I think part of it is a personality issue. H and I are both very similar in that we tend to procrastinate on stuff that's not urgent. But now we have like zero time, so I like to take care of things when I think about it. So I'll call and take care of non work stuff on my drive, or I'll just sort and throw out mail in the recycling bin before bringing it into the house, etc. H spends a ton of time thinking about things or like doing 90 percent of the things we need to do, which drives me crazy. Like he'll empty the dishwasher and put the clean dishes on the counter instead of putting in like 10% more effort and putting them in the cabinets. It is so inefficient and it turns a one person job into a two person job.
chrispy1122 I would be grumpy with all that too. I vote to still let him handle all the stuff related to his family. It's hard I know but don't give yourself anymore stress. Sorry that the mil start date is wishy washy right now that is so frustrating. This is overdue...but somehow seems related. For Mother's Day, did everyone's H get their own mom something or did you have to help?? Last minute I realize MH has nothing for her except a card. I had a couple gifts waiting on the back burner but I was so annoyed that I have to remember everything for everyone. He got an earful that day and agreed that he would handle all gifts for his side of the family.
chrispy1122 I would be grumpy with all that too. I vote to still let him handle all the stuff related to his family. It's hard I know but don't give yourself anymore stress. Sorry that the mil start date is wishy washy right now that is so frustrating. This is overdue...but somehow seems related. For Mother's Day, did everyone's H get their own mom something or did you have to help?? Last minute I realize MH has nothing for her except a card. I had a couple gifts waiting on the back burner but I was so annoyed that I have to remember everything for everyone. He got an earful that day and agreed that he would handle all gifts for his side of the family.
Well he bought something for his mom...after I told him where to go and what to get and made a craft with Z for her.
That's such a good way of thinking about it. My H does more than his fair share of the day-to-day chores around out house, and I have a hard time explaining to him how I still feel overwhelmed by my never ending to-do list.
becole mostly poopy diapers, some pees that seemed to make them fussy too though. H did most of the diaper changes. Hopefully things settle in a day or two and we get a system going. I'm good with nursing them together, so doing some of that. Also since I have big boobs, side lying one at a time is already working out with is amazing. I've just been doing that all morning.
sstwinklinglites yea my mothers helpers will start later in June, but they're just preteens so I'll probably just have them do household things and maybe watch the babies while I shower or nap.
BUT I'm thinking about a night nanny. I need to think through the logistics though so it doesn't affect BFing. I'd really like to be as successful as possible with BFing, so maybe a night nanny once my supply is better established and we get through some of these nursing nonstop phases
sstwinklinglites yea my mothers helpers will start later in June, but they're just preteens so I'll probably just have them do household things and maybe watch the babies while I shower or nap.
BUT I'm thinking about a night nanny. I need to think through the logistics though so it doesn't affect BFing. I'd really like to be as successful as possible with BFing, so maybe a night nanny once my supply is better established and we get through some of these nursing nonstop phases
Even if all they do is cleaning, laundry, watching babies so you can shower, that's a huge help!
becole mostly poopy diapers, some pees that seemed to make them fussy too though. H did most of the diaper changes. Hopefully things settle in a day or two and we get a system going. I'm good with nursing them together, so doing some of that. Also since I have big boobs, side lying one at a time is already working out with is amazing. I've just been doing that all morning.
Yes and if you need to, mattress, no blankets, no pillows, side lie and cosleep.
Thanks vlagroupie I'll let ya know! Will they have those for a while or should I decide soon?
Not sure. I think they are just closing out that size for some reason and they will probably sell it until it's gone. Next time I'm at Kroger I'll just pick some extra up in case anyone else might need it. It ends up being $6.93 for a 35 oz tub.
sstwinklinglites yea my mothers helpers will start later in June, but they're just preteens so I'll probably just have them do household things and maybe watch the babies while I shower or nap.
BUT I'm thinking about a night nanny. I need to think through the logistics though so it doesn't affect BFing. I'd really like to be as successful as possible with BFing, so maybe a night nanny once my supply is better established and we get through some of these nursing nonstop phases
I did that in college -- i think most have heard my stories about it. The mom bf'd and it worked nicely she used me as her alarm lol she feed before bed, pumped and left milk by door. If she forgot I'd knock on door or use the emergency bottle. She loved it and so did i.
I also did it for triplets and we did household stuff for them and watched thr boys while they showered, took naps etc. I'd definitely do it as a mom if i needed it. When i travel may get the help.for H if sleep is not set for A #2
Thanks vlagroupie I'll let ya know! Will they have those for a while or should I decide soon?
Not sure. I think they are just closing out that size for some reason and they will probably sell it until it's gone. Next time I'm at Kroger I'll just pick some extra up in case anyone else might need it. It ends up being $6.93 for a 35 oz tub.
Can you grab me two? I think i still owe you for other formula as well right? Just tell me total and ill pp.
Feeling much better, side lying is great for getting rest while nursing. The girls took a good nap too so we got some sleep.
I'm still side lying with G to this day. H gets G when he wakes, brings him to bed, I pop a boob in, and either I fall asleep or H waits until he thinks he's done and picks him back up and takes him back to the crib. I usually sleep through most of it and it's safer than Co sleeping. especially since I was having a hard time falling asleep after getting up to nurse.
Has anyone sold stuff to Clothes Mentor? I know they pay next to nothing, I just have quite a few things to get rid of. How does it work?
Me! Just take your stuff in and they will probably have to put you in the system the first time. I usually drop off then come back later. They text me when it's done. I recommend making sure stuff looks good when you take in, like folded up and not too wrinkly. They used to give you more if you took store credit but they don't do that anymore, so just get the cash.
I like this and I kinda want to forward to MH, I have a feeling he won't read it all though.
Do it -- I sent to H he said it was long as hell but "damn, makes alot of sense, never thought of this before."
Actually, I did already. He read it! I also sent an invite to an app called Cozi that my coworker told me about. We can share our calendar and grocery list etc. He texted me later and said that he thinks the app can help me delegate some of my mental load.
Do it -- I sent to H he said it was long as hell but "damn, makes alot of sense, never thought of this before."
Actually, I did already. He read it! I also sent an invite to an app called Cozi that my coworker told me about. We can share our calendar and grocery list etc. He texted me later and said that he thinks the app can help me delegate some of my mental load.
good! I was so shocked that my H actually got it -- he said that makes so much sense he never thought of a mental load and he now gets some of my frustration. We use the wonderlist and he agreed to start using it again! One small step right
"Just tell me and I'll do it" is so ducking annoying. My H does pay bills and does some of that work but still. There's so much mental fatigue and things he doesn't have to create mental space for.
"Just tell me and I'll do it" is so ducking annoying. My H does pay bills and does some of that work but still. There's so much mental fatigue and things he doesn't have to create mental space for.
This is the same response I get from MH. I don't know why I never thought about it being mental fatigue and that was part of the problem. It's like I'm just so used to be the one to think about this stuff all the time and it's like it's supposed to be my job. But with work and 2 kids now it's just getting to be too much, someone else has to think about this stuff too.
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