Post by heybulldog56 on May 19, 2017 9:18:04 GMT -5
thelittleredm, J's love is so aggressive. He gets right in the poor baby's face, rolls over his body, tugs at his arms... all in an effort to "play" or "help" but it's terrifying.
@orangcrush dd has been interested in R since day 1, living him pacifiers and "helping" me burp him. Actually now he is older and interested in things like toys it has gotten harder. She is always taking things from him proclaiming they are "mines". I'd say she gives him a toy 1 for Every 8 times she steals one.
This is my DD. We had all the baby toys in the basement but pull them all out like 2 months ago. You would think every toy that DS has is now her new favorite toy. It's ok now, but when DS starts having a preference, I'm in trouble.
Post by inomniaparatus on May 19, 2017 9:35:17 GMT -5
skye, The silver lining is my cousin and his family will be moving to the same area in December and my brother is looking to move to a bigger city that's about an hour away in the fall. My brother is coming out to help with the move, DS adores him and my cousin and his family will be in town after Memorial Day to look at the area so they will all be in town for DS's birthday on the 29th. I'm definitely overcompensating by planning a huge family party to make up for all of the screen time lately
Post by inomniaparatus on May 19, 2017 9:36:55 GMT -5
Apologies for the avatar change, I never updated it when the TOS issue came up months and months ago but wanted to make sure I was following the rules in case J17 decides to stay here instead of migrating. Tried to keep it similar so it wouldn't be too confusing.
Post by inomniaparatus on May 19, 2017 10:13:13 GMT -5
ashtog, there was an issue with copywrite rules I think? An artist or seller of some kind found their image was being used as an avatar and it shut the site down for a half a day or so? I figured I would go to something more a bit more general
lakegirl, I love that pic of Indiana with the head tilt. My dog does the same thing constantly. I also love a good baby/dog pic. I have a very similar picture of DD with my dog resting his head on her tummy.
Post by LovesMeSomeCake on May 19, 2017 12:15:29 GMT -5
ugh, i'm a wreck guys. my dad is going in for quad/quint bypass surgery Monday, massive heart attacks at 65 run in the family, and him and his brother started getting nervous, luckily because they were aware and got tested, uncle had his quadbypass last month, and talked dad into doing his. It is kind of amazing that they can catch an 80% blockage and fix it before the heart attack happens. We are all still nervous as hell. I can't stop thinking worst case scenario.
all of the sibling love stories are giving me such feels! I have no idea how I'm going to decide. DH thinks just one, but maybe the more he forgets the first 3 months he will get on board for 2? how did you decide? did you have to convince your H? I would love to know how others think about it.
I love that I can ask (and that you share) these thoughts here, I feel like IRL it is so hard to discuss this because everyone is afraid to say negatives, or that they might have an UO POV. I'm so nervous to lose ya'll if the Scary Mommy thing happens.
lakegirl, thelittleredm, your dogs are so sweet! give them a good belly rubbin from me!
Post by thelittleredm on May 19, 2017 12:18:53 GMT -5
LovesMeSomeCake, We both knew we wanted more than two and settled on four (I hate odd numbers and hated being the baby of 3). I'm not sure 4 is still going to be our magic number because H feels a little overwhelmed with 2 but I'm not ready to call it quits, yet, so we'll see. I really want a girl lol
I waver between having one and being able to send her to private school, trips to Paris, Disney world more often. I feel like some of that would get sacrificed if we have another. Plus we are old so we need to decide within 2 years if we will have another. I also worry that if I have another loss/rough pregnancy how that will affect her. I wish I could just ask her what she wants. lol
LovesMeSomeCake I'm glad your dad has decided to get the surgery even though it's scary. I think you had mentioned he was going to wait on it before?
We went out to a fancy dinner and discussed what we wanted when ds turned one. Originally we both wanted two but at some points he waffled with ds and thought about being oad, but I'm not sure how serious he was. He actually convinced me to try sooner rather then later! He said once we were out of the babystage he didn't want to go back.
+1 to peaseblossom55's financial concerns. Those are mh's argument against a third.
Post by inomniaparatus on May 19, 2017 13:29:57 GMT -5
LovesMeSomeCake, I mentioned before that I was OAD after we had DS but my husband always hoped we would have more. When we were first together, we both agreed that we liked the idea of three children. After having DS, I suffered from PPA/PPD and I think part of what scared me to have another was the risk of going through it again. I joke that I have a Jules/Travis relationship (from Cougar Town) with my son and I was also scared about opening up my heart to another child. I worried I wouldn't love them the same way or even same amount as my DS.
If it wasn't for everything I've gone through the past few years with my mom's health, I might still be OAD. Honestly though, all of those fears went away the second DD was born and DS being so infatuated with her definitely helped.
Post by heybulldog56 on May 19, 2017 13:58:38 GMT -5
LovesMeSomeCake, we both knew we wanted to have more than one. I love the idea of 4 but... while we could make more than 2 kids work financially, our lifestyle would change dramatically. I want to be able to sign them up for activities, enroll them in private school, and take them to new places without worrying (too much) about how to make it work. I really worry that, as we stand now, one more kid would be a drastic adjustment. Things may change on the $$ front since I don't plan on teaching forever and H will eventually have his degree and get a new job too. So, we'll see.
Also, I really don't like SM. I don't like the vibe. It really blows that all this shit went down like it did.
I saw that you were trying to be active over there and am glad you can give us a report. I posted a couple of times but am lacking in the follow through to see if I like it.
Post by meeggaannw on May 19, 2017 15:10:53 GMT -5
LovesMeSomeCake I so understand the anxiousness of a parent having major surgery, I hope things go perfectly and I'm glad he is getting ahead of any possible problems.
Post by meeggaannw on May 19, 2017 15:15:39 GMT -5
Also LovesMeSomeCake re: siblings. We always knew we wanted more than one, we are each one of four. I always wanted 4 but I never expected pregnancy to be so hard. Honestly if I was a better pregnant person I might be ready to start trying for another soon 😳. As it stands if we have a 3rd it'll be at least 3-4 years so that at least dd will be in school.
peaseblossom55, I'm sorry that you have a struggle with OAD, but you are not OAD in my book. Whatever you decide and whatever happens will be the right thing. I am an only, I would have loved siblings, but at the same time I can't imagine sharing any of my experiences with my parents a different way. We went on lots of family vacations that probably would not have been able to happen with 2 of me.
I'm so frustrated with my toddler. I'm pretty sure she should be done napping because when she naps at school she's not tired enough to get to bed until like 9:30.
We're down the cape this weekend and I put B down at 7. Then in an effort to get her to bed at a reasonable hour I lay with her for 1/2 and hr. It's now 8 and she's still up.
I told the adults not to wait for me for dinner, so now I'm sitting here in the dark bedroom waiting for her to go to sleep.
Wtf. I might just say screw it and go to sleep without eating because I know B will be up multiple times tonight because we're in a different place.
Ugh. I have 0 chill right now.
Sorry for the rant.
Here. Have a pair of corgi pups I saw on Reddit. Thought of you thelittleredm
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.