@jane2614, I'm so sorry you're going through that with your SO. Good for you, making a stand that your DD shouldn't have to grow up with an alcoholic father! Are you a SAHM? Would a local mother's day out or something like that be an option for you?
Leapinglizards, yikes, you took quite a hit to your car! Glad that everyone is okay. That had to be so scary.
I...I currently don't have anything for MBF. This can't be right.
@jane2614, I'm so sorry....You had every right to be mad at your husband...I would hate to think what could of happened if you left the house for your "me time" (like a pedicure or movie). I hope he understands how you feel and makes some positive changes for the benefit of your relationship and his daughters.
So I babysit a little girl one weekend a month. Her parents are in the air force and have drill once a month. They having been trying to sell there house for a year and move to Virginia. Well I didn't hear anything from her this month. I just checked her Facebook and they sold their house and moved already!! She didn't even tell me. I'm really sad I didn't get to say goodbye to the little girl as well. I taught her from when she was a baby -3 year olds at the pre school I used to work at and then watched for over two years one weekend a month. I'm really pissed she didn't even tell me they were leaving!! Ugh
Post by jnnfrrose6 on Apr 20, 2015 18:57:44 GMT -5
Each kid got a chocolate bunny in their Easter baskets. They got put in the pantry right after because neither of them needs to eat that. The hubs ate one shortly after during a drunken night. I was all set to have the other one tonight (hello, spotting for 2 days, period is on the way and I need a chocolate fix). Stupid husband are the damn thing last night. Argh. He's at the gym now. I'll be texting him to bring me home something now.
Post by honeybee434 on Apr 20, 2015 19:00:54 GMT -5
@jane2614 I'm sorry for everything you're dealing with. I know most of my friends in the oil field say that job can make things even harder depending on the attitude of the rigs he is on. I hope you can find a little break somehow, soon, and that he continues to keep trying to get better.
@jane2614, sorry to hear you are dealing with this and I absolutely agree with you not leaving your LO with him. I hope he continues to get the help he needs so he can be a support for you and your LO.
My Monday bitch on Tuesday. I asked my mom if she could come stay with dd for a few hours Saturday night so me and DH could go on a date since he is leaving for 6 weeks next Thursday and you would think I asked her for her kidney.
She starts saying stuff about how the weekend is the only time she gets to see her husband (cool I'm about to not see mine for 6 weeks) and how she would have to stay the night because she doesn't want to drive home too late (we would be home no later than 9, if even that late).
She likes to give me such a hard time about not taking dd over my grandmother's house on the weekends (where I wouldn't even be able to use the bathroom because I cannot even set dd on the ground there and my grandma is not stable enough to hold her). And the weekends are literally the only time I have to do anything since I am gone from my house for 11ish hours a day during the week. Oh but that doesn't matter. But when she has an excuse for not wanting to do something on the weekend nothing else matters. Grrr
mary1217, that sucks you won't' see your husband for 6 weeks and even more so that your Mom won't watch your daughter. I don't understand when grandparents fuss over having to watch their grandchildren. Hell, mine would move Spencer into their house if they could!
mary1217, that sucks you won't' see your husband for 6 weeks and even more so that your Mom won't watch your daughter. I don't understand when grandparents fuss over having to watch their grandchildren. Hell, mine would move Spencer into their house if they could!
Yeah when I originally told her about DH leaving she made a comment that she would come over on the weekends to help me out. Well that story is already changing.
TheCoffeeNinja, Hope it all works out...that is smart that you are letting her vent and giving her space I'm sure it will pass, sounds like she will has a lot of loved ones moving away and that can be stressful. Do you know what set it off?
TheCoffeeNinja, no that doesn't have anything to do with her. I can see her being upset about the deployment. Some people deal with stress in unhealthy and destructive ways. I'm glad she got home okay, though! I hope she calms down for you guys.
TheCoffeeNinja, how long have you been living with his parents?
Far too long.
I think about 8 months all in.
That in and of itself would be stressful. I like my in laws but I would go crazy if we lived with them. Do you think if you and your husband had your own place that maybe you would be in a better "place" yourself? It certainly would make it harder for him o run to his Mom for input with every little thing. Something to seriously, seriously consider if you can afford it!! This would be one thing I would stand my ground on!
That in and of itself would be stressful. I like my in laws but I would go crazy if we lived with them. Do you think if you and your husband had your own place that maybe you would be in a better "place" yourself? It certainly would make it harder for him o run to his Mom for input with every little thing. Something to seriously, seriously consider if you can afford it!! This would be one thing I would stand my ground on!
We can't. We're moving to Denmark in a month or 2 (depending if MIL calms down and changes her mind about wanting us gone or not) so there's nothing we could sensibly get for that short of a time.
Well I guess at least she'll be out of your hair then
@jane2614 - do you mind if I ask how your DH did this weekend? I've been thinking of you, because I know your anxiety. DH has had struggles with binge drinking and due to his history it's hard for me not to get insta-pissed when he drinks. It's taken many, many years for him to learn to control it, and honestly even longer for me to trust that he has. So if you ever need a chat, I'm here
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