearance. I just got 4 new dresses for DD. All pink, with flowers and lace! She will love them!
ETA: I think when they are babies it's more about what the parents want to dress the baby in and not what they want the baby to become as far as gender. Or forcing the child into a specific gender roll. I'm a girly girl and I like girly stuff so those are the things I gravitate towards for my girls.
@wicky, I have sat in many bleachers for my oldest. He loves sports but hasn't stuck with one particular kind. I'm totally ok with that, lol. I sign him up for what I call the "fun leagues" and not the competitive stuff. I can't stand being around those parents who think their kids need to be some kind of child sports star. I sat and listened to one guy verbally beat his kid down over how awful he played in a basketball game. It was hard to witness. I prefer everything that is extracurricular to be fun and light hearted. Even if I'm not into sports, I will be the biggest cheerleader my kids have. I literally may have no clue what is going on as far as rules but when my kid scores everyone knows it! I guess I may get too into it at that point.
My point is, I love my kids and I will support them in whatever they choose.
RajahMD, I never said anything about treating a tomboy differently. I said, "I wouldn't know what to do with one." That's not the same thing. I was simply saying, a girl who is into girly things is something I can relate to, so it would be easier. I have never done the softball thing. So I wouldn't be prepared for what to expect. I wouldn't treat any of my children differently because of what they are interested in. I just may not be able to relate to it as easy.
Sorry for the late reply. I just got home from work.
That was how it came across. I misinterpreted what you were saying. Relating to specific interests makes more sense.
This is exactly why gender stereotypes can be so harmful though. Humans are not binary. It's not like any given special interest belongs to one gender or the other. So to me, framing it as "girly girl" versus "tomboy", instead of just specific interests, is troublesome. There is a lot of negative assumptions and perceptions tied up in gender stereotypes. To me, tying specific interests to a specific gender to fit stereotypes should be avoided, so that we can eventually stop the propagation of harmful stereotypes.
I don't know if any of that made sense. I worked 14+ hours today and I'm mentally exhausted. But gender stereotyping is one of my biggest societal issues. Probably because I was the tomboy who was mocked for liking sports and playing video games as a kid.
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Work fucking sucks this month. I'm on our hardest rotation, the one that requires the most physical and mental energy. I worked over 70 hours last week, and that's not including time spend commuting or studying at home. I've already worked 27ish hours this week, in two days. Every night I come home and I am fucking exhausted and sore from head to toe.
I'll be on this rotation until July 1st. Fingers crossed I can survive that long. It's going to be a rough two months.
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Movement has definitely become more regular. I have been feeling different kinds of movement all day most days this week. Lots of low stuff, like I'm getting kicked in the cervix and some harder jabs higher up. I really hope she is an active baby because it was so fun watching DD move around. DS1 and DS2 mostly just stuck their butts out and pushed instead of rolling and kicking.
Post by andtheheartbreakers on May 9, 2017 22:35:45 GMT -5
I find it so interesting to watch what personality traits young kids pick up on and what they determine they are going to follow. For example my daughter has zero interest watching my husband get ready, but she loves to watch me get dressed, do my hair, and put on makeup. She stands there pointing at her hair wanting it brushed, wanting the same clip in her hair, and then I have to pretend to put makeup on her because she points to her eyes after I put on eye shadow and goes "uhhhh!" (and moisturizer, foundation, blush, deodorant....basically anything I do she tries to mimic and gets mad if I don't pretend to do it to her too).
But on the flipped, my friend was a single mom when her son was little. He was so used to always watching her that whenever they went out he wanted a necklace or a lipgloss or something along those lines instead of a toy. She would buy him whatever he picked out and there was a period of time where he was always wearing a necklace and lip gloss. She got a lot of flack for it from her parents that she wasn't "nurturing the boy in him". Seriously? He just wants to be like mom. He's now almost 6 and obsessed with action figures and dinosaurs, no longer cares about anything remotely girly.
Post by luciddreamer on May 10, 2017 0:11:33 GMT -5
littleb92 I've had the best luck with neutral clothing from the Gap and Old Navy. I wait for their sales (sometimes 40% off stuff that is already on sale.
+1 to not liking gendered sayings on stuff. "Mommy's little monster" etc. we got a bunch of it and I'm not really a fan. I am ok with the gender neutral "sweet pea, "little peanut" types.
Good luck RajahMD that sounds so rough...I am barely surviving my very easy, flexible schedule that involves tons of sitting and taking breaks mostly whenever I want. I hope July 1 comes fast for you!
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How would relating to a girl who is more of a "tomboy" and into sports be any different than relating to a boy who is super into sports?
I would have a hard time relating to either boys or girls who are super into sports because I am not into sports. I grew up around sports because my siblings played but I didn't play much. DH isn't really into sports either.
I have a boy and a girl. I will be honest. I have a hard time "playing" cars, trains, etc because I'm just not interested in it. I will play it with him because I love him but there are so many other things I would rather do. When my daughter wants to play house, I know how to play that so I'm a little more interested.
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How would relating to a girl who is more of a "tomboy" and into sports be any different than relating to a boy who is super into sports?
I don't relate to sports at all, I just go with the flow. I would do the same with a girl. It's just not something I have experienced with a girl and it would be a LEARNING EXPERIENCE whereas with a "girly girl" I already know what to expect from her.
How would relating to a girl who is more of a "tomboy" and into sports be any different than relating to a boy who is super into sports?
I think it's the idea that moms are "supposed" to relate to the girl and dad the boy. There are absolutely things I relate to SD better than DH simply because I'm female. And this is expected of me. This again plays into gender stereotypes and we could go round and round on it all day.
This! We can around about this forever. I don't worry about gender stereotypes as much as some of you. This is one of those things where you do you and I do me. Once my kids develop into their own personality and start making decisions about what they want I don't hold them back. Relating to a little girl who is more like me, and my personality, is easier than relating to a girl who doesn't have the same interests. I would relate to a boy who likes lace better than a boy who likes sports. Why? Because I like lace and the boy/girl likes lace.
Thanks wannabmama and salmon2017. I appreciate the support. It's nice to have somewhere to vent where people understand what I'm dealing with physically.
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leviosa I enjoy some sports but don't necessarily want either DS to play them. Football for instance: love watching the pros but no way would I want my kids to play! Other sports I don't want to watch but my H would love for the boys to play: baseball especially. Fuck no to sitting in bleachers in all kinds of weather for a sport I know nothing about and honestly don't care to learn. But if they want to play, my happy (probably numb) ass will be there cheering them on. All part of being a parent,huh?
I love sports and will definitely encourage my kids to play. But baseball is the WORST. MY ss plays and it's getting tolerable now that he's older but when they are really little the games take forevvvver and the kids even look miserable playing. Most of them are building towers in the dirt or chasing bugs in the outfield while they wait for 2798786555 pitches so the batter can get a hit. And don't even me started on tournaments. I mean really, who wants to watch 3 baseball games a day when it's 90 degrees out.
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