If this has been discussed before can someone tag me in the post? If not, can we be kind and not judgy (not that this group is at all) while talking about it? I know it's a subject some are pretty passionate about. I'm just curious what people plan to do or what people's previous experiences have been..
Post by wineoclock on May 17, 2017 21:17:40 GMT -5
I'll bite. We did not circumcise DS. We felt it was unnecessary. The cleaning of his penis is exactly the same as you don't ever retract the foreskin on children. We had no issues with potty training (we trained early at 19 months). We are happy with our choice and are finding that it's really becoming less common to circumcise in our area in general. It's no longer covered by insurance and is viewed as a cosmetic procedure which we wouldn't elect for a newborn in our situation (not religious). This time around we are having a girl so it's a non issue.
Post by ihatepizza on May 17, 2017 21:22:54 GMT -5
We don't know what we are having, but we both didn't have strong feelings either way. DH is and his brother isn't. We weighed the pros and cons and decided we weren't going to. I don't judge either way, just a choice we made. Baby can choose to have the surgery down the road if they choose
Me: 29 DH: 35 NTNP since May 2013 charting since June 2014 dx: Graves disease (radioactive iodine), Crohns disease (abdominal surgeries) MMC October 2015 (9 weeks) Severe MFI diagnosis July 2015
I didn't research it before having my first and I assumed it was safer, religious, common, etc since all the men I know are and I vaguely remembered it mentioned in the Bible... Then I witnessed the process and am scarred for life. My second was a boy and since DH only wanted two kids initially, I thought since we did one, we better do the other. Now here I am with boy 4 (100% last child) and heart hurts to do this again but we already have 3 circ'd. All of mine were done quickly with mom right there by a rabbi, but this time we could have it done at the hospital. I'm torn on whether going with the guy I trust but more expensive or just conveniently getting it done at the hospital. I just hate seeing my baby hurt so I'm absolutely dreading this.
If ours is a boy, we will be circumcising. H is Jewish, so there's that aspect. He's also a urologist and has seen enough research and studies and had enough experience where a circumcision is the better option in our view.
No judgment to those who didn't/aren't circumcising. One thing to note, however, is having a circ done later in life is not an easy or pleasant procedure. It's almost always done in the O.R. under general anesthesia. Just a heads-up.
We decided to, after some debate given the fact that it's becoming less common in our state. We're from the east coast and every other male in the family is (to my knowledge anyway - ha). One thing I like that they do in California is the circumcision is at two weeks old, rather than before you leave the hospital. Circumcision is one of the specialties of our pediatrician, so he did it.
Post by trebletrouble13 on May 17, 2017 23:16:35 GMT -5
Like sdlaura, we had DS circumcised at the pediatrician's office when he was about 2 weeks old. MH went with him for the procedure and said he didn't even cry. I saw no evidence of tears and heard no crying, so I don't think he was just trying to protect my feelings. Our thoughts on the matter were similar to marshian, though we are not Jewish.
Post by applemuffins on May 17, 2017 23:19:17 GMT -5
We don't have super strong feelings either way, so we are opting not to do it. We just kind of feel like his body, his choice, although yes, as an adult it woukd be a more complicated procedure. But, the studies I've read about the benefits just didn't seem that convincing to me.
We will be circumcising. I didn't have strong feelings either way, so I asked H make the call. He's circumcised and had a strong preference for his son to be as well. So, that's how we ended up making the decision.
We decided to with C. I basically left the decision up to my H. He decided that since it's what he knows that's what we should do. (Basically sounds like the same reasoning as lulu783 H.)
We are circumcising as well. I left the decision up to DH and he is so he figured he would like the baby to be as well. Since then, we found out DS will be born with enlarged kidneys which puts him at risk for more UTIs since the issue is probably reflux of the kidney (won't know definitely until birth). This sort of solidified the decision since we figured it would be one less place for germs to hide to cause even more.
My input is worth nothing since we don't have boys, but we wouldn't have circumcised. No judgement either way of course - these are all such hard decisions. DH is not circumcised (he and his parents grew up mostly abroad, in places where I guess it's less common), which made it an easier decision for us.
It's kind of a moo point for us since we have girls and will likely never have a boy. However, before we knew what dd1 was we decided if baby was a boy we would circumcise. MH and I discussed it, but I really left it up to him.
We will be circumcising. I didn't have strong feelings either way, so I asked H make the call. He's circumcised and had a strong preference for his son to be as well. So, that's how we ended up making the decision.
We will be circumcising. I didn't have strong feelings either way, so I asked H make the call. He's circumcised and had a strong preference for his son to be as well. So, that's how we ended up making the decision.
We will be circumcising. I didn't have strong feelings either way, so I asked H make the call. He's circumcised and had a strong preference for his son to be as well. So, that's how we ended up making the decision.
We will be circumcising as well. It is not my personal preference, because I know that it is basically for us just cosmetic. But H has really strong feelings about it and so I want to respect that for him. I can't say that my feelings are strong, I just know that the procedure has no merit for us religiously or culturally, just cosmetically. I cast no judgment at which way people go or why.
Post by maggie6424 on May 18, 2017 18:40:46 GMT -5
I left it up to my h, since I obviously don't have a penis. All three of ours are/will be. Ds1 cried more during being undressed than he did the procedure. Ds2 nearly slept through the whole thing and didn't cry.
Meagan
31 dx with PCOS 2010
DS1 12-29-11 Matthew
BFP 10/19/13 missed mc at 5 weeks discovered at 8 weeks. D&C 11/18/13
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DS2 11-4-14 Alex
i wonder what the difference between the hospital's and rabbi's procedures are. My boys always scream and poop and they cry every time they pee for a week or so. He does a good job and it's very quick though. We usually get it done at 3-4 weeks old. My husband is also the "I'm circumcised so I want my boys to be too" camp. @pamom interesting about the kidneys, my wombmate's is on the large side of normal. I didn't think about infection but the MFM did mention uti risks.
bagels our experience was like a PP's where baby didn't even seem to notice, and there was definitely no crying with peeing. I don't know if the difference was the procedure itself or the age at which it was done.
Interesting that I see this now... We didn't know what we were having but had talked about this beforehand and decided no. Well, after he was born we definitely had to do lots and lots and lots of talking because we ended up feeling more strongly about it than we expected. We ended up back at no, but it was really tough.
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