So DH and I got into it last night. We haven't DTD lately because every time we've tried PP, it hurts for me. Plus, I think I'm permanently on my period (probably 5-6 of the last 8 weeks). So he says to me, "Maybe we should...you know...talk to someone. I mean since you don't want to have sex." So I'm all...
Please tell me I'm not the only one who is just not that into sex right now, for whatever reason. Help me explain to my husband that this is normal.
H flipped out on me for the same thing.
I'm just getting over a case of horrible food poisoning from a few days ago and DH is giving me shit for not wanting to have sex tonight. I'm sorry that I haven't been able to keep any food or water down for 2 days now, but yes let's please have sex. I'm sure that will make me feel better
Omg I am exhausted from reading the randoms. Good going ladies. Work prevents me from getting my PB fix. At this rate I'll be the last newb. Sad trombone
Re: baby weight -- I'd be all for a chubby baby. Skinny baby for me seems to equal near weekly trips to the pedi.
H is an asshat again today. Talked to him on my drive to pick up ds; told him when we'd be home. Man had all day off work and was fucking sleeping again when I got home and wouldn't wake up. So I came into the bedroom to nurse DS bc I didn't want to listen to the snoring. 30 minutes later, he wakes up, looks at me as he goes into the bathroom, then goes back to the living room without so much as saying hello... This after I explained to him last night that I need/want time to workout and grade projects when I get home. Fuck him.
Any chance you can scare him into change by staying with someone else for a few days? Family, friends?
I'm not sure - and honestly, that kind of feels like punishment for me, too. I have all of our stuff here, and it's hard enough to be out of the house for an afternoon with DS; a few days and I'd have to pack the whole house.
Ok finally got a chance to log on and there is no way I'm going to be able to catch up. Started to love tit everything but now need sleep. Sorry. 2nd day back at work and its hard. I've been up since 4:30 as that is when LO decided she was hungry. Hopefully I will be able to participate more tomorrow.
Any chance you can scare him into change by staying with someone else for a few days? Family, friends?
I'm not sure - and honestly, that kind of feels like punishment for me, too. I have all of our stuff here, and it's hard enough to be out of the house for an afternoon with DS; a few days and I'd have to pack the whole house.
Ok. New plan. Kick him out and tell him until he learns to be supportive, he can go somewhere else to ignore you and LO.
Ok finally got a chance to log on and there is no way I'm going to be able to catch up. Started to love tit everything but now need sleep. Sorry. 2nd day back at work and its hard. I've been up since 4:30 as that is when LO decided she was hungry. Hopefully I will be able to participate more tomorrow.
H finally woke up -- we fought. He got on my case about a text message he came across (from right before he landed himself in the hospital) in which I said he was "less than reliable". Yeah, not apologizing for that.
DS has basically been asleep since we got home from daycare -- so I at least got a little grading done and a short workout in. He will probably want to wake up hourly all night, so I'm going to try to turn in.
I'm going through the paperwork for day care still. It's taking a while because it's a mountain of stuff to fill out and I keep getting depressed and teary. Shit...
I already told DH we were going to drop him off a little early and come home so I could cry and he could hold me. I need time before I go to work.
I read a beautiful blog post about being a mommy and it made me cry. I love dd so much. I'm pretty sure "mommy" is my most favorite title I've ever had! How did I live without her, lady's?
H finally woke up -- we fought. He got on my case about a text message he came across (from right before he landed himself in the hospital) in which I said he was "less than reliable". Yeah, not apologizing for that.
DS has basically been asleep since we got home from daycare -- so I at least got a little grading done and a short workout in. He will probably want to wake up hourly all night, so I'm going to try to turn in.
I feel like a freak... We have the sex argument in reverse. DH has been stressed and doesn't deal well with the interrupted sleep, and just generally can live with less physical affection than I can. So IM the one who's always worked up about us not having enough sex. It makes me feel bad about myself that he's NOT dying to DTD all the time.
But, I also did not push a baby out, so I don't have the same pain issues. It was like the first time, a little uncomfortable, but got back to normal pretty quick.
Still catching up, but this is kind of us. H has always been kind of particular about sex, even before pregnancy/baby. My libido came back before his did, and I motivated our first sex post-baby. I think there's a (typically pretty accurate) stereotype about men being total horndogs and wanting sex constantly, but just like all stereotypes there are exceptions.
I'm going through the paperwork for day care still. It's taking a while because it's a mountain of stuff to fill out and I keep getting depressed and teary. Shit...
I already told DH we were going to drop him off a little early and come home so I could cry and he could hold me. I need time before I go to work.
My rainbow arrived 10/15/14.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
I feel like a freak... We have the sex argument in reverse. DH has been stressed and doesn't deal well with the interrupted sleep, and just generally can live with less physical affection than I can. So IM the one who's always worked up about us not having enough sex. It makes me feel bad about myself that he's NOT dying to DTD all the time.
But, I also did not push a baby out, so I don't have the same pain issues. It was like the first time, a little uncomfortable, but got back to normal pretty quick.
Still catching up, but this is kind of us. H has always been kind of particular about sex, even before pregnancy/baby. My libido came back before his did, and I motivated our first sex post-baby. I think there's a (typically pretty accurate) stereotype about men being total horndogs and wanting sex constantly, but just like all stereotypes there are exceptions.
My husband is also an exception, and he resents the stereotype.... It actually makes him quite angry, which I found to be a bit surprising, but I get it.
My rainbow arrived 10/15/14.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
I wanted to say that I also have a skinny baby and although I love her little chicken legs (and tell her daily), having a chunkier baby would cause me way less anxiety.
Also keelyd sorry your H is being a tool. I know he's sorting through his own stuff right now but he needs to appreciate how freaking awesome you are. Between angry boob and his whole situation I seriously don't know how you've done it. You're basically my hero.
I forget who else had the H who slept all day because I'm exhausted and keep losing my place with this new app...but he needs a TP too.
I think that PP sex hurts and although I believe in making sacrifices for your partner's happiness, it shouldn't come with the price of excruciating pain. Although I agree that if the pain is still excruciating it's probably worth a doctor's visit.
The babies are all so darn cute on HDBD today.
Final word: I came home to a baby who was clean, fed, and asleep! DH FTW! Dream fed her and praying for a better night tonight!
Our couple date ended up being dinner with friends and the babe. It was nice to visit with grown ups. Also, she's currently 14wks pregnant and had a loss at 8weeks a few months ago so I'm super excited for them! I plan to do an AMA tomorrow so, be prepared, notches!
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