DS was sick Friday-Sunday with a fever and diarrhea. I felt bad for the little guy, but really loved all the extra cuddles. Normally he hated sitting still and wants to be on the move, but this weekend all he wanted to do was snuggle.
What time do you guise give you LO his/her last solids at night? I had been doing it at 7:30 right before our bedtime routine but my kid pooped twice in the MOTN last night and it made me think I should move up our solids? Just curious what you do.
He gets some puree at daycare and then he gets some of whatever we are eating for dinner around 6-6:30 (if we have time, otherwise he skips solids at night). He takes a bottle around 7 then bed by 7:30.
I'm not caught up but the daycare just called and I have to go pick up my baby because he is throwing up. Seriously, the kid was fine all weekend. He was damn near angelic this morning. And the pedi said everything looked great when we went to the appointment on Friday.
Too bad he couldn't hold off 40 more minuets. Then at least I would have worked a half day. Womp womp.
Aw! I wish Baby Eye-Robi would start feeling better soon!!
What time do you guise give you LO his/her last solids at night? I had been doing it at 7:30 right before our bedtime routine but my kid pooped twice in the MOTN last night and it made me think I should move up our solids? Just curious what you do.
Around 5:30/6 with bed time at 7. Never middle of the night poops but sometimes early morning.
Regarding the last solids feeding of the day we usually have the last feeding around 5PM at the latest. DD is in bed by 7PM and she takes a 6-7 oz bottle before bed, so I try not to go any later than 5. I think it all depends on your schedule. I also have no time to make my own purees. I buy jars. LOTS of jars At least its organic?
Post by windwithfingers on Jun 8, 2015 13:52:18 GMT -5
Therapy was canceled today and I completely forgot so I went home to see DS but no one was there when I got there. Waited 15 minutes and they came home and DS was passed out. Back at work now. I guess I'll just finish watching Mockingjay.
I almost forgot: yesterday, we hung out at my parents and DS and DH took a 2-hour nap together while I painted my nails (and made smores). It was awesome.
Also, now I feel like I need to try and get domperidone and try that before I wean. Is that stupid? Why is this such an emotional deal?
Dude you do what ever you feel like you need to do. But I'm done and my supply has always been perfectly fine. pumping that often in a day I would jump off the roof so I don't know how you've done it this far.I'm just doing the partial ween so I'm still going to BF at night
Also, now I feel like I need to try and get domperidone and try that before I wean. Is that stupid? Why is this such an emotional deal?
It is hard at any point to wean bc it has been ingrained in us that babies deserve what is best. And all the propaganda says "breast is best"
You have to do whatever you need to do in order to survive. If weaning something that you feel it is time to do then let yourself be free of the damn mommy guilt.
Many of us have had positive feelings post weaning.
Also, now I feel like I need to try and get domperidone and try that before I wean. Is that stupid? Why is this such an emotional deal?
It's emotional because you're made to feel bad for "giving up" because you need to give up yourself and your desires and sanity to power pump for 16 hours every weekend and drink 100oz of water and generally kill yourself and your happiness for your baby. Except you don't. A lot of us have weaned and it's emotional in that you don't have that particular closeness anymore, but you do gain a different kind of closeness with the bottle-feeding that is just as precious. Plus independence and less stress/worry.
And for the record, domperidone is not approved for use in the US. You have to find ways to buy it elsewhere. There's a risk of heart murmurs and cardiac arrest that is said to outweigh any benefit it might have.
Also, now I feel like I need to try and get domperidone and try that before I wean. Is that stupid? Why is this such an emotional deal?
It's emotional because you're made to feel bad for "giving up" because you need to give up yourself and your desires and sanity to power pump for 16 hours every weekend and drink 100oz of water and generally kill yourself and your happiness for your baby. Except you don't. A lot of us have weaned and it's emotional in that you don't have that particular closeness anymore, but you do gain a different kind of closeness with the bottle-feeding that is just as precious. Plus independence and less stress/worry.
And for the record, domperidone is not approved for use in the US. You have to find ways to buy it elsewhere. There's a risk of heart murmurs and cardiac arrest that is said to outweigh any benefit it might have.
Yeeeesh- don't do this just to feed J breastmilk. NOT WORTH IT, Seriously...you're super mom anyway.
It's emotional because you're made to feel bad for "giving up" because you need to give up yourself and your desires and sanity to power pump for 16 hours every weekend and drink 100oz of water and generally kill yourself and your happiness for your baby. Except you don't. A lot of us have weaned and it's emotional in that you don't have that particular closeness anymore, but you do gain a different kind of closeness with the bottle-feeding that is just as precious. Plus independence and less stress/worry.
And for the record, domperidone is not approved for use in the US. You have to find ways to buy it elsewhere. There's a risk of heart murmurs and cardiac arrest that is said to outweigh any benefit it might have.
Yeeeesh- don't do this just to feed J breastmilk. NOT WORTH IT, Seriously...you're super mom anyway.
When I look at what you wrote, windwithfingers, I realize how much I'm really giving up to do this. I need me back. I'm just going to start with supplementing whatever I don't pump. And then go from there. It doesn't have to be an overnight decision. I can even partially wean. I just can't keep stressing about this every other week.
There are some shitty people in my life, and I know they will say, "I told you so. I knew you couldn't do it." And that pisses me off.
Yeeeesh- don't do this just to feed J breastmilk. NOT WORTH IT, Seriously...you're super mom anyway.
When I look at what you wrote, windwithfingers, I realize how much I'm really giving up to do this. I need me back. I'm just going to start with supplementing whatever I don't pump. And then go from there. It doesn't have to be an overnight decision. I can even partially wean. I just can't keep stressing about this every other week.
There are some shitty people in my life, and I know they will say, "I told you so. I knew you couldn't do it." And that pisses me off.
FUCK EM!! and exactly, it doesn't have to be all or nothing.
Yeeeesh- don't do this just to feed J breastmilk. NOT WORTH IT, Seriously...you're super mom anyway.
When I look at what you wrote, windwithfingers, I realize how much I'm really giving up to do this. I need me back. I'm just going to start with supplementing whatever I don't pump. And then go from there. It doesn't have to be an overnight decision. I can even partially wean. I just can't keep stressing about this every other week.
There are some shitty people in my life, and I know they will say, "I told you so. I knew you couldn't do it." And that pisses me off.
Sorry if any sarcasm I used made you feel bad. But you didn't fail! 8 months of breastfeeding, or 9 months, or whatever it ends up being is totally "doing it"! Those people can fuck right off. You for sure don't have to stop cold turkey! You can drop a pump and add a bottle of formula, you can do what mrsbabe614 is doing and keep nursing at night, you can wean super slowly and just supplement. You have a lot on your plate, and you made it this long EBF. You don't have to give up your body, your sanity, and your happiness. J will be just as happy and healthy on Similac.
Hugs. I get stressed about this because I weaned before I wanted to and sometimes I still feel guilty and I get sad that we say how "devastated" we'd be if we had to stop, because in the long run, we feed our kids and we love and nurture our kids and that's what matters.
Also, now I feel like I need to try and get domperidone and try that before I wean. Is that stupid? Why is this such an emotional deal?
I talked about this with my therapist this morning. It doesn't seem like it should be emotional but it is.
I can tell you that if you are wanting to wean for more reasons than just supply issues and because you want to have that part of yourself back again, and you really have a desire to be done. I wouldn't continue to stress about it. I worried SO much and it was unnecessary. My therapist asked me today, how I got through that and my response was that I finally gave myself permission, and that it was OK for me to be happy and content in giving that aspect of my life up. You are still a great mom, and nothing will change when you wean. Your baby will still be a happy healthy baby!! That doesn't change that this is very much emotional for us, but it was seriously very relieving for me personally to be done on so many levels. The process of accepting it is hard, but once I did, it was a weight off of my shoulders.
Yeeeesh- don't do this just to feed J breastmilk. NOT WORTH IT, Seriously...you're super mom anyway.
When I look at what you wrote, windwithfingers, I realize how much I'm really giving up to do this. I need me back. I'm just going to start with supplementing whatever I don't pump. And then go from there. It doesn't have to be an overnight decision. I can even partially wean. I just can't keep stressing about this every other week.
There are some shitty people in my life, and I know they will say, "I told you so. I knew you couldn't do it." And that pisses me off.
But you did do it for 8 months. That my friend is not failure. J had all the bewb milk.
Yeeeesh- don't do this just to feed J breastmilk. NOT WORTH IT, Seriously...you're super mom anyway.
When I look at what you wrote, windwithfingers, I realize how much I'm really giving up to do this. I need me back. I'm just going to start with supplementing whatever I don't pump. And then go from there. It doesn't have to be an overnight decision. I can even partially wean. I just can't keep stressing about this every other week.
There are some shitty people in my life, and I know they will say, "I told you so. I knew you couldn't do it." And that pisses me off.
Don't listen to those assholes! What you said in the bolded is a great way to approach it. Just take it one step at a time, it doesn't have to be all or nothing right away.
I was worried about what people might say (2 in particular) I just said F it, it's my life not theirs and I need to be happy. Also unless other people have done this, they have no idea what it takes
apk4 when I bought that first can of formula I cried because I felt like a shitty mom. Then I gave her a bottle and realized how dumb it was to feel guilty for feeding my baby. We still snuggled and she drank her bottle and that was that. Zero fucks. The only thing that changed was I didn't have to take my top off.
When I look at what you wrote, windwithfingers, I realize how much I'm really giving up to do this. I need me back. I'm just going to start with supplementing whatever I don't pump. And then go from there. It doesn't have to be an overnight decision. I can even partially wean. I just can't keep stressing about this every other week.
There are some shitty people in my life, and I know they will say, "I told you so. I knew you couldn't do it." And that pisses me off.
Sorry if any sarcasm I used made you feel bad. But you didn't fail! 8 months of breastfeeding, or 9 months, or whatever it ends up being is totally "doing it"! Those people can fuck right off. You for sure don't have to stop cold turkey! You can drop a pump and add a bottle of formula, you can do what mrsbabe614 is doing and keep nursing at night, you can wean super slowly and just supplement. You have a lot on your plate, and you made it this long EBF. You don't have to give up your body, your sanity, and your happiness. J will be just as happy and healthy on Similac.
Hugs. I get stressed about this because I weaned before I wanted to and sometimes I still feel guilty and I get sad that we say how "devastated" we'd be if we had to stop, because in the long run, we feed our kids and we love and nurture our kids and that's what matters.
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