Post by teenybenoit on May 29, 2015 8:30:52 GMT -5
So I was told last Friday about the BO, I stopped progesterone on that day and spotting started a day or two after that. I have now been home a week, the spotting became bleeding but nothing very significant up to now. I mean I have had worse periods. Some bad pain, some tissue and clots. I'm just wondering at what point I need to go to the Dr and discuss either taking the cytotec or do I continue to wait or consider D&C? I won't be able to stay home from work next week as well but if I measured 5wks when I should have been 9wks was there maybe not as much to come out? Just wondering how to proceed?
Post by tiresiastheblond on May 29, 2015 9:08:13 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs. I don't know for sure when you need to go, because I already had a D&C scheduled when I miscarried on my own, so I just kept the appointment for monitoring purposes. As soon as your bleeding seems to be tapering off, though, I'd go in just to confirm that everything is out.
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Post by teenybenoit on May 29, 2015 9:11:13 GMT -5
It's weird because each time has been different for me, the first was immediate, the 2nd time I had spotted the whole time so it progressed pretty quickly. This time I was not spotting until I stopped the progesterone. Since then it has been slow going. I think I'm just anxious to go back to normal again.
I'm so sorry this is dragging along for you. With my most recent loss, at 5wks 2days, there was very little actual bleeding. Like you said, I've had worse periods. Actually, the following period was way worse. That being said, I'm always in camp "check in with the dr". They may tell you it sounds normal and to wait a bit, or they may want an u/s to see what has happened. If you're still having lots of cramping, I would push for that? Again, I'm so sorry. The waiting sucks on top of all the other awfulness. Hope it's over soon.
Ugh, I hate that the process is going so slow for you. I understand wanting it to be over in order to start moving on.
If I were in your situation I would definitely call the Dr and see what they say. I had all 3 of mine naturally and each time I went to track my Beta's to zero. It was obvious when I miscarried though. It was much worse than a period each time.
It's sucks not knowing and I would definitely be hounding my Dr.
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Post by teenybenoit on May 29, 2015 20:18:14 GMT -5
I'm going to go to the clinic tomorrow to get my betas checked. Had some really big clots tonight so might be done. Such mixed emotion. I'm sad but relieved and the feel guilty for relief. Fuck.
Post by PiradicalMaid on May 29, 2015 20:47:24 GMT -5
I'm so sorry this is dragging out for you. I had almost 2 weeks of bleeding/spotting. The bleeding was very light for the most part except for one time I soaked a pad. Other than that, much less bleeding/cramping than my normal periods. I should have been 8 weeks.
I would think you could call any time if you decided you wanted a D&C. I had one tentatively scheduled but I decided not to do it. Other than that, I just had my WTF appointment and the beta draws.
If you feel like seeing someone or talking with someone would be helpful, I wouldn't hesitate to call and/or go in. This is such a terrible thing to have to go through and if anything can make it even a little easier I think you should feel free to reach out to your provider.
Hope things slow down soon. Hugs.
ETA: I know what you mean about relief and guilt. I know it isn't easy, but try to be gentle with yourself and know that what you're feeling is really normal. It's relieving and heartbreaking to move on. Necessary and unwanted. I think everyone here understands.
Post by hollyberry on May 30, 2015 11:54:40 GMT -5
I am so sorry, I dont really have anything to add, but I always go to the dr. I like being told things are going the way they are supposed to, or getting fixed up. Either day, I always would go, it doesn't hurt and hopefully they will do a US and you can know where to go from there!
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Post by teenybenoit on May 30, 2015 14:01:33 GMT -5
I had my betas drawn this morning and I am down to 93 so they have told me to come back next Saturday and once I'm down to 0 they will do the ultrasound. I find I'm fragile today, my body is so good at letting go. ;(
Try not to be frustrated of the betas are slow getting to zero. I went every other day and the lower the number got, the longer it seemed to take. Not sure if that was just my luck or normal.
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DX: Me: slightly hypothyroid, taking meds DH: SA Showed all low levels, urologist appointment showed all was normal, so no reason why the levels were bad.
Plan: IUI #1 Aug. 25mg clomed, to help boost egg quality - BFN IUI #2 Sept. 25mg clomed, BFN IUI#3 Dec. BFP!! TWINS Edd: Aug. 22, 2016
Try not to be frustrated of the betas are slow getting to zero. I went every other day and the lower the number got, the longer it seemed to take. Not sure if that was just my luck or normal.
Mine went the same way.
teenybenoit I also had mixed feelings about my body being "good" at this... I find some peace in the fact that it did what it needed to do. Still, of course, I wish that hadn't been what it was doing.
So sorry that this is such a drawn out process for you, and I can imagine you are anxious to get this behind you and go back to 'normal' again. This brings back a lot of memories and emotions for me, I remember so well feeling the same. It is difficult to move onto the next phase and grief and all when the MC is still ongoing, I felt, too.
I just read your update on your beta appt, and I'm sorry they won't do an U/S until your beta's are down to 0. I realize a medically assisted MC will be different then miscarrying naturally.. but still wanted to share my experience. At the hospital here they never even checked my betas at all, but I did get an U/S a week following the cycotec. I stopped bleeding the day after taking the cytotec and I thought that was it, but to my surprise (and h orror) the check up U/S showed the MC had been incomplete. The bleeding picked up again and I passed bits and pieces but an U/S 1.5 weeks later still showed leftover tissue so I was scheduled for a d/c 3 weeks after the original medically-assisted MC. If your betas are down to zero next week, I guess that tells enough, but if they're not and you don't feel good with the unknown and waiting, I would demand an U/S earlier on. A bit of peace of mind is worth TONS, and there's no need to draw out this horrible process any longer then necessary imho.
Don't feel guilty about feeling relieved.. imho that's an absolutely normal feeling - though so are the mixed emotions.. been there done that and it confused the heck out of me.. I don't think there's anything wrong or bad about feeling relieved to be able to move past the physical part of a MC. Be kind to yourself *hug*
Post by teenybenoit on May 31, 2015 18:19:32 GMT -5
Thank you so much, it helps to be able to check in here daily...sometimes every few minutes to know I'm not alone and that I'm surrounded my so many amazing women that sadly have experienced the same thing and are the only ones who totally get how you feel and why. I'm ok for the most part. I'm feeling anxiety about work tomorrow. But I think that's expected. I will let you all know how the week progresses. Hugs.
I don't have much advice, I just really wanted to say that I'm so sorry this is dragging on for you, and I feel for how much pain you're in. As far as the medical aspect of it is concerned, my best advice is to call your doctor if you feel the slightest doubt about anything you're experiencing. When I was going through my loss, I called more times than I can count. That's what they're there for, and it's worth it to put your mind at ease. If you aren't sure something is normal, or are confused about what comes next, definitely call!
I'm glad checking in here helps. I hope you'll continue to do so, and keep us updated. I'm sending so many good thoughts, prayers and hugs your way.
Yes, me too! Hope you managed to get through your work day in one piece and it wasn't too bad, I know you were anxious about going back to work. *hugs*
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