Tuesday Randos...Whuuuuuut?

[windwithfingers]

Jan 20, 2015 8:49:53 GMT -5 kfitz said:

Jan 20, 2015 8:33:02 GMT -5 famousea said:

I kinda LOLed. I don't have twins but I do have two small children and it would be so nice if they could be synchronized in naps and such. Idk maybe it's possible for twins..

I feel like you can try, but it may not work out. What if one is an efficient nurser and one isn't? What if one hates tummy time, or they don't want to nap at the same time? And they won't shit at the same time...

i just remember some stories from Persephone where they were doing two different things at times.

Who else has twins? AngNJon? (Is that right?) I remember her saying one of her twins will only sleep on her. 

[kfitz]

Jan 20, 2015 9:05:07 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jan 20, 2015 8:49:53 GMT -5 kfitz said:

I feel like you can try, but it may not work out. What if one is an efficient nurser and one isn't? What if one hates tummy time, or they don't want to nap at the same time? And they won't shit at the same time...

i just remember some stories from Persephone where they were doing two different things at times.

Who else has twins? AngNJon? (Is that right?) I remember her saying one of her twins will only sleep on her. 

Wasn't she triplets? Or who has triplets? I'm so forgetful sometimes.

[windwithfingers]

Jan 20, 2015 9:10:54 GMT -5 kfitz said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:05:07 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Who else has twins? AngNJon? (Is that right?) I remember her saying one of her twins will only sleep on her. 

Wasn't she triplets? Or who has triplets? I'm so forgetful sometimes.

ginabina has triplets, I know that. I think ANJ is boy girl twins.

[spurp13]

Jan 20, 2015 8:11:13 GMT -5 kfitz said:

I have a coworker that is 17 weeks with twins and thinks she's going to get them onto a "synchronized schedule" where they do the same thing at the same time. I love her, and I understand what she wants, but...good luck!

That's cute.

[spurp13]

Jan 20, 2015 8:49:53 GMT -5 kfitz said:

Jan 20, 2015 8:33:02 GMT -5 famousea said:

I kinda LOLed. I don't have twins but I do have two small children and it would be so nice if they could be synchronized in naps and such. Idk maybe it's possible for twins..

I feel like you can try, but it may not work out. What if one is an efficient nurser and one isn't? What if one hates tummy time, or they don't want to nap at the same time? And they won't shit at the same time...

i just remember some stories from Persephone where they were doing two different things at times.

Persephone fled after she called formula poison and people were all RAGED about it. She never came back...

[spurp13]

Jan 20, 2015 9:11:47 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:10:54 GMT -5 kfitz said:

Wasn't she triplets? Or who has triplets? I'm so forgetful sometimes.

ginabina has triplets, I know that. I think ANJ is boy girl twins.

This is correct.

[kfitz]

Jan 20, 2015 9:14:07 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Jan 20, 2015 8:49:53 GMT -5 kfitz said:

I feel like you can try, but it may not work out. What if one is an efficient nurser and one isn't? What if one hates tummy time, or they don't want to nap at the same time? And they won't shit at the same time...

i just remember some stories from Persephone where they were doing two different things at times.

Persephone fled after she called formula poison and people were all RAGED about it. She never came back...

She's welcome here but she needs to keep that shitty opinion to herself. I have plenty of UOs that will never see the light of day (unrelated to her, I don't want anyone thinking they're about her!).

[bazingabee]

Dude. My sister has boy-girl twins. They're 3 1/2. They don't even have a schedule, let alone a synchronized schedule. People are crazy if they think they can get 1 newborn on a schedule convenient to them, let alone 2 on the same schedule.

[mrscjmb]

@di_126 good luck w potty training!

famousea yes, in app, on Android.

[windwithfingers]

Jan 20, 2015 9:14:07 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Jan 20, 2015 8:49:53 GMT -5 kfitz said:

I feel like you can try, but it may not work out. What if one is an efficient nurser and one isn't? What if one hates tummy time, or they don't want to nap at the same time? And they won't shit at the same time...

i just remember some stories from Persephone where they were doing two different things at times.

Persephone fled after she called formula poison and people were all RAGED about it. She never came back...

I wish she would come over here. I know I have breastfeeding privilege, but I feel bad for the backlash she got.

[famousea]

Jan 20, 2015 9:17:03 GMT -5 kfitz said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:14:07 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Persephone fled after she called formula poison and people were all RAGED about it. She never came back...

She's welcome here but she needs to keep that shitty opinion to herself. I have plenty of UOs that will never see the light of day (unrelated to her, I don't want anyone thinking they're about her!).

She did warn people though and she did say that was just how she felt about it. I stayed out of that one but she's entitled to feel the way she feels. Just saying. I also have UO's and FFFC that will never see the light of day

[windwithfingers]

Jan 20, 2015 9:17:03 GMT -5 kfitz said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:14:07 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Persephone fled after she called formula poison and people were all RAGED about it. She never came back...

She's welcome here but she needs to keep that shitty opinion to herself. I have plenty of UOs that will never see the light of day (unrelated to her, I don't want anyone thinking they're about her!).

Me too. I keep so many UOs to myself. I just wanted to hug her. Like, girl, feed your babies!

[spurp13]

This is so funny to me:
www.today.com/popculture/gimme-doll-kid-fake-baby-american-sniper-draws-laughs-1D80436292?cid=sm_fbn

[spurp13]

Jan 20, 2015 9:17:03 GMT -5 kfitz said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:14:07 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Persephone fled after she called formula poison and people were all RAGED about it. She never came back...

She's welcome here but she needs to keep that shitty opinion to herself. I have plenty of UOs that will never see the light of day (unrelated to her, I don't want anyone thinking they're about her!).

I thought it was a joke, actually. I agreed with her, and said "yeah, I do that, too, but it's sarcasm."

[apk4]

I'm working a half day and then taking the little to a follow up with the pedi on his reflux. Honestly, he's only been on meds a week and I haven't noticed much of a difference. I don't think a week is enough time?

And because we will be home early tonight, I'm pretty much being the best DIL ever and taking him to my MIL's for a few hours this afternoon. I'm going to go home and work out and then get a manicure, and I'm letting her have time alone with him. I should get a medal for letting her see him without me after her bullshit last week. That's like her heaven. I'm not around and she gets baby cuddles.

I am slightly afraid she will whisper over and over in his ear, "Your mommy sucks! Don't sleep for her. Cry all the time!"

[spurp13]

Jan 20, 2015 9:19:21 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:14:07 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Persephone fled after she called formula poison and people were all RAGED about it. She never came back...

I wish she would come over here. I know I have breastfeeding privilege, but I feel bad for the backlash she got.

Well, I mean. What I wish is that she could come to terms with how she has to feed her baby. I understand her feelings, because I had them, too. But I also had to just get over it and enjoy my kid. What I assume, and hope, is that she's so upset about the formula for her kids. Not that she judges others for using it? 

[windwithfingers]

Jan 20, 2015 9:31:10 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:19:21 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

I wish she would come over here. I know I have breastfeeding privilege, but I feel bad for the backlash she got.

Well, I mean. What I wish is that she could come to terms with how she has to feed her baby. I understand her feelings, because I had them, too. But I also had to just get over it and enjoy my kid. What I assume, and hope, is that she's so upset about the formula for her kids. Not that she judges others for using it? 

Oh yeah I don't think she was judging anyone else. I think she was just disappointed about BF and it led to these bad thoughts. I just felt bad that she was beating herself up over it. Like I said, breastfeeding privilege, but it hurts my heart to see anyone sad about how they feed their kid.

[crawford411]

Jan 20, 2015 9:31:10 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:19:21 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

I wish she would come over here. I know I have breastfeeding privilege, but I feel bad for the backlash she got.

Well, I mean. What I wish is that she could come to terms with how she has to feed her baby. I understand her feelings, because I had them, too. But I also had to just get over it and enjoy my kid. What I assume, and hope, is that she's so upset about the formula for her kids. Not that she judges others for using it? 

I hope she comes back... The whole point of a UO and FFFC is for people to not agree with you. She can feel however she feels, as long as she still gives the kid what he needs.

I appreciated that she told the truth. Sometimes we treat each other with kid gloves.

[windwithfingers]

Jan 20, 2015 9:29:09 GMT -5 apk4 said:

I'm working a half day and then taking the little to a follow up with the pedi on his reflux. Honestly, he's only been on meds a week and I haven't noticed much of a difference. I don't think a week is enough time?

And because we will be home early tonight, I'm pretty much being the best DIL ever and taking him to my MIL's for a few hours this afternoon. I'm going to go home and work out and then get a manicure, and I'm letting her have time alone with him. I should get a medal for letting her see him without me after her bullshit last week. That's like her heaven. I'm not around and she gets baby cuddles.

I am slightly afraid she will whisper over and over in his ear, "Your mommy sucks! Don't sleep for her. Cry all the time!"

My MIL took DS for a walk around our neighborhood for an hour on Sunday, and I pictured her saying the whole time, "I'm your FUN GRANDMA. Don't listen to Mommy! I love you THE MOST!" 

Seriously, there is a reason DH and I decided before he was born that DS could only spend the night over at my ILs' house when he can talk and report what they say back to us.

[bazingabee]

You are DIL of the year apk4 - I almost had a panic attack when MIL walked into another room on Sunday with DS. Although, my IL's are horrible and would whisper bad things to him.

[mrscjmb]

Jan 20, 2015 9:31:10 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:19:21 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

I wish she would come over here. I know I have breastfeeding privilege, but I feel bad for the backlash she got.

Well, I mean. What I wish is that she could come to terms with how she has to feed her baby. I understand her feelings, because I had them, too. But I also had to just get over it and enjoy my kid. What I assume, and hope, is that she's so upset about the formula for her kids. Not that she judges others for using it? 

That's how I understood it, she was able to bf her older child and I think that weighed heavily on her.

I mean, I breastfed DS for 21 months and will feel guilty if I'm not able to do the same for DD. (FFTC?)

[geetargirl05]

Good luck!!! Di126

[apk4]

Jan 20, 2015 9:38:43 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:29:09 GMT -5 apk4 said:

I'm working a half day and then taking the little to a follow up with the pedi on his reflux. Honestly, he's only been on meds a week and I haven't noticed much of a difference. I don't think a week is enough time?

And because we will be home early tonight, I'm pretty much being the best DIL ever and taking him to my MIL's for a few hours this afternoon. I'm going to go home and work out and then get a manicure, and I'm letting her have time alone with him. I should get a medal for letting her see him without me after her bullshit last week. That's like her heaven. I'm not around and she gets baby cuddles.

I am slightly afraid she will whisper over and over in his ear, "Your mommy sucks! Don't sleep for her. Cry all the time!"

My MIL took DS for a walk around our neighborhood for an hour on Sunday, and I pictured her saying the whole time, "I'm your FUN GRANDMA. Don't listen to Mommy! I love you THE MOST!" 

Seriously, there is a reason DH and I decided before he was born that DS could only spend the night over at my ILs' house when he can talk and report what they say back to us.

Yeah, I don't know if I'll ever let him spend the night. Maybe when I have two and then they can both drive her crazy.

[geetargirl05]

Jan 20, 2015 9:31:10 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:19:21 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

I wish she would come over here. I know I have breastfeeding privilege, but I feel bad for the backlash she got.

Well, I mean. What I wish is that she could come to terms with how she has to feed her baby. I understand her feelings, because I had them, too. But I also had to just get over it and enjoy my kid. What I assume, and hope, is that she's so upset about the formula for her kids. Not that she judges others for using it? 

I think this is exactly it. But it's just a touchy subject and she had to know it wasn't going to go over well. But I respect her for having the balls to confess it. I definitely wouldn't!

[windwithfingers]

Jan 20, 2015 9:38:19 GMT -5 crawford411 said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:31:10 GMT -5 spurp13 said:

Well, I mean. What I wish is that she could come to terms with how she has to feed her baby. I understand her feelings, because I had them, too. But I also had to just get over it and enjoy my kid. What I assume, and hope, is that she's so upset about the formula for her kids. Not that she judges others for using it? 

I hope she comes back... The whole point of a UO and FFFC is for people to not agree with you. She can feel however she feels, as long as she still gives the kid what he needs.

I appreciated that she told the truth. Sometimes we treat each other with kid gloves.

I actually felt like that time she was treated too harshly, and I am not one of those "this is supposed to be a support board!" people. I don't know, at the same time, maybe she needed to be dealt with in that way to snap her out of it. Another reason why I hate FF vs. BF. Too many volatile emotions.

[apk4]

Jan 20, 2015 9:41:19 GMT -5 bazingabee said:

You are DIL of the year apk4 - I almost had a panic attack when MIL walked into another room on Sunday with DS. Although, my IL's are horrible and would whisper bad things to him.

Love tit for solidarity. ILs are the worst part of marriage.

[windwithfingers]

Jan 20, 2015 9:43:48 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:38:43 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

My MIL took DS for a walk around our neighborhood for an hour on Sunday, and I pictured her saying the whole time, "I'm your FUN GRANDMA. Don't listen to Mommy! I love you THE MOST!" 

Seriously, there is a reason DH and I decided before he was born that DS could only spend the night over at my ILs' house when he can talk and report what they say back to us.

Yeah, I don't know if I'll ever let him spend the night. Maybe when I have two and then they can both drive her crazy.

Seriously, one of the things that sucks the most about DH's death is that now I feel obligated to let my ILs do things with DS that I would NEVER have let them do if DH was alive. I don't want them to think I'm trying to keep DS from them, but they are crazy and not dealing with their grief in healthy ways and it's rough, man. ILs are the worst. I joke with my family that I'll only marry again if the guy's parents are dead.

[applegrape]

Jan 20, 2015 9:05:07 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jan 20, 2015 8:49:53 GMT -5 kfitz said:

I feel like you can try, but it may not work out. What if one is an efficient nurser and one isn't? What if one hates tummy time, or they don't want to nap at the same time? And they won't shit at the same time...

i just remember some stories from Persephone where they were doing two different things at times.

Who else has twins? AngNJon? (Is that right?) I remember her saying one of her twins will only sleep on her. 

Aurora1181 also has twins.

[apk4]

I'm on the opposite end of the FF/BF discussion. Almost everyone in my life thinks BF is disgusting and weird. My mom is constantly making comments about me weaning him and switching to formula.

I don't give a shit how anyone feeds their kid.

 

I just feel bad when anyone stresses about it or beats themselves up over it.

[apk4]

Jan 20, 2015 9:47:20 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jan 20, 2015 9:43:48 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Yeah, I don't know if I'll ever let him spend the night. Maybe when I have two and then they can both drive her crazy.

Seriously, one of the things that sucks the most about DH's death is that now I feel obligated to let my ILs do things with DS that I would NEVER have let them do if DH was alive. I don't want them to think I'm trying to keep DS from them, but they are crazy and not dealing with their grief in healthy ways and it's rough, man. ILs are the worst. I joke with my family that I'll only marry again if the guy's parents are dead.

I can't even imagine. You're seriously a saint. MIL told my H that she will be closer and have a better relationship with my SIL's kids because I exclude her. All because I want to pick up my own kid from daycare every day.

If my H wasn't here, I don't know what I'd do. All the hugs and support to you.