Finally some answers to my recurrent losses

[zimni]

Hi there,

Been away for a while now from this forum to simply sort myself and get the answers we needed. And I did both!

A quick intro about myself: Three miscarriages in a year (3rd was a chemical), the last one in this March. I finally consulted a fertility specialist. Many tests later I am told that I have a balanced translocation (BT), which essentially means that two of my chromosomes are mis-arranged; hubby's all reports are normal. 

As tough it is to accept the situation, we now know that our recurring losses are happening because the right chromosome combination hasn't happened in all previous pregnancies. Don't know how soon we start trying again, but knowing the reason has helped me to face what lies ahead - that we could be in for more heartbreaks before we see our bundle of joy. There are other options in terms of IVF and PGD, but we might try naturally till the doc says not to.

I wanted to share with you my journey because it is such a tough one, and my heart goes out to everyone struggling with repeated losses. 

I would love to hear from anyone who has/is dealing with balanced translocation. I joined a forum on yahoo that has people dealing with the same thing. Is there a place here too to discuss BT?

A big thank you to you wonderfully supportive ladies who listened to my story in March. I cannot correctly express what it meant to have an outlet to share those emotions, which not many in the real world can comprehend. <Hugs>

[nikolie93]

Although the reason sucks, it's nice to see you again! I was wondering how you were doing and I am glad you were able to sort things out AND get answers. We never want anything to be wrong but it's so hard when there is no explanation. I am happy this gives you what you need to be able to move on.

Thank you for coming back and sharing your story

As for your BT question, I have no experience. You may get some answers here but you can also intro in CAL (conceiving after a loss), there may be some ladies there that have experience.

Good luck as you move on with your journey!

[hollyberry]

Hi there!

well as much as having answers that may not be what you would want, answers are good. You can move forward knowing what you are up against. Hugs! I am just now in the process of testing after my 2 losses. I just got a chomosome test done this week so I have no idea what it could bring yet.

I also would recommend what nikolie93, said and into on CAL, that board is busier and you may find people with the same issue there.

Thanks for coming back and updating us, I am glad that you took the time for yourself to feel better as well. That is so important!

[fionnathehuman]

Hello,

I am sorry for your losses...

Even thought the news are not good about the BT I understand how important it feels to have an answer.
I have no experience with Bt... I just had the blood drawn this week and I am x waiting on my chromosome test results.

I am glad you found support here. It IS a wonderful place.

Good luck on your journey! Hugs

[zimni]

Jun 26, 2015 10:11:18 GMT -5 nikolie93 said:

Although the reason sucks, it's nice to see you again! I was wondering how you were doing and I am glad you were able to sort things out AND get answers. We never want anything to be wrong but it's so hard when there is no explanation. I am happy this gives you what you need to be able to move on.

Thank you for coming back and sharing your story

As for your BT question, I have no experience. You may get some answers here but you can also intro in CAL (conceiving after a loss), there may be some ladies there that have experience.

Good luck as you move on with your journey!

hey nikolie93, You are amazing, with all the kind and positive words that you have for everyone who comes in here! Thank you

I would be checking in the CAL group, once I am ready to try again. 

<hugs>

[zimni]

Jun 26, 2015 10:33:42 GMT -5 hollyberry said:

Hi there!

well as much as having answers that may not be what you would want, answers are good. You can move forward knowing what you are up against. Hugs! I am just now in the process of testing after my 2 losses. I just got a chomosome test done this week so I have no idea what it could bring yet.

I also would recommend what nikolie93, said and into on CAL, that board is busier and you may find people with the same issue there.

Thanks for coming back and updating us, I am glad that you took the time for yourself to feel better as well. That is so important!

Hi hollyberry,

Answers are definitely good to have. When I got my chromosome results, a part of me sunk, but weirdly a big part simply felt relieved to know that all the pain and heartbreak of one year has a biological explanation. It is a force I cannot fight, but as you said, it surely helps to know what you are dealing with. 

Sending a prayer your way that your genetic test comes back all okay. Hang in there. I will be around here in case you feel the need to connect during this process!

<Hugs>

[zimni]

Jun 26, 2015 21:14:13 GMT -5 fionnathehuman said:

Hello,

I am sorry for your losses...

Even thought the news are not good about the BT I understand how important it feels to have an answer.
I have no experience with Bt... I just had the blood drawn this week and I am x waiting on my chromosome test results.

I am glad you found support here. It IS a wonderful place.

Good luck on your journey! Hugs

Thank you fionnathehuman for your kind words. Sending a prayer your way, hoping for normal result on your test! <Hugs>

[nikolie93]

zimni, I know how it can be jumping into CAL if you aren't yet trying again but there is a new place here called The Bench where ladies are trying to avoid for different reasons and different timelines.

If you feel like hanging out, you can always drop in! It's not as busy as the other boards on here so I just want to pass it on

Hope you have a nice weekend.

[teenybenoit]

It's good you got answers. It gives me hope that we might get clear answers as well which is something I have been wondering about.
My hubby and I just experienced our 3rd loss in May, we got the lab paperwork to go get the keryotyping done but decided to wait until after our vacation. Sometimes I need a break from this constant concentration on babies and TTC.
Good luck with the path you are on and I will let you know if we end up with the same results. Hugs.

[zimni]

Jun 27, 2015 14:56:45 GMT -5 teenybenoit said:

It's good you got answers. It gives me hope that we might get clear answers as well which is something I have been wondering about.
My hubby and I just experienced our 3rd loss in May, we got the lab paperwork to go get the keryotyping done but decided to wait until after our vacation. Sometimes I need a break from this constant concentration on babies and TTC.
Good luck with the path you are on and I will let you know if we end up with the same results. Hugs.

Sending a prayer your way that your results turn out normal. A break does a world lot of good - unfortunately this journey to baby isn't the simplest for us. Have a great vacation, and allow yourself to do things that make you smile and heart glow, and gives you a renewed energy to tackle the tests and TTC ahead.

Hugs!

[vivela]

I'm sorry for everything you've been through. Having a straight answer about your losses must relieving and frustrating all at once. Best of luck to you guys.

[fionnathehuman]

Jun 27, 2015 10:56:52 GMT -5 zimni said:

Jun 26, 2015 21:14:13 GMT -5 fionnathehuman said:

Hello,

I am sorry for your losses...

Even thought the news are not good about the BT I understand how important it feels to have an answer.
I have no experience with Bt... I just had the blood drawn this week and I am x waiting on my chromosome test results.

I am glad you found support here. It IS a wonderful place.

Good luck on your journey! Hugs

Thank you fionnathehuman for your kind words. Sending a prayer your way, hoping for normal result on your test! <Hugs>

Got my rest results today and it came out normal. I happy with that but got super frustrated when the nurse said : " your tests came out normal so having a baby should be no problem" WTF, no problem for who?

[nikolie93]

fionnathehuman, ugh, some people should just be quiet!

Glad it came out ok though

[zimni]

Jul 9, 2015 15:03:56 GMT -5 fionnathehuman said:

Jun 27, 2015 10:56:52 GMT -5 zimni said:

Thank you fionnathehuman for your kind words. Sending a prayer your way, hoping for normal result on your test! <Hugs>

Got my rest results today and it came out normal. I happy with that but got super frustrated when the nurse said : " your tests came out normal so having a baby should be no problem" WTF, no problem for who?

Yayy! That is good, positive news to hear.   

Gosh, of all people you would think a healthcare personnel will be more sensitised in their choice of words! it's alright, just pay no heed. Go on and celebrate one test hurdle crossed in your ttc journey. 

[fionnathehuman]

Jul 10, 2015 1:58:06 GMT -5 zimni said:

Jul 9, 2015 15:03:56 GMT -5 fionnathehuman said:

Got my rest results today and it came out normal. I happy with that but got super frustrated when the nurse said : " your tests came out normal so having a baby should be no problem" WTF, no problem for who?

Yayy! That is good, positive news to hear.   

Gosh, of all people you would think a healthcare personnel will be more sensitised in their choice of words! it's alright, just pay no heed. Go on and celebrate one test hurdle crossed in your ttc journey. 

Thank you! I am less mad at that girl today so I am enjoying the good news!

Have a good day ladies!

[karla45]

Hey, How are you? Hope you are fine. Welcome to this forum. Thanks for sharing your worries with us. I hope you will get good piece of advice here. Really sorry for your losses my dear. Life is the name of ups and downs. Being positive and faith ful is the key. Your time will come.Dont loose hope.

[Eric Watson]

Hey Zimni! Hope so you are doing good. I just read your post. I really felt sorry to know about your miscarriage. No one can feel the grief of a mother dealing with such issues. You don't have to be so upset. In a modern World, everything is possible. You should also consult with some clinics in Europe. I have got many great reviews about them. A lot of infertile couples fulfilled their wish from there. I think you should contact them.

My sympathies

[sarahlietzo]

Miscarriages are very hard to deal with. I had 3 miscarriages. I was also lost and broken. My husband left me. Now i am married for second time and i have decided to go for surrogacy now to have a baby. Surrogacy is a blessing for people like me. I hope you should also find some method to get rid of these losses. Good luck to you.

[lisa88]

Hello. How are you doing now? I am really sorry to know about you loss. I know it must be heart breaking for you. You don't have to lose hope. It is a part of life. Remember, stars can't shine without darkness. I am sure a right time will come. Don't get worried. Sending my love and support for you.

[lindajames998]

Hey there. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I know it must be hard to deal with all that. In just one year. I know the pain you have. I have had a discharge too. But be strong. Don't give up. things will get better. IVF is really a blessing. I hope you go for it. don't lose hope. I wish you good luck. take care. Hoping to hear more soon.

[debra]

I am really sorry about your condition. It is really sad that you had a series of miscarriages. It is a great thing that your reason of consecutive miscarriages is found out. These recurrent losses are because of balanced relocation. It is not something unusual. In many miscarriages this is the major cause. It is a very complicated process. It happens due to the chromosomal malfunctioning. The chromosomes are the major element in the reproduction. Any kind of chromosomal imbalance can result in pregnancy complication. The worst of these complications is the miscarriages. It is the least a mom or a father to be can think of. In the balanced translocation there i no genetic deficiency in any of the parents. The embryo also acquires the similar genetic strength. During the pregnancy a piece of a chromosome gets separated from the original nd attaches to another one. As the eggs and the sperms start fertilization the gentic material related to them either increases or decreases. Depending on this chromosomal malfunctioning the mother faces miscarriage. I hope that you will soon get over this problem. There are treatments with the doctors. I hope you have a good news to share with us soon.

[alyssa]

hey there! I hope you are doing great. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I must say you are really strong for what you've been through is seriously painful. I had two miscarriages and I was devastated. I was in so much pain because I was told that I will never be able to conceive. I went for surrogacy, and I am really happy that I went for it. it was such an amazing and beautiful process. it gave me twins.

[Eric Watson]

Dear Zimni! I hope you will be all right. After reading your post I really felt very sorry for you to know about your miscarriage. No one can feel the grief of a mother dealing with such issues. You don't have to be so upset. In a modern World, everything is possible. You should also consult with some clinics in Europe. I have got many great reviews about them. A lot of infertile couples fulfilled their wish from there. I think you should contact them. Happiness will be waiting for you
My Prayers are with you

[Glenna Johnson]

Hi, dear. I am feeling very sorry for your losses. Well, my dear, this is part of life. I am really feeling very sorry for all these things. But my dear this is not your fault. You have to be patient. Well, the only option for you to conceive naturally waits. You have to wait for some time. But be faithful things will come to you very soon. Hope so words will help you to cope with all this.

[rosiejames]

I just hope everything is going well at your side. I know it must be so much heart-wrenching for you. Dear, life is like a war. One should have enough courage to fight against any type of circumstances. Remember, every dark cloud has a silver lane. All you can do is to wait for the right time. Just be formal and wish for the best. Baby dust to you!

[Glenna Johnson]

Hey Zimni. How are you doing? Well, my dear, I am really feeling sorry for your losses. It's really not an easy thing for women to get rid of these type of shocks. But dear you should try again. This is the only way of happiness. A miracle happens every day. If you had a fear of failing then you should try for infertility treatments. Wish you best of luck.

[rj]

Hi, how are you? I hope you are doing great. I am not the one who suffers fro it. Being a mother I can understand your pain. It was really hard for you. The best thing you find your answers. My best wishes are with you.

[Evie_224]

Hey Zimni! How are you? I just read your post. I really felt so sad to know about your condition. It's a rare thing. I think you should go with some alternate methods like surrogacy or IVF. In this way, the doctors will rearrange the chromosomes before their combination with sperm. Just don't lose hope. Just pay heed to the goals. I hope you will be successful. And also try to find the best clinic for it. Some clinics in Europe that has a great reputation Worldwide for such treatments. I think you should go there. I hope success will be yours.

All my sympathies are with you

[Glenna Johnson]

Hey Zimni. How are you doing? Hope so you are feeling better now. Well, my dear, I am feeling really very sorry for you. Indeed this is not your fault. Things will definitely work for you just be patient. All I can give you is hope and suggestion. I think my dear you should go for surrogacy. Because it is the safest way and it has more chances of success. And also child will be carried by surrogate so there will bo problem. The choice is yours. Sending you positive vibes.

[lika966]

Many people are talking about surrogacy here. I thought i should also share my experience with surrogacy with you people here.

I am from Japan and was happily married. I had hysterectomy cancer from early stage. I went for the treatment and i was cancer free. But this resulted in lifetime infertility. First 6 years of our marriage passed on happily roaming around the world. After 6 years we both felt the need of our children. But we both knew that i am infertile. So my husband decided that we will go through surrogacy to have a baby.