Post by monicageller on May 9, 2017 9:23:04 GMT -5
I'm feeding the little one and as soon as I'm done we need to rush out the door for the big one's dentist appointment. Then we'll grab lunch as C's reward for being good at the dentist before dropping him off at daycare/pre-k. Tonight he has his first hockey class, he has advanced from just skating to hockey and he couldn't be more stoked. I'm just sad DH can't be there because he has his golf league on Tuesday's, which he joined before we knew what night hockey was. He is really sad he's missing it too.
Hoping I can squeeze in a workout because I haven't worked out since Saturday.
We're hanging out and I'm picking up and cleaning my house today. I don't want to feel like I have to DO anything tomorrow so I can enjoy my last day of mat leave.
Post by littleredfish on May 9, 2017 9:29:00 GMT -5
I have to get over to the library to return some things this morning, then I'm picking up my mom and sister at the airport. DS has another hospital appointment after lunch but then we'll probably take everybody over to the nature park while we're on that side of town.
DS slept 7 hours straight last night! Unfortunately it was from 5:30 to about 12:30 so I was only asleep for an hour of that by the time I got the kids to bed, cleaned the house and made the spare room up for my mom and sister. He then he was up 2 more times and awake for the day at 6. Oh well. It means he's capable of long stretches, right? I kept checking to make sure he was alive because I couldn't believe it.
ETA: and that long stretch was in his PnP, so he's also capable of sleeping in it!
I was beyond annoyed when I got home last night. Instead of going straight to the gym after work, I went home to see C and MH since I missed the baby. Good Lord... it was 4:45 and I literally caught MH frantically tidying the house, baby was screaming, sink overflowing, laundry (dirty and clean) everywhere... it was nuts. It looked like a tornado went through our home. So I scooped the baby up, LITERALLY cleaned the shit off him, started laundry, started dinner, took the baby with me and picked up J from school, finished dinner, wrote a 'thank you' note with J, fed the kids, put C to bed, played with J, put her to bed, and gave up on my gym time. All the while, MH was dicking around on his phone.
So here I am, miserable at work, while MH gets to stay home with C all day. After the way yesterday evening went, I'm 100% committed to going to work, hitting the gym, picking up J, and praying the house is in order by the time we get home around 5:30, 5:45. Because I don't think I can handle another evening like that.
UO/FFTC: I think he should be doing better. I've been solo on maternity leave, and I understand some days are harder than others. But damn, bro. My understanding/sympathy is... well... I have little of it.
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Post by musicallyinclined on May 9, 2017 10:03:32 GMT -5
DS2 keeps breaking out of his swaddle and needs to nap but I can't swaddle him one more time. I think I have a stomach ulcer, I was up most of last night with an insane burning feeling in my stomach. It's been pretty consistent for the last few days but reached a climax of discomfort last night. I have a doctor's appointment this afternoon.
We are going out of town this weekend for a family gathering at my parents' house. I'm trying to have a positive outlook on it, but given the track record for these get togethers, I'm not super hopeful.
Post by musicallyinclined on May 9, 2017 10:05:25 GMT -5
oldbaylover1024, no flames from me. MH is usually pretty good about stuff when he has the baby or both kids alone, but sometimes, especially MOTN I just want to smack him. He did MOTN feedings last night because I was really not feeling well and apologized to me this morning that I've been doing them mostly alone.
Hope YH gets it together today, and you enjoy your gym time.
No flames from me. I would have flamed if he wasn't on his phone. I've had shitty days where nothing gets done, but the second H gets home and I have reinforcements, I'm picking up the house and getting it back to normal while H deals with the baby. So no flame.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 9, 2017 10:10:19 GMT -5
What sucks is he's normally REALLY great at just doing things that need be done. I rarely have to ask him to do anything and he rarely has to ask me - we co-parent really well. But the past week or so, basically since I've been gearing up for work, he's been a acting like a noob. And communication has totally broken down...
I should say I know babies have difficult days, and maybe yesterday was one of 'those' days where you just can't get caught up. But come on, man. What I walked into was out of bounds.
ETA: And I never question his abilities as a dad. He's taken both kids out alone, has given me some breaks of alone time, is willing to handle meals/cleaning/phone calls, etc. But lately... yikes!
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Post by notagoddess on May 9, 2017 10:15:32 GMT -5
Nooooo I just found out our grill is being delivered next Tuesday and not today. Now I have to meal plan for the rest of the week. And my slow cooker is still out of commission.
oldbaylover1024 I would be LIVID. I would have not been able to keep my mouth shut, especially if he didn't pitch in while I was cleaning up. I mean, sometimes when DH comes home there are messes everywhere and someone is crying (sometimes me). But once he's home, he takes the kids so I can get shit together. Or we work together to get things cleaned. Ain't nobody sitting on their phone while the other does all the things.
Post by flyinghorses6 on May 9, 2017 11:28:47 GMT -5
I had my IUD consult this morning. They took me an hour late, and I had about a 5 minute conversation and signed a consent. Not sure what the point of that was/why it wasn't done at my 6 week pp appointment. But going back next week to get it.
oldbaylover1024 that's pretty damn annoying. I know MH is trying his best when he has both kids alone. But at the end of the day he just can't manage to do more than meet their basic needs.
Post by monicageller on May 9, 2017 11:32:01 GMT -5
No flames oldbaylover1024! Take your gym time without going home first! Whenever DH is home alone with the kids, I know the house will be messing when I get home. He simply doesn't has the standards I have when it comes to messes. But I know the kids have been taken care of well. But I would not stand for me doing all the things you mentioned while he plays on his phone and not helping with the kids.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 9, 2017 11:49:18 GMT -5
Thank you, guys! It's like his brain shuts off as soon as I walk in the door. When he's solo, he's great at doing what needs to be done plus the typical tidying up/random stuff (usually). But lately it's like as soon as I get there **BOOM** he shuts down and gets into 'mommy's got it covered' mode.
I don't know if it's the sudden jump to 2 kids or what. But I do know that shit will hit the fan if I come home to the same thing today.
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Thank you, guys! It's like his brain shuts off as soon as I walk in the door. When he's solo, he's great at doing what needs to be done plus the typical tidying up/random stuff (usually). But lately it's like as soon as I get there **BOOM** he shuts down and gets into 'mommy's got it covered' mode.
This is totally my DH. When he knows he can't rely on me, he steps up. But if I'm around everything defaults to me.
I had a two-hour glucose tolerance test this morning and I feel off. Too little sleep, no caffeine, and no breakfast is not a good combination.
I ate two slices of pizzeria pizza and an empanada for lunch and just finished an extra-strength cup of coffee with hot chocolate mix in it. I still want to curl up in a corner and sleep.
Instead, I have to finish out the workday, go to the gym and either work out or work some more, and feed and bathe kids before bedtime. Somehow I need to carve out time to finish editing a book.
Post by linewifekat on May 9, 2017 14:48:39 GMT -5
@monicagellar how old is your little one that plays hockey? We're hoping to start DD1 in skating lessons this fall when she turns 3 to see if she likes it. There's a youth hockey league in our town.
oldbaylover1024 that's really frustrating. I'm sorry you're dealing with that in addition to working.
DS2 is still screaming in the car. I've tried the blanket over his seat and we did 15 minutes of loud white noise. He can be smiling at me when I put him in the seat and then scream the 25 minutes home as soon as I start the car. It's making me want to be a homebody but we have weekly commitments that we have to make and I'm going crazy at home with the toddler.
linewifekat, my younger sister was like that. She used to scream the two hour trip to my parents' vacation home every single time we went. I'm sorry She outgrew it after about a year, but it was a rough year.
Post by linewifekat on May 9, 2017 15:07:28 GMT -5
staz I can't imagine going through this for a year. He's fine if I'm back there with him but not if it's just us. We're driving to Iowa (14 hrs) in 2 weeks to see family so hopefully he'll be okay with me back there with him. Could be a long ride.
Post by monicageller on May 9, 2017 15:43:22 GMT -5
linewifekat he is 4 1/2. He started skating lessons last fall when he had just turned 4. This hockey he starts tonight is just skill lessons, so no teams or real games. It's supposed to be for ages 5-10, he'll be 5 in August. But he passed the skating level he needed to, to be in hockey. And his buddy from daycare is also moving into this class and he'll be 5 in June. So I'm hoping it will go well even though he's on the young side.
I think there were 3 year olds in the parent/tot class. It may be on the young side, but it's worth a try!
Post by wildflower810 on May 9, 2017 16:34:19 GMT -5
oldbaylover1024, Your H and my H need to go to H reform camp. They will be forced to learn how to help run a household and come back capable of doing laundry and dishes. I'm currently very pissed at mine for not having time to clean up dinner last night, but having plenty of time to feel me up and stick his hands in my pants this morning.
Speaking of pants... I'm now the crampy possessor of an IUD.
Post by flyinghorses6 on May 9, 2017 16:51:57 GMT -5
My child fights her evening nap so hard. Then passes out an ounce into her last bottle before bed. It's so damn annoying. She went down last night at 6:30 and woke up at 11 instead of 2 or 3. She then was up for the day at 5:15. I am exhausted and work tonight...looks like DH is in for a rough night if this kid doesn't pull herself together and eat before bed.
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