kristhegirl are you still following the state of the forum/website thread?
I am starting to get....anxious, still radio silence from the admins and people are talking back up plans again, which at this point, I am honestly fine with that because I am so effing fed up.
Still following. Just catching up here before I pick up Elena so I wanted to respond. If shit goes south I'll post breadcrumbs to whatever is next.
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Some posters have created usernames on Scarymommy and are posting over there to get a feel, but haven't totally jumped ship here yet.
But, I think it would be wise to have a back up plan for us. If we do move, we can always message an admin about creating a board for us? I don't know if that's possible.
Some posters have created usernames on Scarymommy and are posting over there to get a feel, but haven't totally jumped ship here yet.
But, I think it would be wise to have a back up plan for us. If we do move, we can always message an admin about creating a board for us? I don't know if that's possible.
i doubt the admins are reallllyyyyy going to want to do that at this point.
Yeah the more I think about it, the more I agree with you.
At least we have our Facebook group, I am just afraid of this place going dark all of a sudden.
I've been busy with work, my Mom visiting and trying to get things ready for this baby. I finally have a down moment and see the craziness. I have no idea what happened/why TCF is burning, but can we just stay as J15!!
In other news, I keep having dreams about my Dad. He is always happy, laughing and reassuring me he hasn't died, so I wake up feeling really happy, but then the reality hits and I'm just so sad. Trying to take in the happiness of my dreams, but damn, the emotional roller coaster can end. Also if anyone is looking for a kids picnic table, IKEA has a really cute wooden one. We got it for A and she loves it!!
can someone please summarize what's going on with the boards for me? i've gone like 20 pages back in that thread but i still can't really figure out what happened... what is so horrible that everyone wants to go somewhere else... again?
Tgrrl - admittedly, I am a religious person, but if you're having those sorts of dreams about your father, I would interpret as him trying to communicate with you that he's ok. I'm sorry you're sad. I can't imagine what that would feel like. Crazy roller coastery I'm sure. But given the context - he's happy, he's reassuring you he isn't dead, I would take it at face value - he's happy, he's not gone gone, just not here. He loves you forever and always.
I don't want to leave here and start over somewhere new. Maybe I'll have to get over my internet stranger danger and join the fb group.
This. I'm so not joining another forum. If you like me, and you want to stay in touch, let one of my real-life homies sharebear05 or amch8, or others in the Philly/SJ area know. I am not up for ScaryMommying, or anything else. Have no interest in Parenting. It's hard enough to keep up here.
Ladies, the admins at scarymommy were kind enough to create a welcome board for TCF members, they understand what happened here, and ideas are being put out there to accommodate new members.
can someone please summarize what's going on with the boards for me? i've gone like 20 pages back in that thread but i still can't really figure out what happened... what is so horrible that everyone wants to go somewhere else... again?
From the random pages that I've read, basically people started asking questions about the website that the admins have always talked about launching. Not much progress has been made. The link to the website was posted and most people felt it was not a very good website and that they didn't have enough content to keep it current. Lots of suggestions, but the admins didn't really acknowledge that or answer anyone's further questions. They seemed to be intent on sticking to the plan to launch a full website. The replies they did make conlficted or were non-answers, basically saying that dealing with this drama was causing them to neglect their children.
thanks- i had read up to that point the other day, but i think that something else happened today that pissed people off? @katechristine18 ?
can someone please summarize what's going on with the boards for me? i've gone like 20 pages back in that thread but i still can't really figure out what happened... what is so horrible that everyone wants to go somewhere else... again?
From the random pages that I've read, basically people started asking questions about the website that the admins have always talked about launching. Not much progress has been made. The link to the website was posted and most people felt it was not a very good website and that they didn't have enough content to keep it current. Lots of suggestions, but the admins didn't really acknowledge that or answer anyone's further questions. They seemed to be intent on sticking to the plan to launch a full website. The replies they did make conlficted or were non-answers, basically saying that dealing with this drama was causing them to neglect their children.
Honestly, I feel like I'm missing something, because this just does not seem like a big deal to me. So the admins aren't good at running a business. Who cares? I don't need them to run a business. I just like this board, and CAR, and meeting people on my new BMB to bitch about the worries and indignities of pregnancy. I'm also not interested in reading 100s of pages to find out WTF I missed. I do not have that kind of time.
I don't like change. That's probably why I was one of the last people to leave TD for here. If everyone leaves I will probably do the same. Hang out here with any stragglers then figure out what the hell to do.
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So, I'd like to offer some more perspective on what happened. As you guys may or may not know, I have started hanging out in Parenting more lately, as well as here.
Anyway, there were promises made about what this site could be (promises stemming back to last year), and the boards have really, really died down lately. It was becoming much more noticeable. The admins promised changes would be made (and believe me, no one was asking for a whole lot, just hey what are you going to do to get some traffic here?) So, posters started asking questions, and thus the admins took notice and created the State of the Forum thread.
To see what happened there in a nutshell, see my previous post to sharebear.
I also found out that some really bad stuff went down in the Loss boards I think? This was a year ago, and we lost A LOT of people because of that. Basically, the admins removed a mod with no reasoning, and she was beloved by a lot of people. Once they did that, a lot of people left, and our influx of new posters to the boards really, well, died off. I was not aware of all that until today.
The admins have been unprofessional, and just in my opinion, really shitty. Scary Mommy is also a Proboards site, but with a blog that has content, which is where they get a lot of their traffic from. Several TCF'ers, including myself, have already moved (it was so easy). Questions are being asked right now about BMB's.
I will stay here solely for J15, but, I am having a hard time right now logging into this site, because I am so angry at how the admins responded to this situation. I honestly do not think they deserve great women like us frequenting here.
Post by CoachTsWife on May 18, 2017 15:22:08 GMT -5
So I created an account on Scary Mommy just 'cause I had been kinda following along on the State of the Board thread and was curious. They use proboards so everything looks familiar and I believe we could still use Tapatalk.
I will say that my newest BMB is ultra slow, which is telling that there isn't anything being done to attract new people here. IDK if all the new BMBs are like that though.
So I created an account on Scary Mommy just 'cause I had been kinda following along on the State of the Board thread and was curious. They use proboards so everything looks familiar and I believe we could still use Tapatalk.
I will say that my newest BMB is ultra slow, which is telling that there isn't anything being done to attract new people here. IDK if all the new BMBs are like that though.
Yes, the general consensus is that the traffic to this place has been awful. BMB's are slow especially, or have died off completely.
Post by lovemyirishtwins on May 18, 2017 15:40:27 GMT -5
So for what it's worth here are my thoughts on leaving/staying. Since it was easy to create, I created my profile on scary mommy. I can use Tapatalk for both places. My name was not taken and my avatar is the same.
But I prefer to stay here because it is our small little corner of the world. I like the intimacy of this board. I know you ladies and feel you know me.
I post some in parenting when I find a thread that is applicable to me. But aside from that I am not on there much.
I would be so sad to see our board go dark. Whilst I know most of your real names and profiles on fb I prefer this to the fb group. I am not 'friends' with all of you so I would be sad to see our place go only to never hear from you again.
When something good or bad happens in my life I always want to share here. I look to this group of women for advice and support. This has been an emotional week for me and so forgive my emotion filled response.
I am not entirely opposed to moving over there if we could still she our small corner. Parenting and now that board moves so fast for me.
I hear you. The admins are responding to questions over there and the question of having BMB's has been asked several times. Stay tuned.
But yeah, I had no issue registering, it's proboards so it's pretty much the same layout and accessible through Tapatalk. My username and avatar over there are the same minus the 18 on my username.
There are a lot of lurkers coming out and it's very encouraging
Post by wineandcake on May 18, 2017 16:26:36 GMT -5
I registered my name over there since I don't want to risk losing it somehow. I likely won't be posting any time soon though since it's May 2-4 weekend and we're going to the cottage!
And just because it was magical, I went to Costco today and my baby napped nearly 4 hours. It was amazing. And I found a purse so I don't just shove everything in my pockets all the time. I feel like such an adult now!
Post by lovealwaysalison on May 18, 2017 16:36:07 GMT -5
I joined over there. I had FOMO. But now I can't login here from desktop because it says my account was linked or some crap and the password won't work. So now I'm stuck in Tapatalk.
Post by nutmeg8484 on May 18, 2017 17:35:57 GMT -5
The drama @katechristine18 mentioned was on the IF boards and I can say that most activity as far as PAIF/SAIF goes is happening on FB now. I know that a lot of the regs wont come back here, but are working behind the scenes with scarymommy to get the IF boards up and running ASAP.
My new BMB is also really slow. maybe 15 active posters. Which makes me sad for people looking for the support I got from all of you.
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