It was a boy...
Mar 31, 2015 13:00:48 GMT -5
Post by amandaree on Mar 31, 2015 13:00:48 GMT -5
Sorry I've been MIA for the past few days. I hope everyone is recovering well.
We got our Microarray results today - much earlier than anticipating. I missed the call from the nurse and her voice message said she'd post the results in our online health portal and that I could call and schedule a follow up appointment with my RE to discuss the results in detail and create a plan for the future. So I logged in to our health portal and here was the message:
The results from the chromosome analysis state: Normal Male Results
WTF?? First I was so shocked to see that it was a boy. It was like a knife to my heart. I think because this time I hadn't seen a heartbeat (as I did with the last one) that it was easier to detach emotionally but this just brought it all back to reality that I have lost my son. My heart is breaking all over again.
Second - I was really expecting to see some kind of abnormal result - I know that sounds awful, but since the majority of miscarriages are caused by a chromosomal abnormality I assumed this would be the case and that testing might provide some insight. Now I'm left with more questions and no answers and the reality that my son didn't die because of a genetic defect but more likely because of something wrong with me and my uterus.
I had been handling things pretty well emotionally - allowed myself some grieving time and closure last week - yet I feel like this new news is a bit of a setback.
Physically I am doing much better this time than last. My bleeding is now just very, very light brown spotting. No more cramps and the fatigue has gone. I'm hoping that with now this last piece of information I will be able to indeed get some closure and move on to figuring out a plan for the future. My appointment with my RE is on the 14th. Until then...
"Good night, sweet prince,
And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest!"
We got our Microarray results today - much earlier than anticipating. I missed the call from the nurse and her voice message said she'd post the results in our online health portal and that I could call and schedule a follow up appointment with my RE to discuss the results in detail and create a plan for the future. So I logged in to our health portal and here was the message:
The results from the chromosome analysis state: Normal Male Results
WTF?? First I was so shocked to see that it was a boy. It was like a knife to my heart. I think because this time I hadn't seen a heartbeat (as I did with the last one) that it was easier to detach emotionally but this just brought it all back to reality that I have lost my son. My heart is breaking all over again.
Second - I was really expecting to see some kind of abnormal result - I know that sounds awful, but since the majority of miscarriages are caused by a chromosomal abnormality I assumed this would be the case and that testing might provide some insight. Now I'm left with more questions and no answers and the reality that my son didn't die because of a genetic defect but more likely because of something wrong with me and my uterus.
I had been handling things pretty well emotionally - allowed myself some grieving time and closure last week - yet I feel like this new news is a bit of a setback.
Physically I am doing much better this time than last. My bleeding is now just very, very light brown spotting. No more cramps and the fatigue has gone. I'm hoping that with now this last piece of information I will be able to indeed get some closure and move on to figuring out a plan for the future. My appointment with my RE is on the 14th. Until then...
"Good night, sweet prince,
And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest!"