Bad MIL/ Bad DIL

[jennaleigh23]

I'm not with baby's father but his father, baby's grandpa, made the official facebook post about the pregnancy before I did. Complete with the names we had picked out and everything. I. WAS. LIVID.

[rachacre]

I love my MIL, she really is great, but she has created a monster of a son. He is SUCH a mama's boy and is soooooo spoiled!

[doctaco]

My MiL is fantastic - except when it comes to big life events like weddings and babies. She had an absolute shit fit when I decided against the gender reveal baby shower she offered to throw me for my first. (I was fine if she wanted to host a shower, I just wasn't into having a gender reveal shower).


I shipped her back to Canada.

[bkgusse]

I am blessed with my ILs - but I can be a bad DIL when we don't spend nearly as much time with them as we do my family. Mine is so much more needy, I just don't have enough time!

[mrsgeyser]

Jan 22, 2015 3:41:31 GMT -5 mehlaknee said:

Jan 22, 2015 2:31:03 GMT -5 mrsgeyser said:

My MIL has fake food allergies, although has never been to a doc or allergist to confirm - her whole life centers around her allergies. I'd consider them more of a form a food restriction/eating disorder. I used to go with the flow, but now I point out that her techniques for eliminating allergens are bs (rubbing down wine glass/silverware with cocktail napkins) and also that many of the foods she eats regularly actually contain things she claims to be allergic to. This subject is probably the #1 thing my husband and I argue about - he wants me to drop it!

ahhhhh. my MIL did this too. Stressed me the fuck out!!! I couldnt take her seriously because there was no LOGIC. and my husband also got annoyed and wanted me to leave it be...

Exactly! It's weird that it's so stressful...but it truly is! My MIL has been pulling this crap for 10 years and it is really starting to affect her health - which is scary. Let me know if you have any tips/advice...did your MIL stop?

[laylamamma2013]

I secretly hate my MIL for all the things she did to DH as a kid. The worst, He has a scar on his head from his mom throwing a canned food at him because he was misbehaving. I would never bring it up because DH made me promise but I REFUSE to leave my kids alone with her, and check on DD every 5-10 minutes when she takes her out of my sight.

I am a bad DIL because I never call her for anything and never take her parenting advice.

[punkybrewster33]

My MIL has always been sweet and has fawned over me since DH brought me home for christmas 10 years ago. She already had a DIL, but they openly snapped at each other in front of everyone about absolutely everything, didn't get along, ever, until she needed a sitter and saw MIL as free childcare. I never thought I could be angry with her about anything, until we announced the pregnancy. We made a special two hour drive over to her house and presented her with some 8 week u/s photos. She sat there, turning it upside down and sideways, squinting her eyes, (these were the clearest u/s photos I've seen in my life) and asked, "What do you call it"? I referred to it as our little "peanut", and she shrugged, looked at the floor with a grimace, and said,"Oh. I called ours, Pumpkin. Oh well!" It was weird. She had the same reaction when she wanted to know what names we were considering and silly DH actually told her. The third-hand car seat BS has to stop too. Thanks, but no thanks. We do not need your 10 year old INFANT car seat that you keep cramming our 5 YEAR OLD nephew into when you're done with it. Seriously. The poor boy can't move in that thing, and I've seen him stick so many boogers on it that it may be all that holds the thing together. No. She's also been hounding me to go maternity clothes shopping, so on our last visit to pick up an heirloom crib, she asked me again. I said sure, and in about two minutes she had her coat on, handed me my purse, and we were in the car. I tried on 50 things for her, liked about half of them, and when we got to the register, she paid for all of it. It was very cool. I will probably end up accepting the 'vintage' stuff she gives us and toss what doesn't work.

I'm a bad DIL because I still haven't put the thank-you card in the mail.

[cincymama]

Jan 21, 2015 22:38:20 GMT -5 EmMilAlly said:

I love my mother in law and honestly her only flaw is that she is too nice and puts up with shit she shouldn't. However I could fill up this forum with issues my stepmother has- just thinking about her is raising my bp.

I literally could have written this word for word! We have the exact same situation on both accounts!