Hi. I'm new to all of this but I'm in desperate need for some guidance. I'm 35, I've been TTC for 3 years, with 2 miscarriages in the mix. I've started conservatively with treatments but find myself getting inpatient. The problem I'm having though, aside from the obvious physical struggle, EVERYONE around me is pregnant or has babies. These aren't just random FB friends that I could maybe run away from; it's sisters in law, best friends, etc. I'm an emotional, jealous, angry, bitter, furious, hopeless wreck right now as my brother's wife just announced her pregnancy (this is the 3rd pregnancy announced in my family in 3 months, and will be the 7th niece/nephew in 3 years...there are only 3 other women TTC in my family). I'm spiraling. My emotions are on the surface all the time and I can't escape. I'm constantly faced with the women and their bellies and their kids! I'm asking for help. I don't know how to cope. I'm so lost and my husband tries but doesn't understand the depression. I don't know how to get my head above water.
Hi. I hope you are feeling better now. This feeling is really common. I need you to know that it's completely normal to feel this way. What you have to do here is stop letting this affect you. I know its easier said than done. But You can try and avoid them for starters, where ever you can. This would just help you feel a little less shitty about all this. While you're at it, do consult your doctor about this issue. Three years is a long time. You should really find out what the problem is so you can start treatment. Nowadays, anyone can have a baby one way or another. So please don't be so stressed. If you need help with anything, like clinic recommendations, for instance, I'm here for you. This will be over soon, don't worry.
I completely understand! Every time I see an announcement or hear a conversation about someone becoming pregnant I just cringe. I am 35 and have been trying for two years. I've never been pregnant, had three failed IUI cycles, a cancelled fourth, ended up having to have both my tubes removed and now had an egg retrieval yesterday for IVF that didn't go as planned. Needless to say, my emotions towards others who just have no issue having babies all the time are not the best. I have tried to minimize interaction with some who pregnant because I know that my anger isn't really at them, it's at myself. All I can say is hang in there and try to find support where you can. That's how I ended up here. I am hoping to find others who understand.
Hi, Welcome to the forum. I hope you are doing good now. I feel so bad for you, 2 Miscarriages even one is hard to take. I know you are jealous and emotional but trust me There's nothing wrong in feeling like that. We all have been through that. It's a normal thing. I advise you to get yourself tested asap. You really need to get some professional help. Nowadays there are many alternatives to conceive so don't stress over it. The clinic I m having my treatment at is the great for this job. The good thing about them is that they are affordable. And the services they provide in such packages are just on point. They even have the guarantee program in which they will treat you till it's successful, They won't give up on you. That's something no other clinic is offering. You should really check them out. Stay blessed!
Hi! First of all Welcome to the forum. I can totally understand what you are going through. It's normal dear, I m also going through the same things so I can feel your pain. But there's nothing we can do about that. We can do one thing and that is not giving up. I know you think you are lost and have nothing left, but don't worry everything will be fine. Treatments like IVF, IUI are there to help you out in this time. But you have to stay patient during these treatments, you can't take stress because it can have affect your chances. But before going for any treatment, find a good clinic for yourself. Clinics are doing 70% of the job here so do some research before opting. Good Luck. Stay strong. Sending baby dust your way.
Post by jennifer123 on Jun 2, 2019 18:06:05 GMT -5
I am really sorry for your loss. I can understand it is not easy to forget. However, stay strong. I am sure you will have your kids soon. I would suggest that you visit a therapist. They will help you out with the depression. Other than that also visit a RE. They will really help you out. The doctors will carry out some procedures. After that will suggest the best treatment for you. Procedures like IVF might help you out. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust your way. Stay strong.
I am extremely sorry to hear about your loss. This must have been extremely hard for you. My honest advice to you would be to not lose hope. I know it can be a really difficult journey to be on. However, we have to be strong. I can understand that birth announcements are really difficult to be happy about. Mainly because we have been trying for such a long time. I would suggest you involve yourself in a busy routine. This way you won't be focusing on the people but yourself. This is what I did. I have had a lot of failures in life. Especially regarding the various fertility cycles that have not worked for me. However, recently I started to extensively research them . I really wanted to get an insight into every clinic. It is due to the research that I found a good clinic.
Hey, I can understand how difficult it can be! However, my advice to you would be to not give up. I know how hard it can be. I too get upset when I hear that someone else gets pregnant. It's not an easy job. However, don't give up on your TTC journey. I think you should visit a new doctor. This has improved my status as well. The clinic I am visiting now offers a guarantee program! This will ensure that my success goes well. Its a really big thing to offer and I instatnly decided to avail the opportunity. Just know that it's always better to get yourself busy! The way I did that was by occupying myself with finding a new clinic. Now, whenever I visit them I actually feel really happy with my decision. Sending baby dust your way.
I am really sorry to read about your losses. I can understand how hard this must be for you. However, dont lose hope and stay strong. The first thing you should do is to visit a therapist. He/she will really help you come out of this state of mind. Secondly, I would advise you to visit a good specialist. Someone who has high experience rate. Visit them and ask them for their advice. This is something that is really important and shouldn't be ignored. I am saying this from my own experience. A good clinic will help you avoid the MC from happening again. You should look into IVF like procedures. These are very successful these days. Good luck to you. If you need any help let me know.
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