Saturday Recent Loss Check in

[mrssqueegy]

I think this went over well last time we did it, so why don't we do it again?

How are you doing physically?

How are you doing emotionally?

How is your partner/spouse doing?


Bonus: What is something positive that you are going to do for yourself this coming week?

[mrssqueegy]

How are you doing physically? Back to normal for me. Thursday was a week from my D&C. I also lost the 3 pounds I had gained. So back to prebaby weight.

How are you doing emotionally? Good most of the time. Sometimes I feel sad. Mostly I'm just having a really hard time concentrating on work. I would much rather be doing things where I don't have to concentrate or put effort in like browsing the internet or watching TV. Nothing that actually takes any brain power.

How is your partner/spouse doing? He seems to be fine. I did ask him how he was doing and he said he was okay. I'll keep checking up on him.


Bonus: What is something positive that you are going to do for yourself this coming week? I booked a few appointments for myself this week including a mani, a hair cut and a massage. Really looking forward to each of them.

[danenikki]

Great idea.

Physically: I feel really yucky from cytotec and the norco. I just took last dose I didn't sleep well. I think I'll take a nap this afternoon.

Emotionally: I'm okay. It comes in waves. I was super overwhelmed this morning.

Husband is fine he doesn't really know what to say or do. I think he feels helpless.

I'm gonna try to get my hair done this week. My roots are terrible.

[babyzebra]

How are you doing physically?
I'm doing much better now physically. I haven't had any cramps in a few days and my bleeding has really slowed down. It's still not at the level of just spotting, but getting close. Tomorrow is one week since my natural MC.

How are you doing emotionally?
I'm also doing a lot better emotionally than I was just a few days ago. The hard part about today was that I saw my parents and sister. My sister had very nice things to say and made me feel better. My dad wasn't so great though. He uses humor as a defense mechanism and I know he means well, but there are certain things that shouldn't be joked about. I expected it from him though, so it didn't catch me off guard or anything.

How is your partner/spouse doing?
DH is doing pretty well. We had a nice talk 2 days ago about how we're both doing and TTC again. He told me that he really wants me to find some ways to relieve some of my stress, which leads into my answer for the next question.


Bonus: What is something positive that you are going to do for yourself this coming week?
I'm getting a much needed massage!

[babyzebra]

danenikki ((hugs)) I'm sorry that the meds are making you feel so awful. I hope you and your DH can get some peace soon.

[rablissful]

How are you doing physically?
Pretty much back to normal. Just waiting for AF at this point. I'm two weeks out from my natural mc.

How are you doing emotionally?
I'm ok 95% of the time. The only times I get really sad is when people mention it.

How is your partner/spouse doing?
He seems fine. Ready to get back at it!

Bonus: What is something positive that you are going to do for yourself this coming week?
Not sure I'm going to be doing anything for myself specifically (although I got a hair cut this past week!) but crew meetings for the musical I'm the crew director for start this week! I've been looking forward to getting back since the last play finished in November! Soooo pumped!

[rablissful]

danenikki I hope you feel better soon. Take a nice long nap! ((Hugs))

[starfishy]

Physically- I just started bleeding again after like 5 days of nothing. So weird.
Also, got an awful stomach bug that went around school. Seriously, I haven't paid my dues?! Ugh.

Emotionally- so frustrated. I'm soooo tired of feeling like shit! I just want to enjoy something again. I was supposed to go to my friends house for a girls night and now I'm sick and can't go. So disappointed. I'm anxious my H and son will get sick. I seriously can't take one more day of sick in this house!

DH is doing well. I think he feels bad for me since I'm not doing well right now. He went out to dinner with a friend and joined a running club. I'm so happy for him and hope he meets some new people.

Some positives- the snow is melting!!! So I hope to get myself outside and enjoy some sun.
I also want to schedule a hair appointment. My ends are sooo dead. I have a gift certificate from Xmas so I won't even have to pay!!!

[vivela]

Physically: I'm doing ok physically. I gained a lot of weight during the whole ordeal so I've started a diet and immediately dropped 5 pounds, which goes to show you how terribly I was eating before. I wish I could blame it on hormones, but it was definitely the amount of Mac and cheese I was eating.

Emotionally: it has been a month, and I am doing well. Every once in awhile something random will pop up and hit me painfully, but I am able to keep it under control. I'm waiting for AF and trying not to get impatient because I know it can take awhile.

Spouse: DH is ok, but I think he is still quite sad about it. His boss lost a pregnancy almost right after I did, which left him in charge. So he was upset for his boss, upset about our loss, and in charge of a busy, high-stress business. Not a great combo, but he got through it.

Something nice: I could have had a busy weekend, but instead I said no to pretty much everything except my Nana's birthday dinner and I am taking it easy.

[snakefisherbub]

How are you doing physically? Physically I think I'm fine. No spotting for a few days now.

How are you doing emotionally? I'm kinda meh today. We did our taxes and the guy asked if we had any children. I just said no. It made me sad and want to cry. I'm 2 weeks out from my MC so it's still a little fresh. I do think going forward depending on the situation I will probably just mention I have an angel. I don't want to deny I was ever pregnant but in some cases like today I guess it wasn't the time to bring up.

How is your partner/spouse doing? We had a serious discussion about it the other day. He says the image of what he saw and having to flush what was supposed to be our baby will stay with him forever. I feel guilty I had to make him do it. He's a little bit scared of sex right now. He gave me the most beautiful gift for our anniversary to help remember our angel. Said it helped him rationalize what happened as much as you can in a situation like this. He said he didn't want to deny that were supposed to have a baby.

[snakefisherbub]

Sorry couldn't add it to the other post. that's the gift he gave me.

[rablissful]

Mar 14, 2015 18:34:05 GMT -5 snakefisherbub said:

Sorry couldn't add it to the other post. that's the gift he gave me.

That is so sweet of him! I've been trying to think of a way to memorialize our angel as well. I was thinking of getting a Pandora charm for my bracelet. We'll see.

Big ((Hugs)) I would have broken down if someone asked me that.

[danenikki]

Mar 14, 2015 18:34:05 GMT -5 snakefisherbub said:

Sorry couldn't add it to the other post. that's the gift he gave me.

That is beautiful.

[starfishy]

Mar 14, 2015 18:37:49 GMT -5 rablissful said:

Mar 14, 2015 18:34:05 GMT -5 snakefisherbub said:

Sorry couldn't add it to the other post. that's the gift he gave me.

That is so sweet of him! I've been trying to think of a way to memorialize our angel as well. I was thinking of getting a Pandora charm for my bracelet. We'll see.

Big ((Hugs)) I would have broken down if someone asked me that.

That was a beautiful gift.

I was also thinking of getting an angel charm for my pandora bracelet.

[rablissful]

Mar 14, 2015 18:45:56 GMT -5 starfishy said:

Mar 14, 2015 18:37:49 GMT -5 rablissful said:

That is so sweet of him! I've been trying to think of a way to memorialize our angel as well. I was thinking of getting a Pandora charm for my bracelet. We'll see.

Big ((Hugs)) I would have broken down if someone asked me that.

That was a beautiful gift.

I was also thinking of getting an angel charm for my pandora bracelet.

I was thinking either an angel or one with a September birth stone.

[danenikki]

Mar 14, 2015 18:46:55 GMT -5 rablissful said:

Mar 14, 2015 18:45:56 GMT -5 starfishy said:

That was a beautiful gift.

I was also thinking of getting an angel charm for my pandora bracelet.

I was thinking either an angel or one with a September birth stone.

This is a wonderful idea. I think I might steal it. I wonder if they have birth month flowers?

[rablissful]

Mar 14, 2015 18:49:05 GMT -5 danenikki said:

Mar 14, 2015 18:46:55 GMT -5 rablissful said:

I was thinking either an angel or one with a September birth stone.

This is a wonderful idea. I think I might steal it. I wonder if they have birth month flowers?

That's the only birthstone charm type they have.

[starfishy]

They have an angel of hope and a snow angel. The angel of hope is a little silly looking I think, but then I was thinking that maybe it would make me smile a little when I look at it.

[Winnifred]

Physically - pretty good. Bloated and experiencing random painful cramps. Trying to stop bumping my bruise from the IV.

Emotionally - I'm just ok. I'm emotional and frustrated. I feel like I've grieved the loss but then I'm sure I'm still going through grief or I'd be doing better. Could be the hormones coming down.

DH is doing fine, or so it seems. I tried to talk about things today and he just kind of shut down. I think it's still hard for him and he's also frustrated that we have to wait so long to try again.

Bonus: I splurged on a great pair of wedge sandals today. I'm in love... Nothing planned for the week yet but I'm hopeful I can throw myself into work and complete a few projects that have been weighing on me.

Love the idea of a charm, was actually trying to find an opal necklace to remember our October baby. I'll most likely pick one out and call it my birthday present!

[nikolie93]

I just want to stop by and give all you ladies *hugs*

[danenikki]

Mar 14, 2015 19:30:56 GMT -5 starfishy said:

They have an angel of hope and a snow angel. The angel of hope is a little silly looking I think, but then I was thinking that maybe it would make me smile a little when I look at it.

I looked at Kay's charmed memories( fits pandora) and they have a pretty open heart angel wing.

[amandaree]

Thanks for the checkin. I'm mobile and its really hard to tag you ladies individually so please know I'm sending you all my love.

As for me.. Physically I am ok. I'm still waiting to miscarry it's been 9 days since my loss was confirmed and my body is still clueless. If nothing happens by friday i go in to see my re for next steps. Both options of either cytotec or d&c frighten me.

Emotionally it's been a freaking rollercoaster. The wait is agonizing i just want to start and get on with it so i can heal and move forward and instead I'm stuck in purgatory. However there are times in the day where I almost forget it's happening like it's not real since i don't feel anything and I can go around in blissful denial. Then the reality comes back and hits me like a bullet to my chest and I can't breathe the grief is so strong.

DH seems to be fine. He's not talking too much about it. I think he is just waiting for it to start to be real.

Bonus...i went out with my girls last night. We had pizza and pie to celebrate pi day and stayed up talking until 2 am. I love my girls and they have all been incredibly supportive. It was so nice to laugh until i cried for hours last night. What would i do without them?

[starfishy]

So after all that talk my H and I went to the Pandora store and got the angel charm. They had a few others with just wings, but I liked the whole angel best. There are a couple of set days (like sept 23rd) when I will always wear it.

Next to the charm of my other great loves- Go Mets. : )

[vballbaby]

I really love all the keepsakes to remember our angels - I never want to forget.

Emotionally I'm doing pretty well although I did have a nigtmare last night that I had a natural mc and I saw the baby when it came out and it felt very sad. It's been 10 days since my d&c. It's still on my mind at times for sure.

Physically I'm doing fine. I never bled. I barely spotted for like 6 days and then it disappeared. I did have some bad spasms for a couple of days but thankfully they didn't last. I'm still bloated though which is annoying!! I only lost 1 lb this week eating super clean when it's usually easier for me to lose weight. I'm chalking it up on the hormones. I am looking fwd to having a period so hopefully I will feel more normalized.

Well today I'm heading out to play volleyball and I'm super excited! I'm sure my skills have suffered so lord help my partner today to carry me. Haha. I'm also looking fwd to an ice cold corona at the end of the day! I did have a spa day with my MIL this past Wednesday so that was a very welcome treat! Being pampered never felt better.

[hollyberry]

Hello ladies,

I wrote a into inthe checkin last week, but then I did something wrong and losst all inwrote and couldnt be bothered to do it all over, so I will try again this week.

physically: my D&C was a week friday. I am still spotting some and have the odd pain that comes and goes. But on the whole ok, I think. I went to the dr friday for a follow up and everything looked ok, not completely over the hump yet. But getting there.

emotionally: it comes and goes. Since the dr appointment my anxiety has been super high, and I have had a couple pqnic attacks. But today seems like a better day, at least so far. The dr. Took some blood to be tested for factor V, and when I read about it I think I just got too overwhelmed with the idea of maybe having it. Or maybe it was just overwhelming starting testing in general. I am happy to get testing done, but it just scary too.

DH: he seems ok, I think its hardest on him when I get upset and have high anxiety. He has done an amazing job at trying to calm me down, or at least just being with me when I am having a hard time.

Bonus: really in truly, I havent done much for myself, I have been thinking of getting my hair cut, so I should do that this week. It always feels nice when its freshly cut.

I also just want to say that your charms of remembrance are very nice. I may do something like that too.

Hugs to all

[lovetruly2015]

How are you doing physically?

Recovered

How are you doing emotionally?

Ok had a really good day this week, but then I went to work and my job killed it. Mostly im functioning.

How is your partner/spouse doing?

He seems to be doing ok. He has good days and bad days like everyone else. I think his job helps alot. Since it mentally demanding as well as physically.

Bonus: What is something positive that you are going to do for yourself this coming week?

Got nothing planned

[goldenlove3]

How are you doing physically?
I'm doing fine overall. My beta levels were down to 36 last Wednesday. Still get random spotting every few days. AF like cramps all the time and still get a soreness on my left side once in a while. I really just can't wait for my period to start so I can hopefully get back to a normal cycle again.

How are you doing emotionally?
Getting better everyday but still find myself getting sad and tearing up when I'm alone with my thoughts.

How is your partner/spouse doing?
He seems to be doing fine. I honestly haven't asked him in a while.


Bonus: What is something positive that you are going to do for yourself this coming week?
I have a busy week planned! My birthday is tomorrow so we'll be having dinner at my ILs. Going to the Maroon 5 concert on Wednesday and to the movies with my girlfriends to watch Cinderella on Friday. I also plan to do some spring shopping soon.

[rablissful]

Winnifred I hope you start to feel better!

amandaree Uuuuuugh I'm so sorry to hear you are still waiting I can't give you advice on either option since I had a natural mc, but from what I've seen here d&c's are not so bad. I'm glad you had fun with your friends though!

hollyberry I hope your anxiety gets better ((Hugs))

lovetruly2015 take it easy when it comes to work!

goldenlove3 HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Your week sounds fabulous- have fun!

[vballbaby]

Mar 16, 2015 7:26:05 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

How are you doing physically?
I'm doing fine overall. My beta levels were down to 36 last Wednesday. Still get random spotting every few days. AF like cramps all the time and still get a soreness on my left side once in a while. I really just can't wait for my period to start so I can hopefully get back to a normal cycle again.

How are you doing emotionally?
Getting better everyday but still find myself getting sad and tearing up when I'm alone with my thoughts.

How is your partner/spouse doing?
He seems to be doing fine. I honestly haven't asked him in a while.


Bonus: What is something positive that you are going to do for yourself this coming week?
I have a busy week planned! My birthday is tomorrow so we'll be having dinner at my ILs. Going to the Maroon 5 concert on Wednesday and to the movies with my girlfriends to watch Cinderella on Friday. I also plan to do some spring shopping soon.

Happy birthday!! Sometimes it's hard to stay busy but I find that is when I feel my best.

[hollyberry]

goldenlove3,Happy Birthday! I does sound like you have a nice week planed. I really want to see the Cinderella movie too!