Happy Mother's Day ladies! Thank you for sharing your struggles and support over the past year (or more). Hubs is starting the fried chicken and waffles that I asked for! I'll have to make my own coffee- he has no clue. We are going to church later and then I will return to bed or the couch. We'll stop by my mom's later to give her the fitbit she asked for. Let's see of it gets her off the couch or just acts as a watch.
H has yet to even utter the words. He's talking about installing the pocket door in the bathroom today. I'm feeling a little underappreciated at the moment. I will talk to H about it at some point, but probably not today.
Post by wineandcake on May 14, 2017 8:55:20 GMT -5
Whiney baby finally gave in and fell asleep! He won't go anywhere near H today, only me. I can handle one day of this, but we're on day 8 now and I'm going to lose my mind soon.
How many coffee cups can two people need?? I swear we have 15 for the two of us, I only drink tea on occasion and no coffee, we rarely have Company, and H uses the same cup every time. There is no reason we need that many but he's attached to everything so we have to keep them. Ugh. Looks like 10 or so will have to be broken in the move :/
mnj05 thanks for checking in we are... ok? I feel weird. R is in a mood and so we skipped church. No more allergy symptoms so that's good. MH brought me a latte for Mother's Day. He doesn't know what to do.
TBH I think it's time that I find a professional to talk about this with. It's affecting my job and my marriage. (Sorry for the novel)
Mostly men and kids at the grocery store this morning. All of them had flowers and some were looking confused with grocery lists in hand. I chuckled several times.
DH said he wants to cook a steak dinner for me tonight and spend some time at the park. Pretty good day if it all pans out and the kids cooperate.
We went out to lunch and they sat us at a small square table. I said "we have 5 actually" and she said "oh we can put a high chair here". What? I asked where and she sighed and asked if I'd rather have a booth and I said "no I'd prefer a table that accommodates 5." There were probably 30+ open rectangular or 6 person tables in this restaurant. My H and I were so confused.
Post by wineandcake on May 14, 2017 13:15:05 GMT -5
I tried to take a long hot bath... I got 20 minutes now the boys are throwing their toys in the tub trying to climb in with their clothes on. H says 'I tried to hold them off but got fed up with them. You can give them a good cleaning now though'. No, no I can not. Water is way too hot and I want to be alone. You got to escape them and sleep on the couch last night, this is my escape.
Happy Mother's Day to the best! So far the day has consisted of breakfast, church and H putting the teething, tantruming toddler down for a nap. Up next a trip to the dog park and to pick up stuff for the grill tonight. My Mom is here visiting,so she's staying with A while we run out. She also stayed with A yesterday while we took a trip to Ikea yesterday, it was glorious to shop without a toddler and to go on a road trip, AND consume a meal together. Also, the weather is absolutely gorgeous!!! I think summer might be here!
Post by nutmeg8484 on May 14, 2017 14:06:56 GMT -5
Molly woke up with a low grade fever that I'm assuming is teeth related and her allergies are out of control from being outside yesterday. H told me that she was also up a couple times overnight. He actually took care of all of it while I was sleeping. Hallelujah.
Went to lunch at my step sister's mom's house. I know it's a weird dynamic. And she had made sure her husband bought me flowers too. It was so sweet. Molly had a 10 minute car nap so I'm planning on going to try to get a nap in while she is confined to the crib.
Roast chicken in the oven and I have to start packing for my trip this week. It will be nice to go to work tomorrow to get a break.
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Post by lonegalathome on May 14, 2017 19:34:42 GMT -5
Dh and the boys made me a video with each one telling me what they loved about me. Cue the tears.
I also love that he did something that wouldn't take up space. We've been intentionally minimizing and purging stuff, so when he said he didn't want to bring on random stuff it felt super thoughtful.
wineandcake we have 4 coffee mugs. I got rid of 20 a few moths ago.
Church and then to my moms for afternoon and dinner. It was a great day and I'm now exhausted happy on the couch.
Post by lovemyirishtwins on May 14, 2017 20:51:21 GMT -5
Today was an easy going relaxing day. We went to my sister for dinner with my family. My mother loved her ancestry DNA kit. She was so excited when she opened it. She is not a woman who shows a lot of emotion so I am so happy!
I also had the sweetest message from my mil today. She told me that she was so grateful to have me in her life and I was her best friend. It made me tear up. I have amazing moms in my life.
Well, I spent my mother's day cleaning a fridge and moving furniture and random stuff next door to our rental house All in all, it was actually a really nice day. DH let me sleep and had the kids draw pictures for me, and we went to get a salad that I love for dinner. Can't complain! I am feeling all the feels about moving out of our house, though. I know it'll be for the best, but it was a great home for almost ten years. Two of my babies were born there!
*sigh* Mother's Day is joining NYE in the "supposed to be fun and special but ends up over-hyped and disappointing" category of holidays. At least I haven't cried yet like I did last year...but the day isn't over yet.
I agree it's hyped up. My H did gift me a night alone in a hotel. I feel like I will save this gift until I really really need it (like some time after baby #3 when I have been sleep deprived for months on end...)
He also vacuumed out my car and helped me adjust the straps in Hailey's car seat. Her poor chunky thighs were getting pinched!
Post by 360blessings on May 14, 2017 21:54:49 GMT -5
(Hugs) yl. My day was mostly like my disappointing anniversary last week and my disastrous date night a couple months ago. Aside from the kids giving me the homemade poems and stuff they made at school which I love getting, DH did nothing to even try and help me today. I got up first, I fed the kids, I got them ready for church, and after he suggests I try to find brunch somewhere except everywhere with brunch required reservations and Noah was cranky and I wasn't interested in waiting another 1.5-2 hrs to eat when he could have thought ahead and made arrangements. I was super annoyed so we went home where I fed the kids and tried to get Noah down for a nap. That didn't happen and the afternoon just went from there. Thankfully DH at least suggested dinner out at the Cheesecake Factory. I'm just tired of being on the back burner all the time. It never used to be this bad, but I'm really annoyed at the thoughtlessness.
*sigh* Mother's Day is joining NYE in the "supposed to be fun and special but ends up over-hyped and disappointing" category of holidays. At least I haven't cried yet like I did last year...but the day isn't over yet.
#DebbieDowner
UPDATE: I cried, so that's a nice tradition.
R is still in his "wants nothing to do with Mom" phase (?), and refused to even be in a picture with me and also hit me in the face with his toy mallet. MH said he was getting a present for me, but I got nothing but a fb post. Luckily R's daycare teachers were thoughtful enough to have him make a sweet card for me, but I just feel like everyone thinks I'm a shitty mom.
Post by 360blessings on May 15, 2017 5:35:40 GMT -5
Huge hugs yl. And no I haven't talked my DH yet. I know it's not healthy but sometimes it's just easier to stay quiet and work through the disappointment internally.
Hugs yl. I think Mother's Day is so hard. There's so much out there and the expectation is so high it's hard to meet. Pinterest and Facebook ruin these holidays IMO.
Also, I tell my H exactly what I want and as lame as it sounds it helps both of us. Less anxiety for him picking a gift and less disappointment for me.
Hugs yl. I think Mother's Day is so hard. There's so much out there and the expectation is so high it's hard to meet. Pinterest and Facebook ruin these holidays IMO.
Also, I tell my H exactly what I want and as lame as it sounds it helps both of us. Less anxiety for him picking a gift and less disappointment for me.
I agree that Pinterest and Facebook ruin these holidays. DH and kids got me a card and flowers and then we spent the day cleaning out the basement for the move. The kids were wild all day and DH was a total grump. It was not the special day I had imagined in my mind for weeks. Everytime I got on Facebook I was bummed out with all of the breakfast in bed pics, brunches, etc.
Post by nutmeg8484 on May 15, 2017 10:43:21 GMT -5
yl You are not a shitty mom. Toddlers are tough. Molly spent 3 days last week screaming every time I talked to her or came near her. H tried bribing her with a popsicle to get her to give me a hug. It didn't work. It's just a phase though, I hope. I'm sorry that you didn't get what you wanted again this year.
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Huge hugs yl . And no I haven't talked my DH yet. I know it's not healthy but sometimes it's just easier to stay quiet and work through the disappointment internally.
I want to tell you not to do that, but I do the same thing, so I can't really dish out that advice. Hugs xoxo
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