I just need to get this off my chest- We found out MIl's condition did not resolve with her treatment. I don't feel bad for her and I feel like MH should be helping me more than worrying about her- yes we moved down here so she could see the grandkids more but just because she basically is gonna die from this disease (that's my bet) I'm not forgiving and forgetting her being a bitch.
I'm actually kind of pissed that MH can't focus on me and my problems (and we got some shitty news about my condition last week) and help me because she is a whiney cry-ey southern mom and I have to be the strong and stoic Yankee.
FFFC: I had a dream about adopting a baby girl. Looking at all those Easter dresses for girls I'm half considering it nah I'm a poor social worker- the state wouldn't even let me if I wanted to anyways . . .
I just need to get this off my chest- We found out MIl's condition did not resolve with her treatment. I don't feel bad for her and I feel like MH should be helping me more than worrying about her- yes we moved down here so she could see the grandkids more but just because she basically is gonna die from this disease (that's my bet) I'm not forgiving and forgetting her being a bitch.
I'm actually kind of pissed that MH can't focus on me and my problems (and we got some shitty news about my condition last week) and help me because she is a whiney cry-ey southern mom and I have to be the strong and stoic Yankee.
I'm not sure if that makes sense..
Edit: For clarity what I mean by this is MIl got the news the day after we got back from the beach. I've been averaging a 5/6 on the pain scale daily because of our "vacation" and here I am stuck in a car 2 days later going with MH to MIL's house in the middle of fucking nowhere because she needs support. I need rest- I hurt. I can hardly walk and I'm hardly keeping it together but I feel like she took priority over me and i feel like I was forced to go. (MH sucks at empathy and has zero concept of this chronic pain thing and herniated discs, slipped discs and pars fracture. But is all there for MiL and trying to understand her treatments and stuff :/ )
FFFC: I had a dream about adopting a baby girl. Looking at all those Easter dresses for girls I'm half considering it nah I'm a poor social worker- the state wouldn't even let me if I wanted to anyways . . .
I have the same problem! Jimmy won't let me dress up one of the boys.
From now on I'm being super selfish with my weekend time. it's pretty much my only time with LO and every time I say 'no' to someone lately it feels soooooooo good. and I know I'm a better person for it...so much more relaxed when I have a day to myself to go for hikes with lo.
@notyourmom, just curious, what is your MIL's condition again?
So, we have 2 dogs. The 2nd we adopted and she has a myriad of problems. It always seems like something else comes up. First her front legs are too short so she can't go up stairs or get on and off furniture so she has to be carried all the time. She was supposedly a stray and has never really learned not to pee in the house so she basically lives on the couch (because she won't pee there). She has chronic dry eye and a skin condition since we got her (so she has to have artificial tears in one eye several times a day and enzymes in her food for her skin). Just this year her other eye started with the dry eye so now that means meds in that eye twice a day and the artificial tears several times a day as well. She drags her butt EVERYWHERE, constantly, it's constantly itching her and she has rubbed the skin raw. I just had her at the vet for that and the doc said that one of her anal glands which should be about the size of a lima bean, was the size of a grape. Full of fluid. So now we will have to take her there every so often to have it expressed. I also got her an Rx for prozac b/c she has major anxiety and Aubrey is freaking her out lately just by playing with her toys loudly. To top all this off my dogs have hair, not fur, so they have to be groomed every 8 wks at $90 a pop. Then last week while I was at the pharmacy picking up her prozac MH calls me and says "Parker was on the couch when you left, right?" I was like "yeah I guess..." "well..." he says "Aubrey was freaking out, so I picked her up and then Marley (other dog-only issue is he can be psychotic and has a little anxiety himself) was barking out the window so I went to tell him to shut up and when I came back Parker was in the bathroom and there is blood EVERYWHERE. I think it's her foot, but I can't tend to it so she is in the tub and please get home quick" Evidently she caught her nail somehow when she jumped off the couch and now she's been holding it up all week cause it hurts. We've been checking it and cleaning it, it's not infected, but still just another thing. It honestly feels like she is more work than the kid!
Now that you have read that novel....my FFFC: I have a friend who is pregnant and due in 2 mos. She had 2 labradors and one just passed away. I'm almost jealous that she only has one dog now right before her baby is born. I do not wish my dog would die, nor do I envy her that hers did, but just the thought of having one less creature (with every problem under the sun it seems) to care for in this cramped apartment where there is still 2 feet of snow on the ground outside seems very appealing.
Honestly, who can not stop and watch Forest Gump whenever you come across it on TV? I could probably recite it by heart.
You are SO right yalllow! Every time it's on I watch it! I have this friend at work who isn't really a movie person and had never seen it so I brought in our DVD of it and made her borrow it and watch it and now whenever it's on she'll message me and we send each other Forrest gifs and memes and such. Best. Movie. Ever!
Now that you have read that novel....my FFFC: I have a friend who is pregnant and due in 2 mos. She had 2 labradors and one just passed away. I'm almost jealous that she only has one dog now right before her baby is born. I do not wish my dog would die, nor do I envy her that hers did, but just the thought of having one less creature (with every problem under the sun it seems) to care for in this cramped apartment where there is still 2 feet of snow on the ground outside seems very appealing.
FFFC: when my hubs and I first met we both had two dogs- me a labradoodle and he a huge chocolate lab. We got pregnant relatively soon after we met (couple weeks after we were engaged and six months after we met). For the first time ever in my life I asked a man to move in with me. A lot of changes in a short time. The more I got huge the more anxious I became. Soon my house was choking me and our 150 lbs of dog was obsessing me....
I made us rehome our dogs before DS1 was born. My husband was destroyed and I felt relief. Now two kids later I realized it would have been okay and I was freaking out. One of my biggest regrets. So far.
linzerd, I feel your pain. we have 2 dogs and this was the reason we got in such a huge fight last weekend and kicking a hole in our door. Even though I don't want to give them up, or have them die, sometimes I wish we just had 1 and didnt get the other. It would be so much easier. We discussed when one passes, we are not getting another.
Now that you have read that novel....my FFFC: I have a friend who is pregnant and due in 2 mos. She had 2 labradors and one just passed away. I'm almost jealous that she only has one dog now right before her baby is born. I do not wish my dog would die, nor do I envy her that hers did, but just the thought of having one less creature (with every problem under the sun it seems) to care for in this cramped apartment where there is still 2 feet of snow on the ground outside seems very appealing.
linzerd, I'm so sorry to hear about your poor dog's conditions but I am with you on thinking life would be easier with less animals around here. We have two cats and on in particular is just a giant pain in the ass. I feel bad because he's old (15!!) but when I'm done with the kids and just trying to have some relaxing alone time and he starts meowing and being obnoxious, it's just too much. I don't know if we'll be getting more cats when these are gone.
I made us rehome our dogs before DS1 was born. My husband was destroyed and I felt relief. Now two kids later I realized it would have been okay and I was freaking out. One of my biggest regrets. So far.
I hope I trimmed that quote the right way...I'm on mobile now cause I'm nursing....anywho...yalllow this makes me so sad for you! I have a friend who had her son sept 2012 and she had 3...yes 3 chihuahua mixes and she realized real quick how much work it was with a baby and three little dogs. Because, you know, chihuahuas. I remember she came over when I was about to give birth and we were talking about the dogs and her getting rid of hers and it made me so sad and she said "Lindsay, look you love your dogs, that is the difference. I didn't love mine. While I wanted the best for them and would never do anything bad to them, I didn't love them and didn't want them anymore."
I do love my dogs so much and would never get rid of them but MH has said recently that he hates having dogs now. They really are just so much added stress! But still so stinking cute that I couldn't imagine my life without them!
I'm going to lose my shit with mil next time I see her! For months I've been saying rock LO until she's drowsy, DO NOT rock her to sleep! I had this shit sorted, then mil slips up and says she rocks LO to sleep, well for three weeks now it's taken hours to get her to bed, and it's MIL's fault! Next time I see her, I'm telling her this is her last chance, if she can't follow the routine, she's not having LO again.....ever! I don't even care if I get flamed, I'm pissed so bad right now.
If my baby girl was half as cute as yours- I'd rock her to sleep every night. Just saying.
If my baby girl was half as cute as yours- I'd rock her to sleep every night. Just saying.
Lol, thank you, but cute as she is, I still need sleep, almost 2 hours, and she finally went down. It's getting so bad, we're not eating until 10pm, we used to eat together, mil fucked that up too, now if we try and eat, lo screams the house down until she's got our FULL attention, so now we wait until she goes to bed, this is just another issue I have to tackle, but for now, I'm just doing one at a time.
But she made that cake! The only thing my MIL has done for me was make her son. That's about it.
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