*~* Weekly Goal Setting 3/23/15 *~*

[icequeen]

Hi ladies!

It's our first week of goal setting! I'm really excited and I hope this helps y'all. Like I said earlier, I don't want anyone to feel like they are obligated to participate every week, give personal details, or have too big/too small of a goal. I mainly wanted to do this because I wanted a place where I can write down what I want to work on and be accountable to someone other than my therapist, because for me, this group being more laid back and less intimidating than going to a therapy session. If anyone at any point has any questions, concerns, or suggestions, please PM me immediately! Thank you! Here goes:

Goal #1: Eat a minimum 100 calorie breakfast of primarily carbohydrates (breads, cereals, grains)
Short or long term? Short
Why is it important? I've been skipping breakfast the last two weeks in an effort to lose weight and I've been feeling faint towards lunchtime. I know I need to eat something in the morning to get my metabolism going, especially carbs (which have glucose to fuel the brain and muscles) and I've always skimped on carbs.
How am I going to accomplish it? I have a list of three different options for breakfast for this week, all within 100-150 calorie range.

Goal #2: Weigh myself only 3 times a week (M/W/F)
Short or long term? Short
Why is it important? I have a number that I want to weigh and I obsess over it. I restrict and exercise based on how much I weigh. If I don't know how much I weigh, it is easier to have healthier eating habits. I want to eventually only weigh myself once a month and be ok with weighing within a range not a specific number. I really need to get rid of my dependence on the scale because it dictates my ED entirely.
How am I going to accomplish it? I am very good at self control so I weighed myself today and will not weigh again until Wednesday. I also didn't weigh myself over the whole weekend and felt ok about it.

[Deleted]

Good afternoon! I'm going to try this out and see how it goes.

Goal #1 - File office paperwork.

Short or Long Term? Short, with long term benefits
Why is it important? Because I keep losing documents and can't them easily. Also they are supposed to be filed in a timely manner.
How am I going to accomplish this? Set aside time at the beginning of the month when i'm less busy.

Goal#2 Pay off debt.
Short or long term? Long term
Why is it important? MH and I are unable to save money because we are constantly paying down debt. We want to be able to buy a house in the near future.
How am I going to accomplish it? Creating a strict budget and sticking to it. This will mean not caving to my husband's impulse shopping. He's got expensive taste and never thinks long term.

ETA: Thanks for doing this icequeen It might help me follow through on a long term goal for once.

[yoshijo28]

Thanks icequeen for the thread!

Goal#1 reduce compensatory behaviors

Short term or long term? Long term, this is something that will take awhile to do

Why is it important? If I eat too much one day then I will restrict or exercise more to equal it out. Last night I think i ate way too much. Today, even though my stomach hurts, I am at the gym. Im also restricting what i eat today and this week because im goig out to eat Saturday. I get so anxious if I go above a certain number of calories. It's an important first step in accepting I can't keep doing what I'm doing anymore and I will probably gain weight from doing it.

How am I going to accomplish this? No clue, it's very overwhelming. I might start with eating a minimum of 1000 calories a day no matter what (but I know I won't start this today)


Goal #2 Watch an entire tv show with my husband without picking up my phone or iPad

Long term or short term? Short term for now.

Why is this important? This may sound very strange but with my ocd I get very anxious when I have idle time and I'm not physically doing something. During commercials and during the show itself I go on facebook, read the news, play candy crush, or lurk around here. I would love to just be able to relax for 1/2 hr and watch TV without missing pieces of the story because I'm distracted. I know it annoys MH too so I'd like to stop for him.

How am I going to accomplish it? I might have to start with just no phone during the actual show (even though when the commercials are over its hard to put it down).

Eta: posted too quickly without answering some questions

[juliayadda]

Thanks Icequeen

Goal 1:
Be more open to my cubicle mate.

Short term

Why is it important: I have found recently that I am getting very angry at work. I am angry with him for being sloppy, slow, and generally just himself. I was reading about anger triggers and I feel like I am responsible for this one. The standard I am holding him too is myself. But I am obsessive. It is not his fault that he is not acheiving these impossible standards, and I am not even his supervisor.

How will I do it: For the last few weeks i have been shutting myself in with loud music, and snapping my answers. I will take out one ear phone when it's not loud in the office, and try to be more open with my body language. 

Goal 2: not have anxiety over DS birthday party.

Short term: it's this Saturday.

Why it's important:

I have bee procrastinating it for months. I usually have it in February because actual day is Christmas Eve. I am internalizing the success of his birthday as my success as Mother and it is pretty much a metaphor for how reclusive I have been this winter.

how I am going to do it. 

One breath at a time. My best friend and her son cant make it but whelp it's not that big a deal. (I have to tell myself this) 


I may go back and edit these for clarity when I am not on the bus.

[juliayadda]

Mar 23, 2015 14:02:42 GMT -5 icequeen said:

Hi ladies!

It's our first week of goal setting! I'm really excited and I hope this helps y'all. Like I said earlier, I don't want anyone to feel like they are obligated to participate every week, give personal details, or have too big/too small of a goal. I mainly wanted to do this because I wanted a place where I can write down what I want to work on and be accountable to someone other than my therapist, because for me, this group being more laid back and less intimidating than going to a therapy session. If anyone at any point has any questions, concerns, or suggestions, please PM me immediately! Thank you! Here goes:

Goal #1: Eat a minimum 100 calorie breakfast of primarily carbohydrates (breads, cereals, grains)
Short or long term? Short
Why is it important? I've been skipping breakfast the last two weeks in an effort to lose weight and I've been feeling faint towards lunchtime. I know I need to eat something in the morning to get my metabolism going, especially carbs (which have glucose to fuel the brain and muscles) and I've always skimped on carbs.
How am I going to accomplish it? I have a list of three different options for breakfast for this week, all within 100-150 calorie range.

Goal #2: Weigh myself only 3 times a week (M/W/F)
Short or long term? Short
Why is it important? I have a number that I want to weigh and I obsess over it. I restrict and exercise based on how much I weigh. If I don't know how much I weigh, it is easier to have healthier eating habits. I want to eventually only weigh myself once a month and be ok with weighing within a range not a specific number. I really need to get rid of my dependence on the scale because it dictates my ED entirely.
How am I going to accomplish it? I am very good at self control so I weighed myself today and will not weigh again until Wednesday. I also didn't weigh myself over the whole weekend and felt ok about it.

Good Luck Icequeen.

What do you normally eat for breakfast?

[juliayadda]

Mar 23, 2015 15:02:53 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Good afternoon! I'm going to try this out and see how it goes.

Goal #1 - File office paperwork.

Short or Long Term? Short, with long term benefits
Why is it important? Because I keep losing documents and can't them easily. Also they are supposed to be filed in a timely manner.
How am I going to accomplish this? Set aside time at the beginning of the month when i'm less busy.

Goal#2 Pay off debt.
Short or long term? Long term
Why is it important? MH and I are unable to save money because we are constantly paying down debt. We want to be able to buy a house in the near future.
How am I going to accomplish it? Creating a strict budget and sticking to it. This will mean not caving to my husband's impulse shopping. He's got expensive taste and never thinks long term.

ETA: Thanks for doing this icequeen It might help me follow through on a long term goal for once.

Good luck wallflwr

Ugh paper work.. at work I am obsessive about it. But at home I just throw it in a pile and hide it in a drawer.

I just want everything to be electronic so I never have to look at it again.

Good luck with the debt. Fucking sucks.

Gail Vaz-Oxlade is a Canadian debt guru I love.

[icequeen]

@wallflwr926, those are both really good goals! I think the debt one is huge, it will really take such a huge burden off of you even if you chip away at it little by little. I think this is a goal that you can also discuss with YH, and make a specific budget for groceries, bills, loans, recreation, etc and let YH and you both have a say so neither feels shortchanged. I know it's a lot harder than it sounds.

yoshijo28, the compensatory behaviors are difficult for me, too. Maybe it would help lessen how overwhelming it is if you decided to focus on just one behavior at a time? I would pick one that you feel you have the most control over, but be mindful of not compensating extra with the other behaviors to make up for the missing behavior.

juliayadda, I understand completely. When I was in my grad program, I was always angry at everyone because they didn't perform up to the standards that my mentor and I set for ourselves. I was such an overachiever and would get so irritated even when people would be careless or not "A-type" like me. I'm trying really hard to cut people more slack but it really affected my relationships back then. To answer your question, I have to start really small with the breakfasts because I have been skipping it entirely the last 2 weeks. So far my three options include a minibagel, nutrigrain bar, and waffle with a few strawberries or blueberries. These are all within my limit of 100-150 cals. I know I eventually have to boost it up but I can't think about that right now.

[juliayadda]

Mar 23, 2015 17:12:28 GMT -5 icequeen said:

 have the most control over, but be mindful of not compensating extra with the other behaviors to make up for the missing behavior.

juliayadda, I understand completely. When I was in my grad program, I was always angry at everyone because they didn't perform up to the standards that my mentor and I set for ourselves. I was such an overachiever and would get so irritated even when people would be careless or not "A-type" like me. I'm trying really hard to cut people more slack but it really affected my relationships back then. To answer your question, I have to start really small with the breakfasts because I have been skipping it entirely the last 2 weeks. So far my three options include a minibagel, nutrigrain bar, and waffle with a few strawberries or blueberries. These are all within my limit of 100-150 cals. I know I eventually have to boost it up but I can't think about that right now.

Baby steps. I think those are very reasonable starts for your breakfast. 

[URMySunshine77]

Thank you for hosting this, icequeen!

yoshijo28,I would also like to put down my phone during quiet, relaxing times. I am getting compulsive about checking Tapatalk.

icequeen, Have you considered eating a hard boiled egg for breakfast? I'm trying to eat more protein, so I started boiling 10 eggs at a time and eating them with DS during the week.

Here are my goals:

Goal #1: Reduce picking on my face, neck, shoulders, and back.
Short or long term? Long
Why is it important? I am scarring myself, and it's not healthy.
How am I going to accomplish it? Each time I reach to touch my face or back, I will remember my pledge to myself and all of you. I don't expect 100% perfection. I am also going to talk to my GP on Monday about a possible therapist referral.

Goal #2: Catch on grading
Short or long term? Short
Why is it important? I have been letting myself and my students down with not returning grades and comments within a week's time. I took on too much work, and it's not my students' fault.
How am I going to accomplish it? I am going to put goals on my calendar so that I can be a more responsible worker.

[yoshijo28]

icequeen I think breakfast is a great goal to start with. It will help fuel you and your workout for the day. Hopefully it will also help with the compensatory behaviors. Like you said to me, be careful not to compensate in another way for eating breakfast Your 2nd goal is very admirable. For a few years I was ok with weighing a few times a week but now I'm daily again. It will be very freeing for you. I know I base a lot of decisions for the day on the number and it'd be nice not to do that. I'm sure you do too.

@wallflwr926 getting out of debt/saving is a great goal, good luck with it! I know how stressful being in debt can be

URMySunshine77 I think seeing a therapist will help you become more successful with your goal. I understand what it's like when the compulsion to do something is there and hopefully you can get some tools from your therapist.

juliayadda I'm similar in that I set high goals for myself and expect others to do the same, I'm a manager at my job and it's hard for me to delegate and not micromanage. I think your body language is a good place to start.

[cozydreams34]

Love this idea! Thank you for starting this.

Goal: To cook one big meal this week that will last several days and to grocery shop.

Short or long term? Long term

Why impt? So I feel like I am contributing more, and so I can do something that makes my husband happy since he works so hard to always try to make me happy. Doing nice things for others, especially my husband, helps my mood.


Goal: To hang out with one friend this week.

Short or long term: long

Why Impt? So I do not feel so isolated and my mood can improve.


Goal: To actively replace negative thoughts with positive ones (cbt).

Short or long term? Long

Why impt? Happiness comes from the mind and I need to stop being lazy with my thoughts because they are leading to my anxiety/depression.

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Goal #1: Stop drinking
Short or long term? Long
Why is it important? Alcohol fucks with my meds and makes stability more difficult. I shouldn't be drinking and I really need to stop.
How am I going to accomplish it? I'm going to avoid purchasing any alcohol and I've told H I want to stop so hopefully he can help encourage me. I'm going to try making smoothies or homemade lemonade when I really want a drink.

Goal #2: walk for at least 2 hours every day
Short or long term? short
Why is it important? The Latuda made me gain another 20 lbs and I need to lose 100 lbs.
How am I going to accomplish it? I have set my alarm to catch the bus every morning. I can lose track of time much more easily walking around the town center, so hopefully that will help make the time pass quickly and soon I'll be able to make it 3 hours.

[flcl]

Goal #1: to resolve the issue at work of a co-worker who is also a friend, taking credit for work that I did

Short Term

Why is it important?: My job is really important to me and I work really hard at it. I find it unacceptable when people take credit for other people's work and it was especially hurtful since it's a friend who did this. This makes me feel really shitty and I'm in a conflict of how I want to handle this... I want to be able to get credit for the work I did without jeopardizing my friendship with this woman.

Goal #2: begin adding exercise to the weekdays

Long Term

Why is it important?: Exercise has always been a key component to my treatment. Working out on the weekends is easy but with LO, working out during the week days has become a challenge.

[yoshijo28]

Mar 24, 2015 6:33:51 GMT -5 flcl said:

Goal #1: to resolve the issue at work of a co-worker who is also a friend, taking credit for work that I did

Short Term

Why is it important?: My job is really important to me and I work really hard at it. I find it unacceptable when people take credit for other people's work and it was especially hurtful since it's a friend who did this. This makes me feel really shitty and I'm in a conflict of how I want to handle this... I want to be able to get credit for the work I did without jeopardizing my friendship with this woman.

Goal #2: begin adding exercise to the weekdays

Long Term

Why is it important?: Exercise has always been a key component to my treatment. Working out on the weekends is easy but with LO, working out during the week days has become a challenge.

I had the same issue at work a few years ago. My co worker would take credit for everything and try to take the lead for everything. It was a nightmare. I talked to my boss about it and then I spoke with her. It didn't improve much but when she demonstrated a behavior I was at least able to point it out to let her know it was bothering me. Do you have any ideas on where to start?

[icequeen]

URMySunshine77, thank you so much for the idea! I love eggs. My only issue with that is that it's not a carb. I already eat so much protein and I know I've been purposely avoiding carbs and some fat. I think I might have an egg and toast as one of my next goals in the next month or two Your calendar sounds like a great idea. I would have just a separate planner for your grading so it doesn't get jumbled up with your other responsibilities. Maybe you can also type up your pledge and carry it in your wallet and read it whenever you have the urge to pick.
cozydreams34, I always make bigger dinners so I can have leftovers for the next day. If not for myself, DH will take them to work. It is so convenient. I always do the groceries on Sunday and plan what our dinners will be ahead of time so I know what to buy. One friend per week or every 2 weeks is great, you can do it!!
@led, I have a feeling the drinking will be super hard and I really give you props for this goal! Do you know what are some of the triggers that make you drink more, or do you do it more because it tastes good, or both? Maybe if you knew if there were particular triggers, then you could work on countering them possibly by drinking something else that tastes good, or eat something healthy, or go for a walk like you said. I really hope this works out for you, we're here for you! It will be a long road but so worth it!
flcl, if you have a LO, maybe you can join a gym with a childcare? I know some gyms have a little kids play area while the parents go work out. Or, you can join a mommy/baby fitness class if it is offered anywhere close to you. Also, now that the weather is getting nicer, you can both take a walk outside, or you can go run/walk outside on your own when YH is home with LO. You could buy some home exercise DVD's and do those if you prefer to not go to the gym, and work out after LO goes to sleep or during naps. Even if it is just 20 minutes, it will still make a difference!

[URMySunshine77]

icequeen, thanks for the pledge note suggestion! I like that a lot.

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icequeen We have a budget but he never follows it. I've actually taken away his debit card for the second time. He got a replacement one (fraud issue) in the mail and it makes me nervous. Beer purchasing is his downfall. He started buying me beer thinking it would distract me from his purchases. Almost like a bribe. I don't know who he thinks he's fooling with this tactic.
I need to sit down this weekend and rework our budget. The $1200 in car repairs really set us back.

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@led If you want we can workout buddies. I need to start exercising even if it's once a week. I've gained 10 pounds since late January and H is now over 300.
He is looking into gym memberships but I really don't want to pay for them. I'm afraid it's going to more wasteful spending. He's going to insist on buying expensive workout clothes for himself too; but I think i'm going to have to cave because he doesn't running sneakers.
Sorry for the tangent. But seriously, everyday that you walk, I will too.

[icequeen]

Mar 24, 2015 11:45:13 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

icequeen We have a budget but he never follows it. I've actually taken away his debit card for the second time. He got a replacement one (fraud issue) in the mail and it makes me nervous. Beer purchasing is his downfall. He started buying me beer thinking it would distract me from his purchases. Almost like a bribe. I don't know who he thinks he's fooling with this tactic.
I need to sit down this weekend and rework our budget. The $1200 in car repairs really set us back.

Oh my goodness! Yeah, I agree he should not be allowed to carry a credit or debit card. Is there any way he can use cash only? Can you set limits on how much money he can spend on beer for himself? It's good that you know where the money is going to so you can be specific with what you are aiming the limits at. Do you think he would benefit from AA meetings, or anything like that?

[bluerainfire]

These are all great goals- sorry if I don't tag everyone.

icequeen i also struggle with eating breakfast, but you do need those calories for a healthier you. I hope you can get to the day where you can stop weighing yourself.

I also struggle with debt, and my husband buys a lot more things then I do. He has recently quit smoking, so his reward is to buy games. though i think hes actually paying more for the games. but i struggle with telling him no, because its a lot healither for him. our debt, i am still in ignorance faze, because there’s not much we can do about it

I also need to workout- i am walker, hiker, outdoor girl type. but have no standard exercise plan, so i need one of those.
so i right there with you.

drinking? how much are you drinking, why do you think its a problem? what triggers it?

ok to goals-

short term-
clean out each room of our house, and organize it. Plan to do one room a day for the next couple of weeks.

why this important- it will make me feel like my home is mine, and not a combination of other people houses.

long term- cook something in a crock pot- not obsess about the coffee maker being on

why this important- we had a fire in our last home, based on a recalled fan (didn't know it)- lost almost everything, crock pot basically is a trigger for pstd- i want to become whole again, and not live in fear. coffee maker my husband uses daily because he goes work at six am, and he pre-programs it. I try hard not to unplug it because then he has to reprogram it. I would like to move it away from kitchen table, but need to organize the kitchen, so it also goes in my short term goals- if i move it to a better home, maybe i can stop obsessing about it being on...

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Mar 24, 2015 11:58:00 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

@led If you want we can workout buddies. I need to start exercising even if it's once a week. I've gained 10 pounds since late January and H is now over 300.
He is looking into gym memberships but I really don't want to pay for them. I'm afraid it's going to more wasteful spending. He's going to insist on buying expensive workout clothes for himself too; but I think i'm going to have to cave because he doesn't running sneakers.
Sorry for the tangent. But seriously, everyday that you walk, I will too.

I try to walk every day. I just got home from walking. I made it 75 minutes before my back started spasming. So I had to stop short today. I aim for 2 hrs. Let's do this!

[icequeen]

bluerainfire, I think going one room at a time a few weeks at a time is perfect. You need to pace yourself and take your time with making sure you are keeping what you need and comfortable with throwing away whatever items are lying around. I know you will feel so much more powerful and in control of your environment when everything is organized, and maybe that might even help you with the fear you have linked with your second goal.

flcl, do you have a human resources department at your job that can mediate the issue between you and your coworker? I would go to them first and see what they suggest you do. If you don't have one, I would confront her first before going to both of your supervisors. I would tell her that your respect her as a professional and as a friend and that you sincerely enjoy working with her. Say that you feel like the situation with your work being claimed as her own and then delegated to others is not the best way to get the job done, and you would appreciate if the both of you and the rest of the people involved in the project could sit down and reevaluate how the work should be done. You should have a plan before you talk to her about how you want to restructure in case she asks you about it. Emphasize that you don't want to cause problems between the two of you or disturb the peace within the office, but you do not feel you are being treated fairly, and that you would appreciate it if she could understand where you are coming from and be willing to cooperate.

[runnergirl812]

Goal #1: Get a draft paper to a coworker by Monday.
Short or long term? Short
Why is it important? I've been slacking off because I hate the paper topic. The people who need it are now starting to notice and comment.

How am I going to accomplish it? I have already compiled the references and made the outline. I just need to fill it in and WRITE. I'm increasing my hours at work to be more productive. I'll likely pull a few 11-12 hours days in the next few days to compensate.


Goal #2: Finish fleshing out two outlines into first drafts.
Short or long term? Short
Why is it important? Again, I've been having issues with focus at work and really don't want to be here half the time. People are starting to notice and my boss has concerns over my ability to focus. Projects need to be completed and out the door.
How am I going to accomplish it? Work a little each morning on each outline and increase my hours at work until it's all done.

[Deleted]

I was expecting this post, but then forgot to look for it.

Goal #1: Practice self-control in eating & exercising
Long-term
Why is it important?: I tend to waver between eating and exercising very little and a lot, but the past two months has been a lot more snacking than usual. Snacks have always been an issue, so I'm thinking of switching to mini-meals more regularly to control the eating of bad snacks. Then I want to maintain my exercise schedule (which has gone slack in March unfortunately), working out encourages me to eat better and gives me the confidence towards other goals as well. The wedding is a bit of an incentive since I know I will be more comfortable if 1) my dress fits properly and 2) I'm not worried about looking bad.

Goal #2: Stop Procrastinating the 'Scary' stuff (well, at all would be nice)
Long-term/Short-term
Why is it important?: On the short term, there's lots of wedding stuff I need to do that I've avoided because I'm afraid of making the wrong choice. Also, I don't like inputting my expense information on my spreadsheet because I already know I'm over budget. But, I know confronting these two will help me stop procrastinating in the long-term with things like: recording temps etc right away, not days later when I realize they're missing.

[icequeen]

runnergirl812, you sound like you have a lot on your plate at work. When I felt overwhelmed with deadlines for multiple papers, I found that keeping a google calendar or just a planner with hour slots for each day was helpful in breaking down my day so I knew what I was going to work on at what time of the day. It helped me stay organized instead of coming to work and freaking out right away because I didn't know where to start or where to look.
@ordinaryamy, have you thought about making a meal plan, or speaking to a dietitian? You are totally right about completing the spreadsheet and not shying away from it. It's important to face the realities so you can work on these flaws and prevent them from getting worse. Good luck, I know you can do it!

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Mar 24, 2015 12:33:19 GMT -5 icequeen said:

Mar 24, 2015 11:45:13 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

icequeen We have a budget but he never follows it. I've actually taken away his debit card for the second time. He got a replacement one (fraud issue) in the mail and it makes me nervous. Beer purchasing is his downfall. He started buying me beer thinking it would distract me from his purchases. Almost like a bribe. I don't know who he thinks he's fooling with this tactic.
I need to sit down this weekend and rework our budget. The $1200 in car repairs really set us back.

Oh my goodness! Yeah, I agree he should not be allowed to carry a credit or debit card. Is there any way he can use cash only? Can you set limits on how much money he can spend on beer for himself? It's good that you know where the money is going to so you can be specific with what you are aiming the limits at. Do you think he would benefit from AA meetings, or anything like that?

He doesn't have a drinking problem, just an obsession with expensive beer. The problem is that he's a brewer and surrounded by beer 24/7. There's always someone talking about the newest must-have beer.
We are moving back to the cash only system. Enforcing a budget on him will my biggest challenge.

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Mar 24, 2015 13:43:52 GMT -5 @led said:

Mar 24, 2015 11:58:00 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

@led If you want we can workout buddies. I need to start exercising even if it's once a week. I've gained 10 pounds since late January and H is now over 300.
He is looking into gym memberships but I really don't want to pay for them. I'm afraid it's going to more wasteful spending. He's going to insist on buying expensive workout clothes for himself too; but I think i'm going to have to cave because he doesn't running sneakers.
Sorry for the tangent. But seriously, everyday that you walk, I will too.

I try to walk every day. I just got home from walking. I made it 75 minutes before my back started spasming. So I had to stop short today. I aim for 2 hrs. Let's do this!

I will do a walk on my lunch break. I won't be home until late today.

[yoshijo28]

@amy have you ever tried logging your food and exercise in an app? I use myfitnesspal and you can keep track of everything. It can help keep you accountable and maybe motivate you. I'll admit, this app was bad for me because I obsess over it and am not being healthy but I know several people who have positive experiences with it. When I was using it in a positive way last year, it kept me from snacking too much or if I did then I knew how much I needed to exercise or cut back the next day.

[yoshijo28]

Mar 24, 2015 18:34:00 GMT -5 @ordinaryamy said:

I was expecting this post, but then forgot to look for it.

Goal #1: Practice self-control in eating & exercising
Long-term
Why is it important?: I tend to waver between eating and exercising very little and a lot, but the past two months has been a lot more snacking than usual. Snacks have always been an issue, so I'm thinking of switching to mini-meals more regularly to control the eating of bad snacks. Then I want to maintain my exercise schedule (which has gone slack in March unfortunately), working out encourages me to eat better and gives me the confidence towards other goals as well. The wedding is a bit of an incentive since I know I will be more comfortable if 1) my dress fits properly and 2) I'm not worried about looking bad.

Goal #2: Stop Procrastinating the 'Scary' stuff (well, at all would be nice)
Long-term/Short-term
Why is it important?: On the short term, there's lots of wedding stuff I need to do that I've avoided because I'm afraid of making the wrong choice. Also, I don't like inputting my expense information on my spreadsheet because I already know I'm over budget. But, I know confronting these two will help me stop procrastinating in the long-term with things like: recording temps etc right away, not days later when I realize they're missing.

I'm mobile so the tag didn't work but I responded to your post above!

[runnergirl812]

Mar 24, 2015 20:16:33 GMT -5 icequeen said:

runnergirl812, you sound like you have a lot on your plate at work. When I felt overwhelmed with deadlines for multiple papers, I found that keeping a google calendar or just a planner with hour slots for each day was helpful in breaking down my day so I knew what I was going to work on at what time of the day. It helped me stay organized instead of coming to work and freaking out right away because I didn't know where to start or where to look. 

That may work. Thanks for the suggestion. I really need some help!