State of the board

[princessisadora]

*waves hi* Remember me?! Probably not...since DS was born I haven't been posting as often (read at all) but still lurk. It's kinda sad this is happening (again) I actually found out through my BMB Facebook group. I'll be sad if this board goes...3T, PAIF and SAIF were a big part of my IF journey. You guys helped me keep going (for 3 yrs) until I finally held my rainbow baby in my arms. I think I'm rambling but I guess what I'm saying is that I'll fall in line with whatever the IF community decides

[remylove1011]

May 19, 2017 21:56:42 GMT -5 bocaburger said:

I think it's time for me to get over my fears and join the FB group. Who can PM me the link?

I'm not interested in moving to SM. I'll wait and see how active I'll stay on here after the dust settles.

Yes! Join us!

[karabear4409]

History really does repeat itself.

[karabear4409]

Well, friends, if this place goes down in flames, I wanted to thank you all for 5+ years of friendship and support. You were all there for me through IVF treatments, a loss, the birth of my first baby, TFAS, the birth of my second baby and my hysterectomy. Thank you for the countless kind words you have given me through the years. Your friendship and kindness will never be forgotten.

Eta: I wish you all the best and happiness. We did it. We made it to the side. Together. Now, go enjoy watching your babies grow and enjoy your miracle family.

[TJ]

Oh hell karabear4409.

I'm not crying... you're crying!

No. I am. I'm crying. Fuck.

I love you guys.

[oceanhutt]

I haven't read through it and granted I haven't been around a lot recently but I won't go to another board I don't think. I'll stay here and hang out on Facebook 💙

[mg0202]

karabear4409, thank you for that, and I am totally teary over it.

I joined the other place I think early 2011. So many people have come and gone over the years and I have wondered how their journeys were going. Summer 2012 there was a mass exodus on SAIF and TJ, led the way to reinvigorating it. She also took charge in organizing SAIF over here. in case this place goes dark, I wanted to let her know how much she is appreciated and thank you for being such a wonderful Mod for us.

[mrswillie]

Awww karabear4409 your friendship and kindness has always been a true blessing for most ladies on here. I've loved having you ladies to share the different stages of this journey with.

From my understanding, this place isn't going dark. It seems just maybe the Parenting board is?

Also, ruthie isn't going anywhere either. She lost her password and has some major good news updates for us when she has a few minutes to stop by.

[turquoisequeen]

May 20, 2017 11:41:20 GMT -5 mrswillie said:

Awww karabear4409 your friendship and kindness has always been a true blessing for most ladies on here. I've loved having you ladies to share the different stages of this journey with.

From my understanding, this place isn't going dark. It seems just maybe the Parenting board is?

Also, ruthie isn't going anywhere either. She lost her password and has some major good news updates for us when she has a few minutes to stop by.

Oooh I'm intrigued. Ruthie do tell!

[mrswillie]

jessimi06 I see you! How the hell are you girl??

[karabear4409]

ruthie come tell us your news!!!

[kaf7]

I'm sort of here and trying to get caught up. TBH now that I am done bf and ttc I am not looking for much from the board. id certainly want to know if everyone jumps somewhere else as I think I have support I can offer, but I just don't have that much passion to get involved or worked up like on some of the non saif boards. I was sort of the same when TB exodus occurred except I was more dependent at that stage. I'll keep periodically checking in for now.

[TJ]

***********************UPDATE************************

As of today, Naria has stated that TCF will remain open. There are no plans for lights out around here. We can remain here if we so choose.

That is all.

[ampaints]

Hi all. I've been offline all weekend at a GTG with my BMB. What a weekend to miss 😂

I haven't been on this board as much recently with finishing up school and having an active toddler. But I'm not planning on leaving.

[hrushka]

May 19, 2017 22:06:08 GMT -5 TJ said:

I don't know what is going up right now. But if anyone has a birth story or IF past or anything else they need to save, please see instructions:


You can export your entire post history.

From desktop, click little gray gear at the bottom right of your window. Then click export (second from bottom). Select the forum, select the account, click submit. It takes a few mins (especially if you have a lonnnnng history). Refresh the page a few times. Option appears to Click to Show Recently Exported Data. Click it. Two files: one with your messages, one with your posts. NOTE, it's a spreadsheet. Not pretty... but all your content is there. Download and keep forever.

I did this last night and I'm so glad I did. Having all my post from weekly check ins, etc is sort of like having the pregnancy journal I was too superstitious to ever start. And I came across an OPP post from one of my darkest IF times. It made me have all the feelings, including so much gratitude for where I am today.

[eponine1007]

I don't post as much because I simply haven't had the time to. My job combined with raising my baby girl pretty much takes everything out of me. I'll try to post more during the summer, I hope. My absence has nothing to do with the board drama, so I'm staying...

[Martinis&Medicine]

Hi all! I don't post much anymore but I plan to stay and hopefully become more active again.

[MellyKnu]

I'm ducking out, ladies. I don't think I will delete my account because that seems so very final. This place has brought me so many wonderful things, but it no longer feels like "home." For those that I'm not in touch with outside the board, you have my sincerest well wishes. Take care of yourselves and enjoy your amazing children. Thank you for all of your support!

[kaf7]

www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/143780/state-forum-mean?page=7

Just posting the above for people to stay up to date on decisions elsewhere. TJ I am tagging you just FYI if you weren't already aware.

[TJ]

Thanks kaf7. I'm trying to keep up, but there is so much going on in so many places!!

SAIF ladies, PLEASE vote on who you would like as an IF representative on the admin team. We need to be represented.

[jessimi06]

May 20, 2017 12:36:02 GMT -5 mrswillie said:

jessimi06 I see you! How the hell are you girl??

Heyyy! I'm doing well! I don't pop on much, but I do lurk on occasion . Belated congrats on the new baby boy!! How are you doing?!

[TJ]

FYI:

CROSSPOSTING ERRYWHERE
VOTING OPEN FOR ADMINS

kwiksurveys.com/s/mog9634E

Please click the link to cast your vote for our Admins!


Voting will remain open for a minimum of 24 hrs, additional time will be added if voting is still happening (8 pm EST).
Please share the link across sites, boards, etc. where ever your group is congregated.

kwiksurveys.com/s/mog9634E

[karabear4409]

TJ does this voting mean that we (as a board) may move over to the other place? Or do you just want to make sure we are represented in the new place, even if we stay here?

[TJ]

May 23, 2017 13:34:54 GMT -5 karabear4409 said:

TJ does this voting mean that we (as a board) may move over to the other place? Or do you just want to make sure we are represented in the new place, even if we stay here?

I think that we ought to ensure IF is represented whether we go or not. If this place happens to go down (which it isn't supposed to, but you never know) that is where the majority of ex-tcf will be.

But even more importantly, if one single IFer goes over there, she ought to be represented. No IFer left behind. Plus we know these people. So I think we should do our due diligence to the entire IF community, not just our corner. JMO.

[karabear4409]

May 23, 2017 13:45:44 GMT -5 TJ said:

May 23, 2017 13:34:54 GMT -5 karabear4409 said:

TJ does this voting mean that we (as a board) may move over to the other place? Or do you just want to make sure we are represented in the new place, even if we stay here?

I think that we ought to ensure IF is represented whether we go or not. If this place happens to go down (which it isn't supposed to, but you never know) that is where the majority of ex-tcf will be.

But even more importantly, if one single IFer goes over there, she ought to be represented. No IFer left behind. Plus we know these people. So I think we should do our due diligence to the entire IF community, not just our corner. JMO.

You are 100% right. Thanks for being on top of these things.

[mg0202]

from what I understand there are at least three new boards right now. are they trying to consolidate to one? there is too much going on for me to keep up with all the drama on here, but from what I have seen there are some posters that are looking to admin that are not what I am looking for. Their styles are off turning to me and they don't seem to support the IF/loss members.

That being said, I will still probably go where everyone else ends up.

[TJ]

May 23, 2017 20:03:49 GMT -5 mg0202 said:

from what I understand there are at least three new boards right now. are they trying to consolidate to one? there is too much going on for me to keep up with all the drama on here, but from what I have seen there are some posters that are looking to admin that are not what I am looking for. Their styles are off turning to me and they don't seem to support the IF/loss members.

That being said, I will still probably go where everyone else ends up.

Yes. I believe the idea is to:
1) choose who will be the admin team
2) decide where to live
3) name mods
4) iron out tou
5) live and let live

In approximately that order.

[westiemom]

May 23, 2017 20:22:18 GMT -5 TJ said:

May 23, 2017 20:03:49 GMT -5 mg0202 said:

from what I understand there are at least three new boards right now. are they trying to consolidate to one? there is too much going on for me to keep up with all the drama on here, but from what I have seen there are some posters that are looking to admin that are not what I am looking for. Their styles are off turning to me and they don't seem to support the IF/loss members.

That being said, I will still probably go where everyone else ends up.

Yes. I believe the idea is to:
1) choose who will be the admin team
2) decide where to live
3) name mods
4) iron out tou
5) live and let live

In approximately that order.

Thanks for being so on top of this. 💗

[kaf7]

Looks like the decision of the parenting peeps was to settle on a place to meet. They have if boards set up. I haven't joined at this point though.

[kaf7]

I remain torn about things. I have been posting intermittently on parenting and often getting flamed for my posts. I feel like a lot of things seemed like an overreaction the last week but other things rubbed me the wrong way. I have been following the decision making now and things continue to devolve in some of the discussion and decision making threads. There are a lot of wonderful and helpful ladies that are now involved in creating a new board, but it just doesn't seem any different from being here. But I do worry about the description that ProfessorChaos gave on the IF board here about PAIF largely being on FB and SAIF being divided between two locations. I relied heavily on SAIF in my early days as a new mom and I want new moms who don't FB to have that option too but I worry that as my kids age I won't be the best person to provide that support....that there is great information that comes from someone who has just lived that has reality and can remember there is a 4m sleep regression for example....

I am rambling as I sort out my thoughts and feelings. I guess I am feeling sad for future IF gals as I am not sure either here or a new board will be accessible to the isolated woman. Perhaps that's where I ought to focus my energy - in being more public about my own history and making it easier for others to share their stories.