4 month sleep regression is hitting lil G. Wouldn't sleep more than 25 minutes unless held. At least Miss O is sleeping decent. Praying I don't fall asleep for a third week in a row.... during staff.
Post by flyinghorses6 on May 16, 2017 6:10:15 GMT -5
Oh no @jacks605 I am so fearful of the regression...especially because Rs sleep is still nothing to brag about. I honestly can't see it getting worse before it's ever been "good". Hopefully G gets through quick and O isn't affected at all!
K has swim this morning with DH. R and I might go. And I have my IUD appointment today. Im kind of afraid it's going to hurt.
Post by musicallyinclined on May 16, 2017 6:47:11 GMT -5
TMI? I had a nose bleed in the middle of the night and didn't wake up. Blood everywhere.
DS2 rolled over yesterday, I hope it wasn't a fluke!
flyinghorses6, good luck at your appointment @jacks605, I am dreading the 4 month regression too. DS2 is just now down to 2 wake ups, I can't go back to 4!
Post by sweetieheart32 on May 16, 2017 7:15:37 GMT -5
Good luck pivot and flyinghorses6. Hope everything goes smoothly with minimal discomfort. Yesterday I pumped more than my baby ate at daycare. Not sure if I pumped too much? Also, apparently one boob does all the work. I knew I was lopsided, but I got 5 oz. from one and barely 1 oz. from the other. Boo! Other random news. Today is DH's and my 8th wedding anniversary. We have plans for dinner tomorrow, but nothing fancy. No TMI for me.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on May 16, 2017 7:44:37 GMT -5
Morning ladies.
My TMI is that since I've had the Kyl.eena placed 3.5 weeks ago, I spot every day. And a fair amount. It's annoying AF. When I get my IUD checked next week I'm gunna talk to the doctor about it.
Other randoms:
E slept through the night again last night. They said she did well at daycare yesterday. She still sounds a bit congested, but hopefully she's on the mend.
I'm definitely getting sick. My throat hurts, I'm coughing a lot, am (tmi) coughing and sneezing up thick yellowy green boogers. It's not cute. I'm just downing all the vitamins, washing my hands a lot, and drinking tea religiously.
I've got a 2+ hour work call today, which I'm taking from home, but I'm putting E in daycare an extra day this week to take the call. I'm also looking forward to getting to some house work since I fell so far behind last week.
Balancing a job and a kid is SO hard guys. How do you all make it look so easy?
loves2shop4shoes It is so hard. BUT you fall into a new routine and it gets easier. Those first couple weeks are kind of a blur trying to figure out what that new routine looks like though. Hopefully you guys can adjust quickly. Glad she is feeling better and slept for you!
Post by flyinghorses6 on May 16, 2017 8:06:02 GMT -5
loves2shop4shoes if you could see me, my house, etc you would not think it looks easy. Basically hot mess express over here at all times. But we will adjust and figure it out eventually.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on May 16, 2017 8:18:34 GMT -5
Can I ask a dumb question? How can you tell if a baby has diarrhea? Their poop is naturally soft.
E's poop has been off for a few days. She's been pooping more frequently, but never more than three or four times a day. Her poop was a little bit liquidy and looked like it had a little bit of mucus in it. And for the last 24 hours or so has been a tannish gray-ish very light greenish color.
I'm mostly attributing it to whatever virus she had, but... how do you tell if it's diarrhea or abnormal?
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 16, 2017 8:36:11 GMT -5
Good luck today, pivot and flyinghorses6. Take a few ibuprofen before hand.
@jacks605 - Hope the kiddos get their sleep on track. It's so hard. {{hugs}}
loves2shop4shoes - I'd probably call the pedi if I saw gray and mucusy poo. It may be the virus, but gray and mucus may be worth asking the nurses line about.
AFM, MH is still a dick. I went home to change for the gym and he handed me the baby and promptly went outside to cut grass, leaving me to make J's dinner, feed C, and start bedtime. Sigh... I guess I'm faking my happy marriage, too.
Work also sucks. Having a career is overrated. And being the breadwinner is waaaay overrated. I'm <this> close to a mental breakdown.
But the lady in front of me at Starbucks paid for my coffee this morning! It was seriously the best surprise ever. I have to pay it forward today.
My TMI is I think I'm getting my third period since having C. So lame.
My confession is I heard C crying at 4 a.m. and ignored it so MH had to get up and feed him. I don't feel guilty either.
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Good luck with the IUDs today pivot , and flyinghorses6 ! I'm scheduled to get mine on Monday and I'm waffling on whether or not to cancel or push it back a month.
loves2shop4shoes , I feel like anyone who makes parenting look easy is just really good at hiding the fact that they're putting in massive amounts of effort. This is me:
Happy anniversary sweetieheart32!! I have a "stud and and dud" boob too. Righty consistently gives me more oz than lefty.
9-7:30 is amazeballs monicageller. Even my toddler wont do that. Wahhh.
I'm sorry about the marriage rut oldbaylover1024. My DH and I fell into a similar pattern in the last few weeks of my maternity leave. It's gotten a little better since I've been back at work, but it's easy for us to fall back into the pattern of kids' needs first, then household, then self....leaving no time or energy for us as a couple. I wish I had some helpful advice. :/
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
My TMI is since coming back to work I have been wearing my seamless panties on inside out because the 1 seam in the whole pair is at the waistband and rubs my scar.
loves2shop4shoes Don't look behind the curtain... It isn't easy, but you'll adjust. I've changed my work situation to fit home life better.
We were going to take R&G (older twins) to the dentist for the first time today, but ran late. I called the office and they wouldn't take G because we would have been more than 10 minutes late to her appointment. R's appointment was 30 minutes later and they were back to back. How can you not handle two kids in more than an hour? I'm taking them somewhere else since I was considering leaving that office anyhow.
Babies are doing fine. L is reaching for things and almost doing the baby salute (stick arm out like saluting a certain infamous WWII German leader and stare at fist... it's an unfortunate coincidence, but they get a pass being 3 months old).
oldbaylover1024 We're having a marriage rut too. MH asked if he needed to come along to the (ultimately aborted) dentist appointments this morning and I replied "whatever" because he bailed on the last two doctor appointments for L&M and the car seat appointment that was mostly scheduled to get him to use the car seats properly. He asked me what "whatever" meant. Strictly no, I don't need help, but it would be nice to have it. He ended up coming with me. In my case, MH is the one getting crabbier about gym time. If any of the kids need anything, I'm the one who loses out on gym time first. I agree that a career is overrated. MH is the breadwinner, so I cut back my hours since I am default parent almost all the time.
TMI: I have to take a stool sample in for the research study I'm part of. Woohoo? Currently sitting at home drinking coffee to get things moving before I go to work.
L did awesome yesterday with my cousins. She was in a mood at 6 this morning so I have a feeling today isn't going to be as easy for them. BUT I came home and all the bottles were washed, all her laundry was done, and my house was in order. Amazing!
You should also never ever consider anything you read/see on the Internet or hear from playground moms to be absolute truth. Some people are VERY GOOD at curating their public persona to look like shit's together.
99% of the time, they're in chaos just like the rest of us.
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1. You're one of my favorites. You're truly hilarious, brilliant, compassionate, and an obviously excellent mother. Even if you feel like things are falling apart, you're HONESTLY great. I know this with absolute certainty and I've never even met you IRL.
2. And this is more advice to anyone having major H problems, not just you. I cannot emphasize enough how much I recommend marriage counseling. I'm not going to sit here and act like my marriage is perfect and DH is the second coming of Christ. It's not, and he's not. Our marriage nearly fell apart last year. It was the only time in 10 years together that either of us seriously considered filing for divorce. (If you want to know details, PM me as I won't share the gory details publicly. Too personal.)
BUT, we both believed we had something worth fighting for. Truly worth fighting for. And we both started individual and marriage counseling. We go once a week. And I'm not going to lie to you, it's a PITA for each of us two have two additional appointments per week, but it's SO worth it. From marriage counseling, we've learned how to talk to each other about REALLY hard, emotionally charged topics in healthy, productive ways before those feelings lead to resentment. We've also learned how to prioritize things in our lives instead of obsessing about bills, money, and work.
I cannot recommend it enough. And anyone who has questions or wants to vent/cry, etc., I'm here for you.
oldbaylover1024 MH makes more and carries benefits. I've been managing almost everything at home and all the appointments and organization for the kids, so more arms sounds good. I may not strictly *need* his help for any of this, but we're supposed to be partners in raising our kids so strict need is not the correct criteria to apply when deciding if he should be involved. I've also been the only one dealing with the cloth diapers, so between the trouble getting stink out of them and having one more chore I'm almost ready to give up on them even though I think they're better for the kids' skin.
MH was doing well with helping until late in my pregnancy and especially after he went back to work. Maternity leave really screwed up our balance and MH so far hasn't been willing to stick to a schedule. He thinks it's a good idea in theory, but doesn't put it into practice. And I think he goes on more dates with his two older sons than he does with me. I've accepted that my professional life will not be quite what I want it to be until our kids are older, so that is less of an issue if we can get by without my full income.
Post by musicallyinclined on May 16, 2017 11:02:39 GMT -5
Baby took an 1 hour 45 minute nap. Was up for approximately 50 minutes and has been asleep again for another 30 minutes ( and counting).... WHAT IS HAPPENING? He napped for no more than 30 minutes at a time for the last 3 days.
This has me curious... how many naps a day are your babies taking? We are between 3-5 depending on duration.
Post by notagoddess on May 16, 2017 11:06:01 GMT -5
Hugs to all having marriage issues. I've been there and it sucks so much. Marriage is extremely hard work. I also think in at least 90% of couples parenthood is harder on the mother regardless of breadwinner status.
loves2shop4shoes [Note: this is not to discount your suggestion. I'm just uncertain that a counselor can really help our situation much. Feel free to tell me if/why you disagree because I'd love to have some sort of help getting us pulled together better.]
I don't think MH thinks we have a problem because it's not a problem for him. But he also gets crabby if I bring up anything that I see as a problem. Yesterday and today for the morning routine I didn't bother trying to get MH out of bed. It's just not worth the trouble when he doesn't help that much and we tend to get out the door later when he's up. I also think our situation with 4u2 and lots of other stuff going on is just crazy and requires a lot of organization to manage even somewhat successfully. MH has not gotten on board with organization. I don't see how a counselor is going to help with that.
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