I had to go see Duck Commander the Musical in Vegas. About the Robertson family... The only song the women sang (alone) was all about how if you cook some good gumbo, you'll get a man like I did. Vomit.
And now I'll also be making my kick ass gumbo. Still in heals and pearls.
Minor confession: we haven't told my mom or DH's family that we're moving. And we definitely haven't told them we are putting our house on the market in two weeks.
My mom is especially conservative when it comes to debt and finances. (As in use any extra money you have to pay off your mortgage rather than having a life.) So, to tell her that we are selling our house to try and find a bigger one would probably cause her to blow a gasket.
I had to go see Duck Commander the Musical in Vegas. About the Robertson family... The only song the women sang (alone) was all about how if you cook some good gumbo, you'll get a man like I did. Vomit.
Gross! Did you ask for your money back? Also how in the fuck did you end up at that musical? I need to know who thought this would be a good idea?
First, I never paid for it. I had to go for work. Second, the Robertson Family thought it was a good idea...
Lol.. I have a cold and I just sneezed into my elbow, like you're supposed to, then had to clean said elbow of boogers.. this made me laugh out loud and be thankful that I have my own office.
I truly don't understand the whole married before babies thing kellrr. Come back and explain more!!!!!!!!
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
BCP mess with me, also. I was on them from 16 until DH and I started trying the first time due to heavy periods. When I was put back on them after my first miscarriage, it was awful.
That being said, I didn't mean to imply we went "fuck it" and didn't bother. It was spur of the moment. I know I'm a fucking idiot for letting it happen no matter how you look at it. I shouldn't have let it get that far, no matter that it was only our third attempt in about 9 months.
I've been with DH for 15 years so we don't really have "spur of the moment" encounters but NO!
I mean, again, it's me we're talking about, but no. Just no.
I truly don't understand the whole married before babies thing kellrr. Come back and explain more!!!!!!!!
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
But you are the one giving the side-eye....
But hey, it's your opinion, we all have a UO someone else will dislike.
My confession is I've started researching CIO methodologies to consider that for DS. I'm reading up on it and talking to friends and family. It makes me sick to my stomach to think of letting LO cry but I feel like DH and I are getting close to our breaking points in the way of sleep deprivation. I don't know whether we will do it but I feel guilty even considering it.
I feel for you. We tried CIO at the recommendation of my pedi. I tried... I really did but strong will my son has. You have to do what works for you. No flames from me
How long did you try it for? Is he now sleeping through the night?
I truly don't understand the whole married before babies thing kellrr. Come back and explain more!!!!!!!!
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
After 4 years, our lives aren't more complicated because we're not married, we have a fucking baby. Of course life is complicated. We haven't been side eyed AT ALL. Because all that matters is that we are a happy family.
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
But you are the one giving the side-eye....
But hey, it's your opinion, we all have a UO someone else will dislike.
I think I finally figured out how to say it the way I mean it: people are judgy about babies when couples aren't married (I'll admit, no way in hell would I have done it because my family is very traditional.) Everyone knows that people are judgy about it, so why not be more careful so you don't have to deal with judgy people? I guess some people really don't give a shit, and are thick-skinned enough to deal with it, but this friend isn't the type not to care. Hell, my cousin and her husband got pregnant on their honeymoon, and people were judgy. I guess my opinion would be that nobody should care when the baby was conceived as long as the baby is loved, but they do, so either be ballsy enough to take it or be more careful. I can tell I'm in so much trouble already...
I truly don't understand the whole married before babies thing kellrr. Come back and explain more!!!!!!!!
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
Post by purplehippo on May 8, 2015 14:47:01 GMT -5
I do think it's ridiculous ...that wasn't the right word, it's more that I think it's really not smart when people get married simply because the girl got pregnant. Which is what my BIL did, and his life has been a living hell for the last 5 years.
I truly don't understand the whole married before babies thing kellrr. Come back and explain more!!!!!!!!
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
Wait, I don't understand what you're trying to say. Your original statement said something about side eyeing for having a baby out of wedlock, but you're comfortable with your one night stand friend co-parenting and then dating her baby daddy?
How would life be more complicated for one friend being engaged while pregnant?
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
Wait, I don't understand what you're trying to say. Your original statement said something about side eyeing for having a baby out of wedlock, but you're comfortable with your one night stand friend co-parenting and then dating her baby daddy?
How would life be more complicated for one friend being engaged while pregnant?
I feel more comfortable with my friend that waited two years to date the guy (they still don't even live together and baby is 3 now) because she didn't get together with him just because of the baby.
I feel for you. We tried CIO at the recommendation of my pedi. I tried... I really did but strong will my son has. You have to do what works for you. No flames from me
How long did you try it for? Is he now sleeping through the night?
I gave up after 3 days...
Edit to add I never actually left him. He was in his crib, but I was there patting his back every now and then. That was at the suggestion of my pedi as a more gentle approach. Even that was hard....
Oh, and because I realize it seemed evasive, I do think people, married or not, should be in a committed relationship (even if all you are committed to is raising children together) before having kids. I want to be that cool girl that says, "you do you!" But I think it's just way too damn hard to figure out how to parent together when you hardly know each other.
How long did you try it for? Is he now sleeping through the night?
I gave up after 3 days...
Edit to add I never actually left him. He was in his crib, but I was there patting his back every now and then. That was at the suggestion of my pedi as a more gentle approach. Even that was hard....
So, my pedi also said he needs to learn to self-soothe, and to start paci-popping if he wakes up MOTN.
Why do we want LO to develop a paci habit??
Though, I've been trying that, and some belly/head rubbing. It doesn't work. But I don't think I can stomach CIO. FML.
I truly don't understand the whole married before babies thing kellrr. Come back and explain more!!!!!!!!
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
I have thoughts.
1) You don't have to feel comfortable. So, let that one go. 2) She will be judged all the time, you're right. By people like you. Her "friends."
Seriously. Who are these people side-eying her? Strangers? How would they know she's not married? Why would they care?
Wait, I don't understand what you're trying to say. Your original statement said something about side eyeing for having a baby out of wedlock, but you're comfortable with your one night stand friend co-parenting and then dating her baby daddy?
How would life be more complicated for one friend being engaged while pregnant?
I feel more comfortable with my friend that waited two years to date the guy (they still don't even live together and baby is 3 now) because she didn't get together with him just because of the baby.
So you're saying that you're judging people who get married because someone is pregnant then? Right?
But hey, it's your opinion, we all have a UO someone else will dislike.
I think I finally figured out how to say it the way I mean it: people are judgy about babies when couples aren't married (I'll admit, no way in hell would I have done it because my family is very traditional.) Everyone knows that people are judgy about it, so why not be more careful so you don't have to deal with judgy people? I guess some people really don't give a shit, and are thick-skinned enough to deal with it, but this friend isn't the type not to care. Hell, my cousin and her husband got pregnant on their honeymoon, and people were judgy. I guess my opinion would be that nobody should care when the baby was conceived as long as the baby is loved, but they do, so either be ballsy enough to take it or be more careful. I can tell I'm in so much trouble already...
Gross! Did you ask for your money back? Also how in the fuck did you end up at that musical? I need to know who thought this would be a good idea?
First, I never paid for it. I had to go for work. Second, the Robertson Family thought it was a good idea...
No I thought you willingly went being in the business thought it might be entertaining. I didn't know it was a HAVE to thing. In that case ALL MY SYMPATHY
First, I never paid for it. I had to go for work. Second, the Robertson Family thought it was a good idea...
No I thought you willingly went being in the business thought it might be entertaining. I didn't know it was a HAVE to thing. In that case ALL MY SYMPATHY
Nope. Had clients working on it and they worked super hard. I have to see bad shit all the time.
Sorry! I had a meeting! I'm back! I am more concerned for my friend that they are getting married just because she's pregnant, although heartwood makes a good point that it's close enough that she may not have even known, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask. My other friend got knocked up by a one night stand, and had zero interest in the dude as a partner, but after 2 years of co-parenting, they started dating. I'm more comfortable with that. I think my statement was unclear. I'm happy as hell about the baby; I just don't want my friend to have life be more complicated because they aren't married. It makes me feel icky that she will get side-eyed all the time. It was WAY more awkward when my friend had the one-night-stand baby with the dude who made her get a paternity test.
I have thoughts.
1) You don't have to feel comfortable. So, let that one go. 2) She will be judged all the time, you're right. By people like you. Her "friends."
Seriously. Who are these people side-eying her? Strangers? How would they know she's not married? Why would they care?
I'll be honest, I agree with you. It's terrible that it even crossed my mind. That's why I'm ashamed about it. I think it's uncool of me to be so flamingly liberal and get hung up on this. I support gay marriage, legalization of marijuana, and think all the immigrants should be able to stay and get free education, but I clutch my pearls on this one. Maybe there's a camp where they can convert me?
No I thought you willingly went being in the business thought it might be entertaining. I didn't know it was a HAVE to thing. In that case ALL MY SYMPATHY
Nope. Had clients working on it and they worked super hard. I have to see bad shit all the time.
Yeah duck dynasty was not a great show. I'm not sure who thought that would be awesome in sing-song format. No. A thousand times no.
1) You don't have to feel comfortable. So, let that one go. 2) She will be judged all the time, you're right. By people like you. Her "friends."
Seriously. Who are these people side-eying her? Strangers? How would they know she's not married? Why would they care?
I'll be honest, I agree with you. It's terrible that it even crossed my mind. That's why I'm ashamed about it. I think it's uncool of me to be so flamingly liberal and get hung up on this. I support gay marriage, legalization of marijuana, and think all the immigrants should be able to stay and get free education, but I clutch my pearls on this one. Maybe there's a camp where they can convert me?
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