I broke out the maternity jeans today. So much more comfortable.
Still feeling sick, but attempting to just keep eating and ignore it. So far I've had a granola bar, bagel with cream cheese, strawberries,and Greek yogurt. And it's 10:45am.
jrun2013 yesss. My vision was awful with DD. I was told by my doctor not to see the eye doc until at least a few months after I had her. My eyes still suck, but not as bad.
Oh good, I hope it's just a pregnancy thing and not an I'm getting old thing. I don't have prescription glasses and I just need them now for reading, so hopefully that's all.
Add me to the bloated list.. I took my first blump shot on Saturday looking somewhere around 4 months pregnant, and I'm 8 weeks tomorrow!
I can also relate to not being able to really attach all the feels to this pregnancy. I passed my loss milestone and want to be excited, but I'm still too scared to let myself. My NT scan is mid June so I'm trying to just relax.
I haven't been very successful today at all. I have 1 important errand to run, and it's literally the only thing that absolutely needs to get done.. but instead of showering while DS naps I just woke up from a 2 hour nap.
I might get this tag wrong so I'll need to fix it.
jrun2013 I remember having fuzzy vision towards the end of 2nd tri on with DS.
sarahandben108 I hope everything goes smoothly at your appointment tomorrow! Almost there!
ars093s Yes! I need to buy some new maternity jeans and such! Right now pj pants, leggings, and the occasional maxi skirt are my friends.
Must wear all the comfy. Must hide all the bloat! It's starting to get hotter so I really don't know if I can hide this pregnancy the next 5-7ish weeks!
And one of my coworkers who knows just commented on my blump. Good thing we are only keeping it a secret for 2 more weeks.
My boss keeps looking at mine but knows better than to ask. People blow my mind.
I'm in the process of getting a new boss so I'll have to watch what I wear/say around here for awhile. I don't really want to tell him until I absolutely have to.
I've been using the rubber band trick for weeks now. I technically can button my pants but it hurts the blump.
I only had a half day of day care for E today so now I'm working at home while trying to convince her to nap. It's not working and I think I've eaten one bite of everything we have in our pantry. Not good.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on May 10, 2017 17:39:59 GMT -5
I told my boss and immediate co-workers today. We we're bs'ing in our weekly meeting and my biss wanted ideas for Mothers day. We were going around saying what we were getting our mom's and I said, "a new grand child" The company I work for is really flexible and parent friendly so I wasn't worried about this negatively impacting me, more waiting to make sure things loomed good.
Late to the party as usual. Just add me to the list of bloated, hungry, nauseated, anxious, raging pregnant women on this board. How much longer until 2nd tri starts?!
My eyes changed dramatically after I was pregnant the first time. I used to wear contacts pre-pregnancy, but after that, my eyes have never tolerated them. I've been stuck with glasses for years. My eyes are SO much drier. I swear the prescription is stronger, but my doctor disagrees.
Anyway, I'm right there with all of you who are having difficulty attaching to this pregnancy/baby. My next appointment is tomorrow, so that will be a huge deal in my eyes, but I'm still feeling very hesitant. I don't have any reason to believe anything is wrong, but my anxiety about the whole thing is through the roof. I don't know when/if it'll get better. For whatever reason, it's worse this time than it was with my last pregnancy. So odd. I just keep "talking" to the baby in my head, and telling him/her how much I love them. That's all any of us can do, right?
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
Guys, I don't mean to be a Debbie downer, but there's no magical point in pregnancy in which we are guaranteed a take home baby,
I'm not trying to up anyone's anxiety, I just can't get the above fact out of my head.
...even after they've made it home, the worry isn't going to end. The world is a perilous place for a baby, and then if they make it to their teens... that's when I'm going to be super worried with all the new drugs that we haven't even invented yet that can kill them in microscopic doses at their first party.
Right now at least they're safe in the womb. I think the worry is just what being a parent is about.
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
Guys, I don't mean to be a Debbie downer, but there's no magical point in pregnancy in which we are guaranteed a take home baby,
I'm not trying to up anyone's anxiety, I just can't get the above fact out of my head.
...even after they've made it home, the worry isn't going to end. The world is a perilous place for a baby, and then if they make it to their teens... that's when I'm going to be super worried with all the new drugs that we haven't even invented yet that can kill them in microscopic doses at their first party.
Right now at least they're safe in the womb. I think the worry is just what being a parent is about.
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I do think worrying is part of being a parent, but I don't think of my womb as being a safe space. My last baby who was genetically normal and seemed to be perfectly healthy died at 32 weeks because something went wrong with my uterus or placenta. I just get all in my feels when people talk about reaching a certain point in pregnancy in which they can feel excited about it.
jrun2013 - I hear you. If you said, I had this horrible thing happen to me at this point in time, and so I have trouble connecting until I'm past that point in time and can hope things will be different.
It's not like I think oh, once I get to 12 weeks I definitely get to take home this baby and we all live happily ever after. It's just having received that particular bad news at 12 weeks, I have trouble feeling safe enough to fully connect. And I WANT to feel connected, because that' what I feel life is all about.
For me it actually did get worse last pregnancy as things continued, and I did get more attached, because I kept thinking about how I landed in complete crap odds once and therefore why wouldn't I again. I also was terrified of SIDS for most of her first year. I have Anxiety. Right now, it's focused on making it through that point where I've experienced everything going to shit.
Sorry, this might not even be directed at me and I'm just having a hard time with your recent posts because this is the hardest stage of pregnancy for me (like I'd imagine the time of your loss is for you) and I need to feel some hope that my anxiety isn't going to get worse and I can make it through the next few weeks, and then the next seven months, without having a nervous breakdown or losing this baby. Because of course horrible things can happen but they aren't likely and I don't need any more food for an Anxiety beast I have been trying to starve for more than half my lifetime.
Ugh my novel doesn't even make sense. I'm sorry. I'm just a ball of nerves over here, convinced I'm going to be told again my baby has died because I've dared hope that this could go smoothly, and your post made me feel like an idiot for even having that bit of hope.
Ugh my novel doesn't even make sense. I'm sorry. I'm just a ball of nerves over here, convinced I'm going to be told again my baby has died because I've dared hope that this could go smoothly, and your post made me feel like an idiot for even having that bit of hope.
Don't feel like an idiot. I think the point is to have hope now instead of waiting for some magical point. Why else would we try again if we didn't have hope that it would work out? This is what I am trying (struggling, but trying) to do.
Post by sarahandben108 on May 11, 2017 9:20:45 GMT -5
I won't speak for anyone, but for me personally I know that chances of something happening decrease once you hit the second trimester. I know that this doesn't mean that a take home baby will be the result. But with my chances of miscarriage already increases due to my AMA, hitting the second trimester will be relief only because I have made it that far.
I won't speak for anyone, but for me personally I know that chances of something happening decrease once you hit the second trimester. I know that this doesn't mean that a take home baby will be the result. But with my chances of miscarriage already increases due to my AMA, hitting the second trimester will be relief only because I have made it that far.
They actually significantly decrease even before the end of the first trimester. This has my dates in it, so you would need to adjust. spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=3&d=5&y=17
Thanks jrun2013. I'm sorry I reacted all messily. I'm just super effing freaked out that this is exactly where things went wrong last time, and it was the same time of year, and it's just really hard to imagine a happy result sometimes, especially as I'm grieving the anniversary of my loss.
I really hope I don't lose it in the ultrasound room tomorrow. I was nearly in hysterics during my pregnancy with L. (THEY PUT ME IN THE SAME ROOM. You have 8 rooms, and you put me in the same room for the same scan that you gave me the worst news of my life. BUT, it worked out. I wish I could stop being a crazy person.)
Thanks jrun2013 . I'm sorry I reacted all messily. I'm just super effing freaked out that this is exactly where things went wrong last time, and it was the same time of year, and it's just really hard to imagine a happy result sometimes, especially as I'm grieving the anniversary of my loss.
I really hope I don't lose it in the ultrasound room tomorrow. I was nearly in hysterics during my pregnancy with L. (THEY PUT ME IN THE SAME ROOM. You have 8 rooms, and you put me in the same room for the same scan that you gave me the worst news of my life. BUT, it worked out. I wish I could stop being a crazy person.)
I lost it at my first ultrasound. I was so convinced after failed IVFs and low betas that there would be no baby there, I freaked as soon as I got in the room. When the nurse took my blood pressure it was something insane, and my pulse was 135! My RE had to sit with me until I stopped sobbing before he started the ultrasound. He, his resident, and my husband all thought I was completely insane. So - if you do lose it, you're not the the only one
Thanks jrun2013. I'm sorry I reacted all messily. I'm just super effing freaked out that this is exactly where things went wrong last time, and it was the same time of year, and it's just really hard to imagine a happy result sometimes, especially as I'm grieving the anniversary of my loss.
I really hope I don't lose it in the ultrasound room tomorrow. I was nearly in hysterics during my pregnancy with L. (THEY PUT ME IN THE SAME ROOM. You have 8 rooms, and you put me in the same room for the same scan that you gave me the worst news of my life. BUT, it worked out. I wish I could stop being a crazy person.)
No worries. Good luck tomorrow! Also, I wanted to let you know I wasn't referencing you specifically in my original post. It just seemed like every other thing I read said the same thing about not wanting to get too attached and it just got to me. Just the whole notion in general that women are "safe" once they reach the second tri is something that gets to me.
Although I will say that at my eight week ultrasound last time, my RE told me that making it to this point meant I had a 95 percent chance of having a healthy baby. 95 percent is huge and something to hold onto.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on May 11, 2017 11:25:50 GMT -5
I don't think anyone is saying that they are invincible to loss at X point in pregnancy. Like, sarahandben108 pointed out, the greatest risk of m/c is in the 1st tri, and I think that some/most of us feel some sense of relief knowing that the highest risk is behind us. I realize our personal experiences will ultimately dictate when we feel we can let our guard down.
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