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[trisha098]

Hi everyone. I hope you are doing well. I want to share my friend's story here. She is 36 years old and has a daughter. Her daughter was born through natural birth. Unfortunately, my friend is now suffering from secondary infertility. She tried the medications prescribed to her by her doctor. She got pregnant again twice then. Both pregnancies ended in a miscarriage. It was quite shocking for her. Her doctor told her to stop TTC. She is now considering surrogacy for herself. But she thinks she won't be able to connect with the child as she won't be the one who gave birth to it. I want to change her mind because that is not how I felt when I had my son. If any of you have the same experience please share your story here. 

[monika]

People who are planning to opt for surrogacy, for them initially it is very confusing. However, as you have mentioned that you have been through it and have sun. I think you should convince your friend about it. On the other hand, I myself am in the middle of the process. I don't have any such feelings. Mainly because the process clearly gives your child that is genetically yours. It is all about the love you give to them. The process is going amazing for me because the clinic is doing an exceptional job. Last week more than 6 surrogates gave birth. The intended parents were so happy! The happiness on their faces made me cry. I can't wait to feel this feeling. The clinic and their staff is also very positive. Also, let her know that when her surrogate mother will get pregnant the clinic will provide her with regular updates. These will keep her up to date.

[saraqueen]

Hi there Trisha! I hope you are feeling better now. I remember when I was opting for surrogacy I was very confused about this too. But the clinic where I am having my treatment really helped me out. They told me about both kinds of surrogacy. The important thing is that I m going to become a mother. Surrogacy is a really great way to conceive for people like us. It's safe and successful, the main thing that matters is that the clinic you are opting for has a high success rate. Clinics play an important role in this, it's important that the doctors and staff are well experienced. There are many little things which can make a big problem for you. I m in the middle of my treatment, My surrogate is pregnant and now all I have to do is wait. I pray that everything works out for you. Stay blessed! Good Luck!

[barbaraww]

Hi Trisha! I am so sorry to hear about your friend's infertility. But she should be happy, she already has a daughter. I m still glad that she's willing to try anything for her second baby. So she's considering surrogacy, Surrogacy is a successful treatment. My sister had her baby with the help of it. But to make it successful, first of all, you need to find a clinic with high success rate. The clinic's success rate affects your chances. I have recently started my treatment at this clinic abroad. The reason why i chose this clinic so far away is because of it's high success rate. The packages are quite affordable as well. They have even provided me with a nice place to stay for the treatment. Before opting for surrogacy, do some research on clinics. 60% of your treatment's success depends on the clinic. Good Luck. Stay blessed.

[mirandajames]

Hello. I can totally understand how she is feeling. I was scared about this too. But I didn't have any other choice. Trust me I tried everything I could to have a baby naturally. But that just wasn't for me. The doctor told me surrogacy or adoption were my last options. So I went with surrogacy. I was at least able to have a child that was biologically mine. I tried to ignore the thought of our connection. But you know when he was born and I got to hold him, the feeling was out of this world. The connection was built as he got older and I took care of him. So yeah. This should be the least of her concerns now. Good luck to her!

[trisha098]

Hello. I can totally understand how she is feeling. I was scared about this too. But I didn't have any other choice. Trust me I tried everything I could to have a baby naturally. But that just wasn't for me. The doctor told me surrogacy or adoption were my last options. So I went with surrogacy. I was at least able to have a child that was biologically mine. I tried to ignore the thought of our connection. But you know when he was born and I got to hold him, the feeling was out of this world. The connection was built as he got older and I took care of him. So yeah. This should be the least of her concerns now. Good luck to her!

Thank you so much for sharing your story here. Your relationship with your baby seems lovely. This is exactly what I keep telling her. She is finally making her mind up about this. I hope things work out well for her. We need prayers. Thank you for your advice.

[trisha098]

Hi Trisha! I am so sorry to hear about your friend's infertility. But she should be happy, she already has a daughter. I m still glad that she's willing to try anything for her second baby. So she's considering surrogacy, Surrogacy is a successful treatment. My sister had her baby with the help of it. But to make it successful, first of all, you need to find a clinic with high success rate. The clinic's success rate affects your chances. I have recently started my treatment at this clinic abroad. The reason why i chose this clinic so far away is because of it's high success rate. The packages are quite affordable as well. They have even provided me with a nice place to stay for the treatment. Before opting for surrogacy, do some research on clinics. 60% of your treatment's success depends on the clinic. Good Luck. Stay blessed.

Hi, Barb. How is it going? Thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate you suggesting solutions to me. I think it is a good idea too. I will let her know about this. I'm glad you're currently undergoing treatment. I hope it goes well. 

[trisha098]

I am very sorry to hear about your friend's losses. This must have been heartbreaking. However, its good that you are there with her. I would say she should consider IVF. It is a great process and a lot of people are now opting for it as well. This will lower down the chances of an MC. The clinic I am visiting offers a guarantee program. This ensures that if one program doesn't work out the other does work. So I myself have also opted for IVF. However, just in case it doesn't work out I will move forward with IVF with DE. I wouldn't have to start from scratch. If you need the information regarding the clinic let me know. I am more than welcome to help. Good luck to your friend. Sending baby dust.

Hello. Thank you for your suggestion. She is considering this option for herself too. At least this will let her carry her own baby. That's what she wants. So I guess she's going to go through with it. Good to know you are opting for it. I hope it goes well for you. 

[jennifer123]

Secondary infertility is not the easiest thing to go through. Therefore, I can understand how she might be feeling. Tell her to not lose hope! This is something that really matters. She needs to research the procedures. IVF usually works the best. However, I can't say anything. As I am not aware of what she has exactly been diagnosed for. There is a process called Mitochondria Donation. She can look into that as well. The clinic who is offering that is quite re-known for that. Good luck to her. Sending baby dust.

[hindee]

I am very sorry to hear about your friend's losses. This must have been heartbreaking. However, its good that you are there with her. I would say she should consider IVF. It is a great process and a lot of people are now opting for it as well. This will lower down the chances of an MC. The clinic I am visiting offers a guarantee program. This ensures that if one program doesn't work out the other does work. So I myself have also opted for IVF. However, just in case it doesn't work out I will move forward with IVF with DE. I wouldn't have to start from scratch. If you need the information regarding the clinic let me know. I am more than welcome to help. Good luck to your friend. Sending baby dust.

[hannah1234]

I am really sorry to hear about your sisters failed cycle. I can understand how frustrating this must be for her. However, tell her to not lose hope. I am glad you are with her to give her hope. I think looking into surrogacy is a great idea. However, for the process, it is really important to visit the right clinic. The more experienced they are the better it will be. It is really important because the process requires a lot of legal processes as well. That only experience clinic can assure goes right. Good luck to her. I hope everything goes well for her. If she needs any help let me know. I am more than willing to help. I know how hard it is. Sending baby dust your way.