Randoms of Wednesday

[darwinfish]

Jan 21, 2015 8:27:21 GMT -5 theresat858 said:

Sleep regression. She has been downgraded from donkey to wild ass.

Liking for the term wild ass.

But sorry about the sleep!

[lindseyione]

Jan 21, 2015 9:23:00 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Guys, please tell me I'm not the first/only mom whose baby is in daycare from 6:30am to 6:00pm. I'm so sick of all of these little shitty comments from people about it, and it's making me feel like such a bad mom. I work so hard to do everything I can for him. I have major guilt today and I don't want to feel bad about myself for doing what I need to, to provide for our family.

I'm also thinking about emailing my MIL and explaining to her how I feel. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about how much she judges my parenting and how much she dislikes me. Is that a bad idea? Part of me thinks she just doesn't understand me and part of me thinks she just doesn't care and it doesn't matter what I do.

You are a great mom! You are doing what you feel is best for your family by working and therefore you are being a wonderful mom.

[darwinfish]

Jan 21, 2015 9:28:39 GMT -5 jeniece47 said:

Jan 21, 2015 8:12:30 GMT -5 americanninjamommy said:

Worst part of this cold I have? The constant snissing.

spurp13 Can we add 1000 kegels to Workout Wednesday??

This keeps happening to me. My husband told me that he thought that was supposed to stop after pregnancy. TP to him.

I haven't had a cold yet, but it's like a faucet during 30 day shred. I now just embrace it and let it go because I can't keep stopping to use the bathroom. Wearing pads to work out is awesome.

spurp13

I third the kegel adding!

[jeniece47]

Jan 21, 2015 9:23:00 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Guys, please tell me I'm not the first/only mom whose baby is in daycare from 6:30am to 6:00pm. I'm so sick of all of these little shitty comments from people about it, and it's making me feel like such a bad mom. I work so hard to do everything I can for him. I have major guilt today and I don't want to feel bad about myself for doing what I need to, to provide for our family.

I'm also thinking about emailing my MIL and explaining to her how I feel. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about how much she judges my parenting and how much she dislikes me. Is that a bad idea? Part of me thinks she just doesn't understand me and part of me thinks she just doesn't care and it doesn't matter what I do.

You aren't the only one. When DH is gone mine is there a minimum of ten hours. He leaves on the 14th for a month and I have to work an hour away every day for three weeks of it so mine with be there from 0530 to 1830 and with a sitter just as long on the weekends.

[darwinfish]

Jan 21, 2015 9:23:00 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Guys, please tell me I'm not the first/only mom whose baby is in daycare from 6:30am to 6:00pm. I'm so sick of all of these little shitty comments from people about it, and it's making me feel like such a bad mom. I work so hard to do everything I can for him. I have major guilt today and I don't want to feel bad about myself for doing what I need to, to provide for our family.

I'm also thinking about emailing my MIL and explaining to her how I feel. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about how much she judges my parenting and how much she dislikes me. Is that a bad idea? Part of me thinks she just doesn't understand me and part of me thinks she just doesn't care and it doesn't matter what I do.

You do what you need to do re daycare. I do not think it's right to judge women for working - whether they work because they have to, or because they want to. We don't stop being people because we are mothers.

I'm not sure I would reach out to MIL. she's either going to try to pacify you, actually argue with you, or somehow make it more awkward between you. I think saying something right to her when she makes a nasty comment to your face may be a way to start the dialogue.

Perhaps write the email to get your feelings organized and down, but hold off on sending?

[cclilbit]

Jan 21, 2015 9:17:55 GMT -5 tarraberra said:

That awkward moment when your cursor is hovering over a name in our FB group and you see that you have a mutual friend...

Yeah, that happened to me like a month or so ago.  It's wasn't you WAS IT!? 

Just kidding.  It wasn't.  In my case, I think they are related somehow, but live in different states.  Mutual friend lives in MI.  I'm not worried since the mutual friend is cool.  She'd never rat out my bumping ways.  Can't remember who the bumpie was now though...

[apk4]

Jan 21, 2015 9:35:45 GMT -5 jeniece47 said:

Jan 21, 2015 9:23:00 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Guys, please tell me I'm not the first/only mom whose baby is in daycare from 6:30am to 6:00pm. I'm so sick of all of these little shitty comments from people about it, and it's making me feel like such a bad mom. I work so hard to do everything I can for him. I have major guilt today and I don't want to feel bad about myself for doing what I need to, to provide for our family.

I'm also thinking about emailing my MIL and explaining to her how I feel. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about how much she judges my parenting and how much she dislikes me. Is that a bad idea? Part of me thinks she just doesn't understand me and part of me thinks she just doesn't care and it doesn't matter what I do.

You aren't the only one. When DH is gone mine is there a minimum of ten hours. He leaves on the 14th for a month and I have to work an hour away every day for three weeks of it so mine with be there from 0530 to 1830 and with a sitter just as long on the weekends.

Love tit for solidarity. Hugs, momma! 

[apk4]

Jan 21, 2015 9:37:36 GMT -5 darwinfish said:

Jan 21, 2015 9:23:00 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Guys, please tell me I'm not the first/only mom whose baby is in daycare from 6:30am to 6:00pm. I'm so sick of all of these little shitty comments from people about it, and it's making me feel like such a bad mom. I work so hard to do everything I can for him. I have major guilt today and I don't want to feel bad about myself for doing what I need to, to provide for our family.

I'm also thinking about emailing my MIL and explaining to her how I feel. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about how much she judges my parenting and how much she dislikes me. Is that a bad idea? Part of me thinks she just doesn't understand me and part of me thinks she just doesn't care and it doesn't matter what I do.

You do what you need to do re daycare. I do not think it's right to judge women for working - whether they work because they have to, or because they want to. We don't stop being people because we are mothers.

I'm not sure I would reach out to MIL. she's either going to try to pacify you, actually argue with you, or somehow make it more awkward between you. I think saying something right to her when she makes a nasty comment to your face may be a way to start the dialogue.

Perhaps write the email to get your feelings organized and down, but hold off on sending?

I like the idea about getting my thoughts out and organized. That may be the best route for me to take.

[gretchenweiners7]

What's up my notches?

I have to get my oil changed this morning, boooo. There's not even a coffee shop on the way.

[americanninjamommy]

Jan 21, 2015 9:28:39 GMT -5 jeniece47 said:

Jan 21, 2015 8:12:30 GMT -5 americanninjamommy said:

Worst part of this cold I have? The constant snissing.

spurp13 Can we add 1000 kegels to Workout Wednesday??

This keeps happening to me. My husband told me that he thought that was supposed to stop after pregnancy. TP to him.

Something tells me he would have the same problem if he pushed an 8 lb baby out of his penis.

[lindseyione]

I'm on my way to a doctor appointment with my mom and I feel so carsick. What is up with that?

Also my toddler was a donkey last night and decided to stay up for the day at 5:00 a.m.

[apk4]

Jan 21, 2015 9:41:58 GMT -5 gretchenweiners7 said:

What's up my notches?

I have to get my oil changed this morning, boooo. There's not even a coffee shop on the way.

I make my husband change my oil. It's conveniently timed to need changed when he is in town.  

[tabbyc57]

Jan 21, 2015 9:23:00 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Guys, please tell me I'm not the first/only mom whose baby is in daycare from 6:30am to 6:00pm. I'm so sick of all of these little shitty comments from people about it, and it's making me feel like such a bad mom. I work so hard to do everything I can for him. I have major guilt today and I don't want to feel bad about myself for doing what I need to, to provide for our family.

I'm also thinking about emailing my MIL and explaining to her how I feel. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about how much she judges my parenting and how much she dislikes me. Is that a bad idea? Part of me thinks she just doesn't understand me and part of me thinks she just doesn't care and it doesn't matter what I do.

Don't feel bad about him being at daycare. From what you and others have said your MIL would find something to bitch about even if he wasn't going to daycare.

[mrsbabe614]

Jan 21, 2015 9:10:48 GMT -5 bazingabee said:

I'm starting to resent DH and I don't know how to stop. He stayed home from work yesterday because he was "sick" but refused to go be seen by a dr and slept all day instead. I got home from picking DS up from the sitter, got everything around for today, bathed and fed DS, had play time, and got DS down for bed all while DH decided he needed to sleep the entire evening as well. I'm really sick and have been to the dr and was told rest would be the most important thing to getting better and am unable to rest because I'm apparently a single parent even when DH is off from work.

Please tell me that this is going to get better or give me some tips on how not to be resentful. I have talked to him and he blows it off. At this point, I feel like I have a roommate that I see every once in a while, not a partner. Also, to be clear, I don't ever act resentful toward DS, which may be why DH doesn't think I'm serious.

I'm so sorry you're feeling like shit *hugs* the man cold will be the death of men. Is he feeling better yet? Can you take a day off and take the kid to the sitters??

[lindseyione]

Not to be a PW but does anyone else have the wrong time on the app? I can't seem to figure out how to change it and the time it shows is 5 hours ahead of the time zone I am in.

[tarraberra]

Jan 21, 2015 9:38:50 GMT -5 cclilbit said:

Jan 21, 2015 9:17:55 GMT -5 tarraberra said:

That awkward moment when your cursor is hovering over a name in our FB group and you see that you have a mutual friend...

Yeah, that happened to me like a month or so ago.  It's wasn't you WAS IT!? 

Just kidding.  It wasn't.  In my case, I think they are related somehow, but live in different states.  Mutual friend lives in MI.  I'm not worried since the mutual friend is cool.  She'd never rat out my bumping ways.  Can't remember who the bumpie was now though...

There are TWO bumpies that I have mutual friends with that I've seen. But both mutual friends are people I haven't actually talked to in years.

[carriedaway19]

apk4, you are a great mama, don't beat yourself up! My guy is at daycare from 8-5 M-F and it really is hard, I understand. You are a better mom for doing what you need to do to provide for your family.

[carriedaway19]

gretchenweiners7, find an alternate route. Coffee is necessary.

[gretchenweiners7]

Jan 21, 2015 9:44:14 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Jan 21, 2015 9:41:58 GMT -5 gretchenweiners7 said:

What's up my notches?

I have to get my oil changed this morning, boooo. There's not even a coffee shop on the way.

I make my husband change my oil. It's conveniently timed to need changed when he is in town.  

I typically do too but now I am a SAHM so I think it has become my responsibility. I was thinking "oh I can go to the Caribou a few miles away while I wait" but...oil change means no car. Duh. 

[americanninjamommy]

I'm going to hit 50 posts, then go back to "work". k?

Pretty sure that will help me prove my worth at work.

[gretchenweiners7]

Jan 21, 2015 9:48:11 GMT -5 carriedaway19 said:

gretchenweiners7, find an alternate route. Coffee is necessary.

Sadly, the place is a straight shot from my street, about 3 minutes away!

[americanninjamommy]

that means I need 7 more. Ugh.

[carriedaway19]

Guise. My mom was telling me yesterday about the niece of a lady she works with. It was her son's first birthday party, she was 9 months pregnant, went into labor at home and when the paramedics got there they said there was no way they were making it to the hospital. She birthed a 10.5 lb baby at home.



I feel all the pain in my lady parts.

[spurp13]

Jan 21, 2015 9:01:15 GMT -5 applegrape said:

Jan 21, 2015 8:11:46 GMT -5 americanninjamommy said:

Also, how did you come across this information??  I am picturing you randomly flipping through a dictionary or some gigantic dusty book with word origins in it.

My degree is in Linguistics. I took a class called Bad Words and Taboo Terms. Soooo fascinating!

Tell me more. I think Linguistics is sexy...

[famousea]

Jan 21, 2015 7:40:16 GMT -5 carriedaway19 said:

DS wiggled himself out of the mamaroo at 5am. I woke up when i heard the thud on the floor. Thank God we have carpet and the mamaroo is like 6 inches from the ground. He whimpered for like 10 seconds and went back to sleep. I still felt terrible. Mother of the year?

Aww he will be fine! Go check out the thread on TB, "I can't believe I did that" I think that's what it's called and you can see all the things my girls have suffered at my hands

[apk4]

Jan 21, 2015 9:50:47 GMT -5 carriedaway19 said:

Guise. My mom was telling me yesterday about the niece of a lady she works with. It was her son's first birthday party, she was 9 months pregnant, went into labor at home and when the paramedics got there they said there was no way they were making it to the hospital. She birthed a 10.5 lb baby at home.



I feel all the pain in my lady parts.

[jlabbe1123]

Anyone else have a LO who chews on his hands so much he gags on all the spit build up lol or am I the only one with a little weirdo. He seems to think its hilarious

[windwithfingers]

I'm so tired, you guys. I can't even think of anything random to say. Why is my kid trying to kill me? He'll never be a unicorn.

[apk4]

Jan 21, 2015 9:53:01 GMT -5 jlabbe1123 said:

Anyone else have a LO who chews on his hands so much he gags on all the spit build up lol or am I the only one with a little weirdo. He seems to think its hilarious

Yep, mine does!

[angnjon]

All the cuteness of sweet sleeping baby smiles, I just can't get enough! Lucky me it's always a double dose with the twins!❤️