I’m 34. Judging from other day care parents, I seem to be about in the middle age wise. About half my friends had kids before I did so it was nice to be able to get some been there done that advice. I also enjoyed watching some of my super judgmental friends have kids. Nothing makes you realize you don’t have a freaking clue about anything faster than having a baby
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 17, 2017 12:40:14 GMT -5
Random Confessions: I bought super fudge to read aloud to DS (age 5) and I couldn't sleep last night so I read the whole thing last night and it was awesome. I love kid books like that.
I brought one of those smart one meals for lunch and I ate it at 11 and am starving so when my admin said she was picking up lunch I asked her to pick me up a salad also. It's not an appetizer salad either.
I had DS at 28 and thought I was young having my first kid. I turn 31 this year and we will probably wait at least another year to try for #2. My mom had me at 31 and my brother at 36. I always figured I wait until I was in my 30's to have kids. On the other side of the spectrum is my bff sister, who was pregnant with baby #3 when she was 29 and said she wasn't going to have anymore after that because 30 was too old to be having kids. She turned around and popped out 2 more before she turned 35. They really wanted a boy, it took them 5 kids to get one.
A lot of my college friends (my age) and grad school friends (most a few years older than me) started having kids around the same time as me. My FB feed is full of babies, but most of them aren't local. DH's college friends are still more at the getting married stage and only one has a kid.
I have several local mom friends that I've met at activities around town, and they are all 3-6 years older than me. DH and I frequently feel like the youngest homeowners in our town. Our town is pretty pricey, both house and taxes wise, so it's hard for younger couples to afford it and many wait until they have school aged kids to move here for the great public schools.
My confession: I have always felt like I need a spreadsheet to keep track of who is who on discussion boards. I can sometime remember what avatar goes with what SN, but beyond that, I suck. Maybe I just don't spend enough time here with you all.
Does anyone have a spreadsheet around with all the deets? Help a girl out.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 17, 2017 14:01:39 GMT -5
beachbum - Ha! We actually voted against too many personal deets. But if you want to know everyone's age... LOL
Keeping with the trend, I'm 32 and I'm definitely in the middle age group at DC. Which is kind of great actually.
Confession: Since MH's horrible vasectomy side effect is still ongoing, his one testi is HUGE compared to the other. Like, softball v. hard-boiled egg. Anyway, MH took pictures of it with his phone (because he's a guy), which is linked to my cloud... and now I'm irrationally nervous about testi pictures on the cloud. Eek!
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
I'll be 42 in July, H will be 48. DS is 4. But at his b-day party, at least a few of the other parents seemed close to our age. But man, I feel really old these days. My knees creak when I walk upstairs...
Confession, brought to you by my tingling armpits (which is my primary physical symptom of embarrassment, followed by sweating)...
This just happened.
Coworker: Please change the name of the line item to "Lightning" Me: Are we seriously doing this? Are we seriously going to misspell "lightening" on purpose? Why do we do lame stuff like that here? Coworker: Um...? Me: * furiously googles * Me: * dies of embarrassment at having spent 33 years misspelling lightning... and then sassing a coworker over it.
sudokufan, If it makes you feel any better my knees creak now . . .
beachbum, I believe that we agreed if we ever set up a private board we would feel more comfortable giving out info.
Some of us are more comfortable than others. I don't refer to my kids by name, but others do. I believe most of us are good with giving out number of kids, ages, and what industry we are in. As for the rest of it just jump in. You will get to know "people" fairly quickly.
oldbaylover1024, I don't want personal details out there either. I just feel dumb when I can't remember what fields people work in and whether they have school age kids or babies.
Random Confessions: I bought super fudge to read aloud to DS (age 5) and I couldn't sleep last night so I read the whole thing last night and it was awesome. I love kid books like that.
I brought one of those smart one meals for lunch and I ate it at 11 and am starving so when my admin said she was picking up lunch I asked her to pick me up a salad also. It's not an appetizer salad either.
I LOVED Superfudge!
I see we are the same age (I just turned 37) so we probably both grew up reading this at the same time.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Post by CoverGirl82 on May 17, 2017 14:51:34 GMT -5
I'm 34, but will be 35 next month.
I was a semi-free range kid in the late 80's / early 90's. Those were good times. I was allowed to walk the three blocks to my elementary school with my sister (2 years older). I would never let my kids walk three blocks anywhere unsupervised nowadays, even though we live in a "safe" area.
Anyone around my age will remember the commercial they played during Saturday morning cartoons about drugs with the frying egg ("This is your brain (egg). This is your brain on drugs (egg is cracked into hot frying pan). Any questions?")
Am I the only one whose kids are semi free range? My kids walk to school and next year DS will walk with DD. Right now DD is somewhere on our street playing. She's 9. She'll check in around 5. She checked in after school.
2chatter, I could totally see us being ok with that as they get older. Right now the closest we come is letting them be in our yard alone. It's not fenced in and neighbors walk by all the time and say hi. The older elementary age kids in our neighborhood are always out riding bikes and going from house to house.
oldbaylover1024, it's so awful. I had no idea that something like this could happen with a V until it happened to my H. It will be better before the year, but TOTALLY back to normal was more than a year for H.
Post by somebabiesmom on May 17, 2017 15:30:13 GMT -5
CoverGirl82, I remember the frying egg and the after school specials that ended with, "...and that's one to grow on." They were my favorite.
I was in the elementary school library watching the TV on the cart when the shuttle blew up and I was on my way to work in between each tower falling. I'm going to be 39 very, very soon.
We were the last of my family and friends to have kids. We were the first of his family and friends to have kids. And we were the first by a couple years of our coworkers to have kids. So basically my family and friends are all from the midwest and got married in their early 20s and were done having babies by 30. None have careers although some work.
I go back and forth all the time on how much I'm willing to disclose - but my impulse-control is pure shit so it's always more than I should.
I think my kids are not free range because I forget how old they are. I was making Ds wait for me on a bike ride and freaked out when he got out of sight. Then Dh pointedout he would be driving in 2 1/2 yrs.
2chatter, I hope DD can do this as she gets older. State law says you have to be 10 before you can stay home alone, walk/bike alone, basically anything alone with out a sitter or adult. DD can't wait to walk to school by herself and I've slowly started stopping farther and farther away from the classroom door as the school year went on. I know leave her at the ball field and watch her walk into the building. This was our compromise.
Confession: DD is paranoid about playing out front right now as she doesn't want anyone from her school knowing where she lives as she doesn't want to have to play with them. The girl who picks on her lives a couple blocks away and walks by sometimes and has DD scared/anxious about being seen which is so sad.
2chatter, I let my 7 year old walk or ride her bike to friends' houses all the time. The furthest lives about 5-6 blocks from us, but it's still within our subdivision. She calls me when she gets where she is going. Both kids play with/visit kids on our street all the time. They just have to tell me if they're going to someone's house. There is an elementary school that is less than a mile from our house. In another year or so, I will let DD1 walk/ride her bike over there to play.
I feel like if you don't give kids some freedom, they will never learn to be responsible.
Post by traveltheworld on May 17, 2017 16:00:30 GMT -5
I'm 36, and had DS at 31 and DD at 34. We are pretty typical for our social circle, which is nice.
I was a free-range kid too and loved it. It sucks that my kids can't have that experience. We are currently in a bidding war on a house that we want to buy that'd be 2 blocks from the school my kids will go to - if we get it, I can finally realize my dream of letting my kids walk to school.
I agree that I tend to relate more to parents who have kids close in age to my own kids, regardless of the parents age. Case in point, my neighbor had her kids in her 20s and her oldest is the same age as my youngest. I recently realized that she is always justifying her decisions and offering up info that I don't ask for that on the surface puts her in the "awesome parent". I know that when I was younger/had younger kids, I probably did that too but I've released a lot of that since I turned 40. But the constant hair pats can be exhausting. Which leads to my confession...
Said neighbor recently got a good deal on flights and took her kids out of school for a week. I have certain feelings about taking kids out of school for vacations and truth be told, I judged her. Typically I'm a live and let live type of person and truly, who cares? It's not my kid missing school and it's almost the end of the year. Anyway, she mentioned she was feeling guilty and rather than offer a kind word I changed the subject. And now I feel a little guilty.
Am I the only one whose kids are semi free range? My kids walk to school and next year DS will walk with DD. Right now DD is somewhere on our street playing. She's 9. She'll check in around 5. She checked in after school.
Nope. My 7yo has free range of our subdivision. He has contractor grade walkie-talkies and knows he has to tell us every time he changes location, and respond every time we call, or he will be on lockdown. It's worked out great so far, and now at least 5 of his buddies also have walkies and similar rules with their parents, so it's not a bother to him. Not quite as free as when I was growing up (be home when the street lights came on and no contact in between), but it works for us.
Post by billybumbler on May 17, 2017 20:27:04 GMT -5
oldbaylover1024 and me are once again life twins as I too am 32 and have a 4yo and a 3mo. I was definitely the first of my friends to have a kid and it kinda sucked. Now everyone's starting to have them. I'm usually one of the youngest moms of older DD's class although this year there's a 21yo mom!
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