Saturday in the park...randoms.

[citybee]

Jan 24, 2015 10:47:34 GMT -5 mango said:

I'm having the sads today because a local mom group said I couldn't join them. They are part of MOMS & their bylaws require that members live in a specific zip code. Well, I live about 5 min outside of their zip code & there are no moms groups in my zip code. She was like "let me know if you want information on starting your own chapter!" Umm no thanks. I work 32 hr/wk & I'll be moving away when my kid is 15 months old. I know it's not her fault, but it sucks. My only other options to meet local moms, it seems, are religious moms groups that meet at churches (not happening), or LLL. I looked at MeetUp, too, but there are only groups for young moms, or moms > 35... or multiple moms, or other groups I don't fit into.

WTF? That seems so odd to me. Who gives a shit if you live 5 minutes outside of the zip code? I don't see how it affects them at all to have you join. Sorry they won't let you join.

[rquinlin]

Good morning ladies! And Happy Saturday! I hope all you ladies with showers today have a wonderful time and the weather doesn't dampen your fun too much!

I have a few different Randoms today, but they're all different topics and since I'm tired of being a noob, I'm going to do separate posts. I'm cool like that! Love y'all!

[bluebell0315]

Jan 24, 2015 10:47:34 GMT -5 mango said:

I'm having the sads today because a local mom group said I couldn't join them. They are part of MOMS & their bylaws require that members live in a specific zip code. Well, I live about 5 min outside of their zip code & there are no moms groups in my zip code. She was like "let me know if you want information on starting your own chapter!" Umm no thanks. I work 32 hr/wk & I'll be moving away when my kid is 15 months old. I know it's not her fault, but it sucks. My only other options to meet local moms, it seems, are religious moms groups that meet at churches (not happening), or LLL. I looked at MeetUp, too, but there are only groups for young moms, or moms > 35... or multiple moms, or other groups I don't fit into.

That's jacked up!

[luckystarz]

mango that's asinine.

[mrsh924]

Morning ladies!
Have fun your showers ladies! I'm so behind in dates that mine isn't for another month. Oh well.
AFM, I'm planning on getting my nails done this morning and then it's off to the mall to find some cute little things for my shower hostesses. I'm starting at Lush so knowing me, I'll get plenty. We're possibly going to dinner tonight with some friends and having lunch tomorrow with my parents for my moms birthday. She wanted to go to a Korean BBQ and I couldn't be more excited. There's always tons-o-food and you can't go wrong with Kimchi. So far I haven't had the heartburn, so I'm trying to eat all the spicy I can.
beccaj25 it's supposed to be 60 in Denver this weekend so enjoy your time here! Sounds like you'll be leaving the snow.

[mrsh924]

Jan 24, 2015 10:47:34 GMT -5 mango said:

I'm having the sads today because a local mom group said I couldn't join them. They are part of MOMS & their bylaws require that members live in a specific zip code. Well, I live about 5 min outside of their zip code & there are no moms groups in my zip code. She was like "let me know if you want information on starting your own chapter!" Umm no thanks. I work 32 hr/wk & I'll be moving away when my kid is 15 months old. I know it's not her fault, but it sucks. My only other options to meet local moms, it seems, are religious moms groups that meet at churches (not happening), or LLL. I looked at MeetUp, too, but there are only groups for young moms, or moms > 35... or multiple moms, or other groups I don't fit into.

That's ridiculous! I'm sorry to hear that. Even if it is in their bylaws you would think they could make an exception.

[rquinlin]

Random 1: My nursery bedding finally shipped yesterday! Hooray! I custom ordered it back in late Nov, they said it would be late Jan until it shipped, but I was starting to get antsy. January seemed a long ways from March back in November, it doesn't seem so far now! I can't wait to actually see it. I've seen swatches and seen the mock up, but I can't wait to see the actual finished product. I know custom bedding is a crazy indulgence, but I did it with DD and I was always so proud of the room I created for her. I just had to do it again, especially since that nursery no longer exists. The company also had matching curtains, mobiles, and lamps. So yeah, might have been a major splurge, but we don't have to buy near as much stuff for this LO as we did for DD. This is my justification at least. Unfortunately, the company called me yesterday and said my lamp was on back order until late Feb. Boo! Not the biggest deal in the world. How hard is it to plug in a lamp? But I would've liked to have it all done. Maybe it'll get here before V is born. FX!

[sunset30]

Sorry to everyone out there struggling with the back pain, hip pain, and sleep issues. I feel your pain!

I am overanalyzing our decision on a car seat. Since there is not much traffic yet on the baby gear board, hoping you all have some insights. We live in a city, live in a high rise apartment building, and walk most places, we drive like once a week or something to the grocery store or Target. We got the UppaBaby Cruz stroller, and registered for the Uppa Baby Mesa since it fits seamlessly into the stroller and looks so sleek and has fine reviews. The more I read about the mesa, I'm not convinced its the best choice and am leaning towards the Chicco KeyFit since the Chicco gets awesome reviews and is a lot cheaper.

I'm struggling whether its worth it to splurge and pay like $90 more for the Mesa and or just go with the Chicco. We got the infant snug insert into the stroller so we can use it with a newborn. How often do you actually put the baby in the car seat and snap it into the stroller or would we be ok just using the infant snug seat insert in the stroller when we go out? Is it worth getting the adapter for the Chicco to fit on the stroller (which eats away half the savings of the Chicco) so we have the infant seat when we are out and about shopping, going for dinner, or walking around? Ugh, why is this so complex!?

[sunset30]

Jan 24, 2015 11:33:36 GMT -5 rquinlin said:

Random 1: My nursery bedding finally shipped yesterday! Hooray! I custom ordered it back in late Nov, they said it would be late Jan until it shipped, but I was starting to get antsy. January seemed a long ways from March back in November, it doesn't seem so far now! I can't wait to actually see it. I've seen swatches and seen the mock up, but I can't wait to see the actual finished product. I know custom bedding is a crazy indulgence, but I did it with DD and I was always so proud of the room I created for her. I just had to do it again, especially since that nursery no longer exists. The company also had matching curtains, mobiles, and lamps. So yeah, might have been a major splurge, but we don't have to buy near as much stuff for this LO as we did for DD. This is my justification at least. Unfortunately, the company called me yesterday and said my lamp was on back order until late Feb. Boo! Not the biggest deal in the world. How hard is it to plug in a lamp? But I would've liked to have it all done. Maybe it'll get here before V is born. FX!

Awesome! Very exciting. Did you order from Carousel designs? I ordered from there as well and am excited to see my order when it arrives. It definitely was a bit more expensive but their stuff looks so beautiful and seems to get awesome reviews. 

[frecklesinside]

Jan 24, 2015 6:41:56 GMT -5 earthian said:

Im wide awake at 5 am. Between my husband snoring, dd1 kicking me all night and my hips absolutely killing me I think I can safely say goodbye to sleep...forever it feels like.

Im probably gonna be a grump today.

I hope everyone's weekend goes well though, anyone have any fun plans?

I liked this out of commiseration. I CANNOT get comfortable at night and my husband sleeps through *everything*. E is having this terrible sleep regression that has been going on for over a month now...she wakes up in the MOTN and will NOT go back to sleep unless she joins us in bed. Now, I don't mind bed sharing but we simply don't have any space! I'm so uncomfortable between my huge belly and her sealing herself to me all night long (because she never seals to daddy!) 

Sorry for the vent, I just am so sick of not getting any rest. And laying down isn't even comfortable...like, zero positions are comfortable.

OK. Rant done. 

[rquinlin]

Random 2: DH told me this morning that DD complained to him about her car seat yesterday on the way to school. She called it a baby seat, it's a convertible. I knew this was coming. Most (if not all) of her friends are in high backed boosters. I knew she'd been noticing this. She's technically big enough for a booster, but I was trying to hold off and keep her in a five point harness as long as possible. We have to get two since DH takes her to school and I pick her up, so I don't want to get a $300 one. I did a little research this morning on what was relatively easy for me to buy and won't break the bank. I found the Evenflo RightFit was one I like. Does anyone have any experience with these or a different recommendation? I looked on CSFTL, but their full review on that one wouldn't pull up. TIA ladies!

[busterrose]

I'm just so tired and in so much pain.
My H finally finished painting the nursery last night. Progress! I wanted to clean it up today but I'm supposed to be resting per doctor's orders. My nesting instinct is in overdrive today.

[frecklesinside]

Jan 24, 2015 10:21:08 GMT -5 bnizzlebizzle said:

Morning all! Re sleep: things have gotten much better since my husband decided to permanently sleep in another room. His snoring was keeping me up and my incessant poking of him was keeping him up. I miss morning snuggles though and I'll still wake up for bathroom visits.

I have a huge pile of papers to grade and lesson plans to do. I forgot my computer charger at work so I have to buy another one since I always leave my charger at work. It's snowing too hard for me to drive though so I guess I'll be grading all day today and planning all day tomorrow. I am counting down the days until maternity leave.

Dude, I do NOT miss this shiz. At.all. Ugh, I hope you get some free-from-teacher-shit time this weekend. 

[frecklesinside]

Jan 24, 2015 10:47:34 GMT -5 mango said:

I'm having the sads today because a local mom group said I couldn't join them. They are part of MOMS & their bylaws require that members live in a specific zip code. Well, I live about 5 min outside of their zip code & there are no moms groups in my zip code. She was like "let me know if you want information on starting your own chapter!" Umm no thanks. I work 32 hr/wk & I'll be moving away when my kid is 15 months old. I know it's not her fault, but it sucks. My only other options to meet local moms, it seems, are religious moms groups that meet at churches (not happening), or LLL. I looked at MeetUp, too, but there are only groups for young moms, or moms > 35... or multiple moms, or other groups I don't fit into.

This SAME thing happened to me. Obnoxious. IME, unfortunately, it is really hard to find a mom group that works for you where you jive with the members and can actually make some friends. I've tried out a variety of groups through MeetUp and have no mom friends to show for it...It's so silly because I KNOW most moms are looking for mom friends, so why is it so hard to find any?? Making friends later in life is hard. And being a working mom trying to be part of groups is hard. All activities are catered to SAHMs which really sucks. There are hardly any evening/weekend programs or meet ups. 

[rquinlin]

Jan 24, 2015 11:37:43 GMT -5 sunset30 said:

Jan 24, 2015 11:33:36 GMT -5 rquinlin said:

Random 1: My nursery bedding finally shipped yesterday! Hooray! I custom ordered it back in late Nov, they said it would be late Jan until it shipped, but I was starting to get antsy. January seemed a long ways from March back in November, it doesn't seem so far now! I can't wait to actually see it. I've seen swatches and seen the mock up, but I can't wait to see the actual finished product. I know custom bedding is a crazy indulgence, but I did it with DD and I was always so proud of the room I created for her. I just had to do it again, especially since that nursery no longer exists. The company also had matching curtains, mobiles, and lamps. So yeah, might have been a major splurge, but we don't have to buy near as much stuff for this LO as we did for DD. This is my justification at least. Unfortunately, the company called me yesterday and said my lamp was on back order until late Feb. Boo! Not the biggest deal in the world. How hard is it to plug in a lamp? But I would've liked to have it all done. Maybe it'll get here before V is born. FX!

Awesome! Very exciting. Did you order from Carousel designs? I ordered from there as well and am excited to see my order when it arrives. It definitely was a bit more expensive but their stuff looks so beautiful and seems to get awesome reviews. 

We did order from Carousel! Their stuff was beautiful and my sister ordered from them for her son and highly recommended them! I can't wait!

[toastercat]

All this talk about bacon made me remember I have some in my fridge! I'm about to go sizzle that shit up!

I also really had to poop this morning but I think my fetus is pinching my intestines shut like a hose. After my shower this morning I got super dizzy as I was trying to lotion of my corpulent body so I sat on the terlet to steady myself. Lo and behold, the gods of poo smiled upon me and I triumphed! This is shaping up to be a grand Saturday indeed!

[jcar]

mango that's ridiculously stupid. There's a moms/parenting group I follow on FB that has occasional meet ups that I could send you info on (I believe it's you who lives in the same area as I). I haven't actually made any mom friends yet but I'd love to. It's so hard when you work full time.

[frecklesinside]

K made me bacon this morning. It was glorious.

[rquinlin]

Random 3: DH told me last night one of his sisters has volunteered to come stay with us before/after baby...for a MONTH! Not sure how I feel about this. She wouldn't actually be staying in our house, I would put her in one of the ranch's guest houses, but still.... We didn't have anyone come stay with us when DD was born and we did fine, but I also didn't have a 4.5 yo to take care of. Plus DD's Spring Break falls right at the very beginning of having LO and I don't know how I can entertain DD for a week out of school and take care of a brand new baby. My EDD is the 8th and SB starts on the 9th. If I choose a RCS, doc wants to do it the week before so I would be one week out of a csection. Obviously, DH will be taking that time off from his "real" job, but the ranch will still need to be cared for. That's a 24/7/365 job. Agriculture stops for no man. I think DH really wants his sister to come. His family wasn't really involved when DD was born. His dad had passed away while I was pregnant (his mom passed a few years before that) and his family was very fractured at the time. Nothing bad, just ten siblings trying to figure out their new normal and how to relate to each other without parents. I think it made DH sad they weren't involved last time. Add to that, I've kind of felt out my mother about helping and she hasn't really been committed. My sister can't help me much, she's CFO for a large corporation and will have a six month old of her own. Andplusalso, if I have a RCS, the hospital is an hour away from DD's school and I really don't want her to miss a whole week of school while I'm in the hospital. I don't have a clue what we're going to do with her. So much is up in the air not knowing how L&D is going to play out. I hate this! I'm a planner by nature and this situation is making me twitchy and anxious. I really need to talk to DH about this more and see what he really wants to do. Maybe not the whole month. Maybe he can tell his sister we appreciate her help and welcome it, but explain once we have our feet under us we'll let her know and she can go home. IDK.... I'm not sure if I'm actually asking for advice from you ladies or just needed to get my thoughts out, but your comments on the situation are as always welcome. Sorry for the wall post. There's a lot on my mind.

[katydid2015]

I am kind of sad that PB changed "love tits" to "validates your feels". Were people offended by "tits"? My husband is in Germany for work and they slipped a day so they got to go to a little village/town on their day off. He texted a few pics to me and it is so gorgeous. I'm totes jelly. He said it is freaking freezing though and there was a blizzard like right after they left.

I'm obsessed with that Bruno Mars Uptown Funk song. I think it is so fun and upbeat and makes me want to dance. I'm such a dork.

I should really be cleaning something around here but I don't want to get off the couch. And add me to the crappy sleep camp. I start out on my left side but then about 2-3 hours later I have to pee and the left side of my nose will be stopped up so I get up to pee and readjust my snoogle so I can sleep on my right side so my nose gets unstopped. FF a few hours and the right side of my nose is stopped up and I have to pee again, repeat process. This happens 3-4 times a night. The weight of baby in my belly is starting to become an issue when laying on my side too, I need to have a pillow up against me to support my stomach otherwise it feels like my belly is hanging to the side and it's not comfy to say the least.

[frecklesinside]

Jan 24, 2015 12:17:27 GMT -5 katydid2015 said:

I am kind of sad that PB changed "love tits" to "validates your feels". Were people offended by "tits"? My husband is in Germany for work and they slipped a day so they got to go to a little village/town on their day off. He texted a few pics to me and it is so gorgeous. I'm totes jelly. He said it is freaking freezing though and there was a blizzard like right after they left.

I'm obsessed with that Bruno Mars Uptown Funk song. I think it is so fun and upbeat and makes me want to dance. I'm such a dork.

I should really be cleaning something around here but I don't want to get off the couch. And add me to the crappy sleep camp. I start out on my left side but then about 2-3 hours later I have to pee and the left side of my nose will be stopped up so I get up to pee and readjust my snoogle so I can sleep on my right side so my nose gets unstopped. FF a few hours and the right side of my nose is stopped up and I have to pee again, repeat process. This happens 3-4 times a night. The weight of baby in my belly is starting to become an issue when laying on my side too, I need to have a pillow up against me to support my stomach otherwise it feels like my belly is hanging to the side and it's not comfy to say the least.

I liked love tits too! But, I also like validates your feels and find it more humorous. Love tits had history from TB though, but maybe that is why they got rid of it? 

[ruemorgan]

Jan 24, 2015 12:12:57 GMT -5 rquinlin said:

Random 3: DH told me last night one of his sisters has volunteered to come stay with us before/after baby...for a MONTH! Not sure how I feel about this. She wouldn't actually be staying in our house, I would put her in one of the ranch's guest houses, but still.... We didn't have anyone come stay with us when DD was born and we did fine, but I also didn't have a 4.5 yo to take care of. Plus DD's Spring Break falls right at the very beginning of having LO and I don't know how I can entertain DD for a week out of school and take care of a brand new baby. My EDD is the 8th and SB starts on the 9th. If I choose a RCS, doc wants to do it the week before so I would be one week out of a csection. Obviously, DH will be taking that time off from his "real" job, but the ranch will still need to be cared for. That's a 24/7/365 job. Agriculture stops for no man. I think DH really wants his sister to come. His family wasn't really involved when DD was born. His dad had passed away while I was pregnant (his mom passed a few years before that) and his family was very fractured at the time. Nothing bad, just ten siblings trying to figure out their new normal and how to relate to each other without parents. I think it made DH sad they weren't involved last time. Add to that, I've kind of felt out my mother about helping and she hasn't really been committed. My sister can't help me much, she's CFO for a large corporation and will have a six month old of her own. Andplusalso, if I have a RCS, the hospital is an hour away from DD's school and I really don't want her to miss a whole week of school while I'm in the hospital. I don't have a clue what we're going to do with her. So much is up in the air not knowing how L&D is going to play out. I hate this! I'm a planner by nature and this situation is making me twitchy and anxious. I really need to talk to DH about this more and see what he really wants to do. Maybe not the whole month. Maybe he can tell his sister we appreciate her help and welcome it, but explain once we have our feet under us we'll let her know and she can go home. IDK.... I'm not sure if I'm actually asking for advice from you ladies or just needed to get my thoughts out, but your comments on the situation are as always welcome. Sorry for the wall post. There's a lot on my mind

I think it sounds like spring break is when you need the help. If it is, then I would reach back out to her and let her know you only need help that week but a month is too much.

[starsailor26]

Last night was interesting. After dinner I started having mild but noticeable contractions over a three hour period. They were spaced far apart and not timeable so I decided not to go to L&D. I went to bed and they stopped on their own but I'm going to email my OB in case they want to see me.

Have I mentioned I have nothing ready for this baby? I'm going to spend today doing baby laundry, packing a bag, and going to buy the car seat. If nothing else last night was a reminder that I need to get things done and can't wait for mat leave to start to get things done.

[ruemorgan]

Agreed. Same with the Vagina Lord ranking, I don't see that any more. And dammit, I wanted to be Vagina Lord!

Jan 24, 2015 12:17:27 GMT -5 katydid2015 said:

I am kind of sad that PB changed "love tits" to "validates your feels". Were people offended by "tits"?

[carmar3]

Saw this and thought of you guys. Good morning ladies

[mango]

Jan 24, 2015 11:47:04 GMT -5 frecklesinside said:

Jan 24, 2015 10:47:34 GMT -5 mango said:

I'm having the sads today because a local mom group said I couldn't join them. They are part of MOMS & their bylaws require that members live in a specific zip code. Well, I live about 5 min outside of their zip code & there are no moms groups in my zip code. She was like "let me know if you want information on starting your own chapter!" Umm no thanks. I work 32 hr/wk & I'll be moving away when my kid is 15 months old. I know it's not her fault, but it sucks. My only other options to meet local moms, it seems, are religious moms groups that meet at churches (not happening), or LLL. I looked at MeetUp, too, but there are only groups for young moms, or moms > 35... or multiple moms, or other groups I don't fit into.

This SAME thing happened to me. Obnoxious. IME, unfortunately, it is really hard to find a mom group that works for you where you jive with the members and can actually make some friends. I've tried out a variety of groups through MeetUp and have no mom friends to show for it...It's so silly because I KNOW most moms are looking for mom friends, so why is it so hard to find any?? Making friends later in life is hard. And being a working mom trying to be part of groups is hard. All activities are catered to SAHMs which really sucks. There are hardly any evening/weekend programs or meet ups. 

Ugh -- Yeah, thats another thing I was worried about. I'm not great at making friends at this stage in life anyway & I'd be surprised to truly click with someone in a moms group. But I was looking forward to trying! I am worried about PPD so figured some forced social interaction would help. Mehhhh.

jcar Yes that would be great!

[melissat2742]

Add me to the crappy sleepers....I switch from left to right side what feels like every 20 mins all night long. My plan for today, when I have motivation, is to finish up our guest room and finally move on to starting the nursery. Seems never ending.

[Deleted]

My shower starts in a few mins we are getting there 30 mins late to give people time to get there and I am soooooooo ready for a nap right now.

[earthian]

Jan 24, 2015 11:37:50 GMT -5 frecklesinside said:

Jan 24, 2015 6:41:56 GMT -5 earthian said:

Im wide awake at 5 am. Between my husband snoring, dd1 kicking me all night and my hips absolutely killing me I think I can safely say goodbye to sleep...forever it feels like.

Im probably gonna be a grump today.

I hope everyone's weekend goes well though, anyone have any fun plans?

I liked this out of commiseration. I CANNOT get comfortable at night and my husband sleeps through *everything*. E is having this terrible sleep regression that has been going on for over a month now...she wakes up in the MOTN and will NOT go back to sleep unless she joins us in bed. Now, I don't mind bed sharing but we simply don't have any space! I'm so uncomfortable between my huge belly and her sealing herself to me all night long (because she never seals to daddy!) 

Sorry for the vent, I just am so sick of not getting any rest. And laying down isn't even comfortable...like, zero positions are comfortable.

OK. Rant done. 

That is my dd exactly. Once she wakes up in the middle of the night she just won't go back down in her crib, and then once she's in bed she won't cuddle dh. So she is stuck to me the rest of the night like velcro.

mango that sucks. I have been looking for mommy groups too but the only one I've found is about 40 mins away from me. Hopefully you can find a group that fits!

rquinlin I think it's nice that your SIL wants to be around for you, but a month sounds like a long time. Good luck with whatever you guys decide to do!

[earthian]

Also, I hope everyone having their shower today had a great time!