Hello all (intro w/loss)

[iwantbacon]

Hello everyone. I've bern lurking in and off for the past two months and thought I should finally be polite and introduce myself. At 9w1d, an ultrasound showed no heartbeat and was measuring around 6w. While betas remained high, a follow up u/s also showed no growth or heartbeat.

I had a D&C on 4/30. The procedure and recovery went smoothly (at least the physical part) and I was back at work the following day. Unfortunately, my betas are taking their sweet time dropping. U/s showed some retained product, so another round of methergine taken. Was hoping this would do the trick, but at7.5 weeks post-D&C, betas are hovering at 28.

I thought I had my first AF this past weekend, but I'm now extra confused. This has been such a mind F. I just want this physical part to be over so I can move forward.

[nikolie93]

I am sorry that you find yourself here, but welcome. *hugs*

I am also sorry that your betas are taking their sweet time dropping. I can't imagine how frustrating that must be. I know what you mean by wanting the physical part to be over because the mental healing doesn't really begin until it's all over with.

I don't have any experience with it taking so long for the betas to drop. What is the next course of action from your Dr?

[NatalieDavid]

I'm sorry you are finding yourself here but this is an amazing group of supportive women. I know what you mean about the healing part. I haven't had my betas checked so I'm waiting for AF so I know I can start fresh. It helps your mind to move on from the loss to potential. Take care of yourself!

[fionnathehuman]

I'm so sorry for your loss, hugs.

[hollyberry]

I am so sorry that you are here. I really hope that what you had was AF, why are you confused? Was it just really short? Know that it is possable for it to change or be weird after a loss, but if you are worried then go to a dr. I know I would. Its all so hard! I know I always feel bad about bothering dr.s but that is what they are there for, and you will thank yourself if there is still more tissue or something. I hope it gets sorted out soon! So many hugs.

[iwantbacon]

Jun 24, 2015 13:22:22 GMT -5 hollyberry said:

I am so sorry that you are here. I really hope that what you had was AF, why are you confused? Was it just really short? Know that it is possable for it to change or be weird after a loss, but if you are worried then go to a dr. I know I would. Its all so hard! I know I always feel bad about bothering dr.s but that is what they are there for, and you will thank yourself if there is still more tissue or something. I hope it gets sorted out soon! So many hugs.

I've been spotting for the past month, so I'm not sure if what I had over the past few days was a legit period or just the tail end of my body trying to get things out. I've reached out to the doctor's office several times and am just waiting to hear back on what's next after the most recent results. It's a very prolonged state of limbo with a lot of waiting.

At my last visit, OB had me take methergine, but almost prescribed I think misoprostol. If that's still a possibility, I'm hoping they can call it in sooner rather than later.

[fionnathehuman]

Waiting sucks. I am sorry this has been happening to you... keep us updated after your Dr calls u back. I am keeping my Fx for you. I hope things get back on track. Hugs

[hollyberry]

iwantbacon, ugg, that sounds frustrating with the dr. I hope it gets figured out soon. Its awul not really knowing whats going on, hugs! Definitely keep us updated!

[teenybenoit]

I am sorry for your loss. Waiting can really be hard on the brain. My betas remained at 14 for a few weeks but my ultrasound on the 17th revealed that all the tissue was gone.
I started my first AF since my MC today. Just in time for my 24 hour road trip...yippee...not.
I can remember a time after my 2nd mc where I was excited to see it come back, now I just feel meh!
Take care of yourself and welcome, these ladies are wonderful and supportive. Hugs.

[zimni]

Hi iwantbacon,

Am so sorry for your loss. My ultrasound after my first MMC also had showed retained products. Though I repeated the medicine, no bleeding happened and the doc told me to wait for AF as it should all get cleared then. it did. 

If you think you had AF, then maybe a consultation with doc and an ultrasound might clear the picture..?

Hugs to you in this difficult time. This is a a very supportive group and I hope you find all the strength and comfort you need during this painful journey. Hugs.

[nikolie93]

Hi iwantbacon just checking in to see how you're doing!

[vivela]

I'm so sorry for your loss iwantbacon. I hope you've gotten some clearer answers since you first posted. The limbo stage is really hard when you want to move on emotionally and your body isn't cooperating.