Biggest Regret

[lrobi13]

So the drinking thread made me think of a big regret...

What is yours?

[lrobi13]

Mine is that the only time that I actually was able to be on the Eiffel Tower when I was 17 I was shit hammered drunk on wine. We also took a boat ride down the river and that is cloudy as fuck too. The pictures are all lopsided.

I got to go back a few years ago but we didn't go up. SO I vaguely remember seeing one of the most amazing cities in the world because I drank my wine, and my friends wine, and my other friend's wine.

They though it was nasty and I thought otherwise.

[redwellies]

This is also kind of a fffc:

I had a really good friend for years in high school. He confessed his love for me with a rose and this amazing note and I never replied. I never even acknowledged to him that I received it. I justified it to myself because I didn't feel the same and I didn't want it to ruin or friendship but, really I was just being a selfish notch.

Years later, he was married and really unhappy. We had an emotional/mildly physical (lots of texting and one kiss) relationship and it blew up when his wife found out.

I regret not having better judgement. I lost that friend forever because of my poor self restraint and selfishness.

Thankfully, she forgave him and they are still together.

[carriedaway19]

I love Disney and wish i had done their college program. I know i would've loved it.

[MrsJepp]

DH and I talked about going to Europe in 2011 while I was pregnant with DS. I wanted to go but not while pregnant. I should have. I've never been to Europe and who knows when it will happen now.

[apk4]

Mine is really bad and only like three people know about it.

I went to visit my brother for his birthday. When I came home, my boyfriend of three years and I got into an argument. He left my apartment, but left his phone. I went through it and saw that he had gone out the night before and was texting his friend about how he wanted to fuck anything at this point and his friend told him to go for it. We broke up. It was messy and ridiculous and I cried all the time.

I turned 25 the next month and decided I wanted to move. My job was going nowhere and there wasn't much opportunity. I started saving money to move. I also started going out again a lot and I was a drunken fool. And I started hooking up with my ex again.

Three weeks later, I saw him at a bar with the friend of his that told him to cheat on me and a girl he had started talking to. We were still hooking up, and he told me he wasn't sleeping with her. LIES. It all came out that he was using both of us and I felt like a giant dumbass. I decided to go home. I had maybe 4 drinks in the span of 2-3 hours and felt fine. As I was driving home, I looked down and sent a text to my friend. Then I hit a parked car.

I called 911 and reported it. The cops came and gave me a breathalyzer. I blew .04 and they asked me to sit in the back of a police car. Two hours later I was taken down to the station and they took my BAC again. It was .11. So I went to jail. I was doing social work at the time and I was put in a cell with women going through meth withdrawals. They actually started discussing a family that I was supposed to do a supervised visit for the next day. I just sat and cried until I was released 6 hours later.

So now I have an OWI on my record. Nobody that knows me would ever suspect it. I completed all of my court ordered requirements in 2 months instead of a year and was still able to move.

I'm fucking so ashamed about it. I'd do anything to replay that night.

[alfibet]

Apk4 damn, yo. That's rough. But it was the past, and you learned from it. Big hugs!

[mrsl]

I have two. I regret not getting my JD when I was still in school. It would take so long and be so unaffordable now. I also regret deciding to buy a house and get a job so far away from my family. I'm well established now in my career where I live, and I would make about half of what I make here if I moved back home. I also feel tied down by owning real estate and all the crap that fills up my house.

[alfibet]

I wish when I went on my wanna be groupie tour following that band, that I would have spent more time exploring where I went. I was in New Zealand and Germany and so many places, and I hardly did anything there, besides a couple touristy things. I may never get to back to those places, I should have taken better advantage of my time there.

[staryb]

Moving back to PA to be closer to family. Should have stayed in Florida, we were happy and better off financially. Plus I hate winter!

[TheMooseIsLoose]

I didn't go skydiving pre-kids cause now I'm all "i might diiiiiiieeeee"

[MrsJepp]

Jan 21, 2015 13:43:18 GMT -5 TheMooseIsLoose said:

I didn't go skydiving pre-kids cause now I'm all "i might diiiiiiieeeee"

Me too!

[windwithfingers]

Not getting the degree I wanted. I got my degree so I could enter the family business, which is what everyone does, and as the oldest, it was expected of me. I hate it though. I want to teach. But going back to school is not something I can afford.

Second biggest regret: not taking more photos with DH. There are literally 20 photos of us from our entire 6 years together, outside of wedding photos.

[slsl509]

I regret not going to Italy with DH before we had kids. We were all set to go, then I was diagnosed with cancer so we canceled not knowing what the rest of that year was going to be like. Turns out we could have gone but we didn't and now it will be a long time before we can go because kids and the money they cost.

[mrsbabe614]

Jan 21, 2015 13:32:58 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Mine is really bad and only like three people know about it.

I went to visit my brother for his birthday. When I came home, my boyfriend of three years and I got into an argument. He left my apartment, but left his phone. I went through it and saw that he had gone out the night before and was texting his friend about how he wanted to fuck anything at this point and his friend told him to go for it. We broke up. It was messy and ridiculous and I cried all the time.

I turned 25 the next month and decided I wanted to move. My job was going nowhere and there wasn't much opportunity. I started saving money to move. I also started going out again a lot and I was a drunken fool. And I started hooking up with my ex again.

Three weeks later, I saw him at a bar with the friend of his that told him to cheat on me and a girl he had started talking to. We were still hooking up, and he told me he wasn't sleeping with her. LIES. It all came out that he was using both of us and I felt like a giant dumbass. I decided to go home. I had maybe 4 drinks in the span of 2-3 hours and felt fine. As I was driving home, I looked down and sent a text to my friend. Then I hit a parked car.

I called 911 and reported it. The cops came and gave me a breathalyzer. I blew .04 and they asked me to sit in the back of a police car. Two hours later I was taken down to the station and they took my BAC again. It was .11. So I went to jail. I was doing social work at the time and I was put in a cell with women going through meth withdrawals. They actually started discussing a family that I was supposed to do a supervised visit for the next day. I just sat and cried until I was released 6 hours later.

So now I have an OWI on my record. Nobody that knows me would ever suspect it. I completed all of my court ordered requirements in 2 months instead of a year and was still able to move.

I'm fucking so ashamed about it. I'd do anything to replay that night.

wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.

[dreadgamerwife]

I regret the way I broke it off with an ex. I had graduated from college and he was finishing his senior year (2000). We both flew back and forth a few times but most of the relationship was over e-mail. I flew to visit him over valentines day weekend. He had just gotten a new computer (helped him put it together that weekend) and two days later, I was checking my emails and found that he had visited several porn sites since I had been visiting. I already had pretty low self esteem and that shattered any that I had left. So, I left as scheduled the next day, sent him an email that I had arrived home safely and didn't speak to him again until two years ago. I ended up having an emotional break down over it and for six months, the only thing that kept me going was my mom and my cat. I ended up with a much stronger view of who I am, a self esteem built on me (and not other's views of me) but how I ended it with him and the pain that I caused him haunts me to this day.

[apk4]

Jan 21, 2015 15:00:55 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

Jan 21, 2015 13:32:58 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Mine is really bad and only like three people know about it.

I went to visit my brother for his birthday. When I came home, my boyfriend of three years and I got into an argument. He left my apartment, but left his phone. I went through it and saw that he had gone out the night before and was texting his friend about how he wanted to fuck anything at this point and his friend told him to go for it. We broke up. It was messy and ridiculous and I cried all the time.

I turned 25 the next month and decided I wanted to move. My job was going nowhere and there wasn't much opportunity. I started saving money to move. I also started going out again a lot and I was a drunken fool. And I started hooking up with my ex again.

Three weeks later, I saw him at a bar with the friend of his that told him to cheat on me and a girl he had started talking to. We were still hooking up, and he told me he wasn't sleeping with her. LIES. It all came out that he was using both of us and I felt like a giant dumbass. I decided to go home. I had maybe 4 drinks in the span of 2-3 hours and felt fine. As I was driving home, I looked down and sent a text to my friend. Then I hit a parked car.

I called 911 and reported it. The cops came and gave me a breathalyzer. I blew .04 and they asked me to sit in the back of a police car. Two hours later I was taken down to the station and they took my BAC again. It was .11. So I went to jail. I was doing social work at the time and I was put in a cell with women going through meth withdrawals. They actually started discussing a family that I was supposed to do a supervised visit for the next day. I just sat and cried until I was released 6 hours later.

So now I have an OWI on my record. Nobody that knows me would ever suspect it. I completed all of my court ordered requirements in 2 months instead of a year and was still able to move.

I'm fucking so ashamed about it. I'd do anything to replay that night.

wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.

I hope you all don't hate me after this confession. 

[lrobi13]

Jan 21, 2015 15:44:20 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Jan 21, 2015 15:00:55 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.

I hope you all don't hate me after this confession. 

I can't. I, stupidly, drove drunk/buzzed a good bit back in the day.  I can't believe how stupid I was.  If I could go back I would have used cabs and not taken so many risk with my life as well as everyone else on the road.

[redwellies]

Jan 21, 2015 15:44:20 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Jan 21, 2015 15:00:55 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.

I hope you all don't hate me after this confession. 

I was thinking the same thing about mine. We all make mistakes and do horrible things. The important thing is that we learned from them.

[dorothyzbornak97]

apk4: If I hate you, I'd have to hate myself because I have gotten behind the wheel when I shouldn't have. It was stupid and there is absolutely no excuse, and I wouldn't do it again, but it has happened. I am just so thankful I never got into an accident and hurt anyone. We all make mistakes; the key is whether or not we learn from them.


I have two regrets (aside from the above):

1. I regret not doing study abroad and/or an out-of-state internship in college. I was too wrapped up in my friends and that was stupid.

2. I regret hooking up (only kissing and such, no sex) with a coworker (years ago) when I knew he had a girlfriend. I was crazy about him and had been for a long time, and he and I had a weird history, so when we were both drunk and he started kissing me, I totally went with it. I still feel terrible about it to this day because I was a selfish asshole. He's married to the girlfriend now, too.

[TooManyCats]

My biggest regret is not completing my first son's baby book. I never found the time to do it (or put it off) and kept thinking "I'll remember this."

Now my brain is foggy and I don't remember many of the little details.

I hope I can do better with J.

[TooManyCats]

Jan 21, 2015 15:44:20 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Jan 21, 2015 15:00:55 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.

I hope you all don't hate me after this confession. 

I don't.  My brother lost his licence for 2 years for driving under the influence!  He had to blow into one of those things to start his car for a year afterwards!  

No judgement or hate from me.  We all make mistakes.  The big thing is that you were able to learn from yours without it being a BIG one.  

[mrsbabe614]

Jan 21, 2015 15:44:20 GMT -5 apk4 said:

Jan 21, 2015 15:00:55 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

wow. at least you hit a parked car. In retrospect I run motor vehicle reports all day every day and you would never, ever believe the people who have that on their record too. Point is don't beat yourself up because right or wrong a lot of people make the same mistake.

I hope you all don't hate me after this confession. 

zero judgement. We all have skeletons.

[pullsa]

I regret not going away for college. I went to college 30 minutes away from home, but I wish I had gone further away and experienced a different city.

[carriedaway19]

Jan 21, 2015 16:52:07 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

Jan 21, 2015 15:44:20 GMT -5 apk4 said:

I hope you all don't hate me after this confession. 

zero judgement. We all have skeletons.

Totes. Like PPs have said, you've learned from it and that's all you can do.  We could never hate you!

[mrssinner402]

I wish I would've went away to a 4 year college. I got into a car accident and my dad said he would either help me buy another car or pay my full way to whatever college I wanted. I had a bf still in HS, so guess what I picked? I stayed home and went to a community college 30 minutes away. And I never even got my degree. I just went for a year then stopped and started working. I regret it often. I would go visit my friends at college and I'd just be so sad. I never got to experience it. I'm very lucky to have gotten the job I have now without a degree. But it still makes me sad.

[TheMooseIsLoose]

You guise!!!!! These are all so deep! And a little sad......

[happyin14]

Jan 21, 2015 13:49:01 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Not getting the degree I wanted. I got my degree so I could enter the family business, which is what everyone does, and as the oldest, it was expected of me. I hate it though. I want to teach. But going back to school is not something I can afford.

Second biggest regret: not taking more photos with DH. There are literally 20 photos of us from our entire 6 years together, outside of wedding photos.

I have similar regrets. I have a million photos of Jack but very few of us together. I didn't like photos of me because I had gained weight. Totally regret it.

[darwinfish]

I never would have gotten my MBA.

I would have partied more in college; between school, externship at a cancer research center, my own research project/thesis, and working as a vet tech I had little time to go crazy and have fun.

I was accepted to a certain school in the UK for a year abroad, but I turned it down because I didn't want to be that far from my BF (now DH). I have some regrets about it, but at the same time I'm happy with how it worked out in the end.

I would have spent less time hating my body. Well, hating myself period.

[redwellies]

Jan 21, 2015 16:41:02 GMT -5 TooManyCats said:

My biggest regret is not completing my first son's baby book. I never found the time to do it (or put it off) and kept thinking "I'll remember this."

Now my brain is foggy and I don't remember many of the little details.

I hope I can do better with J.

*makes mental note to take some time to work on E's baby book tonight*