Random Thoughts on Wednesday

[kellrr]

Jun 10, 2015 12:16:47 GMT -5 sweetsurprise said:

Jun 10, 2015 11:59:20 GMT -5 geetargirl05 said:

Hey people! I've been lurking in the shadows since vacation. Man, I'm struggling to get back into the routine. How did I get everything done every day?? Now the laundry and dishes are piled up and DS is getting more and more mobile so he requires more attention. He starting pulling to standing yesterday and going from laying down to sitting today. It's crazy. These babies are almost toddlers.

This! I need a sister wife.

Yah, I thought a nanny would help with this. She even stays 45 minutes after DH gets home so that, in theory, he can do laundry, wash dishes, start dinner. He does nothing. I get home and he's just drinking a beer and they are both playing with DS.

[mrsbabe614]

Jun 10, 2015 11:59:20 GMT -5 geetargirl05 said:

Hey people! I've been lurking in the shadows since vacation. Man, I'm struggling to get back into the routine. How did I get everything done every day?? Now the laundry and dishes are piled up and DS is getting more and more mobile so he requires more attention. He starting pulling to standing yesterday and going from laying down to sitting today. It's crazy. These babies are almost toddlers.

NOOOOOOOOOOO

[mrsbabe614]

Jun 10, 2015 11:55:46 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jun 10, 2015 11:33:02 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

I hope you wore underwear

Of course! Who do you think I am, spurp13?

[mrsbabe614]

So DD already tells me "no"....I'm so screwed. I'll be like here eat this and she's all

[windwithfingers]

Paging mrsbabe614, do your ILs still give you shit about the car seat?

I am having car seat drama with my ILs.

[mrsbabe614]

Jun 10, 2015 12:57:38 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Paging mrsbabe614, do your ILs still give you shit about the car seat?

I am having car seat drama with my ILs.

No but they haven't even asked me since she's not in the infant seat anymore. What's going down with your IL's?

[lrobi13]

Jun 10, 2015 12:23:07 GMT -5 kellrr said:

Jun 10, 2015 12:16:47 GMT -5 sweetsurprise said:

This! I need a sister wife.

Yah, I thought a nanny would help with this. She even stays 45 minutes after DH gets home so that, in theory, he can do laundry, wash dishes, start dinner. He does nothing. I get home and he's just drinking a beer and they are both playing with DS.

Say what??  Um, no sir.  I guess I would just plop my happy ass down and clear my throat and remind him to get to work.  This is one of the many reason I married an older guy who gets shit done.

I think I'm the lazy one in our house.

Also, DH texted me and said we are all good for lo to come over to his work this afternoon.  His co-worker's wife will be there with their little girl (just made a year) so hopefully she can help DH out.

[lrobi13]

Oh and I'm a sweet treat for mosquitos. They are our state bird so it is real fun for me outside. I notice them about 10 minutes before other people do.

[windwithfingers]

Jun 10, 2015 13:01:21 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

Jun 10, 2015 12:57:38 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Paging mrsbabe614, do your ILs still give you shit about the car seat?

I am having car seat drama with my ILs.

No but they haven't even asked me since she's not in the infant seat anymore. What's going down with your IL's?

They told me a long time ago that they bought a seat for DS, which was fine. I never took him out to the car when they picked him up until recently, because I am lazy and figured they had it covered. Saw the seat and realized it was expired. In 2011. And it was buckled in incorrectly (even though there were pictures on how to buckle it in RIGHT THERE ON THE SIDE and they don't have a base). Asked about it, was told they were given the seat by a friend. Told them they needed a new seat, went inside, got my infant seat, buckled it in correctly, showed them what they were doing wrong, and sent them on their way. I took their infant seat and didn't give it back. FIL texts me a Craigslist ad for a convertible seat asking if it was okay. I said no, you need to buy a new one. I have no way of knowing if it's a new one or not when they actually get it without looking at the expiration date. I'm considering just making it so they can't pick him up or drive him anywhere unless I approve their seat. I also realized after I saw a picture that they don't put the chest clip at armpit level and they don't even tighten the straps! Ugh. It's freaking me out.

I guess I don't have a question, just sort of venting.

[mrsbabe614]

Jun 10, 2015 13:08:26 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:01:21 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

No but they haven't even asked me since she's not in the infant seat anymore. What's going down with your IL's?

They told me a long time ago that they bought a seat for DS, which was fine. I never took him out to the car when they picked him up until recently, because I am lazy and figured they had it covered. Saw the seat and realized it was expired. In 2011. And it was buckled in incorrectly (even though there were pictures on how to buckle it in RIGHT THERE ON THE SIDE and they don't have a base). Asked about it, was told they were given the seat by a friend. Told them they needed a new seat, went inside, got my infant seat, buckled it in correctly, showed them what they were doing wrong, and sent them on their way. I took their infant seat and didn't give it back. FIL texts me a Craigslist ad for a convertible seat asking if it was okay. I said no, you need to buy a new one. I have no way of knowing if it's a new one or not when they actually get it without looking at the expiration date. I'm considering just making it so they can't pick him up or drive him anywhere unless I approve their seat. I also realized after I saw a picture that they don't put the chest clip at armpit level and they don't even tighten the straps! Ugh. It's freaking me out.

I guess I don't have a question, just sort of venting.

No, I didn't think it was a question because obviously we argue so I can't adult. I don't even give the option to drive anymore either. I always take her or say NOPE! I've taught them how to strap her in correctly and all that though. SO FUCKING AWKWARD and ANNOYING! Why in the fuck don't older people research this shit? 

I'm just going down the street. Why you gotta get all bent out of shape dude?!?!

[meagpt22]

Jun 10, 2015 9:49:04 GMT -5 jellykat2 said:

Jun 10, 2015 8:51:21 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

How do I have mosquito bites already? I don't do outside.

My H is a mosquito magnet. We'll be at the same outdoor event and he'll get 50 bites and I'll maybe get 3. Apparently it's genetic - with how certain people smell, because both his siblings are the same. I really hope our dd doesn't inherit this trait from him.

We're the same way and I also hope she's like me and not get bit as much.

[mrsbabe614]

windwithfingers I however would've lost my shit so high five!

[keelyd]

Jun 10, 2015 13:08:26 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:01:21 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

No but they haven't even asked me since she's not in the infant seat anymore. What's going down with your IL's?

They told me a long time ago that they bought a seat for DS, which was fine. I never took him out to the car when they picked him up until recently, because I am lazy and figured they had it covered. Saw the seat and realized it was expired. In 2011. And it was buckled in incorrectly (even though there were pictures on how to buckle it in RIGHT THERE ON THE SIDE and they don't have a base). Asked about it, was told they were given the seat by a friend. Told them they needed a new seat, went inside, got my infant seat, buckled it in correctly, showed them what they were doing wrong, and sent them on their way. I took their infant seat and didn't give it back. FIL texts me a Craigslist ad for a convertible seat asking if it was okay. I said no, you need to buy a new one. I have no way of knowing if it's a new one or not when they actually get it without looking at the expiration date. I'm considering just making it so they can't pick him up or drive him anywhere unless I approve their seat. I also realized after I saw a picture that they don't put the chest clip at armpit level and they don't even tighten the straps! Ugh. It's freaking me out.

I guess I don't have a question, just sort of venting.

I would not allow them to drive him until they get this sorted out.  Not okay.

ETA and send you pics that he's buckled in correctly.

[windwithfingers]

Jun 10, 2015 13:19:18 GMT -5 keelyd said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:08:26 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

They told me a long time ago that they bought a seat for DS, which was fine. I never took him out to the car when they picked him up until recently, because I am lazy and figured they had it covered. Saw the seat and realized it was expired. In 2011. And it was buckled in incorrectly (even though there were pictures on how to buckle it in RIGHT THERE ON THE SIDE and they don't have a base). Asked about it, was told they were given the seat by a friend. Told them they needed a new seat, went inside, got my infant seat, buckled it in correctly, showed them what they were doing wrong, and sent them on their way. I took their infant seat and didn't give it back. FIL texts me a Craigslist ad for a convertible seat asking if it was okay. I said no, you need to buy a new one. I have no way of knowing if it's a new one or not when they actually get it without looking at the expiration date. I'm considering just making it so they can't pick him up or drive him anywhere unless I approve their seat. I also realized after I saw a picture that they don't put the chest clip at armpit level and they don't even tighten the straps! Ugh. It's freaking me out.

I guess I don't have a question, just sort of venting.

I would not allow them to drive him until they get this sorted out.  Not okay.

I want to go with them to BRU while they buy him a seat. That's not crazy, right? They have already proven they cannot be trusted.

[MrsTinMKE]

GUISE - I just realized I am the ONLY ONE LEFT in the office - WHY AM I STILL HERE?!?!?!?

[mrsbabe614]

Jun 10, 2015 13:22:10 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:19:18 GMT -5 keelyd said:

I would not allow them to drive him until they get this sorted out.  Not okay.

I want to go with them to BRU while they buy him a seat. That's not crazy, right? They have already proven they cannot be trusted.

I just saw the other thing. HOLY FUCK! How do you not lose your shit with them? He's their grandson...which means you as mom make all the decisions. Draw the line in the sand now. If they feel like they need to buy their own damn seat I would go with them. Totally not out of line. After that other shit they pulled? I wouldn't trust anything, nope. No driving.

[keelyd]

Jun 10, 2015 13:22:10 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:19:18 GMT -5 keelyd said:

I would not allow them to drive him until they get this sorted out.  Not okay.

I want to go with them to BRU while they buy him a seat. That's not crazy, right? They have already proven they cannot be trusted.

No that's not crazy -- and I would show them pics/videos of why it's important to and how to buckle him in correctly.  Let me check the CSFL website and see if I can find you some links.

[sweetsurprise]

Jun 10, 2015 13:25:27 GMT -5 MrsTinMKE said:

GUISE - I just realized I am the ONLY ONE LEFT in the office - WHY AM I STILL HERE?!?!?!?

Run!

[windwithfingers]

Jun 10, 2015 13:26:05 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:22:10 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

I want to go with them to BRU while they buy him a seat. That's not crazy, right? They have already proven they cannot be trusted.

I just saw the other thing. HOLY FUCK! How do you not lose your shit with them? He's their grandson...which means you as mom make all the decisions. Draw the line in the sand now. If they feel like they need to buy their own damn seat I would go with them. Totally not out of line. After that other shit they pulled? I wouldn't trust anything, nope. No driving.

I do get angry and sit them down and talk to them like on the regular, but then they do new shit. This carseat thing, a huge ass pile of blankets in the PNP, using the same bottle of formula at 1pm that they made at 8am... The list goes on.

[keelyd]

windwithfingers:
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csftl.org/expired-seats/

csftl.org/resources/archives/best-practice-archive/properrf/

csftl.org/do-you-do-the-pinch-test/

[sweetsurprise]

DS is CRAZY obsessed with our dog and cat. He laughs like crazy when he sees them. However he also pulls their fur out by the handful. Right now I'm just saying 'gentle!!' And trying to stop him or unclenching his fist of fur after the fact. Anyone else have a better strategy?

[lrobi13]

windwithfingers, I sent my mom a link to Amazon for the seat she bought for DS. It was like $50. Why are they being such idiots about this?

Is his safety not important to them? I always remind my mom about the chest clip and the straps bc that is my right.

Grrr. I am so mad for you right now.

[sweetsurprise]

Jun 10, 2015 13:29:09 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:26:05 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

I just saw the other thing. HOLY FUCK! How do you not lose your shit with them? He's their grandson...which means you as mom make all the decisions. Draw the line in the sand now. If they feel like they need to buy their own damn seat I would go with them. Totally not out of line. After that other shit they pulled? I wouldn't trust anything, nope. No driving.

I do get angry and sit them down and talk to them like on the regular, but then they do new shit. This carseat thing, a huge ass pile of blankets in the PNP, using the same bottle of formula at 1pm that they made at 8am... The list goes on.

[keelyd]

Jun 10, 2015 13:29:09 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:26:05 GMT -5 mrsbabe614 said:

I just saw the other thing. HOLY FUCK! How do you not lose your shit with them? He's their grandson...which means you as mom make all the decisions. Draw the line in the sand now. If they feel like they need to buy their own damn seat I would go with them. Totally not out of line. After that other shit they pulled? I wouldn't trust anything, nope. No driving.

I do get angry and sit them down and talk to them like on the regular, but then they do new shit. This carseat thing, a huge ass pile of blankets in the PNP, using the same bottle of formula at 1pm that they made at 8am... The list goes on.

I know you're finally at a pretty good place with them, but it might be worth it to make a list of non-negotiables since they do take him overnight every weekend.  Basic health and safety things have to be on that list.  Suffocation, food poisoning, and car seat dangers are all serious and legitimate concerns.  If they can't handle those basic things, then maybe they can't take him overnight.

[lrobi13]

Jun 10, 2015 13:31:21 GMT -5 sweetsurprise said:

DS is CRAZY obsessed with our dog and cat. He laughs like crazy when he sees them. However he also pulls their fur out by the handful. Right now I'm just saying 'gentle!!' And trying to stop him or unclenching his fist of fur after the fact. Anyone else have a better strategy?

We are totes in the same boat.  I have no suggestions.  Ihave been letting DS look as if he is the one feeding the dog and helping give treats in hopes that the dog sees lo as a source of yummies.  Like that would make him less crazed when DS follows him around the living room.

[lrobi13]

Jun 10, 2015 13:32:33 GMT -5 keelyd said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:29:09 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

I do get angry and sit them down and talk to them like on the regular, but then they do new shit. This carseat thing, a huge ass pile of blankets in the PNP, using the same bottle of formula at 1pm that they made at 8am... The list goes on.

I know you're finally at a pretty good place with them, but it might be worth it to make a list of non-negotiables since they do take him overnight every weekend.  Basic health and safety things have to be on that list.  Suffocation, food poisoning, and car seat dangers are all serious and legitimate concerns.  If they can't handle those basic things, then maybe they can't take him overnight.

keelyd is all up in here adulating yo!  Somebody better warn TheMooseIsLoose that somebody else can adult too!

[lrobi13]

MrsTinMKE, bail!

[windwithfingers]

Jun 10, 2015 13:32:33 GMT -5 keelyd said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:29:09 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

I do get angry and sit them down and talk to them like on the regular, but then they do new shit. This carseat thing, a huge ass pile of blankets in the PNP, using the same bottle of formula at 1pm that they made at 8am... The list goes on.

I know you're finally at a pretty good place with them, but it might be worth it to make a list of non-negotiables since they do take him overnight every weekend.  Basic health and safety things have to be on that list.  Suffocation, food poisoning, and car seat dangers are all serious and legitimate concerns.  If they can't handle those basic things, then maybe they can't take him overnight.

Yeah, these are all sepearate issues that I've corrected at different times. The PNP thing was back in April, the formula thing was at the end of May, and now we're onto the carseat thing. I think I'll do what lrobi13 did and send them a link.

Thanks for the links keelyd!

[mrsbabe614]

Jun 10, 2015 13:32:33 GMT -5 keelyd said:

Jun 10, 2015 13:29:09 GMT -5 windwithfingers said:

I do get angry and sit them down and talk to them like on the regular, but then they do new shit. This carseat thing, a huge ass pile of blankets in the PNP, using the same bottle of formula at 1pm that they made at 8am... The list goes on.

I know you're finally at a pretty good place with them, but it might be worth it to make a list of non-negotiables since they do take him overnight every weekend.  Basic health and safety things have to be on that list.  Suffocation, food poisoning, and car seat dangers are all serious and legitimate concerns.  If they can't handle those basic things, then maybe they can't take him overnight.

This exactly. Especially if you can't trust them which I know is major because you get "you" time but what the fuck?! These are all huge massive lines they crossed. I guarantee you they will fold. They don't want to lose that time. I would also maybe send a car seat link to Amazon of what you've approved for purchase. 

[Jennifer18131]

Is it 4:00 yet?! I'm ready to go to NOLLLAAAAAAAAAAAAAA