So all of us could come together without trigger warnings, etc. Basically a place to do our sitewide checkins
I can't find the original thread, darn it. I wonder if it was deleted. But yeah, it was requested by wicked after a dust-up about grads staying out of CAL. I remember specifically there being arguing about whether love tits by grads were appropriate or not, but there was definitely a "no more grads on CAL" vibe.
It sticks out in my mind because that was the thread in which I was told I was shaming the grief process of AL moms because I said losing the access to grad knowledge on CAL made me sad. I kept up with the all-AL playdates for a while, but after a bit I got the PM to stop inserting myself where I wasn't wanted, so that's when I faded from the AL boards.
:mad: Seriously?! This is the kind of shit that pisses me off and makes me ragey. Why do people have to be such sensitive sallys? It's ridiculous that grads are being forced out because we have kids. Fuck that noise! Having grad influence when I was first TTCAL was awesome!! It helped me realize I wasn't alone and it helped me have hope. I could see there was an end to my grief, so to speak. Also, Hawkward, you are amazeballs. I, for one, could not do this without you.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 19, 2017 19:19:30 GMT -5
I'm honestly in shock by some of the things I'm reading. I just... My God...
The TTCAL board on TD saved me. Literally. I was in a very dark place when I found that board and the support of you guys brought me out of the darkness. I didn't realize grads weren't a part of CAL. Which makes me feel awful, like a bad AL participant.
I'm sorry if I contributed in any way to anyone feeling ostracized or abandoned. Ugh. How shitty.
I love you guys. I wanna do better. I want us to do better.
ETA And I honestly don't remember any of this going down, hawkward. I just feel awful and am so sorry you and @mattsgirl2004 went through that.
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hawkward I'm so sorry that you were treated that way. I vaguely remember that thread from lurking on CAL but wasn't aware it got to the point it did through PM. (Hugs) @megrae I'm so sorry for your loss.
I know I'm not the most active but I lurk often. I don't really want to move but where you guys go I will follow. I don't miss TD days but I do miss the friends I made there who either didn't make the move or went elsewhere after graduating.
Can someone direct me to the origin of all of this? I started reading the suggested pinned post but it doesn't start with what happened here. I don't post very often lately but it's a group I would be very sad to lose. What's going on?
I just read through this thread. I should have read first but I was reading some of the others and getting confused so I posted my question here. megrae12 I am so sorry for your loss.
I think I've got a general understanding. I'll check out the other and see what's going on here too. It's all a bit confusing but I don't want to lose the connection, even if I rarely post I still think of you all as people who went through my darkest and happiest times with me.
Can someone direct me to the origin of all of this? I started reading the suggested pinned post but it doesn't start with what happened here. I don't post very often lately but it's a group I would be very sad to lose. What's going on?
If you really want to wade through it, start here.
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