How much independence do you give your n13? We don't have a fence on our yard and E is really good about not going into the street. I will let him ride his bike on the sidewalk to the cul de sac. I can see him most of the way and walk very slowly behind him to the corner but if it weren't for some unleashed dogs I would probably not follow him. If we are in the backyard I will let him run around to the front of the house where he goes inside the house.
He gets more independence than my older 2 did for sure. At home I will let him in the fenced in yard if I'm in the kitchen that looks out into it. We are only 2 houses in off a major road so never in front. DS1's baseball field has a playground about 20 yards away. I will stand halfway between so I can see him and see DS play ball at the same time. Pretty sure DS1 was within arms reach until he was like 6. T keeps insisting he's s big boy who can stay home alone.
We live on a windy, wooded road with no sidewalks. Col is allowed to ride his bike/cars/etc. down our driveway as far as the posts about 10 feet from the end of the driveway. I assume the posts held some sort of gate at some point, probably to keep the previous owner's kids from the road. We do not live in a an area where kids play anywhere without supervision beyond the backyard. And even that will eventually be an issue, as we've got woods and giant rocks that at least one of the boys will likely break a bone climbing/falling off of. #livinginthesticks
Post by yummeecookee on May 12, 2017 15:03:19 GMT -5
Just back from the D.C. Mother's Day party. All the kiddies sang "you are my sunshine" to the moms. Then they gave us a mom poster like klongoria11 described the other day, but the "O" was their handprint.
They had a chart where besides each kid's name, the teacher wrote what the kid said they love about their mom. B loves that I give her food. I find that ironic considering all the talk we've had today about kids' poor eating! Lol
RE: independence. We haz none. It really bothers my DH but V doesn't have siblings and we don't have a yard/driveway. It's a hard thing to work on considering.
RE: eating issues. I don't think I've mentioned this but V is in feeding therapy. Another topic I can talk about at length and bore you all to death with.
I keep putting off weaning Jack. I was supposed to last weekend and caved. Then this weekend, but it's Mother's day. I don't feel like fighting J all weekend. It's really just laziness and I'm 100% ready to be done. It has 0 to do with being sentimental or emotional about it. But I don't tell DH that or he'll just gripe.
H plays on our deck all the time by herself. It has a gate on it but she knows how to open it. Aside from that DH or I are outside with her and she has to be where I can see her.
We went to a vegan butcher shop and it was heaven. Fried mozzarella, bacon and jalapeño hoagie, potato salad, chocolate chip cannoli, steak and cheese sandwich, bacon macaroni salad.
RE: independence. We haz none. It really bothers my DH but V doesn't have siblings and we don't have a yard/driveway. It's a hard thing to work on considering.
RE: eating issues. I don't think I've mentioned this but V is in feeding therapy. Another topic I can talk about at length and bore you all to death with.
I'm sorry to hear that. For what issues is she in therapy and how does it work?
V has an oral motor disorder and dysphagia. We work on specialized oral exercises to strengthen and improve control and awareness. He also does a lot of "play" with food like making happy faces on plates with different foods. We have a "no thank you plate" and expose him to many different foods as best we can. We play games with food too.
This is just my 2 cents but I'm against "hiding" foods in other foods. You risk losing trust around food which is so important in something like feeding therapy.
nam2013, food chaining is also very effective but it's a lot of work to read the book, set up a program/goals and stick with it without the help of a professional.
nam2013 , food chaining is also very effective but it's a lot of work to read the book, set up a program/goals and stick with it without the help of a professional.
What is food chaining?
You pick a food your child likes and you introduce similar foods in a chain, one after another until after months they are accepting the goal food. A simple example would be like going from a French fry to fried potatoes to hash browns to a baked potato to mashed located to potato soup. This would take several months of mixing the previously accepted version of the food into the new version until you complete the chain.
Post by wineallthetime on May 12, 2017 17:17:48 GMT -5
I want a fenced in yard so bad! Letting the kids and dog play knowing they're contained would be amazing. MH is anti fence and it would be really pricey to fence in our yard. MH gets annoyed because I jealously comment on every fenced in yard on our walks.
Related, our deck is high of the ground and the railing and steps aren't super sturdy (we need to redo it all), so I also don't want C out on it without us.
Post by lahdeedah88 on May 12, 2017 18:59:25 GMT -5
Sorry to post and run! Work got a little (a lot) out of hand. I'll try those tgrimes1980. Thanks! M used to eat meatballs, then he stopped. I haven't tried them in a while, so I'll have to make them to see if he'll be ok with them again.
Re: independence we have a fenced in back yard so he gets freedom there. I usually open the back door to the patio, it has a bug screen up, and he can come in and out as he pleases, but I do have to check on him. That kid will find anything to get in to. Yesterday he went outside and closed the door. I gave it about 5 minutes before I went to check on him and he had gotten MH's blower and weed eater out of the storage bin out back. When he heard me come out he ran around to the patio and said " No momma, don't come outside!" Lol.
In the front yard, I let him go out the door on his own, but within a minute or so I'm out with him. We have a pretty big driveway area he can play on, but he likes to ride his bike and car down the driveway. We live near the culdesac, but I always see random cars passing. Not sure if they are all just see the neighborhood since ours has new construction or for other reasons unknown, so I'm leery about him being out front by himself.
I want a fenced in yard so bad! Letting the kids and dog play knowing they're contained would be amazing. MH is anti fence and it would be really pricey to fence in our yard. MH gets annoyed because I jealously comment on every fenced in yard on our walks.
Related, our deck is high of the ground and the railing and steps aren't super sturdy (we need to redo it all), so I also don't want C out on it without us.
MH totally doesn't trust his own handy work! Anytime S goes to the side of our deck he grabs her up. He's afraid the vertical spindles will break loose and she'll plummet down below. I've checked them and they are all secure, but he and his buddies built the deck and he says he doesn't trust it. So....she basically isn't allowed to have any fun on the deck unless she's sitting on the porch swing or chair. Lol.
Haha! Our deck has a full wooden railing and the wooden spindle things are far apart (he could easily get in between them) and don't seem sturdy. C is a clumber/dare devil and L is so little so we spend pur time out front. Luckily I love our porch! We so bought our house for the backyard we never use though.
Post by yummeecookee on May 12, 2017 20:33:45 GMT -5
I let B and C both play outside w all the neighborhood kids, but I am always out with them. I may be chatting w other moms or sitting on the porch, but I always make sure they are in my sight line.
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