Bitchfest!

[icequeen]

Good morning! What's got you bitchin' today? Have a great week!

[reagan1010]

My bitch goes to DS's school. We were going to pay his tuition for next year with our rewards credit card to get the cash bacK, but they don't take Visa. They only accept Mastercard, American Express or Discover. Who doesn't take Visa?!?!

We just wrote a check, but we are missing out on close to $200 in cash back rewards now!

[silverspoon]

We've told a handful of people. I would prefer they didn't share, but I kinda feel like it's really on us for letting the cat out of the bag in the first place.

I understand not wanting to tell because it's early. That's my only concern. It's exciting news, but I'm not expecting anyone to wear a t-shirt or keep a memento for the occasion.

[Sparkly]

Okay, so I don't know this for sure, but DH & I were talking last night at dinner about when we would tell ILs. Well, we don't trust MIL not to blab to, well, everyone, so we want to wait. Then he mentioned she had asked him point blank a couple weeks ago (the week we found out, in fact) if I was pregnant. Thinking back, I had pregnancy tests (including the + ones) in my bathroom linen closet. I shoved them to the back, behind some stuff, they were absolutely not readily visible.

However, she was watching DD that day, and called me at work looking for sunblock to play outside. I called her back, almost immediately, and told her where it was (in a bag right by my desk in the dining room, a very obvious place), but when I got home, there was a tube of sunscreen out - the chemical kind, something cheap DH had bought for himself that I would never put on DD - that I am pretty sure was in that linen closet. The closet door was also open, when I had left it shut. I hadn't really thought of it at the time (though I was irritated she went looking and used that instead of what I told her!) but now I am thinking she must have been snooping, digging around in there and saw the tests.

My SIL also sent me a Mother's Day card with a whole bit about how the only thing better would be if we gave DD a little sister soon! It is all just making too much sense, timing-wise. She MUST have seen the tests. I am absolutely livid that she did that, and MH was all WHY DID YOU LEAVE THEM THERE? Which infuriated me even more, because he's blaming me when they were absolutely not in an obvious place. They were HIDDEN, in a private place, in a closet, that I SHUT THE DOOR, in my own home! There is NO REASON she should have found them unless she was digging around, moving stuff and being FUCKING NOSY!

I really have issues with my MIL, but this is like the icing on the cake. I try to get along with her, but I hate her. I hate how she gets all up in my business, tries to give advice and tell me how to parent, and she talks about me behind my back with family friends and mutual acquaintances all the time. I told DH she is absolutely NOT welcome in my home at all, ever when I am not there. I'm going to be away for work next week and I guarantee this won't be honored. I know she will be over there all the time, bringing DH food (her cooking is awful), and snooping around my house. Sometimes I wish we could move just to get away from her. She's so awful and has gotten so much worse over the years.

[walkek85]

I don't really have a bitch (for now) but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry to those, @sparkly & turtles, that are having trouble with their families. I know it is hard when the actions of others are out of your control in a situation that is entirely yours. Hopefully your family will come around and stop being ass-hats.

[Sparkly]

May 18, 2015 10:36:42 GMT -5 @iliketurtles said:

Sparkly, I am really sorry. Your MIL had no right to do that, or to tell anyone even if she did "accidentally" fall upon them looking for sunscreen. I would wait to confront her unless she confirms that she knows.

Oh I won't confront her. I hate confrontation. I have no desire to deal with that and I don't like her. If she fesses up when we do eventually tell everyone, I don't know what I will say or do. I would probably say something passive aggressive like how she must have been digging around pretty thoroughly for "sunscreen" if she found something that was well hidden and out of the way... especially when I had already called her back and told her where she could find it....NOT in that closet.

[icequeen]

reagan1010, how weird that they don't take Visa. So sorry you missed out on the $$, I would be so upset!
@iliketurtles, I'm sorry you feel like your news is being spread without your consent. I am tending to agree with silverspoon, though. Sometimes people just don't the personal importance of these announcements and you have to be aware of that from the get-go. I told my mom that we were having a girl and was waiting to tell DH when he got home from work, and my mom texted him immediately saying "Congrats on your baby girl!" He was like, "Wut?" Sooo that was fun. As for your mom, I would just enforce that you were just waiting for the right time to tell different people and to not take it personally.
Sparkly, seriously WTF is wrong with her?! How fucking malicious and invasive! Who does that shit? I know you have to deal with this constantly but that's just beyond awful. I would have a really hard time not asking her about the linen closet, or at least have YH confront her. I just can't take you being pushed around by her all the time and her getting away with it. Fuck. I'm so sorry, honey.

My bitch is DD's allergies. She is ok during the day, but at night she has the most horrible cough and it is keeping everyone up. She was coughing so badly that she threw up twice on Friday and Sunday night. I called the Dr's office and he may call a script in for her. I HATE seeing DD so miserable.

[silverspoon]

Sparkly I would have such a hard time not saying anything, but I absolutely understand why you wouldn't want to. That's bullshit that she snooped.

[Lollipop]

I'm my bitch. I'm super cranky, and my tolerance for people has gone from low, to zilch. I think I need to become a hermit until my mood levels out some

[peaseblossom55]

My mom is getting super nosy and getting far too ahead of herself. We saw her yesterday and she is already asking about names. Dh and I have barely discussed it. I'm pretty private and her wanting to know everything is pissing me off.

[Lollipop]

May 18, 2015 11:53:20 GMT -5 peaseblossom55 said:

My mom is getting super nosy and getting far too ahead of herself. We saw her yesterday and she is already asking about names. Dh and I have barely discussed it. I'm pretty private and her wanting to know everything is pissing me off.

My mom asked about names yesterday too. I was like "uhhhh. Still barely pregnant. We'll think of a name once we know what it is"

[diamondsndaisies]

Im Sorry Sparkly. I can't imagine having to deal with that. I agree with icequeen though and see if DH would say something to her. You have got to have your space.

[itsmeally]

Sparkly I'm punching your MIL in my mind.

My bitchfest is that I'm being a bitch. Hormones? Ugh. Like I'm biting my husbands head off and he even called me out on it. Nothing in particular or major. Just dumb little things.

We are taking my DD to the pedi today. She's coughing and wheezing. Poor nugget.

[diamondsndaisies]

May 18, 2015 12:04:04 GMT -5 Lollipop said:

May 18, 2015 11:53:20 GMT -5 peaseblossom55 said:

My mom is getting super nosy and getting far too ahead of herself. We saw her yesterday and she is already asking about names. Dh and I have barely discussed it. I'm pretty private and her wanting to know everything is pissing me off.

My mom asked about names yesterday too. I was like "uhhhh. Still barely pregnant. We'll think of a name once we know what it is"

FFMC-DH and I had names picked out before we got pregnant. They were pretty easy for us though because they are all family names. 

[silverspoon]

I asked my husband if I was being moody or if he thought I was extra emotional. He looked at me like a deer in headlights. He asked if that was a trap. I really wanted to know because I can't trust my own judgement at the moment.

He of course said no, I'm totally my normal self <---- He would not elaborate on "normal".

[icequeen]

peaseblossom55, hang in there girl! I know it's aggravating but I'm sure she's just overly excited, like my mom.
itsmeally, I hope LO feels better soon! We're in the same boat.
diamondsndaisies, I am obsessed with baby names and have been thinking about them since waaaay before I was pregnant.

[Lollipop]

May 18, 2015 12:06:59 GMT -5 diamondsndaisies said:

May 18, 2015 12:04:04 GMT -5 Lollipop said:

My mom asked about names yesterday too. I was like "uhhhh. Still barely pregnant. We'll think of a name once we know what it is"

FFMC-DH and I had names picked out before we got pregnant. They were pretty easy for us though because they are all family names. 

I totally could've picked names before conception, but H won't even discuss it until we know the sex. He doesn't see the point in picking an "extra" name lol. Dude's weird, but it saves me the effort of coming up with 2 (or 4) names.

[diamondsndaisies]

May 18, 2015 12:12:18 GMT -5 icequeen said:

peaseblossom55, hang in there girl! I know it's aggravating but I'm sure she's just overly excited, like my mom.
itsmeally, I hope LO feels better soon! We're in the same boat.
diamondsndaisies, I am obsessed with baby names and have been thinking about them since waaaay before I was pregnant.

I am excited about the girls name, but I am not in love with the boys name. I am not going to argue with it though because it is after DH's deceased gpa and he was very close with him, so it is really important to him. 

So, awesome nicknames for the name Gilbert.....and GO! 

[silverspoon]

My only request to my husband about names is that they not be named after anyone. Not the first name or the middle name. The only concession I'm really willing to make is his name for a boy's middle name.

[sumbeach]

UGH! DH is such an idiot sometimes. He says to me today "maybe we should get a cleaning lady" I CLEAN THE HOUSE EVERY SUNDAY top to bottom. I didn't this Sunday because I was tired. He makes all the messes, he leaves his shit everywhere. His side of the bathroom is a disgusting mess. How about you just stop being such a slob and we would be good to go.  Ugh. JERK  

[mrsoscarfelix]

I don't really know who this bitch is for, but I think it's me.

Back story is H's Dad has ALS and was diagnosed 2 years ago in October. My H has Mon and Tues off and one of the days or both, he spends over at his parents. I am starting to get so annoyed that he is over there so much - first off because half the time he is not visiting with his Dad, he just sits there with his mom. I wouldn't mind but he literally doesn't help me with anything around the house and I ask him to do stuff and he just says "I will" or "I was planning on it" but insists on going over there instead. I feel selfish because I shouldn't expect him to sit at home but can't you do something around the house to help? Or seriously can you be at home when I am not there? Why, why must you always go over there? Then he calls me today, which is over there AGAIN, and says that his moms god isn't getting along with ours - OK well your mom's dog is a little bitch and doesn't get along with anyone. I told him just to leave our dog at home then and he says he feels bad leaving her at home...ok then don't get sit at your fucking parents everyday!!!

I feel like I am just being selfish because of his Dad but it annoys me how much time he feels he needs to spend over there.

[silverspoon]

May 18, 2015 13:13:21 GMT -5 mrsoscarfelix said:

I don't really know who this bitch is for, but I think it's me.

Back story is H's Dad has ALS and was diagnosed 2 years ago in October. My H has Mon and Tues off and one of the days or both, he spends over at his parents. I am starting to get so annoyed that he is over there so much - first off because half the time he is not visiting with his Dad, he just sits there with his mom. I wouldn't mind but he literally doesn't help me with anything around the house and I ask him to do stuff and he just says "I will" or "I was planning on it" but insists on going over there instead. I feel selfish because I shouldn't expect him to sit at home but can't you do something around the house to help? Or seriously can you be at home when I am not there? Why, why must you always go over there? Then he calls me today, which is over there AGAIN, and says that his moms god isn't getting along with ours - OK well your mom's dog is a little bitch and doesn't get along with anyone. I told him just to leave our dog at home then and he says he feels bad leaving her at home...ok then don't get sit at your fucking parents everyday!!!

I feel like I am just being selfish because of his Dad but it annoys me how much time he feels he needs to spend over there.

Some of this I could have written.

My husband's mother passed away a few months before I met him from cancer. He basically moved back in with them to help take care of her. Then after she passed, he just stayed there. It wasn't until I moved in with him that he started living in his own house again. 

It's been four years now and he still cannot be home alone. If I'm gone, he's going to his dad's to do something. He always has to be over there helping his dad and I get pissed because our house legitimately needs work. He promised it will be finished this summer, but I have my doubts.  

Like last summer he spent all of it being at his dad's building a pole barn. Well we still need a new roof. He's a teacher and he has the summer off, but after a week of working at home he is gone again everyday.

[FrancesHouseman]

Sparkly - I'm really sorry about your MIL

I have a shitty MIL too, but at least MH recognizes it - there is no way she would be allowed in our house without us there - and even with that, she's been over twice in the last 6 months (she lives about 45 min away thankfully)

[Lollipop]

I have another one. The brakes went in H's car. We have to wait till either Friday or his tax return comes before we can get it fixed. Not really a huge deal, but it's frustrating. He's going to have to get a rental. Bus isn't an option, because the stupid thing doesn't come by our house early enough, and it's a LOONG bus ride.
And H doesn't get that if he'd gotten the stupid car checked more often, we would've been able to fix this before it made the car undriveable.

[heartwood]

May 18, 2015 12:14:05 GMT -5 diamondsndaisies said:

May 18, 2015 12:12:18 GMT -5 icequeen said:

peaseblossom55, hang in there girl! I know it's aggravating but I'm sure she's just overly excited, like my mom.
itsmeally, I hope LO feels better soon! We're in the same boat.
diamondsndaisies, I am obsessed with baby names and have been thinking about them since waaaay before I was pregnant.

I am excited about the girls name, but I am not in love with the boys name. I am not going to argue with it though because it is after DH's deceased gpa and he was very close with him, so it is really important to him. 

So, awesome nicknames for the name Gilbert.....and GO! 

I know a Gilbert that went by Gib.

[mrsoscarfelix]

May 18, 2015 13:54:26 GMT -5 silverspoon said:

May 18, 2015 13:13:21 GMT -5 mrsoscarfelix said:

I don't really know who this bitch is for, but I think it's me.

Back story is H's Dad has ALS and was diagnosed 2 years ago in October. My H has Mon and Tues off and one of the days or both, he spends over at his parents. I am starting to get so annoyed that he is over there so much - first off because half the time he is not visiting with his Dad, he just sits there with his mom. I wouldn't mind but he literally doesn't help me with anything around the house and I ask him to do stuff and he just says "I will" or "I was planning on it" but insists on going over there instead. I feel selfish because I shouldn't expect him to sit at home but can't you do something around the house to help? Or seriously can you be at home when I am not there? Why, why must you always go over there? Then he calls me today, which is over there AGAIN, and says that his moms god isn't getting along with ours - OK well your mom's dog is a little bitch and doesn't get along with anyone. I told him just to leave our dog at home then and he says he feels bad leaving her at home...ok then don't get sit at your fucking parents everyday!!!

I feel like I am just being selfish because of his Dad but it annoys me how much time he feels he needs to spend over there.

Some of this I could have written.

My husband's mother passed away a few months before I met him from cancer. He basically moved back in with them to help take care of her. Then after she passed, he just stayed there. It wasn't until I moved in with him that he started living in his own house again. 

It's been four years now and he still cannot be home alone. If I'm gone, he's going to his dad's to do something. He always has to be over there helping his dad and I get pissed because our house legitimately needs work. He promised it will be finished this summer, but I have my doubts.  

Like last summer he spent all of it being at his dad's building a pole barn. Well we still need a new roof. He's a teacher and he has the summer off, but after a week of working at home he is gone again everyday.

It is so frustrating, but I am so glad I am not the only one.

[Sparkly]

May 18, 2015 12:14:05 GMT -5 diamondsndaisies said:

May 18, 2015 12:12:18 GMT -5 icequeen said:

peaseblossom55, hang in there girl! I know it's aggravating but I'm sure she's just overly excited, like my mom.
itsmeally, I hope LO feels better soon! We're in the same boat.
diamondsndaisies, I am obsessed with baby names and have been thinking about them since waaaay before I was pregnant.

I am excited about the girls name, but I am not in love with the boys name. I am not going to argue with it though because it is after DH's deceased gpa and he was very close with him, so it is really important to him. 

So, awesome nicknames for the name Gilbert.....and GO! 

Gilby

[peaseblossom55]

Sparkly I'm sorry about your MIL that would really bother me. I'm hoping mine will keep ours a secret for the next few weeks. It's our news to tell.

I'm bitchy towards H I very rarely every complain about him but he plays recreational hockey, has games 3 nights a week. I was so exhausted I didn't want to do the grocery shopping but I needed food and he had a hockey game tonight. I'm pissy that he has hockey and couldn't help me out today and I'm feeling God awful today.

[missglitz]

Sparkly my MIL has similar boundary issues. Or, I have boundaries and she doesn't. When DS was born, she gave me every lecture in the book about how to parent him. I finally snapped and let her have it. She is currently out of the country visiting family (thank God) but will return soon and would no doubt be hounding me. She will be the LAST family member we tell.

My bitch is work. The leadership structure is all about to change and it's stressing me out. I'm not in a place to think through it rationally right now and it's pissing me off!

[icequeen]

mrsoscarfelix, I'm sorry that your husband isn't choosing his time wisely. So you're saying he goes to see his dad who is presumably very ill but only talks to his mom? It seems like he's using his dad's ALS to leave the house and that really sucks. I think it's great that he is so close to his family but he has to understand that you need him now more than ever. I would definitely have a serious talk with him and maybe cut down on the amount of time he spends there so the two of you could have a night out or he could help you with some of the chores.
diamondsndaisies, I like Gil, Gilby, Bert, Gilly. I really like just Gilbert by itself though.
peaseblossom55, how frustrating. I would definitely support him going to hockey 3 nights a week but it would be nice if on his way home he could pick up dinner or go grocery shopping over the weekend. I am a big proponent of being able to do your own thing, but right now he has to make a little more effort for you.