Putting us through the ringer

[kaeguri]

I'm so sorry to hear about the orders! And FX that he can get them changed. My ex also got deployed to Iraq right out of AIT. It sucked.

But on a happier note, YAY BABY! Congrats!

[kaeguri]

May 9, 2015 22:27:24 GMT -5 @iliketurtles said:

May 9, 2015 18:21:57 GMT -5 kaeguri said:

I'm so sorry to hear about the orders! And FX that he can get them changed. My ex also got deployed to Iraq right out of AIT. It sucked.

But on a happier note, YAY BABY! Congrats!

Wow, so that must have been a long time. Was his AIT long? DH's is 20 weeks, we decided to move me down here on our dime and I'm so glad we did, especially if he leaves.
His company's 1st sergeant is going to call for us and see what he can do, which I'm hopeful about. We've got plans in place though if he ends up having to go, which is comforting at least.

Thank you, we're excited.

Oh I wasn't with him when he went through AIT, so not sure. He did get deployed for 18 months though. But that was also in the middle of the wartime, so things were a bit different.

Hope his 1SGT can do something. Usually they're all family men so they understand. DH's officers are always pretty helpful when he needs things switched around for family stuff. Good luck!

[junebug060609]

Congrats! Hopefully they'll be able to change things so he can be there with you.

FWIW, I've learned through the years to not believe anything regarding orders until we've got papers in hand. [DH is retiring later this year, we've been together 10 years.] We've been screwed over with pie crust promises made by detailers. Also, my DH was deployed for more than half of my DD's pregnancy. Even if you have to be apart, you've got this.

[Mom2Ms]

I wouldn't hang your hat on orders being changed. I'm not pregnant, but just had a baby, but am going to be having multiple surgeries. They aren't helping DH out at all. Nothing. Won't even push back the start date of his new orders. My husband is a senior officer and even a general requesting things be changed is doing nothing..... I'm sorry you're going through this. It blows.

[Mom2Ms]

May 11, 2015 19:57:00 GMT -5 @iliketurtles said:

May 11, 2015 18:36:11 GMT -5 Mom2Ms said:

I wouldn't hang your hat on orders being changed. I'm not pregnant, but just had a baby, but am going to be having multiple surgeries. They aren't helping DH out at all. Nothing. Won't even push back the start date of his new orders. My husband is a senior officer and even a general requesting things be changed is doing nothing..... I'm sorry you're going through this. It blows.

They will get changed somehow. Talking to his 1st sergeant was just the first plan. He has options, like failing a class. 

Is DH enlisted? It might be easier to get things changed, I'm not familiar with the enlisted side & how it all works. The branch he's in probably makes a huge difference too. My DH is USMC, but I've heard of other officers in other branches getting much more help in situations like this. I wish you guys nothing but luck & hope it all gets worked out in your favor. Being a military wife can be tough.

[silv3rlining]

May 11, 2015 19:57:00 GMT -5 @iliketurtles said:

May 11, 2015 18:36:11 GMT -5 Mom2Ms said:

I wouldn't hang your hat on orders being changed. I'm not pregnant, but just had a baby, but am going to be having multiple surgeries. They aren't helping DH out at all. Nothing. Won't even push back the start date of his new orders. My husband is a senior officer and even a general requesting things be changed is doing nothing..... I'm sorry you're going through this. It blows.

They will get changed somehow. Talking to his 1st sergeant was just the first plan. He has options, like failing a class. 

I wouldn't recommend having him fail a class just to get his orders changed. Yes sometimes they will work with you (I'm due beginning of June and DH was projected to get orders for a 15 July report date and they were able to move it back to 1 Sept by request before his orders were cut). But at the same time this is what you married into. Yes it sucks. He could also possibly be home in time for delivery (depending on his R&R)