Procrastinators Check-In

[ladysnowblood]

Ugh, I'm procrastinating on pretty much everything. I still haven't got the pnp that she's is going to sleep in, I need to call the pedi I want to switch to, nope on the hospital bag, and probably a bunch of other stuff I can't remember ATM. The only thing I have managed to do is stock up on diapers and clothes.

[coleybug13]

I guess I'm procrastinating on a lot as well

I need to still write out a will
Write out my birth plan
Pick up a few bottles, bath wash, nursing bras, nipple cream, pads, stuff for hospital bags, etc.
I still need to buy a baby wearing wrap
Pack hospital bags
Install car seat (I don't know when's the best time to do this??)
Get the house in order
I would like to have freezer meals and have toiletries stocked in the house but who knows if that'll actually happen..

And only a little over 6 weeks to go. Crap.

[thenetwork]

Super procrastinator here too. DS is 2 and I still have no will or life insurance. Nursery is basically set up (but we don't do anything fancy, it's just a crib and changing pad in the guest room, no decor or theme) but we have no small sized diapers in the house yet and I haven't packed the hospital bag or figured out who is going to come watch DS the dogs while I'm in labor. So much to do still.

[coozieinmypurse]

So all of these posts have just increased the length of my to do list exponentially.

In addition to the big stuff like life insurance and a pedi, I need to:
- Stock up on the stuff for me after deliver (pads, nipple cream, lanolin, nursing supplies, nursing bras, etc).
- We are waiting for our car seat, but will have to install it once it is here.
- Hopefully the changing table will arrive before baby, so set that up (crib won't be here until after kiddo)
- Stock up on diapers and wipes
- Wash and put away clothing received so far
- Deal with everything that will come at our shower Saturday
- Figure out what else needs to happen for maternity leave
- Do more work planning for maternity leave
- Decide if we are going to do freezer meals; buy freezer if yes.
- Pack hospital bag (planning this for February or as stuff is acquired)

Ugh, I'm not ready.

[xtchristiext]

I've procrastinated on finding a pediatrician. One will be at my final prenatal class tonight, so I'll know what to ask and hopefully get this item checked off!

[clobert]

I have been pretty good about the to-dos that are not buying things, but we're having a very late shower and I feel like I could send dh to the store for a car seat and bassinet if I were to go into preterm labor or something.

As for life insurance, I have done a lot of reading but neither of us have that.... can you get life insurance at 34 weeks pregnant or should I wait? DH doesn't have it through employer and is a type 1 diabetic, so I'm super confused about getting him private insurance and whether we'll have to deal with multiple companies and really high premiums.

Based on these responses, I just looked up why I need a will and I'm now convinced. We've got to get on that. Dh is a lawyer and his grandfather specializes in estate planning so maybe this will be one task I can finally put on someone else.

All my other to dos are just for fun like hanging up some pictures above the changing table and painting a dresser and organizing baby things.

[maddisonrose]

We have quite a bit of stuff left to do. Write out a will, look into life insurance, tour the hospital and that type of stuff. Without too much pre-planning we decided to buy our first home last month and don't take possession until March 2nd so everything in our lives will be packed up until then. I'm hoping if we organize everything really well now we can move in and my DH won't be too overwhelmed to start putting together the nursery!

I wasn't feeling too overwhelmed by all of that until now reading everyone's responses makes me feel terrified I'm going to forget something

[melissat2742]

I have done little to get ready for baby. No will. Have not talked with my insurance about baby coverage. The nursery is still not started. And most items have not be purchased yet. SO MUCH TO DO AND SO LITTLE TIME.

[Deleted]

Hb and I have not even talked about a will yet. We kinda sorta not really talked about baptism since his mother is supposed to talk to us at some point about doing it. Hb and I are not religious but she thinks you will live in hell if not baptized. Still no answer on it.

[gamora24527]

I've purchased a going home outfit and made a list of what to pack for the hospital. That's pretty much it. I still have almost all of DS's stuff in the garage, so it's mostly a matter of getting everything out and washing it. I don't have any good excuse for not getting ready at all yet except that I haven't felt like doing it. I should probably have the infant car seat based installed again at some point too... Sigh. Y'all are making me face reality

[scarlettc]

We have been talking about doing our will forever - still not done. We need to talk to my sister and bro-in-law about guardianship if anything happens to us.

I need to to look into life insurance. Those of you doing that, where do you start? We are covered through our employers, but how do we figure out if we need more?

Nursery isn't done, but I want to wait until the showers are over before doing too much.

[ac123185]

I'm so far behind it's pathetic. The nursery is painted, and I have a car seat that's about as far as I've gotten. In all fairness I have a ton of stuff from my dd, I just haven't sorted through any of it yet. I still need to pull out the bassinet and all of the newborn clothes I have saved. We haven't gotten a crib yet, because LO will be in the bassinet for a while and we're still in the process of moving into the house we just bought. I feel utterly unprepared and it's starting to stress me out, but I am determined to get everything out of storage and settled by the first week of February.

I will say I have my pediatrician all sorted out, partially because this baby will see the same pediatrician as her sister so it was an easy step for me to get done.  I'm not doing a child-birthing class this time around I did it with my daughter, it was helpful but I don't see the need to do it again.  I think being a STM, I'm a little more prepared and I know that there are somethings that can wait a little.  I know the nursery won't be complete until after the baby is born and I'm ok with that. 

[dm718]

We haven't done a will or guardianship paperwork . I have also put off checking references on our day care provider. Screwed if that falls through.

[dm718]

Also - got to remind husband to get life insurance. I'm covered, he hasn't taken care of his policy yet.

[scarlettc]

Jan 20, 2015 22:01:12 GMT -5 dm718 said:

Also - got to remind husband to get life insurance. I'm covered, he hasn't taken care of his policy yet.

dm718  How are you getting started on that? We have it through our employers, but after surviving a recent round of layoffs, I don't want to be stuck without it someday. Do you use an agent, or sign up online?

[ruemorgan]

I dont want to install my car seat until 36/37 weeks, after getting hit by a deer, im scared about getting in a car accident with the car seat installed and flushing money down the drain. I also need to set up a pediatrician and finish my hospital bag.

[drudolph11]

Long: We haven't picked our pedi yet and I really freaking need to get on this. We finally finished the remodel and have moved into our new master so we can finally get started on the babys room which is what we were in. We are def not pressed on it though because she will be in our room for prob as long as I am BFing. As far as the will I am happy to say that we have actually begun this process. lol I have a cousin who is a lawyer and he is going to be taking care of this for us, otherwise we would have prob not started it yet either lol. But when we talked to him yesterday he said that he was not able to draw up the paperwork until she is actually present in this world. We don't have our travel system but I will be getting this at my baby shower and I am still fighting with my insurance company to get an electric breast pump, since they only want to cover a manual one right now. If I cant get it free through them, then I will be waiting until after she is born to make sure that I am able to BF before dropping the moolah on it because I know I will have access to one at the hospital. As far as physical items needed, I have a baby wish list right now that includes stuff that I want but is not necessary, umm the top of the list includes a bath tub which we have one of that I bought off of Craigslist which would work perfectly fine but its not the one I "want" lol and will prob get a brand new one for us and give the other one to my mom! I also really want a diaper organizer that I can hang on the wall, car seat canopy (I know some ppl think these are cheesy but I like them lol), diaper caddy for the living room, bath stuff, extra pacis, nasal aspirator (which I might be able to swipe from the hospital), baby wearing item (haven't decided where im going with this) and some mitten cuff onsies. I don't know how much of my list I will actually end up getting but would be fine without.

eta: hospital bag

[mango]

Picking a pediatrician.
Actually listening to Gentle Birth CDs & prepping for birth (including prepping DH, and kegels/perineal massage).
We still need to buy a bunch of stuff (we have the basics -- but we're still missing random stuff like the glider, bath tub, vitamin D drops, thermometer - random stuff. I was buying stuff slowly during holiday sales, but my MIL has informed me that I'm having an online, long-distance shower. (She insists & it's going to be family only. Though I have no idea when it is & I'm going crazy with time ticking by, just waiting...)
Once all the crap is bought, I need to finish the nursery & move a lot of junk out of there.
Really wanted to fill out the pregnancy memory book I have... and update my pregnancy blog which I haven't touched for almost 2 months... I'd like to stay on top of the LO's memory book (which I have yet to purchase) so I better get that all done first!
Tons of house cleaning/organizing which I'm sure won't happen.


Um... so I wasn't even going to worry about a will. We do have life insurance out the wazoo though... I figure we'll get around to the will when we can. Hopefully before we die. (I know how important it is. I'm just being honest.)


So... what do you DO to pick a pediatrician? I don't even understand. Just call and be like "Hi can I take my kid to you? He's due 3/16 and is allegedly healthy."? Do peds like... fill up? I...need to get on this now I suppose? I just don't care about the ped. AT ALL. I want to do all the routine vax's at the regular times, so I don't need to find anyone magical. I know enough to ignore a ped who tells me to start rice cereal at 4 mo or some other shit.

[drudolph11]

I would like to mention that I really thought that we were actually pretty good until reading this thread. Assholes! I am freaking out about forgetting things but am trying to convince myself that if we have forgotten something that I can send my SO or my mom out to get it and/or Amazon 2 day shipping lol and that I am pretty sure that if I go into labor tomorrow that we would be fine. Im a serious check list person, without my check lists our life would not continue to run lol and after reading this I keep adding shit to my list and it is seriously stressing me the eff out lol

[drudolph11]

mango im a FTM so I don't have much knowledge on things but considering a will I had the same thoughts as you but what got us moving was considering the fact that my state has a grandparents law which states basically that if something were to happen to both of us then our child would go to a grandparent and in our situation none of the biological grandparents are suitable to raise our child and we wanted to make sure that she would 100% go to the person/people that we want her to go to without them having any issues getting her either. I would check out the laws in your state but what you have to think about is if you happen to get into a car accident on the way home from the hospital or at anytime and both of you die, are you comfortable with the person/people your child would automatically go to and/or is there someone that your child would go to, otherwise they will put him/her in foster care. If not then getting a will together for the purpose of guardianship is prob a good idea. That is the only thing that our will will contain at this time as we really don't have much as far as assets. As for the pedi situation, I would start by calling your insurance company and getting a list of pedis that they cover. From there you can call their office and set up an apt to meet with the doctor before making a final decision (they are used to this) and to answer your question, yes doctors do fill up and stop accepting new patients so when you call ask them first if they are accepting new patients and then if they are go from there. If you don't have the time to interview doctors then you can always pick one just to have one and then change them after if you don't like them. As far as why it matters what doctor you get, and I agree that in the end you are the final authority on what you do with your kid, but I would suggest considering what kind of sick call they have. If your child gets sick and you need to see a doctor IMMEDIATLY, how long does it take for them to get back to you. How many patients they have and how many doctors in the office. If every time you take your kid in you have to wait in the waiting room for 2 hours I doubt you would be very happy as well as cleanliness of the office and friendliness of staff. Also, if the doctor doesn't agree with your views on what you want for your kid I would consider switching as well. Hopefully that helps a little good luck!!

[ac123185]

mango some things you might want to consider when picking a pedi is business hours, not all offices are open Saturday's. Do they have a newborn waiting room, that is separate from the waiting room with all the sick kids. How do they handle emergency sick calls, as will you be able to see your pediatrician or who ever is available and if you're ok with that.

[chilibeansm0m]

1. Washing A's clothes.
2. Packing hosptial bags.
3. Repacking diaper bag for 2 kids.
4. Finishing my leave papers- my HR gal is a pain to get a hold of. She keeps saying i need to call her to go over them and I've left her several vms with no response.
5. Finsihing training my fill in. She is there 3 to 4 days with me now but there is a lot she still doesn't know.
6. Discussing where R and dh will stay while I'm in the hosptial or a plan of action for when i go into labor. We talked a little about this this past weekend. But not fully.
7. Put together the baby swing.
8. Make 1 dresser work for both kids.
9. Have sex. Ha.
10. I'm forgetting. I know there is something else.

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[mel7806]

Oy, none of these lists are making me feel any better! We finally called the insurance company to ask about the breast pumps today. We can't put our order in until a month before Edd but at least we have that figured out. We have life insurance but not wills. I got my life policy in order because of my divorce decree, even though I'm sure my ex still hasn't followed through and it's been 8 years. He's a d-bag is it's expected.
We do have (some) clothes, no hats, not many blankets, no diapers, no ointment, no clean bottles or nipples or pacifiers, and no RNP for her to sleep in. We also need to get a twin bed for older DD so that we can move the crib into our room for baby. I have several loads of laundry to do in order to move the crib into our room. We also need to find some shelving or another dresser for all of new baby's shit. Oh, and I still have to pre-register at the hospital and schedule a tour. Also, have to figure out where my two older children will be while I am at the hospital.

[issytex03]

I really need to do a will especially since my in laws are showing their true colours now and being nasty and crazy to boot. Also feel like i need to build the cot, ive been putting it off as we lost noah a week after i built it last time and cant help but feel like something will go wrong again this time gahhhh Pgal brain D:

[biscotto]

Writing a will? That's something I haven't even thought of. I've barely dectorated her room. We don't plan on staying here so I'm not so motivated to decorate it. We might go to IKEA this weekend and pick up a few things.

I have no birth plan. I don't know if I will.

[busterrose]

I woke up to see my H has finished painting the closet doors. He just needs one more coat on the outside door. Still need to install the closet system and put furniture together and then put everything away.

[crunchymama]

Um....we've done nothing. Zero. Zip. Her room won't get done until after she's born because were about to demo and redo our kitchen. Plus she'll be in our room for awhile. Were going to buy the bigger stuff next month when we get our taxes- a new pack and play, travel system, monitor, etc. but we've got stuff from our boys so we'd be okay in the meantime.

[mango]

drudolph11 & ac-cant remember your numbers - thanks! My H is a doc (and does peds emergency) so I'm not too worried about some of that, but the separate waiting rooms is a good point. My H keeps saying he'll find the ped since he has all the connections, but this post makes me feel time is running out...

[mrsh924]

I was feeling good after Hb put together the remainder of her nursery furniture together, but this seriously makes me feel horrible. All I have taken card of is daycare and a Pedi. All of the physical stuff , clothes, diapers, sheets, towels, mattress etc. I don't want to buy anything until after her shower which is the end of Feb. I still need to figure out a will and additional life insurance. I have a small amount through work but nothing huge. I was planning on getting a list together for my hospital bag and then slowly acquiring items throughout February.

[kcbizme]

Now I'm stressing out. SO.MUCH.TO.DO.

Daycare; Pediatrician; H has life insurance, I don't; neither one of us has a will; we're also now contemplating hiring a doula after our class last night; we have our "big" baby items (pnp, crib, car seat/stroller) but I've been forbidden from buying anything else until after my showers (by my parents and my best friend) which really stresses me out because I HATE waiting until the last minute! I still haven't packed my hospital bags (I'll do that sometime in Feb.) - and add to that my mom will be here next week and our house is a wreck! She's staying with us after the shower until after LO is born, so we still have to clean out the 2nd bedroom so she will have room to set up her bed and clothes totes, plus our Christmas decorations are still up, AND we have tons of shit to take to storage.

I should not have opened this thread!