Just had 4th m/c, feeling lost

[juanab]

Ok I have never been apart of any online support groups or chat rooms and so I'm trying this out to see if it helps us get through this. Here is our story (pls bear with me when it comes to the abbreviations I dont know many of them):

My DH & I have been married 4 years we are both coming up on 40 yrs. Old fast. He has children from previous relationships and I have 1 wonderful girl from a previous relationship. We started trying a month after getting married and didnt get pregnant until almost a year later. We had a m/c at 9 weeks, but didnt pay it much mind cause those things happen. 6 months later pregnant again but another m/c 2 days later. After the 2nd 1 we decided to have some tests done. Dr. Did all the initial regular tests on me and all my stuff was normal. And about a year 1/2 ago I switched OBs, then a month later we had an unviable pregnancy. And yet again this OB ran same test with same results but suggested some genetic test after my D&C with the tissue, but unfortunately someone forgot to save the tissue. We never ended up getting that test. Then on Dec. 16th 2018 my hubby rushed me to the hospital because I was having extreme bleeding. Found out we were 6 wks preggers and there was a hemerage that was causing the severe bleeding but ultrasound showed baby was fine and my levels we great. Long story short 2 more ER visits and 2 US later I miscarried, AGAIN!

DH and I discussed it and at the time agreed on not trying anymore, but there is that part of me that is not ready to give up just quit yet. Seen the dr today and she gave me info on Fertility specialists, IVF & other treatments. I would like to at least try, I would love nothing more then for me and the hubby to have a baby that is part him and part me.

[trisha098]

Hey. This is awful. I'm really sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I can understand what you have been through. I guess it is a good idea to stop TTC now. It is very risky for you guys. You should consider fertility treatments. Good luck!

[mirandajames]

Hey. So sorry about the miscarriages. You should definitely go for IVF. It doesn't guarantee pregnancy but there are still very good chances. You shouldn't miss this. I really hope it works for you. Let me know how it goes. Good luck.

[myraward]

Hi there! I m so sorry to hear about your losses. Miscarriage is a heartbreaking thing tbh. When I had my mc I was devastated for months. I didn't even know what was happening in the world. I just locked myself in my room and stayed away from everything. But my DH really helped me. He motivated me and told me that we will make this work. After that, we found a good clinic abroad so I went there for my surrogacy. Now things are totally changed for me only because I kept trying. That's what you have to do as well. IVF is a great treatment but to make it work you need a clinic with a high success rate. I hope this helps you. Good luck!

[feliciapayton]

Hey there! I am so sorry for what you are going through. 4 Miscarriages, I can't even imagine the pain you are going through. Just stay strong. I think it's time for you to move on assisted conception. Visit a good clinic and ask the doctor about it. He will guide you further. Good luck.

[feliciapayton1]

Hi there! I feel so bad for you. Miscarriage is a really hard thing to deal with tbh. The body needs some time after that to get healthy again. But the main thing that takes a lot of strength is your mental state. Many people can't even move on from it even after years. But it's good if you just keep trying. There are many treatments like IVF so don't worry things will get better for you. Just make sure you opt for a good clinic. A good clinic can make a huge difference in your treatment. I hope this helps you. Good luck. Stay blessed! Bye!

[jennifer123]

Hey, I hope things go well for you. Ues dont give up! I would suggest that you go forward with IVF. There are more chances of success with that procedure. I would suggest just to make sure to visit the right clinic for the process. The more the clinic is experienced. The more are the chances of success. Senidng baby dust your way.

[isladerek]

Your struggle is real. I am really sorry to hear all of it. Keep going! I'm also going via IVF this August in Kyiv. So, yeah! Stay strong! Support plans work well sometimes! I've seen so many women becoming a mother through these centres. Best of luck! Baby sprinkles!

[hindee]

I am really sorry to hear about your recurrent MC. I can understand how hard it must have been for you. However, I am glad you decided to look into alternatives. It's good that you visited a specialist for this purpose. IVF is indeed an amazing process to look into. I myself am going to start the cycle in a few days. For the process, it is very important that the clinic you visit has the experience to carry the process out. I am saying this from my own experience. The clinic I visited was not really the best one. We were not treated well. All my cycles failed with them. Therefore, this time I am visiting another clinic, it's like starting from scratch. So I would say save your time and don't make the same mistake as well. Good luck to you. I hope things go well for you.

[hannah1234]

I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I hope things get better. I can understand how hard this must be for you. Just make sure to visit the right doctor if you are looking into assisted treatments. You should first talk to your husband before visiting the clinic. It is important to be on the same page before you visit. I am sure IVF will be of great help. I myself am visiting a clinic for my process. So far things are going really well. The doctors were able to retrieve 30 eggs out of which 20 made it to the final round. I am so happy and excited. Now we are waiting for them to tell us about the embryo situation. I hope everything goes well. We are going to be opting for a FET. Hoping for the best.

[hannah1234]

I am really sorry to hear about your MC. I can understand how heartbreaking this must be for you. Just stay strong and positive. The clinic you will visit will play a huge role in your treatment. Therefore, I would suggest you to keep your mind busy by searching for the right clinic. Good luck to you. If you need any help let me know. Sending baby dust your way.

[anna88]

I'm really sorry to read about your story. It must have been so tough, I can't imagine! Have you gotten your check-ups done? I'm sure you must have. What seemed to be the problem? Is there any solution for it? I would suggest visiting a fertility clinic if you're still not sure. I really hope things change for the better, for you!

[dakota]

I'm really sorry, honey. Four miscarriages, that has to be so tough. I really hope things get better for you. Please, keep the faith, don't give up so easily. You can get over this and change your fortunes. I will pray for you. Good luck on your journey, it can be cruel.