Debbie Downer thread, sorry guys...(update in comments!)

[mightythorgi]

Here's one:

Facebook is NOT THE APPROPRIATE PLACE to find out about a loved one's passing.

I'm a little grief-ragey today, don't mind me.

[origamimommy]

mightythorgi, Did you find out this way? That's how I found out about my grandmother and I was livid. I am so sorry.

[somethingcleverer]

Agreed mightythorgi I found out about my uncle through FB and I just thank God that my mom isn't on there. In our case it was more forgivable because my younger cousin was very upset and not thinking straight but like I said my mom would have been heartbroken if she found out that way.

[mightythorgi]

I, just, a phone call would have been nice. Even a voice mail at 6a.m.

[irish1213]

Feb 26, 2015 8:57:37 GMT -5 origamimommy said:

mightythorgi, Did you find out this way? That's how I found out about my grandmother and I was livid. I am so sorry.

Seriously?!?! That is weak.

[laurski81]

mightythorgi I am so, so sorry. Hugs girl.

[mightythorgi]

I can change the thread title if you guys want an actual UO thread.

[summergirl1211]

mightythorgi, I'm so sorry. That's awful. No one should find out that way. Hugs laide.

[cbear]

Huge hugs to you mightythorgi! I agree FB is not appropriate for that especially until all the family has been contacted

[summergirl1211]

Edited. I'll put this on a different UO thread.

[laurski81]

Damn summergirl1211, j/k

[bantyrooster]

Hugs! So not cool....

[aimeefarrahfowler]

I'm so sorry.

[origamimommy]

irish1213, yeah it was so upsetting

mightythorgi, I feel your pain. I am still hurt I found out this way and it's been a month. The anger has subsided, but really? Facebook is not the place for that shit. I really am so sorry.

[somethingcleverer]

Hugs mightythorgi. I'm sorry for your loss.

[bliz1712]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

This happened to a friend of ours, another daycare family. The Dad had an unexpected issue during a look at something in is throat area. He went into cardiac arrest and was sent to an ICU at another hospital. 2 days later someone, I think the Mom of the BF of his step daughter, posted that she was said for his passing. He technically hadn't even passed yet, they just took him off of the life support. We sent a message to the BIL and he said he was still alive. Some people are just clueless.

[starfishy]

That's shitty, real shitty. I'm sorry you found out that way. Prayers for your family.

[mightythorgi]

Thanks, ladies. We have a large extended family so I know that none of my cousins intended to hurt feelings. I guess it is part of the time we are living in.

I changed my FB cover photo to one of me and my grandma, and I am leaving my FB commentary at just that.

I did finally hear from my dad, but apparently he decided to go to his bible study this morning before contacting me.

At least my H rearranged his schedule to work from home and took S to school this morning so I didn't have to face anyone asking me about my tears. Or try to drive.

Now just waiting to hear what the arrangements will be and logistics with H's work schedule and taking care of the toddler.

Thank you for letting me use this space to vent.

I'm already anticipating S's requests to go to great-grandma's house and how I will react.

[xanthepants]

I am sorry for your loss, I know how important she was to you. FB sucks in many not so subtle ways. Great for others, but this is one of the sucky ones. People are clueless sometimes.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry for your loss. What a crappy way to find out.

[trixi282]

Hun, that sucks. And is definitely not the way to find out. I wish your dad would have called you bright away before bible study. ?

I found out about my Grandpa, and (step) Grandma on my dads side a month or more after the fact. Because Christmas cards were returned.... My GP passed shortly after thanksgiving and GM the following January. It hurts. And I'm sure finding out from your cousin on FB really sucked since you were especially close to her.
((HUGS))

[junkytrunk]

That totally sucks, I'm so sorry!

[mrsplaydoh]

So so very sorry for your loss.....

[mightybee]

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and sending some hugs.

[pinkluna]

That's an awful way to find out. I'm sorry for your loss.

And it baffles me how clueless people can be sometimes.

[irish1213]

So sorry!!!

[mightythorgi]

Thank you again everyone. Probing is helping me stay distracted.

Hugs back to all you awesome ladies.

[aylafsu1881]

I am so sorry for you loss. Lots of hugs!

[nursedesi]

I'm sorry for your loss. That's a terrible way to find out.

[cookiesandwine]

Feb 26, 2015 9:50:17 GMT -5 mightythorgi said:

I'm already anticipating S's requests to go to great-grandma's house and how I will react.

Honestly, it's the worst. Just try to focus on the love she gave and how much he was able to do with her.   

I'm so sorry for your loss and that it was magnified by the way you found out.