Family Growing Up

[pegleg715]

Every time I hear more about everyone's childhood I'm surprised. Seems like a lot of people had single parents.
Is that the case?

[aimeefarrahfowler]

I grew up with my parents married and then they divorced when I was in college. So kinda both ways?

[starfishy]

Still married. 40+ years.

[cbear]

Mine are Still married 36 years I'm April I think...

[junkytrunk]

My parents weren't married when I was conceived. They never married and my mom didn't actually like my dad that much, so they weren't together after that. She gave me her last name and he has hardly been in my life.

[origamimommy]

My mom had me as a teenager and lived with my biological father until I was almost two. Then he married someone else and had three sons, my mom married someone else and had three sons. My mom is still married to my (step)dad, and my biological father passed away in June. I saw him most summers until I was 14 and hadn't seen him since.

[roo1582]

My parents are still married (37 years?) as are DHs parents.

[jodielyn10]

Mar 2, 2015 14:03:24 GMT -5 aimeefarrahfowler said:

I grew up with my parents married and then they divorced when I was in college. So kinda both ways?

Same.

[Deleted]

My parents are still married 44 years this year.

[MissMusic]

Hmm well, my dad was around but peaced out in my teens. Like, he was "around" but not really THERE, kwim? Then he left completely.

I'm putting "2 parents" because they weren't technically divorced until later and he contributed a small amount financially to our upbringing.

[MissMusic]

DH's parents have been married 50+ yrs I think. Kinda cool!

[laurski81]

My parents are still married. 40 years this June.

[paddyb]

my parents were married until my father died about 6 years ago.

[emilypc]

Single mom for me. My dad left when I was two and was in and out of our lives (mostly out) until I was old enough to keep a bit of a relationship going since I wanted to know my (half) brother.

[snickers4everyone]

Mine have been married 33 years.

[trixi282]

Single mom for me. My parents divorced shortly before I turned 7 and my dad lived 1/2 way across the country. He was in our lives some when I was little, at least for a long-distance dad (not financially though)... but peaced out when we got older.

And most of you know when I was a senior in HS I stopped talking to him completely. Mom never remarried, and only dated once my whole childhood.

H's parents are still married, and celebrated 35 yrs in Jan!

[bantyrooster]

Yup! Dad cheated on mom repeatedly. Mom left dad. Dad married one of the people he cheated with and moved to another town.

[sarasansh]

Two parents--they've been together for almost 41 years.

[meow84]

Mine are still married...31 years this month. I was born in September. I must've been a premie ?

[pegleg715]

OOPS didn't answer my own post.
My parents are still together. H and I got married the day before their 30th wedding anniversary, in the same church, by the same priest.

Obviously you were, meow84

[jodielyn10]

So I don't know what it's like to grow up with divorced parents, I'm sure it's traumatizing in its own way, but my parents divorce when I was in college completely rocked my world. I felt so secure my whole life in my family. Friends and people in our community considered our family the "perfect family"; I thought my parents were actually in love; the whole bit. Then my mom left my dad out of the blue one day and said she'd been unhappy with him for more than 20 years. I felt like my life had been a lie. It shook up a lot of things for me and led to some very poor decision making in my 20's. Most notable: my ill-advised first marraige!

[sarahandeddie]

My parents will be at 37 years in November. I also have one set of living grandparents and they are celebrating their 60th in May. My other grandparents, both deceased, had 50+ years together.

DH's parents divorced when he was 5.

[sarahandeddie]

Mar 2, 2015 16:21:40 GMT -5 jodielyn10 said:

So I don't know what it's like to grow up with divorced parents, I'm sure it's traumatizing in its own way, but my parents divorce when I was in college completely rocked my world. I felt so secure my whole life in my family. Friends and people in our community considered our family the "perfect family"; I thought my parents were actually in love; the whole bit. Then my mom left my dad out of the blue one day and said she'd been unhappy with him for more than 20 years. I felt like my life had been a lie. It shook up a lot of things for me and led to some very poor decision making in my 20's. Most notable: my ill-advised first marraige!

My cousins are going through this. They are 20 and 22 and their parents are divorcing. The older cousin is now dating a guy older than me, I've heard he's 36. I can't help but think the two are linked.

[babywinks]

Parents divorced when I was 7. I lived with my one sister, adopted brother and mom. Oldest sister stayed with dad to finish HS - she was 16.

Dad remarried at 9, second divorce at 20. Third marriage when I was 27.

Mom remarried when I was 10 and divorced when I was 20. I still call him my stepdad and we are very close. We have talk more than my dad and I. She married the third time my senior year of college and told me nonchalantly 6 months later. (It's a long story). She was married to #3 when she committed suicide in 2007.

[traceyt07]

My parents are still married.... relatively happily. They've been together 35 years. DH's parents are still together too, although they probably shouldn't be. They've been together 48 years, but they fight A LOT. At least twice a year FIL moves in with us or SIL for a few weeks to get away from MIL. It's a bit ridiculous if you ask me, but to each his own I guess!

Honestly, I think my ILS relationship is the reason that DH took so long to propose.... he was very hesitant to commit. It took 6 years of dating & 5 years of living together for him to propose!  

[xanthepants]

My parents were married until my dad died 10 years ago. We point blank asked them if they wanted to get divorced it was ok by us while we were in HS at one point. They wouldn't because they were catholic. They kind of ebbed and flowed as a couple. My mom loved the hell outta him before he died so there is that. There was love there, but not much affection per se. Mom remarried a few years after he died to a nice fellow.

[mommymadness]

My parents are married still and have been for 32 years ish...

[summergirl1211]

Mar 2, 2015 14:28:28 GMT -5 laurski81 said:

My parents are still married. 40 years this June.

Shit, I think the same for my parents. (Definitely still married, June is their anniversary and I also think it's been 40 years). laurski81, which day?

[britbratjf]

My parents got divorced when I was 21 so I grew up with them pretty happily married. They hid any issues very well because the divorce was a shock. Well, not such a shock since my mom had an affair with my dads sisters husband but you know, no one saw that situation coming. Both my parents are remarried now.

[paddyb]

Mar 2, 2015 18:23:38 GMT -5 britbratjf said:

My parents got divorced when I was 21 so I grew up with them pretty happily married. They hid any issues very well because the divorce was a shock. Well, not such a shock since my mom had an affair with my dads sisters husband but you know, no one saw that situation coming. Both my parents are remarried now.

wow. way to explode a family.  (not trying to be insensitive, but I'm assuming that resulted in you aunt and uncle getting a divorce as well).