4th week in July

[dreemkin]

[dreemkin]

ILs left this morning. They were spunky AF today. It was a nice visit but it is nice to get back to normal today. Grocery shopping or something today. Maybe splash pad later. I want to use all the summer we have left. Only a few weeks ☹😭

PS our neighbor is having a new roof put on and G is driving me nuts. May need to get out of this house all day. Also, he is clear of his infection/crystals!!

[aggiebug]

Yay for G clearing his infection.

With preschool we have a whole month left but it still is flying by. I hope you have a good day today, not too much grandparent hangover .


S is in a phase lately, back to her super emotional self which is always fun. I don't mind the emotions most of the time but this is anger and it is requiring constant reminders of how to express emotions appropriately (no child hitting your brother or throwing things is not appropriate). It's exhausting.

I'm in a funk with a friend and it's hard. This has been my best friend since middle school but we are very different people now and I am having a hard time reconciling this. I own that a lot of it is on me, I am struggling not to judge her choices but I am losing with myself. It's making it hard to be happy for her or even talk with her. I just see these choices and where it is likely going to lead her and how it's impacting others including her mom, who has dealt with some serious shit (also probably plays into friends actions), and I hate it. I know it's her choice and all I can do is love her where she is at but that is hard for me at the moment. I am a protector and a fixer and I can't do either here.


Haha I am full of happiness and light today oops. Happy Monday friends

[lilyelayne]

dreemkin glad gatsby is doing better!

aggiebug it’s hard when friendships have lasted for decades but aren’t healthy anymore. I hope you find peace soon.

[dreemkin]

aggiebug that is hard. I've been there (with mostly IL's) where it's not my place to say and it's tough to have to just watch it and not fix it. I'm sorry for your friend. I was just thinking about my high school friends today and how/why we are not friends anymore. I think as kids we value different things and as we grow older (with responsibilities) we find that sometimes we aren't as similar or compatible as before. I am a firm believer that people come and go from our lives for a reason. Try not to beat yourself up over it if you drift apart.

I'm sorry S is giving you a hard time. Maybe it's summer time that causes these things. A has been very emotional all summer. I kept thinking she was getting sick but then never does. For us I'm sure it's a looser schedule and the kids constantly being together. I watched a YouTube video with some great summer ideas by brummymummyof2 youtu.be/NSDMUexR4OE

I think it's too late for me as we only have a few weeks left before getting back into the swing of things but next year maybe I will do some of these.

BTW, how are you doing with migraines and trying for a third?!

[kartish]

aggiebug sorry for friend troubles. And for high emotions withS. V seems to loose his cool so easily these days as well.

I've been struggling a lot at work lately. A chance came up to apply for a leadership position in my old department, and I would have been perfect for it, and the senior leaders wanted me to apply. But I didn't because I don't want to work 50 hours a week.

But since I decided that and told him no, I've been doubting myself and feeling really like I missed my opportunity I've been waiting for. And it doesn't help a friend at work got promoted to another position just this week, and we are in the same leadership program. I know right now I don't want to work a ton, but I didn't even take the chance to discuss it and see if there was any flexibility. And they already have offered the position to someone I guess.

[lilyelayne]

kartish working 50 hours a week sounds rough. Sorry you’re unsure about your decision.

[lilyelayne]

The weather is unseasonably mild so we’ve been at the zoo all day. G made friends and is blowing bubbles with them.

[aggiebug]

Thanks for all the supportive thoughts. I appreciate it. The other thing that is hard about the friendship is we are actually a trio. The third girl I am much much closer with now but the two of them live close to each other. It will be hard to truly part ways if that makes sense. Plus my family might disown me 🤪. I will have to watch that video dreemkin. S is also back to napping most days so I am wondering if she is growing/ going through a huge development which doesn't help her emotional control. This too shall pass. My migraines are good, I don't have one right now and y haven't in a while. I know it's a matter of time before it happens again and I am sure it will be like last time with it not responding to abortives, but I have a neurologist to call and things will happen sooner. As far as a third goes... nothing yet. I seriously go back and forth on it every day. I am kind of thinking we will take things slow for a few cycles then say no more. Kind of not trying not preventing at the moment.

[aggiebug]

kartish oh I am sorry that is really hard. I think you made a sound choice for you, but if you are struggling with regret can you ask for a meeting with your boss to discuss career goals and where you might want to go career wise and when? Kind of for you but also as a way to say I have been reflecting on the job I did not apply for and while I don't want 50hrs a week right now it did get me thinking about what I want in the future.



lilyelayne yay for beautiful weather. Enjoy!

[lilyelayne]

My SIL texted this morning that her mom was babysitting her boys if I wanted to send G over there. But it’s such a pretty day again that I had already told G we were going to the park, so I swung by (my ILs live around the corner) and got my nephews to go with us. This has transformed into cousin day & now they’re at my house. I sent the three big kids upstairs so I could put the baby down for a nap, and now I’m wondering how long I can leave them there haha

[dreemkin]

We saw a band I like at a local summer concert (do your towns have those in the summer/fall? They are all over here) on Wednesday and then I did a girls sleep over in N's room. This consisted of A and me sleeping on air matresses next to N's bed. Air matresses are not as comfy as you age lol. But I actually slept surprisingly well even though A startled me a few times with her sleep talking outbursts haha. Thursday we went to the zoo because the weather has been so nice. No humidity. And tonight I think were going back for summer nights. Not crazy about the type of music but we like those and haven't been able to go in a few weeks.

Have a great start to your weekend!

[mishka29]

Hello! I’ve been here reading but things have just been crazy and busy at work and home. Today was LO’s last day at daycare. Next week both kiddos are off to my in-laws and they will stay the week and go to a camp. DH and I will have a week alone!

[dreemkin]

Jul 26, 2019 19:12:42 GMT -5 mishka29 said:

Hello! I’ve been here reading but things have just been crazy and busy at work and home. Today was LO’s last day at daycare. Next week both kiddos are off to my in-laws and they will stay the week and go to a camp. DH and I will have a week alone!

🤤 enjoy your week! Hope the girls like camp!

[dreemkin]

The dog saga continues: noticed bloody pee again from Gatsby. Called vet and said his last sample was incorrectly read (which pissed me off) and he still had blood in his urine. So H just took him in for an xray. Most likely bladder stones based on our description (blood at end and beginning of stream). Sigh 💲💲💲

[lilyelayne]

Oh no dreemkin! Hope pup is actually better soon!

[kartish]

Thanks guys. I am feeling better with my decision after talking through it and I do plan on speaking with my boss about the changes in our department and my place in all that.

Good to hear from you mishka29 hope the girls enjoy camp! Are they very far away?